Mamas, how did you know your last baby was your last? I have one baby and one on the way and I can’t decide if this is our last.
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I had two kids and they were 8 and 12 and I wound up taking care of someone else’s newborn for a day and realized how I just didn’t have the energy for it anymore. It’s different for everyone.
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Currently 27 weeks with my 4th and I literally cannot do this again so we are done lol
i thought i was done and surprise at 40!!
You get a feeling, I can’t explain it but before my last child there would always be a possibility of more after my last, I couldn’t imagine ever having another one!
When my second was a spitfire and I realized my first born will constantly have to fight for time. Adding a third would be fair to nobody but that being said I do go through baby blues.
I’m due with our third in October and I just felt like with 2, there was ‘more space to fill’ almost, but if I think about having FOUR kids I’m like ok that’s too much for me to handle 
this will be it for us! 
For me, when my youngest started school and I was back into making work, work ! It felt great to be more then just a mum again. I don’t want to go back to nappies, and sleepless nights, and all the crying. I know I am definitely done lol
Every bodies tells are different. But when you’re done, you’ll know !
My body decided for me.I have 2 kids and had to have emergency c-sections with both if them.
My last one was so hard and I nearly died from pre-eclampsia.
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I always asked myself that after I had my two oldest. Questioning if I was done now I’m pregnant with my 3rd and I just know deep down this is it for me. I feel complete. 
Best wishes. 
I have 4 boys now 22, 19, 10,& 9…I decided 2 years ago my husband & I were done. I’d said oh well to having a girl. Well we got pregnant & I finally have a daughter who’s now 4 months. I know that I am for sure DONE DONE now. I will be 40 next year & I’d gotten used to big kids 
. I’m happy to have a girl but wheeewww!
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I kept going until I had a boy!! 4 oldest, are girls and 5th, was a boy!!
As soon as I got pregnant with that 3rd one 
I just knew mime are 11 years aparr
If you have any doubts whatsoever, wait. There are plenty of long term birth control options until you know for sure. Me, I just knew when I was done. 2 was plenty for me.
I have 3 girls my oldest being 12 and my youngest being 2. I just turned 39 two months before my youngest was born. I knew I wasn’t having anymore because of that. 27 days after having my youngest I got fixed and I couldn’t be happier.
we spoke about how we are financially, family goals, our lifestyle, and between that we decided 2 was our limit.
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Talk it out with your partner…workload, finances, etc. Also, friendly suggestion…don’t worry about it right now. Enjoy your current pregnancy and soon to be new addition. You’ll have time to figure it out later, and a lot of the time life doesn’t care about your plans anyhow 
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It’s a different number for everyone I have 6 and still want 1 more
I hit my quota. Always wanted 5 kids. I had 5 kids. Ended up having all 5, mandatory C Sections. Age and health caught up with me.
I knew when I was pregnant with my 4th that I was done
I knew 2 was my limit because everything cost so much and I wanted to give them the best life.
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I had watched a 3 month old baby over night when my youngest was 2 ½ and realized i was dont with sleepless nights 
im all reality though i feel like if you dont know your done dont do anything permanent.
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Probably when my youngest first slept through the night at a few months old. A solid 12 hours 
I had 3 boys by age 30, time for me now. Babies are adorable but a pregnancy scare would terrify me. That’s how I know I’m done lol
Once I had my holy terror
When having pre eclampsia with our first, and a normal pregnancy with our second, my Dr said if have anymore may get it again and this time may not go well ( first time end up having blood tests 2-3 times a day) than they noticed organs where showing sign of beginning to shut down, so hubby a day I listened, I wanted another but didn’t want to leave 2 healthy kids
After my 2nd I knew I was done. Being pregnant with her was SO hard on my body and she ended up being the worst breech possible. Still stubborn AF today. I just was DONE.
I have 3 boys they run me crazy that’s how I know another baby would put me in a padded room crazy so much raising too do when u have kids.babys are cute but no more at all.
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Im 76. After having a boy than a girl than twins I. Felt that was enough to raise. 4 under 3 and a half. All are successful and happy. I did Mt job.
