Please leave your husband. That’s just so wrong…
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How old are you? You married your husband knowing that you weren’t attracted to him in any way he was just nice and could provide for you. Maybe you should of stayed single and dated more people until the one that checked all your boxes well most them and married that guy. It is really not fare to your husband or yourself to stay in a loveless marriage. He will be shock and bummed out but he deserve someone who wants to be with him and doesn’t cheat on him all the time.
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I wonder if they could make the questions they make up sound less like they’re written by an editor, and more like they’re written by a real person with real problems. The answer to all of these fabricated scenarios is: Pretend you’re your own best friend coming to you asking this very question. What would your advice be to your best friend?
Do that.
Ur kidding with this right. Grow up. If ur not happy. Leave.
First thing I do is think of my husband doing exactly what I am doing. Usually that makes me sick to think of and then its a turn off. Second practice putting professional distance with everyone whom you’d normally flirt with. Last flirt with your husband. Tell him how to make you feel aroused or sexy. Guys are not mind readers but usually are willing to accept a little help with encouragement.
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so guys who you feel sexually attracted too, get what they want and make YOU feel like you’re not enough?!
woman, you are married, your husband obviously loves you. sorry you are CLEARLY not good enough for him.
you are cheating.
the least you could give him would be some honesty, and a divorce. you need mental help.
hurting your husband, for your own “pleasure”. disgusting.
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Is this fucking real? 
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You sound like you have text book personality disorder. Because you crave risky behavior. Does your husband know your cheating?? How do you respect to ever find him attractive when your always getting some on the side and compairing him to every whorn dog you flirt with? You allowing them to use you for sex then walk away!! You need to confess to your husband and go to therapy because there is a root cause from your childhood that has caused this behavior!!
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Vile woman, divorce your husband, he deserves better. He deserves to know the truth about you.
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Your mistake was saying “don’t judge me, be nice.” Is weird. This Is the internet. Anyways, what you’re doing is wrong and I hope your husband catches you in the act so he’ll dump the pos that is yourself. No excuse for cheating. Stupid people make stupid choices.
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Your soul is ugly. Your heart is disgusting. Let your husband go and seek help.
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You can change and save your marriage if you want to… Get professional help and don’t take advice from people on Facebook.
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I went through the same issue as a husband, now I’m serving life without plus ten yrs, so husband’s please please walk away, don’t worry about the house the cars,I know this sounds bad, don’t worry about the kids they will be ok…
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It’s lust that’s all it is. Lust is a high but it’s not love. We all crave it we just don’t act on it. You either love your husband or you don’t. Talk to a therapist.
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Welcome to marriage …attraction fades but you must have some kind of intimacy with your husband , maybe not the same kind of chase you once felt but like I said that’s marriage. It up to you and your partner to be able to communicate how you feel and work from there , whether it means opening other doors sexually or even introducing a third or 4th partner into the mix. clearly your relationship is lacking honestly, commutation, and loyalty. So either get divorced or start working on those things with your spouse because your just wasting your time and his . what your doing isn’t fair to anybody.
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Tell your husband so he can find a decent woman. You sound so selfish and self absorbed. He deserves better.
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Let that poor man go…he deserves better, as u r clearly a serial cheater. 
may as well stand on the corner…at least u will get paid for it!
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Here’s advice in the nicest way possible
Leave him and tell him you were cheating on him
Seek therapy
Leave him because you don’t find him sexually attractive
The guys are going to keep leaving because they only wanted one thing and you gave it to them
There is no fixing the relationship because you can’t be faithful to your husband who you married
Only person who suffers in this is your husband
Noone here is going to agree with you
I don’t think you a nice person or whatever you put on your post about yourself
I think you are a very very very very very very very very very very very awful and horrible and unfaithful and selfish person who deserves nothing.
I get attraction fades and everything over time but damn man you don’t go out and go do everything you see.
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Don’t judge me, please be nice… Your husband deserves so much better than you. Hope he dumps your A$$
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I’m confused. Did you just admit that you’re a cheater?? If so, get a divorce. Let that man be happy.
