If you pay his debt you’re a fool.
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Get over him…once a cheater always a cheater!
I’d laugh SO hard in his face if any human ever had the audacity to use, harm, and then leave me then suggest I pay for their damages. Wouldn’t need to be paying any debts if he wasn’t a ho.
Fack that!!
Take him for everything that he has. Make him squirm.
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Awful. Don’t pay his debt!
Nope nope that’s your money. Take it to start your new life
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Roar with laughter and say " wow"! Thank GOD you divorced me before i got this settlement. You idiot miracles do work in amazing ways. 
bless ya heart! See ya.
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Nope let him pay his own debt off. He is not your friend or husband anymore. Leave him alone: that’s what is best for you
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Absolutely not!!! I cant believe he has the audacity to think you should do this. He wanted the divorce, too bad buddy.
Hahahahahaha…oh he was serious? Asking YOU to pay HIS debt??? What an idiot!
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Don’t you DARE let that happen. Get an attorney and take him for all he’s worth. Let his new wife deal with him.
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NO WAY , absolutely not
Gets some therapy to release the anger (you have a right to be) so you can move forward. CUT HIM OFF, PERIOD!!! You deserve so much more don’t let him continue to rent space in your head. You owe this narcissist NOTHING!!! Kids are grown so no ties there. Take time to rediscover YOU. LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE.
Tell him make his new woman pay the debt… she caused him and her caused the divorce…he filed for the divorce…you never asked to be betrayed…so u owe him nothing
He built the debt, let him pay it. Keep your settlement and build a life without him. Pay off your debts and let him worry about his.
Um how about NO! You take that money and take yourself a vacation to help with your healing. Find yourself again and get some relaxation
Do not pay his debt stop talking to him he’s not your friend
“The right thing to do”??? So he can fack around, but you have to do the right thing? What a stupid @asshole
^send him a gift. It’s a lovely way to tell him what how you feel about that thought process of his.
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No ma’am… He made his bed. He can take responsibility for his own debt. You owe it to yourself to be sure you and the kids are in a good place.
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Um, that would be a hard NO. Be gentle with yourself, a deception of this magnitude is gonna take a minute and slot of work to get past. Whoa. Sending you a cyber hug.
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I’d play him the song by Muck Sticky - F**k off.
Actually I’d use some money and go on vacation send him a pic of you by the ocean and that song.
It’d make me feel better if I was in your situation.
Please don’t pay his debt off.
Don’t give him shit!!!
He wouldn’t get one brown penny from me. I’d pay off my own debts and take an extended vacation to rid myself of him from my mind & heart.
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He is the BIGGEST and UGLYEST person i have ever heard of. Now thats a lie cause there is a few of these clowns around! Im sorry mrs but if this is the respect he gives you after a commitment to marriage and supposed once dearly loved you! Then he sure as hell should still have enough manners to carry that respect through a divource too. Shame on him! Take a walk fool! And burie your head in the sand! Kia kaha Mrs! You deserve some one who wants to give u nothing but Aroha!
I’d be telling him that not only does he not get any of your settlement, he should be counting his blessings that you aren’t suing him and his girlfriend for alienation of affection.
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Make him assume and believe that you gonna pay his debt
Then at the very last minute,most definitely do not pay the phucking debt!
The nerve of that guy!!
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First of all, I don’t think it’s appropriate for him to ever use the term, “ it’s the right thing to do”.
Second….His words obviously don’t mean anything. Life happens at the level of events. Judge a person by their actions. His actions are all dishonest and unethical.
Last but not least, he should be held accountable for his actions. His debt is a result of his actions. Neither are your problem.
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Don’t pay him a dime for a divorce you HAD to get because of his lying and cheating. That’s a debt he’s earned. I hope you can put this behind you, when you thought everything was good it wasn’t. So be grateful now you know and you can move on instead of living some lie.
- You do not owe him anything when it comes to paying for the divorce he caused, and obviously wanted.
- You will be angry. You’re grieving a love and a life you thought you had. Give yourself TIME! Lots and lots of time and patience. I cannot stress the time portion enough! Do not seek new relationships, but take the time to move forward as a person that is stronger and better for the experience. You may never be ready, but trust me, when you can think about it and simply roll your eyes… you’re almost there
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hell no!!! and I hope u got everything but the debt in that divorce!!!
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That would be a HELL NO. Don’t do it. Make sure you and your kids are set. He’s not your problem any more.
