Just a quick question regarding child support for anyone who receives or went through this process and may have a bit more insight. We recently found the DNA to be correct, like it was always going to come out too, and the father has still made no attempt to contact or say anything on the matter. But apparently he left his job he’s worked at for 3 years when I filed, and had yet to find another job. ( which I find hard to believe ) Anyways, my two questions, and I know I should wait til my hearing to ask, but I can’t wait, because I currently am trying to apply for housing, since my rent went up, and I can’t truly afford it since I won’t get a raise at my job for another 6 months. But I know if I receive child support, I would be good. Because even 300 dollars would make me comfortable and stable. He owes at least 5 months, so far, in back pay, and with tax season coming up, I know I’m going to receive it that way, since he always gets a pretty good refund since he claims his first child on his taxes ( his ex wife claims the other one) I have a feeling he isn’t going to file this year, even though he worked most of the last year. Getting off track, sorry, okay here are my questions. 1) If he is on parole, and they tell him he has to file or an warrant will be out on him. Is there still a chance he won’t file and get away with it? 2) Can the court give him a time limit on when to get another job, or are they or better do I have to just accept that he’s going to be living off his mom now to spite me? He only left his job because I filed, and I have the text messages he sent to a friend as proof that’s what happened, and already provided that to my case worker.
I’ve never heard of anyone being forced to file
He could try to carry on out of spite but there are some actions that could be taken
But there are also men that are hundreds of thousands of dollars behind
Do yourself a favour right now and NEVER rely on child support as a form of income - it doesn’t work like that and you’ll end up screwed more times than you can count. It’s your job to ensure you and your child’s needs are met… anything if (and when) you get from child support should be used as savings and a little bit of fun money. Just because you have a child support order does not guarantee you’ll get child support payments.
Your going to have to go to court if all else fails
If he’s one to do things out of spite and he and the mother of the first 2 are on good terms, he may have her claim both and give him part or even none just to keep you from getting it. NEVER COUNT ON CHILD SUPPORT!!! After so long of nonpayment, they can start enforcement. That can be anything from suspending his licence, to even jail time. A lot of it depends on what state you are in too. GA doesn’t do a whole lot unless I call basically ride their ass to do it. AZ will put their picture up on their website and issue a warrant after so many months of nonpayment.
Um. Pretty sure he can’t just choose to not file his taxes. But you should make it where you never have to rely on a p.o.s “father” for child support to be able to pay your bills
Idk about the taxes and parole thing but they can give him a time limit to get a job and even if he does get one he can appeal the order and they will put it on hold even if they are taking money out…it took me 3 years to get mine because of the appeals
My dad still owes my mom over 32,000 in back child support and I’m 23 and my brother is 22. He’s worked under the table for almost my entire life just to avoid paying and has gone to jail, lost his license and has never filed taxes.your best bet is to not rely on it and do what you have to in order to make it by. They can’t force him to do anything other then spend a night in jail here and there and take his license.
With child support, you can file and get it started, BUT it DOESN’T mean he will pay. He can work under the table and they will never get his income that way. NEVER count on child support. My ex owes over $8000.00 at the current moment and he pays only $16 once a month so he can keep his driver’s license.
If he doesn’t file he will get a fine and u have to owe alot in support for it to be garnished from your tax return . No one can make him file taxes . The court can give him a certain amount of time to pay it or make a payment or arrest him . Then he would probably be in violation of his parole
Don’t ever rely on child support or you will find out the hard way how unreliable it is…In Ohio, job and family services makes you help them find where the father may be and cooperate in putting them on child support OR they will take all your benefits away…No they can’t make him work and he will have to be pretty far behind in payments before they take any actions, like revoking his license or putting him in jail…If I were you I would just figure something else out and if he pays eventually then Great, if he doesn’t then oh well…
Everyone telling her not to rely on child support as a form of income… SHES NOT!! she clearly said she has a job and she’s applying for housing because her rent went up and she can’t afford it. She’s making moves because she knows she can’t afford the increase in rent and she won’t get a raise for 6 months. She was asking questions about him being on parole and being forced to get a job. She’s not fucking relying on child support but if there’s a court order who the fuck doesn’t want it?? Having a job and looking for new housing doesn’t seem like she’s relying on child support to me. Everyone on here loves to mom shame not just this post but all of them this page is honestly ridiculous
Never ever count on child support. Ever. Even when you do start getting it. It can stop at any time. Without warning.