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So on a previous post you asked about the chances of you being pregnant because you slept with your ex and now your married. Your head is so far up your arse you walk around in the dark. Your husband deserves so much more and being attractive is more than outer beauty. You come across as very ugly 
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Look up the term “demisexual”
You don’t deserve your good husband. You seem very selfish and immature. Grow up and have love and consideration for your husband. It will really catch up with you, and when you are older and lose your looks, you won’t have had a close relationship and true love with your husband. It’s awful when you can’t respect the person you are. You also shame your husband.
You need counseling. You sound like you are thrill seeking in a way. You might have a personality disorder, maybe a narcissistic one, I don’t know. You crave male sexual attention. It’s a craving for you from different men, not just the same ones.
Please seek therapy, your behavior, respectfully, isn’t normal. It sounds like you have a void you are trying to fill.
Every overly flirtatious AND promiscuous girl/woman I have ever known has had one or both of these issues: 1. Lack of a good father figure. 2. Sexual molestation. Get help. You need to learn about yourself. There’s help out there. I can’t say you are a sex addict, but look into a female Sex Addicts Anonymous Group. Sex addiction is real. Most importantly, get a therapist/counseling so you stop being self destructive.
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Just let your husband read this 
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You sound so selfish! Your poor husband, you need to leave him so he can find someone who loves him.
You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife 
Your husband deserves better. I hope someone shows this ridiculous post to him. Hope he finds out everything and leaves you. Then he can find someone else and be happy. You’re going to ruin this mans life with your selfish behavior. I don’t know how you sleep at night.
If you aren’t sexually attracted to your husband why did you marry him? Did you plan on never having sex with him? Why break the pattern now, because you can’t find a steady side dude? The only reason guys are flirting and showing you attention is to get laid, guys don’t keep girls that open their legs for anyone. Sounds like you need to get a divorce and support yourself as a hooker
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Every single married person has been attracted to someone who wasn’t their spouse at some point. People who value their wedding vows exercise self control and don’t do anything that would put their marriage in jeopardy. I would seriously consider telling your husband and let him decide whether you divorce or go to marriage counseling. I would also consider therapy just for you to explore why you find “the chase” so exciting and why you feel its ok to lie to and hurt the person you love. I think your behavior is a symptom of a larger issue… Marriage is an active process you work at every day.
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Try adding some kinks to ur relationship. Maybe another partner they are usually more open to it being a female than a male but try it out. I spice stuff up with my hubby but im a dominant and he is my submissive though i do like to switch every now and them it keeps us on our toes… :3
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BE NICE? Are you kidding? Why don’t you be nice, and tell your husband the truth. You get discarded by these dudes because you aren’t attractive at all. Nothing is more disgusting than a woman that acts happily married and is unfaithful. Men see right through that. You want validation from other men because you weren’t ready to be married. You don’t view marriage as the commitment it is. You deserve to be bullied right out of your husband’s life so hopefully he can recover. But probably not. Betrayal has to be the worst feeling ever especially when its from someone who is loved and trusted.
You want a judgment free zone? How about this: close your legs long enough to stop emotionally abusing your spouse. Set him free by giving him closure…and THEN ask an intellectual question people can answer without vomiting out of disgust. 
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I think your husband needs a new wife. The bad thing is when he finds out and divorces you and finds someone else he won’t put as much effort into the relationship, because of what you have done. It’s sad, you could’ve been honest a long time ago but didn’t because he gave you everything you wanted.
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Please seek out a good therapist. You need to find out your own unhappiness.
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First off, you need to start off with being honest with your husband and yourself. If you’re not happy in your marriage there is no point in staying in something that you don’t want to be in anymore. All the luck to you!
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I haven’t been in a relationship for years because I know that no matter how much I love someone they will ALWAYS be looking for something better.
