In April, he told me that he was in love with another woman, not the “friend”. The other woman was his best friends wife that had died in June 2020. Then found out the “friend” was a full-blown 3 year affair.
This all came out of nowhere, he was the most attentive, supportive, loving husband with a whole other life outside of our home and family.
We had it all, the home, the kids, cars and trucks, a camper and boat, vacations, I thought life was pretty good, felt beyond blessed.
He filed for divorce in June 2021, divorce was final in September. I am still having a hard time wrapping my head around all of this. I am beyond angry with him!!
I am due to get a settlement in February and he has told me the right thing to do is pay off his debt that he took with the divorce.
He’s in a relationship with the dead best friends wife and I can’t understand his thought process.
He cheated, broke up our family, and wants me to pay his debt…
He’ll no screw him he can pay for it.
Hell no. Don’t pay his debt
Tell him to take that debt into his “new” relationship. Take all the time you need to heal and move on with your life.
Laugh in his face and enjoy your dollars.
Don’t pay him nothing. Take that money and take a vacay for yourself
This is what scares me 
Hell no don’t pay his debt…take that money and start a new life…
Hell no! His debt is no longer your problem!
Umm no that settlement is for u and yr kids…him and his sidechick can figure out their own karma/struggles/debt etc
Don’t do it. Period.
Just don’t, and move on.
Hell no. He can pay his own debt
Don’t pay shit for him ! He needs to pay off his own debt with his new relationship. I don’t know what’s worse . Leaving his family or hooking up with his deceased friends woman 
Ma’am. Don’t you dare. He made his bed, you let him lay in it. Shame on him!
Absolutely not. It is not your obligation as you’re not married anymore. Tell him to go to hell and go on a vacation with your kids.
Absofuckinlutely NOT!
“His debt that he took in the divorce.” That’s all you need to remember when it comes to your settlement you’re receiving AFTER the divorce was finalized. Don’t let him or anyone bully you into paying off his debt. Affair or no affair. He took the debt and the divorce is final before settlement is received, so as long as there’s nothing in the divorce papers take a vacation with that money and relax. You deserve it.
No he caused it so he can pay his own debt
The divorce was his fault. Pardon my French but “fuck that puto”
The death friend wife can help him pay the debt. Keep whats yours and let him enjoy his bad doings.
Tell him to have his side piece pay it and you take a vacation!
He should be paying you for abandoning you and breaking up the family 
F him!!
Sooooo sorry 
Nope, you are no longer married that’s his debt.
Was the debt incurred to your benefit? (Meaning, do you have any of the proceeds of said debt?) I understand the anger behind all of this situation, but I also will NEVER have someone say “well, you wouldn’t have that without me.” So personally, I would pay half of any dent that I directly benefited from. So that I can have a clear mind about it. But that is just me.
He got himself into that debt!
Absolutely Not Let Them Pay The Debt
Hell to the no! The right thing to would have been to end the marriage before he cheated! Fuck that guy!!! I’m so fricken angry for you! Do not give him a cent!
Also, I wish you all the love and happiness, you deserve it!!
I laugh reacted because of the audacity of that bitch. Like after what he did he straight up has the audacity to try and claim money YOU are getting in a settlement after the divorce is final anyways. I would have straight up laughed in his face at that and kept laughing as i turned and walked away from him
Ummmm don’t. Fuel your anger towards him and DONT
Fuck no. You’re divorced. If it wasn’t in the paperwork he can fuck off.
Screw that!! He could be homeless and I wouldn’t help him!
He cheated… lied he needs to pay for everything. How awful I’m sorry 
Take him for all you can.
Absolutely not please don’t let him guilt you into that nonsense. He caused this.
Don’t you dare pay off his debt. Yes you are a right to be upset he hurt you .
F no. Unless it was all your debt he took.
Be smart, don’t do it. What a power manipulater, your children are all adults now so close that door and let the new chapter begin.
Oh baby no. That’s his debt he made his bed let him lay in it (w her!!! Because he is her problem now) you should go get your toes done and get a facial 
treat yourself .
Don’t let him guilt you into it. Don’t give him one penny.
Tell him the right thing to do was to not cheat on his wife with another man’s wife 
Not your responsibility his debt.
F him. You have every right to be angry. Grieve the loss of your marriage as you deserve to and see fit.
No the right thing to do is tend to your kids and yourself with that money! He decided to leave and after what he did to you… he deserves nothing!
I’d tell him to take that debt and shove it where the sun don’t shine. No way in hell would I pay his debt for a divorce he caused.
Absolutely do not pay off his debt. He is using you.
Get you a spa week and say goodbye to the both of them
The absolute audacity. The right thing to do? He did all the wrong things, and caused your entire life to disintegrate, and now he wants you to do the right thing? 
No ma’am. Absofuckinlutely NOT! He made his debt, he can pay his debt. At this point I wouldn’t even GAF if it was my debt, too. It just wouldn’t get paid. Use your settlement for you and your needs. The fact that he had a whole other life screams that he should have had more jobs to support those lies!
Don’t pay a dime of his debt !! He did this not you ,let him lay in the bed he made and use whatever you get for yourself especially now that your children are grown !!
Nope his deal lay where u made ur bed!
