I think he may have or is developing dementia. It makes some people angry because they don’t really know how to communicate, however you should not subject yourself or child to a violate situation. Kids live what they learn
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You should be moving out of that situation sooner rather than later…sounds like your grandfather may have dementia… his children should be responsible for seeing he gets evaluated and help hired to see to helping him with various needs…you as a granddaughter do not have a legal responsibility here!
He’ll calm down
He is scared to lose you. He needs you and sees a very lonely life ahead. Tell him that you are not deserting him. You can come over anytime since you are close by. He has to learn to take care of himself. You can help but you can’t waste your life there. He will survive!
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where is your parent that is his child maybe they should be advised of how he is changing, he might be have health issues.
Get him for check up, but tell dr ahead of time about the personality change, could be grief, but after a year, don’t really think so, I lost my mom from dementia, sudden personality changes is sign of it. Personality changes, anger issues, forgetting things slowly over time can be a sign as well. He doesn’t have to be “old” to get early onset of dementia, my husband was 60 when we found out. Get him checked ASAP !
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Just tell him you love him, write it on a card let him know you will be moving but will visit just make sure you do visit and take him shopping. Let him know hes in charge of the house but you will help with what he asks for.
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Get on with your own.life but before you move on tell authorities so they can put a care package together …then yiu know you’ve done all you can …good luck for your future.
Be honest and respectful. He may get upset but ultimately he will understand. Keep reaching out to him and visiting after you move. I’m sure hes worried about being alone. Men respond best to food so bring him a plate when you come or some cake/ cookies. Good luck.
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Keep your head down and get through the move. He may still be pocessing his life without his wife. Everyone grieves differently, but anger is a part of the grieving process.
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Sounds that grandpa could be depressed which can turn to anger after the loss of his wife. I think he is taking out his emotional turmoil on you and your family. Maybe you could look into senior programs available in your town so he can have some peers and form friendships with folks his own age. encourage to volunteer or engage in a hobby. he may be just depressed and doesn’t know how to express his emotions. But I agree it’s not good for your son to be around this. Good luck and reassure grandpa you will always be around but won’t tolerate verbal abuse.
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It sounds like he’s ready for you to go. Is it possible you are over thinking it? He might not be so heart broken by your absence.
Just be respectful till you get out but I would be honest with him but don’t argue with him. Just a few weeks. And go to your man he sounds like a good guy
You need your own space & Grandpa needs to deal with the loss of his own doing.
I’m wondering if this is a sign of dementia? Anger can be a symptom. You may want to call his doctor.
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Check with a doctor. He may need an in- home caretaker or to live in an assisted living home
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Hire a social worker and have a meeting, a meteator can bring clarity, good luck sweet girl!
I wonder if your Grandpa might be showing some signs of early dementia. I would see if he could get checked out by a Dr.
Bekah is right. The sudden change in personality, the angry outbursts could definitely be the start of dementia.
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It almost sounds like early onset Alzheimers. Sad!!
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Id say hes depressed over wife if u both work 2 jobs theres no time for kid or grandpa hes lost
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Just pack your things and move.
leave and tell grampa you will visit and he is welcome at your place too but bo nore yelling at you
Don’t wait, pack up and go now
Live ur life, check on grandpa
Yes definitely a dr visit for a check up and keep things a smooth as you can until the house is ready. Make sure you tell him how much you love him etc while you’re there and hopefully you can get your boyfriend back in his “good graces” before you go… sad harsh words had to be spoken before you could leave … hopefully he has forgiveness in his heart
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To everyone saying mean things. This grandfather has lost his soul mate of years and is most likely slowly losing his mind…
Dementia and Altimerz will make someone act this way…
Also if he has been to a doctor and been diagnosed with something he could be trying to push you away.
He also is Probally scared of being alone.
Mayne try to get a home health care worker to come in and start helping and transition him into your move.
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Are you absolutely being mean to your grandfather he probably has emotional issues from your grandmother passing away he may also have Alzheimer because of his Mean streak and I’m sure he’s over 85 you’re going to pay a price for being mean to your Grandpa karma will definitely come ur way
You need to reach out to someone else who can help you. You need to speak to your parents, and let them know what’s going on. You are an adult, you have your family to care for as well. Id still go by and check on him, maybe do dinner with him through the week a few days. Set up a plan with your family to take turns with helping him out. Reach out to some elderly in home care companies. He just lost your grandmother, it’s going to be a whole bunch of emotions still, but it does NOT give him the right to treat you that way.
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I would move. Let him be upset. But still come by daily and check on him, bring him food, visits with the baby etc. I am sure if she keeps it positive he will see it was for the best and the relationship with him doesn’t have to change. It will reduce any conflict with the boyfriend until they are able to resolve it. I think she can honor both the grandfather and her family being only 5 minutes down the road. A little space may teach him to respect her more as well because he will probably be looking forwards to the visits.