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Fuck that and fuck him too honestly that’s his debt he can pay it I wouldn’t even second guess it he will find a way he found a way to screw around I’m sure he can find a way to pay
Do NOT pay his Debt!!! He needs to pay that his own POS lying cheating ownself. You make new life with your settlement t and tell him to f*** off.
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Seems like your thinking about paying off the debt and you will be a dam fool if you did that and you will later regret it! He cheated on you broke your heart lie to you after all these years and now he wants you to pay off his debt that he made… Man listen send that mother ****ck to hell! and never look back!!! Work on you , find yourself, heal your self and love your self, go find love and be happy living your best life!!
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He’s crazy…pay off nothing for him.
Sweetie I’ve been through something simular except we didn’t have a pot to piss in ! And I worked my whole life. We were together 13 years married for 10 . He cheated left me destroyed I had to fix what he broke in me. It about took me out. We have 1 child together. Things got very ugly and nasty I ended up paying for the divorce and got left with all our debt ! Still getting said till this day 7 years later it took me several years to get past all hurt and lies and whatever else he threw my way!! I could have been dirty but I chose not to for the simple fact I still loved him even tho he ripped our family apart and thought it was best for our son . Bc I was the only one being civil at that point ! Stupid of me I know … but you live and learn and I learned the hard way lol !!!
I ended up getting therapy which did help. But I cut all ties with him only talked to him about our child that’s it.
Your kids are all grown now no reason to have any communication with him.
6 years ago my ex husband made admens with me I have forgave so I could move on and close that chapter of my life.
I still don’t date but I have out him in the past him and my son have some contact with each other but as for me I e moved on past that so can you.
It does take time lots lots of time ! Things will get better for your sweetie.
Sending love and hugs your way !!!
HELL TO THE NO…I WOULDN’T EVEN BE TALKING TO HIM. 
Please don’t let him guilt trip you or even consider loaning any money either. This will come up sooner or later. You do you…happy healing…I’m sure it’s hard to feel so cold but keep reminding yourself he caused this. Hugs:smiling_face_with_three_hearts:
Umm yea no that’s his problem he cheated on you & left you . You didn’t ask for the divorce nor did you sleep with another man that’s his problem let him worry about it himself
Any money earned or received after a divorce cannot be claimed by the ex-spouce in most states. Take your money!
just bc he says it doesn’t mean you have to do it
Nopity nope, not his settlement , & not his wife😄 keep it for your future vacations with your kids.
Do not pay off a dime of his debt. Get counseling and do you.
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That is some audacity right there
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Pfft I would tell him he has no room to tell u what the right thing to do is when he’s been sleeping with his dead best friends wife.
Go live your best life with your settlement. You don’t owe him anything. He chose to leave.
Each person’s debt is their own f* him …sorry about his luck that is what my attorney told me when I had my divorce and got an accident settlement after 
So he cheated with two women ?
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Wow thats pretty ballsy of him! Leave him in debt, move on and do you 
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Girl if you don’t give him your ass to kiss 
Do not give him a dime. You don’t owe him anything.
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F him! That’s your money
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I know how you feel about the whole other life you didn’t know about deal… punch in the gut, completely shocked!!
But, do not pay any kind of debt for him! He chose what he did let him pay for it.
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Don’t you dare pay off his debt. He lied and cheated on you for years, he’s not worth a penny, let alone his full debt.
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The right thing to do was him not sleeping with her. Don’t let him tell you what’s right and DO NOT give him anything.
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Hell no don’t do that at all take your money and run
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Do not pay his debt off. That’s his debt not yours. You take care of you and yours let him deal with his
She probably got a lot money off her husband do not a thing let them its there credit not your
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Tell him that the divorce means you are no longer responsible for his debt to get bent
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Oh hell to the no. Bitch BYE pay your own debts. What a bum
Sue her for alienation of affection and sue him for adultry and tell him to F off and pay his own debt !!! Don’t give him a damned dime ….
Write a letter to him and put all your anger and pain into it !!! Don’t mail it or give it to him. Its just a Lil therapy for you to release your anger ….
I wrote a 17 page letter to my ex and now I have peace …. It hurts like hell when you are the innocent party , but it does get better ….
I was married 24 years to a lying cheating narcissistic person and now he misses me
His loss
The right thing to do was for him to remain faithful to his wife. Since he couldn’t do that… well, whats yours is no longer his. Sorry not sorry 
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Hell nahhh he can pay the damn debt! He fkd up not you!
