Stay calm till after baby #3 is born wait a few weeks, then bam; start by walking ( take baby in stroller with ya) at least 5 miles a day, then change your diet, which will help you, but all means get yourself to a swimming pool, swim laps or just swim, after a few weeks your body will adjust to the movements, this will prepare you for getting a great exercise program: get a trainer( leave hubby with kids while you go to the gym) if he doesn’t want to stay with them hire a sitter. Think of yourself for at least 2 hours a day, he needs to know that you are serious about change, as they say if you don’t like the view close your eyes, however this is about you and your feelings so go for it, you deserve it😉
My husband and I have a rule. He watches porn all he wants but it is not allowed to be downloaded onto his phone. Masturbation is completely normal but in my brain it’s more personal if downloaded 
he’s always respected that rule we have so I don’t worry about it
Im a jerk… I wld do it back and say nothing adding a photo or 2 every week of men… in reality if he loves you he wouldn’t willingly do something that hurt you… I wld try marriage counseling. But go 3 or 5 times just you then ask him to go. More than likely he thinks hes doing it to help you he will go without complaint when in reality it will help you both work on your relationship together and maybe a 3rd non involved party will help him see that what hes doing is harmful.
Do not rely on others for your sense of value and confidence people are fallible and will always let you down
You could talk to your husband, and he may or may not make changes…but honestly, self esteem comes mostly from within. You’re probably always going to have problems with how you feel about yourself until you get professional help and get to the root of your issues. You need to develop the tools to recover yourself emotionally without depending on the actions of someone else, or else your time on earth will be miserable. Humans will fail you from time to time. It’s life. You have to be able to live with yourself, period.
I don’t think it’s wrong unless it’s a boundary in your relationship. But, I think you need to let him actually know how you feel about it. I personally enjoy looking at porn or pics every so often I have an appreciation for the human form and don’t believe it should be shamed or compared to others. Everyone is unique and their body is beautiful in its own right to the right person. No one person finds everyone attractive so to bother thinking about that only drags you down. Thinking they have a type and you’re not it is probably misplaced. Most likely he’s looking at girls that don’t look like you because he wants change or likes variety. It’s something different. I would say spice things up with your sex life in however you feel comfortable with. Change your everyday life up when you can. He’s probably just bored of the same thing everyday and has other issues maybe like at work or something.
Don’t judge yourself by your looks. Be the spiritual person you know you are who happens to exist within an essentially animal body during this relatively short life-span in order to become qualified to enjoy the afterlife. The most important thing is how you see yourself—not what others may think of you. When we change our focus we also change our feelings. People tend to become the way they’re treated. Common-sense dictates that how we see our life is how we become. Strive to be an imperturbable self-starter. Our potential is eternal and timeless. It’s an obvious choice to have a good attitude so our life may be changed positively rather than negatively. Make of yourself both more of what you’ve been and who you are to be. Refuse to bog yourself down by placing blame of another, even if it’s well founded. Playing the blame game is worse than wasting your time. Never complain about what you are permitting. No one can correct what they are unwilling to confront. Depression will always follow any decision to procrastinate from accomplishing a priority. Habit force creates the self-discipline to accomplish the miraculous. With God’s guidance; when you decide exactly what you need and want to do, the ‘How-To-Do-It’ will miraculously emerge. What you vividly imagine, ardently desire, sincerely believe and enthusiastically act upon must inevitably come to pass. Whenever you think you can—or think you can’t—you tend to be right!
Girl I totally feel ya! Kinda in the same situation 
If I were you, I would set boundaries with my man, 3-5 kids to no kids, I have boundaries & that’s one of em… nudies are never okay, no matter personal or getting them from online…
Secondly, with having body diamorphia can make it hard to see your real beauty, but it’s there… some therapy will definitely help… I don’t have body diamorphia but I have mental illnesses & therapy helped me a lot. I don’t see one anymore but I know they are great if you find the right one that cares.
No lie, I stare at myself naked in the mirror the things I don’t like, I tell myself “I love you” then compliment the areas I like… I’m a big woman I’m 5’8, 198lbs, smallish boobs that feel like they hanging on for dear life, a flat/wide ass & trust me there are cruel people out there… but confidence isn’t the way you look but how you feel 
I feel beautiful therefore I am beautiful. I have a kind soul(I’m still a bitch, but only when triggered lol) but I’m still beautiful & deserve respect/dignity/love from not only others but from myself… as does everyone 
If you can’t love yourself, don’t expect him to.
spouse sounds like a jerk
Sounds like he has a porn problem!
It’s one thing to look and a whole other thing to save them… but ultimately your confidence is completely your responsibility. You have to do the work to love yourself regardless of what the people around you are doing.
One huge thing for me, was going through my social media. I removed any accounts that supported fad dieting, body shaming, promoted fitness and diet products, etc. It is now full of body positive accounts, self-love accounts, and things that truly make me happy. World of difference, could not recommend it more
- If you are not over weight than why do you have low self esteem. Lol be thankful. 2. Why are you with someone that saves other females pictures?
leave?
I can see maybe looking… But saving the pictures, uploading them to Instagram and Facebook? That’s really odd…
Shame on big man ignore his little boys ways. I am far from pretty. I want to love myself. I’m trying really hard. Enjoy your baby. Be a great Mom.
Tell him to stop disrespecting you