My husband always finds a reason not to be in the house with us hanging out…idk hwo to approach him about this without making him upset…advice?
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Slash his tyres and steal his phone …
Lol
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Talk to him !!! We love it when we know you care about us
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If telling your husband you want to spend more time with him will make him mad you have bigger issues.
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Tell him that should be easy enough
Talk to him… communication is key
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If you’re scared to come ask bc lthat’ll make him upset he doesn’t want to hangout with y’all he doesn’t even like y’all. If he wanted to hang out with y’all you wldnt have to ask.
Being scared to talk to your husband is a bigger red flag than not spending time with the family
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Tell him y’all love him and that you’d enjoy having more time with him. Ask him what activities sound like fun or what things he would enjoy doing with the family. Then immediately make a date to do that.
If he bails, in a calmer moment without the kids around, ask him what stresses him about being married and having a family and what he doesn’t like about it. You may first want to offer something that stresses you out to get him started. You may then find out why he runs away all the time. Note: Sometimes it’s easier to talk about difficult things or be more honest in the dark, like in bed at night or going for a walk or doing chores when he doesn’t have to look you in the eye. Just let him talk and don’t argue at this point. Maybe just say how you understand how that could be scary/stressful/overwhelming so he feels heard.
Does he hate being married, being a dad, or are finances stressing him out? Does he feel tied down and wishes he could afford the time and cost of travel, sports, or something else? Was it his idea to get married and have kids, or did it just kind of happen? Are you a nagger or a whiner?
Did you get married young and/or have kids young and he regrets not “sowing his wild oats” or getting more education first? How old are your children? Did or do you work outside the home? Does it scare him to be responsible for all of you for life? Do you have family and friends or do you expect him to be everything to you? Do you have hobbies or creative interests?
How’s your sex life? Do you think he could be having an affair? A gambling addiction? Just wants to hang with the guys and not grow up? Did he have to give up a passion or hobby when he got married?
You may want to work with a therapist to learn how to speak up for yourself, deal with your husband, or decide if it’s worth staying with him.
Contact a woman’s center, hotline or your doctor to learn the signs of abuse. Is he abusing you? If so, find resources to help from your doctor, the library, a women’s center or friends. The 988 mental health hotline in the U.S. is available 24/7.
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What is he doing when he is leaving ? If u r afraid to talk to him u have a bigger issue
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Careful what u wish for!!
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My question is why can’t you just say hey we are missing you a lot, can we make some time.
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You shouldn’t have to ask. If he gets upset that you would ask…you should re think your marriage.
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Just say something. Communication is key and extremely important. If things still don’t change after communicating then maybe you guys need to go to marriage counseling.
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Sounds like you have bigger issues than him not hanging out with the family. A person should never be afraid to talk to their partner about anything. Might be time to do some serious soul searching and decide if this is the way that you want to live your life.
You just tell him. Part of having a good and lasting marriage, is communication.
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I think the most important thing is for you to remain calm during the conversation. If you stay calm, he is more likely to as well. But if he does get upset/defensive- let him. Like any human being, when someone feels called out for being a “bad” spouse or parent, their feelings might be hurt in the short term. But give some time for him to process and hopefully he will be able to see what you are saying and come back to the table with a solution.
Be honest and say you’re missing him and spending time with him. Ask if he is ok and if he needs anything. Maybe see if you can get someone to watch the kids for you and him to have a date together to help bring you closer together. I always say just be honest and ask your question, you may not get the answer you want but it’s better than living in wonder.
Communication is key. But it appears your scared of your husband. I’d start there and fix those issues 
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Sounds like y’all need to learn how to communicate what each other needs to have a happy home
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