Speak to your lawyer, they should have the best advice for you going forward. But it sounds like you should be able to gain full custody and get a restraining order.
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Beat her ass one good time, sheāll leave u alone.
joking.
Nothing is valid unless itās legally written. File for full custody.
You have to do things legally. Why are you letting a homeless deadbeat mother rule your life!? Thatās ridiculous
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Canāt yāall get a restraining or protective order if sheās threatening yall?
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Get a epo ( emergency protective order) explain why you need it and they will not release your information. ( I am in Tx so I donāt know about where you are) file for emergency custody and explain to the courts why. You can do the paperwork your self also and turn it in to the court. Also get a lawyer so you dot your (I) and cross your (t). And that is a terroristic threat,
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And using ābaby mamaāā is trashy on your part. Maybe some of your turmoil is due to the lack of respect
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File a modification to get custody with supervised visits. The modification would need to include that she sign away some rights, not all, and the only way to do that is with her signature. You can get a restraining order put on her but thereās not much you can do without a revised order. Talk to a lawyer about your options. You moving away may be enough for HER to put YOU in contempt because you didnāt ask permission from her or the court to move āfurther away.ā My order states the same county or the counties touching the same county. If she does take you to court for contempt, then she can pull the kids back to the county the order is in without you. Courts donāt like taking kids away from both parents. And she can lie about her living conditions. The court system is messed up. Also, some court orders you have to tell the other parent who lives in the house with the kids. So she can bring that up too.
You need to get the courts, lawyers, and police involved. If there are already court documents (custody, visitation) you have to let her know their address. If you have proof of her threats (hopefully she sent texts or voicemail). Then file a restraining order for YOU AND the HOUSE, but honestly, unless you see her violating the order and call the police. But you do need the paperwork in place.
Give her the Opportunity to show her ass then record her dumb ass. File for full custody and get a restraining order against her after recording all her threats and psycho behavior.
U can have the court to restrict all that info
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Honestly she can find you once you purchase itās public record unless you purchase in a llc name
Go the legal route. Hire an attorneyā¦a good oneā¦ and take the steps to removing her from yours and the childrenās lives.
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First of all WHY donāt yāall have full legal custody if sheās homeless and yall have the kids full-time anyways. File immediately. Tell the judge about all the threats to burn your house down and beat you up. File a restraining order.
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Why is she still allowed to see the kids if sheās a threat/violent like that?
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Yous need to file for sole custody.
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Sheās homeless and rarely sees her kids, Iām fairly sure your husband would get full custody. So why not go to court?
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Get a ppo and put cameras up around the house. Most people just make empty threats bit of its not big of a deal cameras.
File for sole emergency custody ASAP. Document everything.
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File for full custody
Sounds like itās time to go to court and get some boundaries set!
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Give her her kids back lord
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If you already know thatās what she is going to do, LET HER!! Let her dig her own grave. When she shows up at the school causing problems, they will ask her to leave, call the police, or ban her depending on how bad she is. That will give you more ammunition to fight for full custody. Instead of putting all of my energy worrying about what she may or may not do, I would wait until it happens and use it against her. Put the energy into helping the kids.
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Quit referring to a child as āthingā and get a lawyer.
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Go to court. Do all communicating through text, you can use it against her in court. File for a restraining order if sheās threatening to burn your home and cause physical harm.
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You need to go to court and get legal custody with visitation rights for her until she can show that she can get back on her feet get some therapy because sheās obviously not in a good place mentally or emotionally.
Itās a sad situation. Itās not something anyone wants to do especially to a mother, but you have to think about whatās best for the children.
Have dad meet her in public places when she sees the kids.
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Like are none of you adultsā¦ Hire a lawyer, problem solvedā¦ 
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Cameras on your home.
File for full custody, & then fine a protective order sheās threatening you him your child and her own children
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DO NOT LIVE IN FEAR OVER THIS WOMAN !! Let her know cause all she is going to do is give him more crap to gain a case against herself. I have been here with my ex husband he is a NARCISSIST, we lived in fear and hid out for almost two months because of his threats and finally I got sick of it. Now Iām so happy with FULL custody of my kids that he no longer gets to see because of HIS actions and I am married to the greatest man ever now. I wish you the best BUT do not stop living yāallās lives for her all she is going to do is hurt herself! Also save whatever proof of anything you can
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You honestly donāt think the kids already told her?? A new house is pretty exciting news for a child.