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My thoughts,were if it’s God’s will I’ll have more ,but I only had 4,I guess he thought I had two many ,he called one home when she was 13
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I got pregnant with my daughter and I knew I was done.she loves being an only child she gets it all.
When my dr said it would kill me. I have 2 of my own lost 13and now raise my 3 nieces and nephews
When i almost died after they took out my IV needle they nickt my artery
If you’re not sure, you’re probably ready for more. You’ll just know in your heart when it’s the last one.
You can always get on birth control if you are undecided. 
that way the option is there but you’re protected if you decide against it.
Had a boy and then a girl and said I was done. But either way I was done. The doctor tried like he!! To talk me out off. What if this or that. What if you and your other half goes different ways. Then if someone else can’t handle I can’t have any more kids then it wasn’t meant to be. That simple.
When I gave birth lol 
(I thought I’d want more ) as an older mom 1 was plenty. But I really think you’ll know when the time comes. It’s different for everyone.
edit I had a moderately traumatic birth - also we had just entered covid lock down the day I gave birth.
How does your partner feel about it? It was a mutant decision between me and my husband.
My husband got fixed he said no more he said 3 is good enough lol
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Before all of my pregnancy complications that literally decided for me that 2 was my final number, I just simply knew. I just knew in my head and my heart that I was done that go around. So, before your baby is born do some soul searching. If towards the end you haven’t made up your mind, I would take that as you aren’t ready to close that door yet.
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As my pregnancy complications got more and more I knew for my sake and my children I couldn’t have anymore.
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I have 2 stepsons and 1 baby on the way… I think I’m fine leaving the amount the way it is. My mom thinks that we might have one more, if that’s the case it would be down the road… My biological baby is almost 8 years apart from the youngest stepson. Which is perfect to me!
I was sick for nine months, both pregnancies, and decided I never wanted to do it again. 
My last came 12.5 weeks early. I was scared my next one would be earlier. She barely made it. I wasn’t willing to risk losing the next one
Should let God make that decision.
I had 4, initially wanted to call it quits after my second, but I was in a loveless relationship and decided not to. My now husband didn’t have kids and wanted one. So we did and planned to sign papers for tubal after. But 3 boys in at that point and right after having him we decided to try for a 4th. We succeeded but there were health concerns for me in doing so. We did anyway. I now have, 4, beautiful boys and I don’t regret my choices. But after the last one and all the complications I knew my body couldn’t go through it again. That was over 5 yrs ago and now I’m working towards a full hysterectomy.
My youngest is 3, and I fleeted weather I wanted another or not, the last year after weighing up pros and cons. I am 100% done my partner is getting a vasectomy and I currently have the coil. I think you’ll just get to the point we’re u do just know… xxxx
I knew I was done because I couldn’t responsibility afford another child.
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I realized that I didn’t want to go through the newborn and toddler stages again.
I’m the original poster. We have one girl and another on the way and a lot of people want me to try for a boy… but I am scared I will have 4-6 girls and no boys… I am also an only child so I knew I wanted a bigger family.
I feel like you just know. I basically demanded they take out my tubes after my 3rd lol
In my case, I always wanted two kids ever since I can remember because of my brother and my relationship, we are extremely close to this day. And I wanted my eldest to have a sibling to grow together. Ever since I had my first child, I always felt that my heart is missing something, so I had the second child, my heart felt right, my home felt right. So I am satisfied with two and the pregnancy with second one was difficult as heck due to my diabetes so I don’t want any more.
I had 3 total . Last one all natural ALMOST in the truck. Said fuck that again.
My first pregnancy was very very rough on my body and my mental health I suffered really bad depression during and even worse depression and anxiety after. I gave it 3 years decided we wanted one more. This was my last pregnancy due to the complications and toll it took on my body. I had kidney issues my body hurt more than ever and we both ran out of room so fast because of how small my torso is, I decided he is my last because if I got pregnant again I wouldn’t make it mentally or physically. I had my tubes tied the beginning of August.
I could only mentally look after 3 children. 
