How did you know you were in fact done having kids. I have 2 Boys, and a SAHM. They make me want to pull my hair out at times. But when they are sweet to eachother it’s great. I always wanted a little girl but I know that I don’t get to choose when it gets down to it. So in other words when do you know it’s time to be done or to try for another?
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I think if you still question it you should never consider yourself done. Because even when you are done you still sometimes have those feelings of sadness but you still know it’s time.
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If you’re hesitant don’t do it. I have 2 girls I’m pregnant now idk the gender hoping for a boy if not oh well. I’m done.
If you have to ask you know deep down you are not done
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For myself it was financial. Could I afford to be out of work for another 5 years? I didn’t believe daycare, to work all day to pay someone else to raise the baby I wanted made no sense.
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I had G/B twins first so I had both. Then 7 years later I got pregnant with my youngest I was done before half way. Kidney stones (4 days in the hospital in pain) migraines gained 20 pounds before I even found out I was pregnant. Total 50 pounds. I was in so much pain I couldn’t walk. That is when I said no more. would I like more yes but my youngest is 8 and I’m 40 so no thank you.
I saw a TikTok and it asked how many kids can you really raise on ur own? If he passes away if you divorce how many can you handle being sick and needy? The answer for me was 3. I got my tubes tied during my third child’s c section and soon after I ended up getting divorced. For multiple reasons but one of the reasons he agreed was because he was upset I got my tubes tied when I knew he wanted more kids. He said that hurt him. I won’t trash him here but I will say he hurt me and his daughters way worse then me tying my tubes for my own mental health and the benefit of our three daughters.
When I realised I was getting poorlier and poorlier during each pregnancy. I think another would kill me.
I asked my now ex to get the snip and he wouldn’t so I got my tubes tied during my C-section with my fourth at 25. I don’t regret a thing.
Would you be ok and still want another child if it was a boy? If that answer is yes, even if you hope for a girl, you’re not done
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My daughter turned 6 and I was 100% done. We had so much freedom and she was in school already. Then 4 months later I got pregnant with my son(on bc) and he is almost 4 and absolutely wild 
i mentally can’t do another
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I had severe morning sickness with all three of my kids. Absolutely hated being pregnant but obviously so worth it. After 2 boys and my third a girl I knew I was done for sure!!
I tied my tubes at 24 yrs old & 2 boys. That was the only regret of my life! Same husband, but i wanted more kids after about 5 years
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I knew I was done when my pregnancies began to get more complicated with each one. My son (4m) is my last and had my tubes out due to the medical aspect of it. My health declined majorly with him and I know my body can’t physically or mentally handle another child.
What does your partner think about another child?
Project into the future: how old will you be when your kids become teenagers? Will you have the fortitude and energy to go through it more than twice? Do you have the money to support you and your kids if something happens to your husband? 50% of marriages end in divorce and alimony is rare.
How about money saved for education (of whatever kind) beyond high school? Might you need additional training to become gainfully (not minimum wage) employed if that’s necessary?
What do you (and your spouse) want to be able to do when you are older or in retirement? Will that be possible with more kids? Think about school fees, vacations, eating out, sports fees and equipment, birthday and holiday presents for multiple children.
How much time do you have to divide among kids with competing activities like soccer practices and games, karate, music practice and performances, homework, art classes, tutoring if needed. It’s a time commitment too.
Do you have enough saved to buy your kids cheap cars when they start to get jobs if public transportation isn’t available?
Babies are fun but grow up and it’s a lifetime commitment with no guarantees. What are the chances of having a special needs child? Could you handle that? Lots to think about other than how cute babies are. Enjoy your time with the kids you have, and only have more if you’ve considered everything that could entail and are prepared.
K owi g I can’t choose Mt last, I am done I have 2 girls, wanted that boy but I know my puppy dog is as close as I am going to get.
When my sons became Fathers, my love for 4 baby girls came to be.
Honestly I just knew when I was done. You’ll know.
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I thought I was done I have 5 kids my youngest is 7 and bam here comes another one lol but I’m so done with kids after thisone
I got tied up at 23 years. 3 kids. That is plenty for me!
I had 3 n I knew I was done with my 3rd. Had tubal done when I had my c-section.
You just know. So if you’re still questioning it, you’re more than likely not done.
I knew I was done after one.
As soon as I has one I knew I was done .
When the world started to go to shit and got way to expensive.
I got married at 18yrs old, we had a girl and boy 14mo apart. He made me tied my tubes. We ended in divorce. I remarried awhile after and my new husband didn’t have any children other than mine…he asked me if I ever considered having more. I said no because my tubes are tied. My kids were on board…however I wasn’t sure…because I knew the struggles of a single mom… we had a tubal reversal. It was successful and we welcomed our third child Jacob, who thinks his daddy made 3 wonderful kids 
I k ew my circle was complete…
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We are leaving it up to God. The chances of me getting pregnant with a viable pregnancy due to a chromosome inversion is low.
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I knew I was done having kids when I had to have my uterus removed 
I wanted a boy my whole life I had girl girl girl BOY and girl and I just new I was completely done I didn’t want anymore it’s a sad decision to make but you have to think about how many you can handle I promise you 5 is not for the weak lol but I wouldn’t have it any other way but once you get tube’s ties that is a life long choice so think about it wisely best of luck to you
I feel like you’ll know inside when you’re done. It also depends on your situation. We have 3 boys and I’ve always dreamed of having a girl but didn’t think it was in the cards for me. In the past 7 years I’ve had 2 miscarriages and once I got pregnant this last time I decided that whether or not this pregnancy is successful, whether this is a boy or girl, I was comfortable stopping and was comfortable with not having any more kids. I didn’t want to continue to put my physical or mental health through any more losses and knew that even if it was successful and we had another boy then I was just destined to be a boy mom and that’s already something to be thankful for. Thankfully I’m healthy and we’re on track for a healthy baby girl due in June! Obviously things don’t always go how you want them to but it’s the mental acceptance that you should have before making that decision with your partner. Good luck mama and I wish you the best no matter what path you do choose.