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Put cameras up and file a report with the local police. Unfortunately unless you have a court order stating that she canāt know where they go to school, you donāt really have a choice in that matter. She could even pick them up from school or visit them there if you donāt have a court order against her not to. And itās not easy to get one. Good luck
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Get a restraining order now!!
Talk to a lawyer??
Maybe a restraining order?
Document her threats and get a restraining order on her. Take her to court.
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Restraining order. It will be easy since she has no address. You will have to try to locate and serve but after a few tries, the notice gets put in the newspaper and if she doesnāt show up the judge will most likely grant it.
Once that is in place you can petition to have your home address confidential. However, a lawyer should be contacted to verify all legalities on your part to ensure youāre doing everything right.
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Restraining order and full custody until she gets her life together
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Take her to court. Threatening to burn your house down that is somewhat of a death threat. Document everything and take it to court with you.
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Go to court and get full custody or at least temporary full custody, itās not hard to do, depending on your state it costs about $75 to file for an ex parte (emergency full custody) if you have screenshots of the mother saying things like āIāll beat her upā or āIāll burn down your houseā youāll be granted the ex parte within a week. Youāll also recieve paperwork stating when the hearing is to reallocate Parental rights. If she doesnāt show to that hearing, youāre husband/boyfriend, whatever will be granted permanent full custody and youāll never have to include her again.
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Report her, this is a VERY serious thing.
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If this person is really psycho a op isnāt going to do shit. This is why battered woman that seek help sometimes wind up killed.
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With the internet these days nothing is private anymore. If she wants to she can find you pretty easily especially if you bought a houseā¦thatās all public record. If she has joint custody youāre BF could be in contempt of a court order by keeping information from her. Thereās nothing you can do, youāre not married but your BF could file for full custody with supervised visitsā¦do it while she is homeless!
Whatever you do, consider that making the kids keep secrets from their mom is going to hurt them immensely, for years to come. Try to do things the āright wayā as best you can, so the burden is not on them to protect your interests.
Iām not ignoring the fact that its hard. You should consult with a lawyer and see what can be done legally. You dont neccesarily have to hire the lawyer, just do a consultation and see what options are availae to you.
Sadly, your address will be public record since you purchased a home. Its recorded in the land records at the clerk of courtās office. A restraining order is needed asap.
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Restraining ORDERā¦ but like seriouslyā¦ Why get involved w a man that has that kind of drama in the first place??.. I swear I am SO confused by these posts sometimes wasnāt she CRAZY when yāall first met? That kind of stress and drama will wear a relationship down and out. Speaking from experience. 
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Been there , done that ā¦thereās no getting around a crazy ex!!! Had to do this kinda thing for most of our first 20 years of marriageā¦ finally it has stopped, but she still stalks us even after 44 years togetherā¦all kids are grown and have families of there ownā¦but she will continue,to stalk until either she or he is dead and gone !!! 
Weāve missed out on a lot ā¦
your address is public info. itās extremely easy to find anyoneās address
Iām not saying what sheās doing is right! BUT if you donāt have a custody agreement she has the right to know where her kids live and where they go to school.
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U have to switch school if they find out u moved could face huge fines . Take her to court
You have this in text messages? If so you can pursue full legal custody as well as a restraining order
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Your taking care of her kids and making a home for them. And have been with their father for a year and a half. Shes homeless and trying to make the rules and threatening to burn down the home her kids will live in. And threatening to beat you up. Wow. All of that being done to you your so and those babies. Iād go for a restraining order. And if that didnt work and she comes to your new home. Iād definatley take it to court. Or handle it myself. You should not live in fear.she should be greatful. Prayers sweetheart get that restraining order. Go get an emergency one.please
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Best to get legal advice in this situation
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Restraining order against her for you and the whole family. Full custody of the kids.
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Hire a lawyer get custody!
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First of all, it is a crime to even say that she will burn down your houseā¦ she can threaten you all she wants, but cannot threaten your property. Itās crazy, but it is how the loaw worksā¦ Honestly, the kids deserve better. I would go for custody.
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Itās past time to get the authorities involved here. I suggest you start by contacting the local Legal Aid office.
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Did you file a restraining order because of her threats? I think you need an attorney and court
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Get a ppo. And request to keep address and info confidential.
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Legal advice and file for a protection order for you all and the kids. But as a mother regardless of what she is doing till you take the legal route she has all rights to know where her kids are and whom they are with.