I just knew. And even if I wanted more I’d have still been done. All my babies came earlier than the one before…last one was 4cm at 27 weeks then water broke week later and delivered 1 day in to 30. Plus he has DS which increased my chance if the next one having it plus my age…didn’t want to risk it.
Well I had 3 kids went on birth control got pregnant and miscarried decided I wanted one more got pregnant with twins told my ob you’re taking them c-section and cut and tie my tubed while you’re in there. I regretted it a few yrs down the road. However now I have grandkids. 2 I raised for the first 3 yrs of their lives.
I knew this was my last one ass I was pushing her out. My husband had wanted 3 but after the labor I had I decided nope. Done. Rhe labor I went through madr up my mind lol.
when my depression was so bad during pregnancy i wanted to hurt others and not just myself 
You don’t have to decide right now. See how it goes with 2. Maybe you want one more after awhile, maybe not.
When my eggs were boiled
I stopped after 2 simply bc I couldn’t afford more!! Groceries are high,unless u get stamps which I don’t!
I always had baby fever. Mine are 12, 11, 4 and 3. I was done after my 3rd but got pregnant before I could get my tubes tied. It was the worst pregnancy because I didn’t want it to happen. I was unhappy and lost my job because I ran out of maternity leave with my 3rd baby. It was depressing and then she was born and I was severely depressed and she has non verbal autism so the struggle just keeps holding me down. I love her to pieces and can’t imagine life without her, but I would have stopped at 3.
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Ask your partner how many they want if they just want 2 then that’s a decision you both need to make
I was pregnant with my 4th thinking maybe there will be a 5th one day… my 4th came out not breathing which scared me to death (she’s fine but it was a scary few minutes) so that put the thought in my head that I might not want to go through that anymore.
But it wasnt until the reality of being 33 with a baby (4 kids total) set in that I realized I was too tired and old to keep doing this lol and scheduled my appointment asap.
No regrets. I’m completely content and happy with my decision.
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I had a boy then a girl I said tie it up. That’s that
I knew after having an incredibly traumatic birth experience with my first that I never wanted anymore.
2nd one turned me inside out like a sock and nopity nope
I have 5 and I thought i was done but I want another so that feeling comes and goes
I decided early on I didn’t want anymore kids after I turned 30. The universe had other plans for me, after 6 years of trying and finally giving up because I was about to be 30 I got pregnant with my second. And then the third came 2 1/2 years later and after her, I KNEW I didn’t want anymore. My last two births were traumatic for me, but worth it in the end. I just got a hysterectomy the day before I turned 36 so no turning back and it was the best decision I ever made!
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I’m stuck with the same. The last pregnancy took a toll on me but the desire is still there. Will I ever feel complete?
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Had my tubes tied after 4 and had serious regrets. Now I’m too old and the 4 I have worry me to death but I wish at the time I would’ve done the long term implants and waited to make such a permanent decision. I have 4 boys and it’s not that I wanted a girl, I just felt like I would’ve at least had 1 more, maybe even 2.
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I knew my 2nd was my last because that pregnancy was hard, On top of having to have repeat c-sections I didn’t want to keep being cut open to have more children. 2 was good for me. My husband was on board with me also he seen how painful it was. We also decided that for us financially it was smart to stop at 2 to make sure we could give them each the opportunity for sports and things like that. But also 2 was perfect for us because we each get time with each child. Although I would have loved to have a girl (I still can through adoption) but for now we are content. I don’t regret my decision to get my tubes tied. I do wish they would have removed them instead but I took what they would give me lol my Dr didn’t want to tie my tubes because I was still in child bearing age.
Labour nearly killed me on my last 2
If you’re not 100% sure that you’re done, don’t make any serious decisions.
Of course a tubal is reversable, as is a vasectomy, but then you have all the expenses and medical procedures that go along with reversals and no guarantee of conception after a reversal.
If you’re unsure, talk to your OBGYN about a long term form of birth control. It’s easier to change your mind that way.
I didn’t wanna be done, but was advised against becoming pregnant again, Dr said it was too high risk for me
I ran out of time. I’m 48 and was widowed several years ago, I don’t want to sleep with anyone else and I can’t afford IVF/sperm donation and my biological clock is starting to slow down to a stop.
