How do you bring up to your spouse that you went through their phone due to them acting a little more secretive with it expecting to find nothing but actually finding a conversation with your spouse and another girl? There wasn’t anything I guess you could call cheating per se but it definitely didn’t sit right with me at all.
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Go with your gut feeling. Show him the door. Cause he won’t change and he will get mad and make up an excuse. If it was nothing ya would of known about it !!!
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I would personally not say anything and dig deeper. You need proof of infidelity
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You don’t need proof of anything. If you think it’s cheating, it’s freaking cheating and walk the hell away. Stop giving people more chances than they deserve. Your literally going to be on new sites in three months tops saying the same shit. Either grow a set and leave, or let him cheat in peace cause your not going to actually do anything about it but whine to strangers.
I’ve been having suspicions for months about mine cheating but I don’t have concrete evidence yet. I would dig deeper and get as much evidence as you possible can before confronting him
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Pack your shit and leaveee.
I would start with flipping the coffee table over. Just sayin
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Before confronting him…. Take screen shots of the entire conversation and her contact information.
Personally though, if you can hold out confronting then do so, and continue to secretly check his phone for messages, deleted messages, photos, weird apps, SM, emails, pics/video, deleted pic/videos, check the phone bill for calls/messages to her number. Monitor his location, if you have the ability to do so. Basically continue to gather whatever evidence you can BEFORE confronting and when you do confront.
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You: who tf is this b!tch?!
I’m with everyone else, get your proof first before saying anything. Dig deeper, find out who she is if they work together etc. then talk to him. I know it’s hard not to confront that stuff eats at you. 
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Your husband can chat to other women as long as it doesn’t go over the line. Just like you can talk to another male.
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I didn’t know that a person could never talk to someone else when they get married.
About what exactly you want to confront him becasue as much as it bothers talking to someone is not a crime or probe to anything, if you think that he might be cheating just keep your mouth shut and keep investigating becasue right now you have nothing, but in my opinion you should not be with someone you can’t trust
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Ashley Riley Once a cheater always a cheater… Been there they were to busy to see me walk in on what they were doing
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You start by throwing the phone at his head. He will figure it out
I am shocked at all of you that are saying find evidence before you say something.
He’s talking to another woman. And his wife doesn’t know her.
Things would be flying through the air.
Y’all must not have any trauma lol
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Personally- I don’t think you need a reason or an excuse to go though a partners phone. And NEITHER should be offered if you have nothing to hide!!! I would just have the conversation.
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No need to tell him. He will only get better at hiding and you won’t ever have the option of looking thru his phone again and finding anything. Keep that information in your back pocket,maintain your source of info, and behave normally… If he is up to no good, it will come out and open sooner or later. All lies told in the dark, eventually come to light. I hope this helps.
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I took screenshots & sent them to myself. Then I told hi
To look at the messages I sent myself from his phone
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Depends on what the chat was about and who the girl is. Is it someone from work talking about work things? Married people should be able to have friends and talk to people of the opposite sex. They just need to know where to draw the line. Sounds like you have trust issues to begin with if you are looking at his phone. If he has given you a reason in the past to be suspicious then that’s a whole different story.
Just say it.He gave you reason to look and you trusted him up to that poi t and wouldn’t have went in his phone if there wasn’t signs or flags.You think he wouldn’t go thru yours if he was sus about you and was seeing red flags or signs of something nor right with your actions or change in your normal pattern of routine.Bc I bet 100% he would do same.Be honest with it and re.ind him he is guilt of hiding conversations with another female and if he wouldn’t have crossed that line and acted suspicious or whatever you wouldn’t have ever went in his phone.Ultimately he has to own what he did and that started the actions I to motion for you to ha e reason to do P.I work and snoop.Bc you know would never have just told u if you would say to him ,hun is everything OK or something wrong bc you been a little off lately or like not your reg self so just wanting to make sure that you are OK or need to talk if anything bothering g you or whatever.he would Def not say oh yeah hun I’m chatting thru text with this girl and …
I would wait, get more evidence and see where it goes
You should have forwarded the text that you saw on his phone to your phone, as if he accidentally did it himself, and then say "Honey, you sent this text to me, but obviously it’s meant for…Well Not me, Explain Dear"
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Lmfao guys are allowed to have female friends. Get the hell over it. Also who are you to go in someone eles phone. I hope he does the same to you 
But you were expecting to find something…so what was your initial plan for WHEN you found what you were looking for? If it was never to leave, you should have never went through his phone. But since you’re obviously deciding to stay, just be honest with him and tell him you were suspicious and went through his phone and ask him about the messages and if he wants to save the marriage.
Take screen shots and send them to your phone. As far as how to bring it up… well that depends upon who it is. Is this someone you both know? Could you casually ask about her/if he’s talked to her. If he lies, you know to dig deeper.
Watch for other signs of lying - avoiding eye contact, answering a question with a question, etc
Maybe bring up a noticeable change in his behavior and ask why.
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Nothing wrong with males having female friends. Get over it. Sounds like your a drama queen
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Idk WTF everyone talking about get more evidence that’s enough to ask him TF this bih. Why you texting her? That’s proof enough. Shouldn’t be texting anyone you don’t know about
Well at least he’s not using apps he can delete and reinstall to have “secret” text conversations 
why be looking for an argument with absolutely nothing that hints at an affair. Sounds exhausting…unless he’s been unfaithful before you know what you have and decided to stay