You definitely need to leave for you and your own family’s health. But, with that said. I think he will come around in the future. You just need to talk to him gently. And I definitely think there needs to be some medical intervention for him too. Doctor or nurse or something
I was living with my 92 year old aunt and my 72 year old father in law for a year and a half. They were in no way mean to us at all, but the need to get our own space was definitely growing as me and my husband also have 2 young girls. Living with other people is hard especially when they are elder…my advice is she sitting down have a caring, loving conversation with him don’t bring up the fact that he is being disrespectful and whatnot just let him know that you know you need to establish a more structured environment for your child and that you’re only 5 minutes away and you will come and see him all the time. I know people say things like that and they don’t follow through but I told my aunt and my father-in-law that we are to my 10 minutes away from the house and told them that I would be by often to see them and I held to that and honestly our relationship has gotten so much better. good luck to you I know it’s not easy I’ve been in your shoes and I know it’s even worse when they’re being mean to you and they can’t help it so just hang in there and do what’s best for your family your life is just beginning
Just leave he doesn’t respect all you have sacrificed and done for him so make yourself and son happy
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Honestly moving out us definitely the best option for you and your family… more then likely hes using guilt as a means to get what he wants out of fear… id get some other family members involved and have like a family gathering/intervention and talk it out and let him know you will only be 5 mins away that u love him, but youre an adult with a family and need to live your own life… maybe other family members can back u up also help in taking some of the responsibility of taking care of your grandfather as well… deep down im sure he loves you and appreciates you… but he’s hurting and feels lost and is probably scared to be alone… give it time he will come around
His anger could be and most likely IS due to a medical condition. Most like Dementia. And should not be held responsible for it if thats the case. You need to inform his Dr. And if so, he will need even MORE support.
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Your grandfather is obviously having a hard time after the loss of his wife your grandmother I would leave do what’s best for you and your little family because that’s what matters and tell him you love him and you’ll be around and you hope that y’all can have a good relationship and you’ll do everything possible to help him when he needs it. But do you have to start your own little life now what has to be done has to be done
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You will all have mixed feelings including grandpa. Some distance will do good but you won’t be too far. And you’re used to being together so you’ll keep in close touch.
I would reach out to originations that help the elderly make sure he doesn’t have something that’s making him act this way. If he does he needs a nurse staying and subjecting your kid to that isn’t okay
I honestly think you need to make an appointment with the doctor for your grandpa… if he was fine and then all of a sudden started acting out it sounds like an underlying issue… also could be a type of depression.
I would try and explain that you will be five minutes away and that you are not going to be out of his life. However I do hope you make an appointment and go with him…
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Has always been mean like this or is this something new for him.grieve sometimes shows in ugly ways if not then you owe to your self and your boyfriend and children to move
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You just have to leave. You need to do what’s best for you and your family. Get your shit. Walk out of the house. Your a grown woman. I guarantee that he isn’t really going to never talk to you again.
I would try to get him to see a doctor since he just loss a love one could be dementia coming or something if he don’t act like that I would get him help before I left
Leavee! For sure, and ASAP. Don’t let it ruin your life. He obviously doesn’t care about your well being and your happiness, so you have to.
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Look at other options.have a complete medica done.my be signs or dementia or numerous things going on LIKE OTHER HEALTH ISSUE.PLEASE HAVE HIM 
AND DON’T THINK HE REALLY WANT U TO GO.(lol)maybe ur boyfriend.Js
Keep your head low until you actually have the place ready to move into. That way he doesn’t just kick y’all out to the streets with nowhere to go if he chooses to Bc he’s angry. Also try and get him to a doctors appointment for a dementia testing if you can.
The picture you paint of your grandfather is pretty bad so it sounds like you want people to tell you what you want to hear. 
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Seems he wants you guys to leave just as much i dont think itll be much of a problem just be the bigger person and dont make it an argument just that its time for you to leave.
Where are your parents? Do they help with your grandfather or does he have other children? This shouldn’t be entirely on you…
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You tried to talk to him it didnt work so just move as planned without saying anything else
How is this a question?? I mean clearly he would be ok with you leaving if what has been posted is true.
Leave… you do not deserve to be treated bad by anyone.
Leave that grown ass man by himself!
Has he always been this way? If not maybe dementia I know my exes dad was always good hearted, always nice and helpful but as he got older he became mean and disrespectful which is not him at all found out he has dementia has he been checked? If he is just mean and disrespectful and always been like that then I suggest get someone else to help him don’t just abandon him that’s not right he’s still your grandfather so even though he may act that way something could be going on that you don’t know about so leaving him alone anything can happen
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you are some negative people. Her Grandpa obviously has some problems right now. He is probably losing it a little and lost the woman he spent his life with 
I truly hate people who think like every single of one y’all do. Just think in 30+ years that’s gonna be y’all and y’all are gonna be all alone
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