How do I go about talking to my husband about how I feel?
I just adopted our 3 kids because the biological mother didn’t want to be stuck with child support or do anything financially for the kids so she gave up her rights. But she still calls and ask if she can see them every once in awhile like she will go months and months without asking then out of the blue want to see them. My problem is she is not a constant in there life and don’t want to support them and gave up her rights without hesitation. And deep down I don’t want her around because of that reason. How do I express that to my husband?
It sounds easy but it’s always difficult. You need to have a conversation with him. The next time she calls bring it up to him. Make sure the kids are at school or asleep & tell him what you said on here. How old are the kids? If your husband is okay with it and they’re old enough, sit down with them and ask them how they feel about it. If they like it, if it makes them hurt and sad, etc. it’s totally understandable how you feel, and it really can effect the kids.