Please, no judgment! My daughter just turned three and still nurses a few times a day. I’m looking for advice on how to wean her. It’s largely for comfort, usually when sleepy or just woke up. I kept at it as long as I could because she’s only one of my kids I was able to for varying reasons, but I’m to the point I’m ready to be done. Does anyone have suggestions to help?
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Just stop giving it to her simple
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Try putting bandaids on your nipples and say mommy has ouchies.
See if that helps
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I have three…it helped when the other kids talked to the younger one and told them that they didn’t have boobies when they were their age. Also, after going to the doctor say that they gave you medicine that makes your milk bad, lol
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Tell her it’s all gone, that she can have cuddles but no boobies. If she’s that upset get her a pacifier if you’re okay with that. She may just have to cry it out and self soothe.
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Should have been weaned at a year old.
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You just stop…don’t give it to her. Hand her a cup with milk in it.
Let her cry she’ll get over it.
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Just stop!!!
Hell, she’s 3…give her a cup
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I would try helping her learn to self soothe for example, when she wants to nurse you can cuddle her and rock her, soft calm humming and allow her to lay her head on you. (Hair strokes worked wonders for calming mine) its gonna be hard and she will likely try to fight her way to the boob but stand your ground and eventually she’ll see there are other ways to soothe. I wish the best cause the same way breastfeeding is a journey, weening is its own. Also talk to her doctor to ask for any helpful tips
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Keep your shirt on!!! 
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Too old to feed. Sound like you enjoying it
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Just stop breast feeding her 
it’s simple, she will get over it. Give her a sippy cup
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I struggled to wean my son at 18 months. My pediatrician told me to just stop and let him cry it out. It worked.
My twins were 3-1/2 when I weaned them. Good job momma providing nutirents for 3 yrs!! Your a rock star 
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I started eliminating bf sessions one at a time. Then started telling them that soon boobies are going to stop producing so they know. I bought special cups to replace bf sessions too.
They snuggled the boob for awhile til they got used to the idea.
Good luck momma
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The worldwide average age a child stops breastfeeding is between the age of 4-5 years. Breastfeeding is completely normal at 3. Don’t pay attention to the negativity on here. My oldest was 3. I tandem nursed my first 2. When the youngest started teething at 5 months it made my nipples sore so I just talked to my oldest and told him that it hurt when he nursed so “we agreed” that he should stop so it wouldn’t hurt me. He was fine. He didn’t cry or get upset. Just talk to her. 
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Stop popping your tit out
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I would comfort her by rocking her, stroking her hair and rubbing her back and cut nursing down to only bed time for a short time then stop.
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I suggest joining extended breastfeeding support group here on Facebook. Tons of moms asking the same questions and tons of different answers. Maybe something will work for you.
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Should have weaned her off the boob at 1 and pumped for her.
Dry up your supply and tell her no more. Don’t let her under your shirt or lift it up.
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I nursed my daughter until 3. I had to take an antibiotic so I just told her she couldn’t nurse because of the meds. That was that. For all of you women who are making negative comments, I used to be like you until I lived it. Be nice. No need to be nasty.
Some moms are lucky to stop breast feed with no problem. But saw my aut trying to stop breast feeding the baby almot 3 years old and no nothing was working. I think she put spicy at the end 
I’m so ashamed of some of the comments you guys are posting. Hope you never need a compassionate person to listen and comfort you when you need it. Shame on all of you who put nasty and hateful remarks on this post.
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Damn. The females in this comment group are rude and completely ridiculous. Hateful snots!
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No judgement but 3 is a bit too old to be still suckling at the teet for “able bodied” children. Breast milk has tons of benefits so if you still want your child to have breastmilk (regardless of age) but are done with breastfeeding, pump & serve in a sippie cup. Your kid may protest but most do. You just gotta stick with the change & they’ll adapt accordingly. Best wishes to ya fellow Mama😊
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My two friends were the same both kids 3 she was tough then explained no more booby big boy. Now that was it after a few other tries other friend with her daughter was a comfort too all good and adjusted well growing up now 
Just stop you should have done it 2 years ago
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Wow. So many of these comments are fucking ignorant. There is no age limit to nursing your child. She asked how to wean her daughter. Not for you to judge her on how long she has been nursing. Three years is amazing!! GOOD JOB MOMMA!!!