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File a restraining order once you have physical proof of her threats and file for full custody!
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Go to court. For custody and retainer order
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And why are you still letting her see them?! She sounds frikin nuts! Iād file a report against her for the threats and take her back to court.
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Well your man needs to take care of this. Your not married and havenāt been together very long. You have no legal rights here to keep her from knowing where her kids live and go to school. Thats just a fact and itās not saying her actions are OK either. I wouldnāt want her to know where I live either. She sounds like sheās probably a drug addict and needs help. Your man is her kids father and he is the only one that can take her to court for anything to do with the kids. You can try to get a restraining order for yourself and your own kids but he needs to deal with that stuff for his kids. He should take her to court and file for full custody and supervised visits for her until she can fix her life and be the mother her kids deserve. I think it would be terrible to be a mother and have no idea where my kids live or what school they go to
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If she threatened to burn down a place with not only her kids but other kids and you have proof of it. Take it to a lawyer threatening child endangerment, arson, potential murder. That along with the fact shes homeless would be plenty to get full custody. At the very least emergency custody and a restraining order against her till you can get full custody
Get a security system like ring that will let you know if someone is present, and have him go back for adjusted custody. If the threats are written, make sure you make copies. record ALL conversations.
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Thatās tricky
First of all which parent has full legal custody?
Even though she may not be a good mom
She is still their mother
And she should be allowed to know what is going on with her kids and where they are going to school
Unless there are court orders stating otherwise
I would encourage the kids dad (and only the dad)
To apply for full custody
Or to have a mediation session so he and the mother can work out an arrangement reg their kids
I get that you love his kids and thatās great
But at the end of the day itās not your decision as to whatās best for their kids
(Sorry to be so blunt)
Only they or the court can do that
Granted you have been living with their father for over a year but doesnāt actually mean you are their step mother
You are really only his girlfriend
Sadly you need to stay out of it and let them sort out whatās best for the kids
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What are u waiting for to bring a legal team In here? What a shitty situation to move into donāt u want it to be happy buying a house together in a relationship should be such a positive turning point doesnāt sound like itās goin in the right direction for any of u hope u guys can turn this around before moving day or whatās the point 
sorry your going through this hope it gets better
File abandonment of kid and go get custody now. Before she get wind you moved because right now passion is 9/10 of the law they both have rights until you get custody of them. Prayers for your family 
Run to family court. Donāt dilly dally. RUN! Start for custody and an order of protection. Sheās threatening to burn down the home HER kids are in and to cause you bodily harm.
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Sounds like dad has grounds for emergency full custody and have his day in court for child abandonment, no suitable living conditions, etc. shouldnāt be an issue in getting full custody of all his kids and getting them stabilized and in a complete healthy living situation with home and school - if he doesnāt step up to the plate for them regardless of how she feels no one will and he risks the chance that she will do something really stupid and cause the kids to go into state custody - go to court get full custody and get those babies in a good healthy home environment and forget the threats she is just mad at herself bc she canāt or wonāt do it for them - the law will be on your side.
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This situation canāt be easy on anyone. If you all have had the kids full time for 8 months then you SO needs to go to court get everything written in legal form. That is the only way you all can start a new life and the kids get stability. Co-parenting is best for kids if they are not being abused in any way, and the adults can be adults not using the children to hurt or get back at the other adult. So this is something you and your SO need to decide what is best for the children not the adults but the children!! Good luck I hope things turn around for you all. Always remember children deserve to come first, to be loved, protected and as parents they did not ask to be in this situation so itās up to the ADULTS to give them the best life possible!
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You need to record everything. You need to collect evidence. Any altercation or threat needs to be documented by the authorities. Get yourself a security system if you can.
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Get order of protection as soon as she on your property call 911 she be arrested said she threatened to kill u bla bla bla say whatever to get her away from u I was in a domestic situation I got away
You need to contact the attorney general in your state and ask how to proceed.
Or a lawyer.
Well she technically abandoned them. Go to court now for full custody and a restraining order
If I was you maybe do a different approach like involve the mother in her childrenās activities etc instead of treating her like she doesnāt matter. Thereās always 2 sides to every story and this is only yours.
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Sheās homeless itās probably so easy to earn full custody right now more than ever
I would avoid telling her the school, but one of the kids might say something or even give her the address of your home, once they learn it. I woukd fight for dull custody.
Um, unless you need her for something this is the type of person you cut out completely. Move schools. Go zero contact. She is scary!