So, no more babies. I’d love one more though
My first and only was exhausting! No one would watch her for an hour or two so I could get my hair done or have a little me time. My husband, his family, some of mine kept asking me when I’d have another. F that! And do it all alone but this time with a husband who went through cancer twice and heart surgery. I don’t want to struggle to take care of kids just to make everyone else happy
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I didn’t decide. Life did.
Tubes tied after 3rd…plus I was told if I had any more kids I could possibly die…
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We have 3 girls, 12, 10 and 6 and we are pregnant again at 34 with another girl! This is our last. This pregnancy is taking a toll on Momma!
When giving birth hurt and the aftermath was just…awful. IDK how people do it again and again. About 5 minutes into being pregnant I was ready to be done and never do it again lol
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When I realized I can’t handle anymore mentally…
Call me old fashioned but we are women there’s probably always going to be a part of us that wants a/nother child even if it’s just the tiniest degree. Its build into us on an innate level
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My pregnancy with my son caused my heart to enlarge and we didn’t know anything was wrong at the time, gave birth had no idea still, then ended up having to go back thinking I had appendicitis, which I didn’t but they removed it anyway, still no clue my heart was enlarged, in recovery I pass out. Wake up off and on for a few weeks in critical care for them to tell me I was lucky I made it. Had been given a 50% chance of surviving the next 5 years. Welp, 18 years later I’m still here. Was told no more or I won’t make it, buy I didn’t want anymore, had my girl and my boy and I’m good. 
Wanting more doesn’t mean you can afford more.
I decided for sure after I had my second. My first was an easy baby and easy enough toddler. My second is only 14 months and he’s a tiny terror, complete opposite of his big brother. I don’t want anymore. Dassit.
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Well since the pill and Norplant didn’t work for me, I’d say when I was pregnant with my second one. I told the doctor since he was going to have me cut open, cut tie and burn my tubes and send them to china as I do not want to get pregnant again
After the first one…i knew 
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When I started having more than one at a time it was time to stop
My last pregnancy was really painful from the beginning. Had a lot pelvic and back pain. The pregnancy was a lot harder on me than all the others.
I finished my 3 at 28 yrs old 2 girls 1 boy u know when u know 
I wanted a girl. Got a girl. Done
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Having 3 was it for me… but… god had other plans and now I have 4. In so thankful for all of my kids. You’ll know when you’re truly done. You’ll just feel it.
I should have done it when my youngest (6) was about 2, but didn’t and my first 2 have a 6 year age gap and they drive me NUTS together lol. And frankly couldn’t afford another right now anyway
I had complicated pregnancies/births and though I wanted to eventually try for a girl I just decided there was no way I could put my body through that again
I decided do get my tubes tied after my 2nd bc it was an awful pregnancy. I was in and out of the hospital at the end , put on bed rest for the last month, and then my son was born not breathing. He got really sick at 2 weeks old and I was like can’t do this anymore. They’re 18 and 14 now and when I was in my early 30’s I wondered what it would be like to have another . But 2 was plenty work. Kids aren’t cheap.
My emergency c section did it for me
I thought I was done my kids are 19 and 16 after struggling to raise them as a young single mom I definitely told my new husband when we started dating that I did not want any more kids to the affect of stating I would get an abortion. I got pregnant with my 2 at 16 and 20 and after dedicating my life to raising and supporting them alone I wanted “my own life” I dreamed about it for years. I kept saying when my kids are grown I’m going to do this and that and travel and Yada Yada. Last January we found out we were pregnant I’m now 35. I knew the 5th day of my missed period I took a test and as I thought I was indeed pregnant. No thought of terminating the pregnancy had even crossed my mind I wasn’t even mad or upset. I’m now 36 weeks pregnant and ready to deliver my husband’s 1st and only son which he is so excited for me too but hes estatic to have a son. Life changes people change and having a partner who is happy and willing to have a child with makes all the difference. Do what feels right. We do have a vascotomy date set tho