Your babe is lucky:heart:
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It’s past time to set her on the journey to becoming a toddler Kids will torture her for missing that hallmark of development. Momma, get a grip and end the breast-feeding, pronto.
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She should have been weaned at one unless she had health issues that made the breast milk more fortifying. Sounds like it’s more for you than her. She’s old enough to understand you when you tell her it’s time for a cup. She’s even past switching to a bottle.
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Mymom did the same thing with me and I turned out fine…lol
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The average age, world wide for nursing is 4. Some older some younger but 4 is the average. So haters move on. My oldest nursed until 2 1/2. The other 5, until 1 1/2. They really do wean off, as life moves forward with bigger and wilder interests.
It’s a comfort thing for her now . I agree with the other people who said try telling her it’s all gone . Pump till your dry then let her try and just say it’s all gone . Explaine that mommies only make milk while she is a baby and that now you are not a baby there’s no more milk . It will be hard but stay strong .
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Cmon 3 yrs old she should be doing dishes by now lol 
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I had this same issue but mines not quite 3. My husband was a big help. He would put her to sleep. Which I hated but it had to be done. She still wants to put her hand on my skin but we have successfully weaned. Its definitely tough. Hang in there
I found I needed to replaced it with something else. During the time you would normally nurse, snuggle together, read a book, etc. Buy a special blanket or stuffed animal and give it to your child as a treat for “growing up”. Be consistent and very patient. Also wear shirts that are hard to nurse in. 
It’s a challenging transition, but you’ve got this. 
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In some countries children are breastfed to that age. Breast is best can j point out, but now it’s time to wean ask your health visitor to get you in touch with a breast feeding group. I breast fed one of my daughters until she was 2 because it was right for us. Stay calm, but say no and replace with something else. Good luck
Please ask for advice from non americans or at least american women who haven’t internalized mysogyny. I would try binding. Just wrap the chest up and tell the kiddo you ran out of the boobies but they can habe cuddles as long as they dont try to nurse
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Damn ! Ladies stop being so mean and rude. We are here to support each other and lift one another. Maybe try rocking or playing with her hair as you lay her down. Reach out to a breastfeeding group. I like some of the ideas I’m reading. Maybe some of them would work for your situation. Good luck ! Women stop being so damn hateful. You better hope that you never ever have to asked for advice on here. !
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Children need to learn self soothing skills. It’s painful to watch the learning process as a parent. But that said, there are going to be more painful, scary, difficult times ahead. Without self soothing skills children do not develop appropriate coping skills opening the door to anxiety, depression, self injurious behaviors. So sorry to say mama especially after reading some of these comments but buckle up, and stop. It’ll be a rough few days but you can do it. As some of the moms have said, cuddle, rock, pet. She’s seeking comfort from you, breast feeding is her frame of reference right now and you will be helping her expand it.
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I fed my son until he was almost 3. In Canada we just did. I started giving him a cup,I went to bed a few times with a swim suit on, he got busy and lost interest. Interesting at school when they ask where does milk come from…my son said, from mom, wrong answer!! Answer is cows!!! X
Start putying it in a sippi cup. Make her drink from that …maybe look up. A book idea. To try get her to understand …talk to her doctor of how to do it … Let her know ahe bog girl now doesnt need it no more …fyi. Females by nature are rude and mean …ignore hate ful people. And do you … Good luck
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My best advice after dealing with 3 kids…rip the band-aid off. It might be a shitty week or two but your child will be fine. If its only when sleepy or just waking up try a 5 minute cuddle session with lots of hugs and I love yous:heart: and to all the assholes with something stupid to say…find a better way to spend your day cause y’all sound so ignorant.
My son is goung to be 4 years old in March- and he sucks titty when he awakes and qhen he wants to sleep. He was bottle fed as i have very little breast milk. After the bottle he used to go in the breast for little… At 1 he just didn’t want the bottle anymore. He eats and drinks as normal- the breast is just a source of comfort for him. AND I WILL NOT FORCE HIM OFF IT. I do encourage that he should stop but i will not make a concerted effort to stop him. And i dont care what anyones opinion is of that. Some nights when he is cross with me he will just lay his head on his pillow and sat goodnight- and fall asleep.