I knew I was done only because my last one almost cost me my life. I don’t ever want to risk not being here for my kids. I’ve been blessed with my 6 kids, 3 boys and 3 girls.
When I had 2 and got on BC and got pregnant with the 3rd. Neither of us was excited or wanted another kid, so we didn’t have one. He got his vasectomy as soon as he could after my procedure.
Once we hit 2, it was a whole new ballgame. I can’t imagine them outnumbering the parents! We barely got by most of that time with the skin of our teeth.
I had my twins and was so done. I made my husband get fixed. At first I wanted more but that was right after the baby when my hormones were crazy. But yeah would rather get hit by a train then have more. I think if you are thinking about it then your aren’t done
I have 3 girls; 23, 21, my youngest will be 14 in a few months. When I was pregnant with her, my husband said 3 is enough. He got snipped, he didn’t want me. Hormones
My sister has 5 boys and finally got her girl. She is 1 now. It took her years to get a girl 
but finally got one. And she pregnant again and it’s a boy. poor baby girl has 6 bothers. The babygirl, and baby she pregnant with however has same dad. The rest of the kids belong to someone else. The guy she with he has a daughter already.
I knew I was done when I was pregnant with my second and my first was around 2 … dealing with pregnancy fatigue/morning sickness & hormones while trying to be the best mom I could be for my toddler made me realize I could never do this again with 2 kids to take care of. Also financially I know it would be too difficult. I got lucky and had a boy and a girl so I’m not wondering what if but I don’t know how anybody has more then 2 kids … motherhood is not for the weak 
When I realized all my kids are old enough to do whatever without me watching them.
I almost had a stroke with my mine i wanted another but the more I thought bout it the more I couldn’t risk it
I knew while pregnant with my last baby that I couldn’t afford more financially, emotionally, or physically for the foreseeable future. I have 2 kids
I decided when my youngest cried all the time. I never got rest. I decided I was done. I had a two year old and an eight year old already so that was enough.
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I never had the desire to have more than 1 . I did the math and wanted things for him where I knew if we had several we wouldn’t be able to do it . Travel , tuition, and all the other expenses in life . I have never regretted not having another .
I have two kids boy and a girl I would really love to have more but financially it would be too much of a burden. So I just enjoy the two that I have as much as I can and do as many things with them and make as many memories as I can. I definitely understand that part of me get sad thinking this will be the last time my little one will do this or that. It’s hard to close that chapter and accept not having more. I feel like I still have so much love to give, but I don’t want to put any strain or burden anymore than necessary and I want to make sure that I can give the kids we have a good life without everyone having to sacrifice to make ends meet. But I have thought that maybe once my kids get a little older and my daughter goes off to college I’ve thought about either fostering kids or even adopting maybe. I’ll kind of see where life takes me and cross that bridge when I get to it.
I am a mum of soon to be 6 kids, 4 boys and 2 girls. My deciding factor that I am now done, is the dread of having to care for anymore children and the feeling where I’m to tired and getting older (I’m 33 atm) I want to do things for me (horse riding/eventing and one day move to the US) i can’t do that woth a tribe of kids at my feet at 50yrs old.
So it’s a feeling where you know you’re DONE and don’t want anymore. I was a mum from 19 and I think at 33yrs I’m happy to close that chapter of my life 
Plus 6 kids is fcuking full on and expensive hahahahaha
I got pregnant with my 3rd 4 months after my 2nd was born. I knew that was it. I just had the feeling of I’m done. There was no way I wanted to be that exhausted ever again lol. It is a really weird feeling knowing I can’t anymore (I had my tubes removed during my last csection). I now wish I would’ve had more but only because my youngest is 6 now and it’s easy lol. Back then wasn’t so easy. But I think that’s just because there’s no more baby stages left. When I think of the exhaustion and tiredness I’m like nope I’m good now lol but I always tell people you will know when you are done. It will always feel weird that you aren’t having anymore
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We stopped at 2 kids
We have one of each. But we wanted to be able to give our kids a better life and lifestyle which meant that we couldn’t have a bunch of kids.
Raising kids is expensive. Sports are expensive.
Prom/graduation is expensive.
College is expensive.
If you have a lot of money you can have as many kids as you want and help them so they don’t start their adult life buried in debt. If not? Realistically look at what you can afford.
Seems like you already answered your own question. 
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I had two kids, a boy & a girl. I wanted to get my tubes tied but my mom talked me out of it because I was still so young. Thank goodness I listened to her. I ended up divorcing their dad and remarried 7 yrs later. He only wanted one and we prayed it would be a girl. All ultra sounds said it was a boy. But nope we had a girl. Dr. Said “God must have knocked his faucet off” . So maybe if you’re young hold off having your tubes removed.
Being pregnant with my 2nd I knew I was done. She was really hard on my body. It was a very rough 9 months and she came a week & half early because her heart rate started dropping. Was also the worst breech possible soooo yeah. I just said this is it and we’re happy with our little family. Btw this girl is still rough…she’s my wild one. Lol
When they stop coming out!
I knew that I wanted to be done when I gave birth to my youngest (3rd) so 6 weeks after I had him I had my tubes removed. I still get the feeling that I want another one, but it’s only for a second and then I think of all the money, time and attention I’d need to give to a new baby and I think whew! I’m glad I’m done lol
Can’t afford kids 
… my 2 kids were 13 years apart.