Ummm, no!!! And second…therapy helps tremendously if you can find someone that does emdr. I wish you the best! Only better things to come!
When she got him…
She got the bad and ugly let her pay it off.
You sit and eat at your table
Ain’t no damn way I would pay anything for his sorry self his dead best friend’s wife can pay that. I would sue both of them. He wouldn’t have gotten off as easy as he did apparently
He made his choice. Your kids are grown. Don’t give him any more of your energy or anything else. He’s in the wrong so let him take care of his own stuff.
Tell him to suck it and enjoy your settlement!
The easiest way to go about this is to tell him to fuck off……the new chick is helping to pay for his future, might as well help pay for his past….
Do NOT give him a dime
He should have thought things out before he cheated… live the good life with your settlement.
He can dig himself out of every whole he put himself in. As for you and moving past this hurt it will take time therapy and finding yourself again will help tremendously.
Wow. So how much alimony is he paying you? He better be paying you for everything he just ripped away. Fck him and his debt! Let the new girl pay his sht.
Fuck him and feed him fish. Say bye Felicia
Tell him to eff off, and that no way in *ell you’ll pay, how about letting the new girl pay his debt? Since she was worth leaving everything for, she should pay for it and show him how much she truly cares for him
That’s his debt not yours. If the divorce judge thought you should pay it he would have ordered you to pay it, but he didn’t so it’s not your problem.
Maybe you should tell him you will and then psych, how’s that burn feel! So rude.
Tell him to get fucked lmfao
Him and his debts aren’t your responsibility.
Oh hell no!!! He can take care of that all on his own! Much love and positive vibes!!
Tell him to ask his new woman to pay HIS debts him and his problems are none of your business anymore fuck him.
Don’t pay anything for him. Don’t even
purchase a dictionary for him so he can see his own picture beside the words AH, dick, cheater, liar, or cad. Let him work his own way out of the gutter he’s put himself in.
Don’t pay his debt especially not since he caused the debt and divorce to begin with. Also I’d cut off contact the kids are old enough for you to still have a relationship without him. Get in therapy if you need to, it does help and rebuild your life. Your worthy, beautiful, and you didn’t deserve what you got but your a queen who will rise above
Do not pay his debt!!! He is selfish self center only cares about himself I don’t understand how you can’t see that.
Nope. Nope. That’s not how it works mister.
Let him pay his own debt. He was the one who ruined the marriage so now he knows your getting a settlement so he can use you to pay his debt? Nope! Tell him to get another job, sell his truck, and kick rocks!!! Not your problem go do something for you. Spoil yourself you deserve it after what he did to his family
DO NOT!!! That settlement is yours, he has no claim to it, not when your married and certainly not when your divorced. You don’t owe him sh*t!!!
Tell the other lady to pay it since they together or how bout he pay it himself
I can’t believe he would expect anything thing from you
Oh, absolutely not. That’s your money. Don’t let him manipulate you into giving him that money honey. He cheated on you, multiple times girlfriend. Left you blind sided, girlfriend. That’s yours. Don’t you dare pay that shi*, lol.
He can have his debt and his mistress. You get the house, a therapist and a boyfriend to go on trips with. It will take some time to process but don’t let this ruin your life. You have much brighter days ahead.
Let the other woman pay it for him
Tell him to kiss your a@#. I dont know how to put it nicer than that.
Hell no he can pay off his own debt.
The right thing would’ve been for him to not be a cheating POS and yet here we are. So send him 2 pennies and say “heres your 2 cents back, since you’ve apparently lost the rest of your brain, have a nice life”
Tell him to shove that debt up his cheatin ass!!
Don’t do it. Build your life back up.
Was it ordered by a judge that you have to pay for his debt if not then break all contact with him. The kids are old enough to communicate with him if they chose to do unless there’s a emergency involving one of the children you don’t have to speak to him at all. You need to get into therapy to help you thru this. Do not blame yourself either that’s what these type of men want they want you to blame yourself in the end. You’ll never understand his thoughts process either: that money u get in February is yours n yours only since your divorce was finalized in September so he doesn’t have any right to the money
I really hope you’re not even considering it. Screw him 
Hell no! Don’t you dare take care of his debt. That’s his not yours. Do not let him use you like that! Period! His new sweetie can pay his debt if she wants to but not you. Who the hell does he think he is anyway!
I’m guessing you’ll realize in time that he wasn’t really all that great… Tell him to keep it movin! 
Why should you pay his debt off? I would take YOUR settlement and LIVE LIFE!!!
Makes me laugh, does he really think you would consider this?? Good riddance.
Why would you do that!? They settle all that stuff in the division of assets/debt in a divorce.
Oh HELL NO he had the affair and now divorce let him live off love and let the new lady help pay his debt let her have his baggage
That would nit happen if I were you. He better get a seconda job to pay off his debt
He doesn’t deserve nor should he ask for anything from you! Stand your ground
Hello no! You helped build all that you deserve it! His new piece can help with debt. Do not give him a penny! No amount could repair what he, they destroyed.
Oh, and stop talking to him! He’s not your husband anymore, he is not your friend, leave him behind and move on, you deserve more.
He can pay the debt on his own.
Let his bitch pay it! F him
Hell no! Tell him have her help you are divorced.