My sister struggled, in the end she put mustard around her nipple and her son hated it got him off it
Three!!?? Wow. Should have thought about that a few yrs ago!! 
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Man its gotta hurt with the teeth ijs
If your kid can eat McDonalds then…🤷. 🤦
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Just do it gradual or you can try to tell her the milks all gone I get it cuz my daughter was a total stalker and I breastfed her until she was three and a half I just started telling her no.
Apply vinegar to your nipples a few times a day. She will be over it within the week.
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Just refuse to breast feed she will get over it in a few days or weeks❤ My son was not letting go his bottle I just threw it away after three days he forgot about it
It is a comfort thing now? For her or you. Alot.of good suggestions, pump dry tell her there is no more
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I know the feeling, it was the same for me. I think it’s worst for you, not the kid…that feeling of connection. But try with bottle of milk, i tried with my daughter. It wasnt so easy the first two days, but later she was good.
Most other countries breastfeed until 4. Its not a big deal and its not weird. Bunch of judgemental assholes here that just need to shut up and go away. I’d either pump and let her try when you’re empty and tell her only babies breastfeed or just tell her it’s time for her to be a big girl and only use cups. Or you could switch it out with a healthy snack, cuddles, playground time, etc.
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Oh dear… you’re doing great Momma!.. I started by saying they could only nurse off each breast once a day… so twice a day… one side only each time… then after 2 weeks or however long you are comfortable with it turned into one side once a day until some days they forgot about it and then when they would ask I would redirect them… soon THEY told me they were too old, that they were a big girl now
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That’s disgusting still breastfeeding at 3 should be ashamed of yourself poor kid
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And to the Mother asking, I have 3 siblings. My Mom weaned us by rubbing lemon on her nipples a few times. Worked wonders from what I remember with my youngest two brothers
I wish I could have breastfed my children. Kudos to you for being able to do it for her.
Wow,just wow … all the negative comments in here! Making it seem the mum is some kind of sicko,and your personal opinions on what you believe is best for another persons child.where are the Admins in here,see how some women just think they’re better than someone else,there are all sorts of reasons why she may have breastfed longer than others,she didnt ask to be put down and stomped on.
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Hey I think it’s awesome that you breastfed that long. No advice sorry just wanted to tell ya that’s amazing you both made it so long!
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Parents need to stop convincing themselves its for the child. At a certain point it becomes ridiculous. Why stop now. Go to school every day at lunch and hook em up. Get therapy. Just my opinion.
Children are not meant to breastfeed when teeth start to come in. I had a friend who lost part of her breast because of a bite from the child. At 6 months you should have switched over to milk/formula or pumped into a bottle. I suggest you start with a sippy cup since the child is 3 and then ask yourself why you’d suckle a child to that age? You need to think of that, you were being needy not the child and now you pay for it. There will many trying times ahead while you switch but they are burdens you will have to bear. Stay strong and don’t give in, that will only defeat everything before it, thus starting over again. Good Luck. …To the Trolls … THIS IS AN OPINION, NO REPLIES, KEEP SCROLLING LIKE ADULTS. I respect yours, please do the same.
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what worked for me was only bedtime nursing. Some nights she fell asleep without it. I think its fine that you have nurtured your child this long and provided her with your immunities this way. I nursed until my daughter was about 2 and a half.
Everyone that is making negative comments, she was asking for advise so if you have nothing positive to say don’t say it. It’s terrible that you can’t all keep your negative shit to yourself instead of trying to make this amazing mum feel like shit. Go away and have a think about how you’d feel if you were on the end of some of your comments, we should be supporting each other not trying to bring each other down SHAME ON YOU.
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Maybe give her a nuce soft blanket to snuggle into and just lay with her and tryvreading to her. Along with a sippy cup. Good luck.
Ffs I just can’t with this post it’s to upsetting seeing so many woman down another for doing what her body is made to do,doing what’s best for her child and doing with is recommended. First amazing jod momma for giving LO the best start in life. I know it isn’t always easy even more so with so many judgemental people who need to learn to mind there own tits. I nursed my LO till 3 1/2. I slowly dropped it to less and less. Just distracted him with a snack, cuddles or playing when he wanted to nurse. This works beat. This still didn’t end our nursing journey till I had to leave for a few days and he was away from me. Best of luck.
