Can I ask why you are trying to wean? I just see a lot of social pressure to stop breastfeeding before the child is ready to, because western culture tends to frown upon breastfeeding past one. If you donāt want to stop and it works for you both to continue then itās ok to keep going. If you are mentally done thatās a different story of course, but I donāt have advice as Iām still breastfeeding my 3.5 year old.
Just stop it will take a bit but he. Will get used to it and id say no to bottle he is to old to start that
Iām going through the same right now and I think persistence is key
I would say you know your child the best, so do what you feel comfortable with. If you feel its time for your baby to ween, itās okay to try a couple different techniques. If he is using a sippy cup for water that he absolutely adores, try some breast milk in that and hold him and reassure him that youāre right there to feed him, but the sippy is what has his milk. Just keep offering his sippy and be strong in telling him no. Maybe even just try once a day for the first week, and make it a routine. For lunch he has a sippy or for his nap time he has a sippy. And make sure to encourage your baby, and tell them how big theyāre getting and how proud you are they are using their ābig kid cupā
My son was the same way. He didnāt want to stop and would go crazy if I said no. So I made sure before going to bed that he had his milk and was full. The harder part was his attachment to me. I would would wear tight fitting long shirts so he couldnāt pull down(or up) my shirt. He would start crying but I softly repeated no over and over again and would try to rock him to sleep instead. Sometimes rocking him worked but other times it didnāt in which I would just let him cry it out. It will take a while for them to break out of the habit and maybe some sleepless nights but they will learn eventually. Now my son tries to occasionally pull down my shirt and then stops and stares at me. If I say no, he will smirk and pull it back upš if I ignore him, he will try to nuzzle me and watch me at the same time. He knows now but still thinks itās funnyš
Both of my boys weened at around a year old by themselvesā¦ I wanted to breastfeed longer!! Why worry about it, unless you are not feeling itā¦definitely donāt let society help you make that decision!!
Give him milk in a cup or sippy. You need to replace the breast milk
Right before bed time give him milk so he has a full belly, from his cup.
Then when putting him to bed sing songs or read books, rock whatever you normally do for routine and you comfort him and let him soothe with snuggles and rubbing his back etc. he doesnāt need breastfeeding if he is full and you can comfort him other ways.
My oldest was formula fed and Iām ebf my 4 month old. BUT Iām wondering if you just let him have his meltdown and didnāt respond to it maybe heād cut it out after 2-3 nights? Thatās how I got my oldest off the pacifier. Just an idea Iām not sure if itās a good one lol
People have used bandaids! Me personally I stopped pumping at work in order to make less milk. I also worked til 11 at night so I wasnāt home to put him to bed. We did use bottles during the weaning period especially at night and he used sippy during the day. Once I found a sippy he really liked I started using those at bed time and packed up all the bottles. He liked the soft nuk sippy for night time
Also Iāve noticed breastfed babies donāt like cows milk so I use almond plus my son has a dairy intolerance to the cow proteins in any milk that isnāt dairy free.
Iām going through the same right now, my daughter is 2 and a half and she would breastfeed at home countless times during the day and through the night but never look for it when weāre out or when Iām in work 12hr shifts sheās fine. Iv started her two days in playschool and have just cut her off durning the day and let her have it at night time. She still looks for it but the tantrums arnt as bad as they where. Sheās off it day time 2 weeks now 
I felt like giving in a few times just for peace 
but Iv stuck to my guns and sheās doing quite well and it doesnāt feel like sheās hanging out of me all the time when she comes looking I just say the same thing everytime I say āno thatās for bedtimeā so sheās getting to know the routine now 
Put bandaids over your nipples and tell him you have an owie.
I had to switch mine to a bottle first .
I read these kind of stories and Iām grateful I had a hard time producing. Breast feeding and everything that comes with it sounds miserableā¦
You might have to try a bottle first or a soft nipple sippy cup. Or u could Try the sippy cups thatāre like our āadult cupsā (
), mine were both formula fed so I have no advice about weaning but if he likes normal cups maybe try them. I donāt know what theyāre called but my son has a ton of them and itās the only sippy cups he will drink from for me. I got a couple cheap parents choice ones for like $2 on clearance at Walmart a while back.