Oh no definitely not! It’s his debt, that’s YOUR settlement, and y’all are no longer married…so therefore, NOT YOUR PROBLEM.
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Don’t you dare pay it off!!
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Don’t do nothing for his ass take the money and leave with it with your kids
Hopefully dead friends wife got a decent insurance policy, let her get him out of debt. She helped putting him there by tearing down another wife’s home!! It wasn’t like she didn’t know he was married either.
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Bugger him. Don’t pay off his debt. Rather take him to the cleaners!
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Sounds like my ex when I left because he was cheating… said I needed to pay him at least $600 a month plus keep his phone on. My answer? I asked him if he was high… said there is No WAY IN HE** I would pay him! Do NOT pay off anything of his. If you can move… do that… you don’t owe him anything. Get counseling to help you thru it. We got your back. I call my ex “the idiot”. Because I did support him for a long time… I didn’t get it till I left n started therapy how much I had given up. Therapy helped me see that I didn’t need him. Change your number n tell him he can get a message to you thru your attorney. Time to start living for you and what’s best for you! I’m 63 and single and I love my life.
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Same story here but my STBX husband is a narcissistic psychopath.
Divorce filing papers were on 08/2019!
No Divorce yet!
He is keeping his threat by stating that there will be zero money after the Divorce is over!
My Electric Bill is due and about to be shut off.
Zero vehicle to drive even though we have 5 throughout the marriage.
Attorney’s appointment tomorrow.
I believe that the Attorney is in with it by charging so much!
I didn’t do anything.
I did not commit adultery.
HE DID with his ex-girlfriend!!
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Do you not pay his debts, he needs to take care of it himself.
Heck no, tell the new woman to pay for it since she helped break up yall relationship
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I wouldn’t give him 5 cents. Goodbye.
Go be happy.
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Let him pay his own bill. He made them.
Don’t give that ridiculous suggestion a second thought. What a Damn nerve
Fuck that nigga, tell his new wife too🥴
He needs to pay off his own debt or ask his mistress to pay it for him! That dirty rotten louse made his bed and now he can lay in it!
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There would be a cold day in hell before I’d pay one penny of his debt. He dug his own hole he needs to find a way out.
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Don’t give him a cent! Use your settlement to build your own life! A life you can be proud of! Don’t allow him to manipulate you into feeling bad for him! If he wanted to end the relationship with you he had every chance to do it respectfully and he chose not to do that. So fuck that guy
I hope you have a good attorney, men suck!
NAhhh, he can suck a big one and enjoy any life insurance his best friend’s wife is living off of!
Sending positive vibes your way❤️
He’s got a rude awakening coming for him next year. His debit is not your responsibility and he has to sell up or pay you out of any shared assets. Under no circumstances pay any of his debit, because it maybe construed as ownership.
Don’t pay for it !!! He chose the divorce he can pay for it too
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Nope!!! Screw him!! His dept is not your problem and theres nothing he can do about it!! He’s screwed you over enouth.
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He probably has money stashed somewhere and wants you to feel bad! Take the money and enjoy your life! He should have thought about all that when he was sleeping with that whore!
It’s not your responsibility anymore. Especially if it wasn’t in the divorce decree he would get a portion
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The settlement is yours don’t pay his debts
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Absolutely not…You owe him nothing…
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What!!! Don’t even think for a second to pay for his debt!!! You don’t owe him shit and he doesn’t deserve a penny from you!!! Whew !
No the right thing would have been for him to be faithful! Don’t do it!!!
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One of his whores can take on the debt
Ok he can pay his own debt or ask his new girlfriend to do it for him. You are better off
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Tell his new girlfriend to start paying his debt. Not your problem anymore.
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Take yourself on a nice vacation and forget his ass!
Y’all aren’t married anymore, those are HIS debts. Take yourself on a nice vacation, sis. 
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Hell no. Tell his new girl to pay his debt.
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He made his bed… he can lay in it!
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Tell him to f—k off. Why should you pay off his debts with your money!!!
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Delete, block and go on a vacation with your best friend. You dont owe him anything. Tell him to ask his new woman to support him.
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Did you have one of the best laughs of your life when he suggested that you pay his debt?
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Nope. That is your money and he’s the one who ran up the debt. Stay saying.
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