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Please go to counseling aloneio for yourself. Do not ever tell your husband or you will lose a wonderful man and ruin your marriage. Later on in life you will be very sorry if you continue on the way you are going. Good men are almost impossible to find. Someone else will find him very attractive!!! Seek some therapy!
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Be honest with yourself and your hubby… tell him what’s going on and if you would like to have a open relationship the ask him…most of all be honest…
Make a conscious effort with your husband. Talk to him. Have sexy nights together. Work on it together.
This is sad you made your choice when you married him you say he is a good man you need to thank God you have a good man now days they are hard to find shame on you the other men are just using you for sex.
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Are you serious? Leave your husband or be truthful about your extra fun???
Get a divorce! This isn’t fair to your husband! You are selfish and deserve to be ghosted by your side pieces.
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If ur seeking attention and don’t want physical shrugs get online account and just talk and flirt never meet up maybe your husband be into it too spice things up
Leave. Then find one who treats you the way you treat your husband. You don’t know what you have until it’s gone. Are you bragging how special you think you are.
How to change it? Grow up. Go to counseling or let him go have a good life with a not so selfish woman
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U need to b alone because he deserves better than u
Does your husband earn the money, and that’s why you can’t leave🤷♀️
You either cheat or you don’t cheat.Tell your best friend- husband what you just said he may be cheating too
You are being immature. Your man does not deserve it. If you have an itch, get out until you can have a mature relationship.
You need to be judged…… your husband doesn’t deserve you!! Does he know that you cheat? If yes and he still thinks the world of you then he’s an idiot
You’re a selfish coward who continuously hurts your other half for your own selfish satisfaction grow up leave your husband stop dragging him along
Listen to Sex with Emely in Spotify!
Be nice… you’re trash!
U need some therapy. Bad!
Umm leave him. Sorry not sorry you’re a horrible person. And karma will find you. Cheaters get what they deserve.
Sex should also be an emotional connection and if you’re not putting your effort into your marriage there won’t be a connection because your mind is elsewhere
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I feel so sorry for your poor husband
He deserves better
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Did you really just say you are “genuinely and lovely attractive MARRIED woman” and then “please be nice” after admitting to cheating on your husband? So, you needed to let us know that you’re attractive, but then you also need us to spare your feelings? What about your husband’s feelings? If your not in a polyamorous relationship then what you’re doing is absolutely disgusting, not very many people take kindly to infidelity. You sound narcissistic, you might want to seek some counseling. ASAP. Also, it sounds like you might not be leaving for materialistic reasons which is disgusting in itself. After describing what a good life and husband you have and explain how you don’t want for anything, I hope he gets rid of you and upgrades, seems like he MIGHT deserve it.
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You have taken the attractive out of it all your married and cheating on your husband plain and simple now turn the tables what would you do if the roles were reversed and he was the one doing everything your doing ?? You would be hurt and want a divorce and one day you will be free to do all this without the family you have built, you need counseling to straighten out your life and decide is he worth really loosing just for sex and special attention from strangers when you have a husband at home you don’t deserve !!!
If you are cheating you already made the decision you just haven’t admitted it to yourself. If you truly love and respect someone you dont cheat at all… in any way shape or form…
Dear “attractive married women”. I don’t understand why you got married to someone you are not attracted to if physical attraction was such an important matter to your happiness? Your husband deserves to know about how you feel. You owe him honesty. It is obvious that you are married to him for the wrong reasons. This will be a growing Chronic disease in your marriage. You need to let this good man go. You have played him enough already. You will never find happiness in this marriage if you continue dreaming about other men. You deserve to marry someone who satisfies the desire of your heart. Unless you are decent enough to live a life of sacrifices. If you can sacrifices your sexual desires for a true love, then you have a loving husband to be thankful for. Hold on to him tight, praise the Lord and never let him go and never hurt him again.
Find a way to communicate exactly this to your husband without bringing up the cheating part. (You two might have different love languages hence you not having reception of love from him) You are willing to get out of this pattern and with the help of a competent therapist you can. You say you have everything but you definitely dont have what you are seeking outside of marriage so dont think you have everything. What is lacking is lacking. Talk to a good therapist. In their guidance you will understand why you developed this pattern and then be able to break it too. Dont ruin your relationship with husband yet and start working on yourself soon.