I weaned my daughter just after she turned 1 and I just distracted her as best as I could and it got easier after a few days. If she cried and I knew she wanted breast I would offer a little snack or started playing with a toy, just something to take the attention elsewhere. If he drinks water out of a cup just continue with that. If he wont drink other milk, just make up for the calcium with other foods like yoghurt, cheese etc. It might be tough for a few days but perservere and he will have forgotten about it after a few days. Good luck!
So I used plasters over my nipples when I wanted to stop breastfeeding. When he tried to get to me he couldnāt see the nipple and Iād tell him it was all gone. Get a water bottle with a straw to try and just keep giving it or sippy cups and little one will get used to it.
Thatās honestly so rough, I had similar situation with my son, he wouldnāt take a bottle and was breastfeeding until around 18 months, he slowly decided to take the bottle as I tried every night, not force him to take it just let him explore it etc, make sure the lids on as tight as you can do it. Then he would take some breast some bottle then eventually he lost interest in breast. In the day times try to take him out and distract him as much as possible and always have juice water whatever near him plus snacks and resist feeding as much as you can, distract as much as you can etc. You have to work with him and his pace, when heās ready he will stop
Keep breastfeeding until hes more comfortable using other bottles and cups is what id doā¦ for what reason are you stopping him breast feeding?? X
At 18 months I wouldnāt go for a bottle get a 360 degree Cup
Tommee tippee do a great teat that mimics the nipple and that worked with mine
Patience and restraint
My daughter went 16 months and my grandmother was horrified. D ate food and used a sippy cup but it was the closeness and bond I think she needed. I didnāt rush her on that or potty training and she turned out fine. Every child is different and moving at their own pace.
I rubbed a garlic around mine ā¦he wouldnt have it
Do not go to a bottle. At his age Iād recommend a 360 cup. Itās hard but cold turkey was the easiest way to wean my kids off the bottle and pacifiers. At 1 yr I took all their bottles and they got sippy cups the last 2 my now 18 month old and almost 3 yr old went right to a 360 cup at 1. My 3 year old obviously now just uses a cup cup. Around 6 to 8 months I took their pacifiers. I know itās hard but they will stop crying and asking. Just give them an alternative
I breast fed my son until he was 19 months, right up until the day I went to the hospital to give birth. He wouldnāt take a bottle, a binky or sippy cup and breastfeeding had become painful and exhausting. I was in the hospital for 5 days and he stayed home with dad and when I came home he didnāt want to boob. Completely weaned. I donāt know if there is a way you can disappear for a day or two but that was the only way I could get my little guy to wean.
First, you are doing a GREAT JOB!
Second, weaning is super hard!!!
I started with daytime feedings and would only let mine nurse before a nap ā¦ I kept LOTS of fresh fruit and veggies ready for a snack to offer and we had a āloveyā to hug when we got upset.
I would rock her and console, and talked with her about her feelings. Also sang you are my sunshine!!
I kept a non nursing bra on for like 3 days straight.
Night time took a lot longer.
I co-slept so she had the comfortā¦.
I would nurse to sleep then when she woke up I would console her, sing our song,
offer the lovey and if needed water to drinkā¦and wore the bra (ugh all through the night)
At first she would cry for 45-60 mins but every couple days it was less and less.
Thereās NO perfect way of doing it.
Hang in there!!!
My son was just over 2yo when I weaned him. I just couldnāt stand it anymore.
When theyāre that age, itās about the comfort and security rather than the milk. I just went cold Turkey with my son.
Donāt tell him no. He doesnāt understand why after so long, his comfort and security arenāt there anymore.
My son was upset he couldnāt breastfeed for a while, but I pulled him in for a cuddle every night at bed and comforted him that way.
During the day I did the same thing but also tried to provide a distraction.
Youāll get there 
go easy on yourself and your bub. This is a whole new adjustment for you both.
I did it gradually. First I started by stopping the boob before his nap. Then stopping in the morning, etc etc. So take away one feeding at a time and replace it with something he enjoys. The last one I took away was the before bed feeding, I started with reading him a book every night and giving him the boob. Then slowly he got more excited about the book reading so I was able to stop with the boob fully. No tantrums, no meltdowns. Just do it gradually.
