Question!? Any mamas have a daughter and how did you handle their first period? My daughter will be 10 on July 19th and late last night I heard her scream from the bathroom and there it was! We have had the period talk since she was little but now that it’s here I’m like what!? How!? Why!? Any advice!? I definitely had a long night of tears myself and just can’t help but worry because I myself have severe endometriosis and bleed very heavy every month so I don’t even know how to navigate when I should make her first appointment or anything. I’m clueless at this point and you wouldn’t think that being a woman myself.
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I don’t know what you mean “how do you handle”??? You just do.
Unless a young female under 18 is either sexually active or having severe issues IMO as a mother and a nurse I would not take them to a gyno it can be very traumatizing
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I just made my daughter a little bag to put in her purse-- pads, chocolate, wipes. I told her how to use the products and told her to ask me questions if she had them.
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i handled ok ive told her i have stuff they have been in bathroom with me i said this is part of life you will deal with when get older.ive been supplying stuff for her and she has already
Handle it with comfort heating pad meds chocolate the same we cope with ours also keep a chart for her to make sure she’s on track some girls skip when they are first year starting out my daughter did with her hormones adjusting
No to sound like the ungrateful mom but my daughter and I had the talk. We packed stuff for her and she went off to camp. Well I got the call from a counselor that she got it and didn’t want to miss swimming. So they showed her how to use a tampon and all. She was okay with it. She was a late bloomer. Where as I was a very early bloomer. But she did good. I was proud of her.
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I think a lot of people here are overlooking your comment about the severe endometriosis, and unless you’ve experienced it, you just don’t know…
It took me years to find a doctor who would agree that I probably have it and their only solution was to put me on birth control instead of actually confirming it. I’ve always bled very heavily and had severe, debilitating cramps. I’ve even had female gynos tell me that being able to do nothing but lay in bed or a bath (hot enough to burn me) and cry was normal for cramps and to deal with it.
I don’t have kids (and my husband had a vasectomy) so I’m not 100% on the advice front other than making sure she knows she can talk to you openly about everything especially any serious discomfort.
Handle it the way you would want someone to explain it to you, and treat her the way you would want to be. Your a woman you know what it’s like. You know what helps and what doesn’t. Her being freaked out, even with the talk, is completely normal. I wouldn’t bring her to the Dr’s unless there’s a need to. The testing that’s needed to determine endometriosis can be a lot on a 10yr old. This is something that should only be done if there’s an indication of an issue. Besides there being problems, Dr’s aren’t needed for this. I wouldn’t bring her to a gyno til sexually active, or at least 16-18 if not. However even then I would limit what they do, to keep from causing damage if you catch my drift.
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You can make her a ob appointment without having to do a pap, I did I started my period at 8 my mom freaked out because she definitely wasn’t expecting it that soon. She made me an appointment they looked me over but not a pap wise and said it was my period and not due to sex or anything i then found out at 16 I had PCOS. Just let them know she started and you just want them to go over everything with her and you and let them know you have endometriosis.
Sounds like you’ve done a good job already. You’ve had the talk, you showed her how to use pads and you’re there for her if she has questions. The need for an exam by a obgyn is only necessary if problems arise or she becomes sexually active. You’re doing a good job, Mama!
I have both of those also but we were blessed and my daughter doesn’t as of yet. Thank God
School is my main problem. They don’t let her go to The bathroom when she needs to so make sure you stay on top of that. I’ve already had to go to the school about it
Give her a pad. Fix her a few to take to school. If she doesn’t have any pains or discomfort she doesn’t need to go to a doctor.
I let her have the day out of school and took her shopping and we talked bout life had lunch was very nice
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I explained to her in very simple terms exactly what a period is and how babies are made because even though all of mine took the classes in school & talked to their friends about it, none of them really knew. I told her that every girl goes through it and it is nothing to be embarrassed about, but she should be private and respectful and not discuss it in public or in front of her dad or brothers. I told her not to be ashamed if she has to ask for supplies, buy them or use them and if she is opening the pads in the restroom, it is better to do it fast - like ripping off a bandaid. I bought her pamprin & a heating pad and took her to the store & explained the pads to her & what to look for. And I bought her a set of black undies to use for period days.
Don’t take her to the doctor until she is much older. She doesn’t need to go. You can treat everything at home.
What do you mean how do you handle? You’re a mother you just do. 
Ever since My daughter was young. She’s always helped me grab tampons if I couldn’t reach them. I’ve always explained to her basically what was going on and told her from the beginning what to expect one day. She’s now 14. At the time we were fully stocked and prepared from pads to snacks etc. she knew exactly what would happen so she wasn’t really that nervous
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