Put a little bit of Aloe vera on your nipples. She might stop cause the taste is bitter
I put bandaid on my nips and told my son they were broken. He was so caring, and totally fine with just snuggling after that 
By 3 years old she’s old enough to understand when you tell her something is all gone. About every other time that she wants to nurse, just tell her it’s all gone but you’ll get her something else. As time goes on and she gets used to drinking other things milk juice water chill stop nursing a little bit more all on her own.
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Try to eliminate one nursing at a time…instead of nursing her in the morning try something different like cuddle time or something and reward her for not nursing in a similar manner that you would with potty training. Then when she gets used to not having that nursing time, eliminate another one. She is not going to like it at 1st but you have to be persistent just like you would if you were potty training. Just don’t give up of she starts throwing a fit because that will set you back to where you are now. Weaning is never easy.
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Well here in Ghana, there are so many methods we use that might sound or look weird but has worked perfectly well for about 80% of mothers. Get some bitter leaf grind n squeeze juice around your nipple area about 3 to 4 times n trust me your little girl won’t come asking for breast milk. Sounds funny but that’s the most effective here in Ghana.
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I know three probably feels old right now. But believe me you’re going to miss it so much when you’re done. I have big kids and find myself missing it. Just the quiet connection with your baby. Such a beautiful fleeing moment
The old days they used to put hot sauce on nipples 
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Maybe try getting her a special item to sooth her but you participate. Like snuggling a lovey or something. Still give her 1:1 moments. Good luck mama
Try to feed her, instead your milk…try some coffee put on your nipple
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Nothing but ignorant s u will be fine screw all the negative comments
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Aw!
my mom breastfed me until I was 4. I very rarely get sick. I have never broken a bone, I have straight white strong teeth, I always get compliments on my skin. I attribute all of that to the years of breastfeeding…but I could be wrong! 
This post wasnt to ask for your fucking judgement you idiot’s. It was to help her
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I feel like if women need to say ugly things and shame mothers who breastfeed at all or until a certain age…it’s because they sexualize the breast. I’m sure they will be the ones who get offended that I said that too.
It definitely is time especially cause you are ready ( I commend you for being able to nurse this long). Your child is getting to the age of preschool and this could help with understanding it’s time to replace it with other beverages. If all else fails buy those sticky nipple covers and stick with it, do not give in!!!
I weaned my toddler by only allowing one booby time per day. And anytime he asked after his one time, the boobies were “sleeping.” And then when I didn’t want to keep doing that one feed either, I just told him no.
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Just stop nursing. That really is the only way. Try to find something for comfort. It WILL be very hard at first but it should only be for a few days. I wouldn’t plan any outings or do it if you have to work the next day. I’m sure you will be very tired. I had to ween my youngest earlier than I wanted to. She got pneumonia and the antibiotics gave her thrush which gave me thrush. It was too painful to continue. But she adjusted well. Your kiddo will too.
This was me a few years ago.
I told my girl (it was true at the time) I was on special medication that would make my milk bad and if she drank it it would make her poorly.
And she stopped for 1 night … then the next … and it just happened. Xx
It’s not easy to just stop… I nursed my son until he was 3 1/2. We agreed that when he turned 4 he was done (the end came sooner than that because I got pregnant and even though the first few days without were hard he adjusted) set a time to stop… mark it on the calendar. Throw a “party” after.
I used the almanac with both my kids (15 and 19). It worked for both of them. Neither of them took a bottle or pacifier either
My parents used the almanac for weaning children, it worked every time.
There’s no easy way. You just gotta take it away and don’t give it again.
I went cold turkey with my little girl. You’ll have some crying but she’ll be fine.
Just stop and give him a sippy cup. If he cries let him and in a few days he will won’t be worried about breast feeding
Lime juice on the nips. Tell them the milk went sour lol
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I know someone that used to give a kid we sat for strawberry milk and ask her which she preferred. She stopped breastfeeding because she decided she liked strawberry milk better… she was five.
They’re YOUR boobs, it’s not like you’re trying to get her to stop her from doing something she is capable of doing on her own