Boobies are broken now - thereās no milk left!! And donāt give in or he wonāt believe you again. None left!!
And Offer alternate comfort
Can you pump and give to him in a nuk soft spout sippy?
Gradually wean like you would as a dummy, breast isnāt milk. Itās also their comfort and safety zone which they are very protective over, slowly introduce another comfort and then wean. Or you can start by dropping a feed at a time until its only one feed a day. Heās very young still so it needs to be gentle. Quickly taking away their comfort without a replacement/time can cause attachment issues
Are you down to only feeding at naptime and bedtime? If not, cut out all other comfort feeds and start limiting the amount of time on the boob when you put him down. Itās important for him to get used to less of it and for your body to start getting ready and getting the message that itās ending. Once youāre close to a minute or 2 per session, Iād suggest picking a date and a week out telling baby okā¦ We have 7 days and 14 feeds left. Start counting down and letting baby know that boobs are going bye-bye at each feed. I know baby doesnāt get time and canāt count, but its preparing him and you for whatās about to come. When you get to the last day, remind baby that itās the last day and that tomorrow boobies are going bye-bye. At the last feed, let baby know no more boobies, theyāre bye-bye. Then when he asks stay firm and explain that boobies went bye-bye and milk is gone. (Obviously use the words you use in your home and modify to your style)
I had a lot of success doing this with both of mine. I weaned at 13 & 16 months. The kids asked the next day, but seemed to āunderstandā to the best of their ability that it was over when I said boobies are bye bye. Cuddle and read more books than usual at bedtime and naps to distract and provide a different experience.
I personally didnāt have engorgement, etc by slowing down he pace before cutting off the tap.
Good luck and congratulations!! 18 months is awesome! You and baby did great!!
Just donāt. He will need to learn to drive out of a cup.
Let him scream. When he doesnāt get what he wants and no attention by the way he is acting, he will stop. Donāt give in to him
I wouldnāt put him on a bottle at that age try different cups our granddaughter that was exclusively breast fed wouldnāt use a sippy she wouldnt touch a bottle but we found shell drink from a cup with a straw so thatās what we do with her I no its expensive but just buy one of everything cheap ones at first til you find one he likes and then go to more expensive cups
Say no. Let him meltdown. Do not give in. A couple of meltdowns and he will know that youāre not giving in.
Give him a sippy and stand your ground. He will eventually give in
The bandaids criss crossed helped me with our 19 month old! Put them on at the times you want to cut out and say they hurt, see, boo boo 
Let them sleep so they can feel better!
Spray some apple cider vinegar on your boob! Works like a charm 
worked for us when my son was about 17 months. Took one time to try it and he was done.
Iām in the same boat! Iām so back and fourth on weaning or letting her continue for her comfort but I feel so touched out!! Itās hard, I feel you mama 
Good luck my son is 2.5 and I canāt get him to stop either. Everyone says oh let him throw a fit . That doesnāt work. They are relentless . Canāt take them off either . Lol . I just keep telling him heās growing up . Good luck heās never taken a pacifier tried then all and has drank from a regular cup for a long time at young age .
Gradually wean. Start by cutting out all daytime nursing except for naps or bedtime. Then after heās used to that cut out nap nursing and then bedtime
I breastfed for 6 weeks and pumped for 6 weeks which was put in a bottle and they were bottle broke at a year old. When they turned 1 and wanted a bottle I would give them a bottle of salt water and they ended up throwing it away. Easy peasy.
I put band aids on!! Told her they were broken or owieā¦definitely helped!
Put Bandaids on your nipples and say you have outchies. At night I let him hold a paci just for comfort. I let my son put the bandaids on sometimes too. It worked!!!
I would give my son a cup of water at night once he was like 10 monthsā¦ i cut him off cold turkey the day after his 1st bday
Cold turkey. Itās the only way . After a week of no boob he will get over it. I had the hardest time but you just have to stay determined and donāt gave in to his demands and meltdowns. Good luck!