You need to go to see a therapist. You may have boardline personality disorder.
Agree with some others, it sounds like you may do better in a polyamorous relationship. Given that you’re already married, if you haven’t talked to your husband about it you should. OR just start choosing your husband. He’s choosing you every day and giving you a good life, you should respect him enough in return to stay faithful. If you feel you can’t do that, you are being selfish by trying to ‘have it all’ at his expense. Make better decisions and you won’t feel shitty.
Cheating almost the worst sin u can do to someone. U r living a lie. Three things I dislike very much is Cheating, lies stealing. N ur doing 2 of them. Omgosh u must think so highly of ur self to even put this on here. I’d like to say more but my mom always said if u don’t have nothing nice to say don’t say anything.
Me and my man haven’t had the greatest intimacy in a long while. Having a kid, working full time and maintaining a household will do that to a couple I guess. But I’ve honestly never thought of going out of the relationship for sex. Yeah, I’d love to feel that sexual tension, flirting and all that again but I’m more committed to my family to do something that will feel satisfying for what, a couple minutes before the regret starts to set in. If your doing these things, maybe hes not the right man for you, if he was I dont think you’d feel the need to do what your doing cuz if you love your man I really dont think you’d do that to him, in all honesty it sounds like you like the thought of having him as a husband because of who he is as a person not because you love him.
You should feel horrible!!! It’s a horrid thing to do. Why cheat, why not just get divorced and continue on with your sexual tension and flirting when it’s not gonna break someone else’s heart. Play with your own emotions and not someone else’s
Why did you even get married? Your husband deserves better.
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. In the post it says you feel bad after doing it, so don’t do it anymore and focus on your husband. Talk it out get counseling or leave.
You took vows with this man and then you want something more from someone else? That is not okay. Leave your marriage if you want other men. You are being dishonest and I can’t be okay with that. Marriage is hard but having a life companion is so worth it. Ask any widow that you know.
Your husband deserves to know the truth. Then you can go from there.
You may discover your own opinion of yourself to s not you’re husband’s that will be a wake up call
Did you ever think that your husband and you could go to a sex therapist , instead of you fooling around on the side?
You need some counseling on this mess. You deserve to be fulfilled, yeah, but your husband deserves a wife that’s committed to him and wants him and has sex with only him, if that’s what y’all agreed on at the wedding. You’re doing the wrong thing over and over. Seek help. This is so messed up. Stop wasting both yalls time because you have issues.
Get a divorce. What you’ve been doing is disgusting and unfair to your HUSBAND. Why?cuz you want attention. That’s petty and childish and selfish. Let the poor guy out so he can be happy too.
Go get counselling….and grow the hell up!!
Divorce your hubs and live the life you want
You’re not being fair to either of you
Get a divorce. Because what you do to him isn’t love. That’s disrespectful and so wrong.
Don’t judge you? Be nice? Are you serious? Your husband deserves better than you. You actually called yourself a lovely person and really your just scum. My advice… tell your husband what a POS you are, all that you’ve been doing and let that man divorce you so he can go find someone worthy of him.
I’m not even going to bother to read the comments. You 100% know you have to leave him. The only other option is eithical non-monogamy. However it sounds like you don’t love him and that’s not fair to either of you
Your husband Definitely deserves better 
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That poor husband … 
Your an actual piece of shit… lmao
Stop being a ho and put that engry into your husband if you dont feel that way about him quit using him and wasting his time and move the ¿uck on… you just addmitted you cheat on him but call yourself genuine lol and yes they ghost you because thats all they wanted…and clearly you gave it because lets face it your an easy wH0r£ And you should feel bad about it . Your out being nasty and your husband loves you and cares about etc
Talk to ur husband before u cheat 
IMO
I think you’ve done burnt the relationship u have