I would take him to pick out a sippy he likes to start and then every time he goes for the boob just hand him his sippy, I always had a pillow that I sat with in my lap and put over my chest when they come up to me and then just hand the cup every time, I usually just filled the sippy with juice or chocolate milk or something they like, they didnāt mind all too much and when they got upset, I would get up and clean or do other things, and they forget and drink on their sippys, cas they know moms busy and donāt ever try when Iām doing stuff or cleaning anyways, I did this with 2 of my kids and going to do it again with my last when Iām done breastfeeding, it worked really well for me, good luck girl!
My son is 3 next month and he stopped 2 weeks ago! I started by only having him night feed then eventually eased off by giving him a cup of milk before bed. In a 360 cup. Now he just has dinner with his milk then goes to bed. I almost didnāt even realise heād stop tbh!
This might sound crazy but it worked when my daughter didnāt want to let go of the boob. She knew what spicy was so I started telling her my milk went bad and itās now spicy. And I rubbed afreshly cut jalapeƱo around the nipple area before letting her latch on when she was whining about wanting the boob, soon as she went for it she was like āspicy spicy ā and took the bottle for the first time ever and finally let go of my boob 
she would ask for it like the next day and I would remind her my milk went bad She was around 19 months and very smart.
I did child led weaning. My oldest 2 had their last at 26 mo. My youngest at 18 months. Youngest preferred a bottle of rooibos. The other 2 I grabbed a story book for nap time. They were told they could get milkies after story time, but fell asleep to my voice before the end of the book.
No more boob ever. Pump your milk and put it in a sippy cup. Only. But no more boobā¦ tell him its all gone and dont let him see you bottling your milk and kĆØep your breast milk in the fridge. 18 months is very much old enough to go cold turkey on the nursing the boob. Then id diluting the breast milk with 2% milk and eventually switched over to store bought milkā¦ yes hell cry and whine and throw fits and tantrums but you gotta stay strong.
Feed him more. He will eat more nurse less and your milk will dry up. If hes a good eater, hes only nursing for comfort.
I completely stopped. When my son was 18M, he was super attached and he cried for 3 days then stopped. It was hard hearing him have a meltdown those 3 days but it workedā¦
Instead of telling him no, tell him the boobies are out of order. Milk ran out. Some other moms I saw suggested putting bandaids on your nipples to exaggerate the point. Offer soothing alternatives.
It took me 6 days of no sleep taking the boob from my daughter. I gave in one day and it took another 4 days 
just gotta get through it
I would say rub something that tastes nasty on your nipples. Like garlic or something that way when you give in and give him the breast he finds it quite nasty haha 
at least thatās what they do to stop nail biters. Or they apply chile but that might irritate you as well.
I fed for 4.5 years. She stopped herself one day and I was the one crying then. Itās better than letting the child have anxiety. #My2cents
Tell him they are āyuckyā and put something that tastes bad on your nipples. I used that stuff that you put on your nails to stop you from biting them. One taste and then they will never want to bf again. Itās seams mean/probably not the healthiest thing to do, but its the ONLY thing that worked for 2 of my children that were well over 1 that refused to wean after trying everything under the sun!
I found it easier to quit at once. With weaning, once you get to that 1x a day feeding they never want to give it up lol. Dont stop in the middle of the day. Get up in the morningtell him itās all gone and in his cup now. if you pump already,just put it in the cup .Snuggle him while heās drinking. itās their main source of comfort so you have to teach them a new way.it doesnt take long.
I feel this. Heās just hit 22months and refuses (and always has refused from the beginning) any kind of bottle. ā¦ so Iām here for advice as well. Solidarity mamaš
I left my daughter at my aunt and uncles for 24 hours and it worked although she was younger and went to bottles
Put a bandaid over your nipples and tell him they are broken. I would take him to pick out a special sippy cup. Maybe offer milk as replacement in the sippy cup.
Take him to the store and talk him into picking out his favorite cup I nursed my oldest to 18 months and the others close to a year but I still gave them a bottle till they were 2 but if he opens it dont bother just let him pick his own cup and a couple different styles and make a big deal about how cool the cup is and what a big kid he is ā¦ might take a couple tries
I never breastfed but when mine turned 1,I threw out all their bottles and handed them a sippy cup. I didnāt give them an option. Did the same thing for potty training. Gave them their new underwear and threw out the diapers. They both only took about two weeks. They didnāt like it when their new underwear got soiled lol
Have you tried the straw style sippy cups? They are the only ones my son will use
Try lemon or vinegar on the nipples and tell them the milk is yucky now
Nuk soft spout sippy! Those were a lifesaver
I nursed my son for 21 months. I had to put bandages on my nipples and told him I had āboo boosā. He was like, ok. And it worked, to my surpriseš¤·āāļø
Mine eventually didnāt want to nurseā¦they were almost3!!
Weaning was pretty darn easy, until my son lol. I had let my girls self wean, but he was just constantly wanting to nurse even though my supply wasnāt anywhere what he needed for nutrition anymore. And I just really became completely touched out and decided I had to start weaning him myself. He would full on fight me! Grabbing my shirt, yanking my breast out and if I managed to stop him, he would fling himself around and just scream until I gave in. I tried the āItās all goneā and āMilk has gone yuckyā and always tried to offer a sippy instead and he just didnāt care. But, one day I had a clogged duct that I had managed to unclog but was extremely tender so I happened to say āMommy has an ouchieā and he listened! He would fuss a bit, but nowhere near the full blown terrorizing tantrums of before. And I just kept saying that and offering comfort in other ways and he just stopped asking. Good luck and stay strong, itās a hard transition for both of you!
I weaned my baby off by putting strawberry syrup in his milk
Get him a sippy cup sit it down tell him there you go he will take it when he gets hungry
Oh man Iām following this lol. Iām 25 months in!
My mom got me off the nipple by making me use sippy cups
I was in so much pain I could not go on another day. I just stopped. He was mad for about 2 weeks.
Weaning a child from anything is not easy. That being said they will throw fits and it will make you want to break, stay strong. If he is opening and dumping his sippy when you refuse, he doesnāt need a cup and needs to be reminded that is unacceptable.
I let all 3 of mine choose when they were done nursing. 9mo, 30mo, and 14mo. If thatās what comforts your baby then comfort him.
No bottles. Keep him on a cup and donāt give in
Do some fancy art work on them an tell him there broke they donāt work any moreš
Just top letting him. Let him cry it out. Pump if gotta and give it to him in a bottle. Cold turkey
Same as with the bottle, just donāt give it to him.
Put something bitter tasting on. Your nipples. He will not like it and stop asking. Thatās what my mom and I did.
I used a soft spout sippy at 18 months. Put breast milk in it ( I pumped and stored) then by the time they were 2 they were weaned.
Is there a medical reason he canāt nurse? Iād let him nurse as needed for as long as needed. One day heāll be too big and youāll miss that bonding time. heās doing it for comfort and not thirst/feeding at this age.
If you simply canāt (and dontā feel like explaining it which is fine) just tell him sorry no more. Melt downs donāt last forever. Give him a choice of other drinks he may want.
I tell mine no other than 1 nap a day and bed time. Now I have him drink milk from his cup 20-30 mins before nap and bedtime so he only nurses like 5-10 mins and passes out. Any other time I tell him no, wait until nap/bed time.
Heās also 18 months and Iāve been doing this for 2 months or so. Working my way up to no boob for nap and then no boob for bed.
So from 2 I started asking her to wait until Iād finished doing whatever I needed to do, and try to long it out as long as possible, next step was to say no more day time feeds, so told her she can have it at bed time, and then you just try to cuddle away the tantrums for the bed time feeding 
she was 2 and a half when she finally stopped x
Cold turkeyā¦ itās harder on you then him. Just gonna have to deal with a few days of tantrums and melt downs but it wonāt last forever
Have you tried a training sippy cup? The have the nipple for a sippy cup but itās soft like whatās on regular baby bottles.
Orajel on your nipples
Bandaidā¦ boobs are broken sorry
Tsepang Matoka Mohapi-Mohobo do the bandaid, I hope it helpsš
Allison Primes
I know your trying with Chandlerā¦maybe youāll find something useful.
Melanie Courtemanche we were just talking about this so Iām tagging you 
Raising Children Without The Woo is a fantastic group that can help you! Best of luck!