No one is mom shaming her. They are telling her the truth. She specifically said if she could get $300 from him she would be comfortable. She can not count on that $300 even if it’s ordered. Nobody can make him work or pay it. That’s just the cold hard truth.
I don’t know what state you are in but I’m in Ohio and they will do absolutely NOTHING to make them pay. They will suspend their license but they can whine that they can’t look for a job without it and the court will reinstate it. They can court order them to get a job working at least 20 hours a week at minimum wage but cannot force someone to hire them so they can’t really MAKE them get a job. They cannot force them to file taxes because most of the deadbeats that dont pay work under the table and dont file anyway. When they get so far behind that they are facing jail time they will tell you the jails are too overcrowded and they cannot enforce the sentence or they will send them in to serve 10 days and be released 24 hours later to make space and count it as the full time served. Child support enforcement in Ohio is a joke. You’ll spend more on gas to get to court and parking at the courthouse than you’ll ever see in payments if he truly does not want to pay… oh, and if he gets incarcerated and gets placed in a work program you will get $5 a month from the department of corrections out of his pay from that… It’s pathetic. If I chose not to buy my child any food at all for the month I would be charged with neglect and go to jail, but these deadbeats can pay nothing for years and nothing happens to them.
If he doesn’t file the IRS will find out eventually because his employer files him as an employee who received a w2. Mine stopped filing years ago. I don’t even care anymore.
And yes, they’ll give him a time limit to find a job. And any job he gets they’ll auto deduct from his pay as a garnishment. He can’t run from it.
And like someone else said… Don’t rely on it as a source of income. Mine was consistent with weekly payments for almost 3 years and up and quit his job. I just started getting payments again like 6 months ago after not getting them for 2 years. I just consider it extra money.
Sounds like tax evasion
The IRS truly doesnt care much if you dont file as long as you dont owe taxes. If you dont owe they usually dont bother you for ages
Nobody can make him pay. Even if he goes to jail he won’t be paying either.
In my state even if you don’t have a job they will still evaluate child support at minimum wage for 40 hours a week.
Your allowed to file every 7 years or something if you wanted I believe
Don’t depend on the child support, in time it will catch up to the child’s father. Just give it time. Im sure he will look for a another job after so long.
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Update: I am not trying to live off child support, but I do not want to lose my home that I’ve built with both of my kids. My job is awesome, but I just got a raise in December and won’t be eligible for another until May-June. My company does bi-annual raises, and quarterly bonuses, so I am usually busting my ass at work to make sure I get those bonuses and raises. But I do not want to take out a loan, because I eventually want to buy a house and need my credit to be fixed. I don’t want to ask anyone for money, because it is not their responsibility, it is his and mine. It just sucks that because his mom decided I was trying to trap her dear son into marrying me by using my pregnancy ( she believes he left me, when I left him after he cheated on me one to many times). His ex wife is no better, and even though he doesn’t take care of those kids, she lets him file one so she can continue dropping him off whenever she wants. That’s their agrreement. He only takes care of them when she needs to leave, and has on several occasions given him money and things like he was just a babysitter taking care of a kid. It’s stupid, but I’m not going to depend on him. I live in Texas, and the court already told him he has to file since he is on parole, but I was just wondering if there was still a way he can not. Because I have some savings since I’m very careful with money I spend, and have at least 2 months before I start needing help. If I can get some type of backpay in his tax return, and use that to get me by until my raise and not worry about him paying or not. Because I believe in Karma, and I believe some time it will come for him the way he did me wrong.
Even if he gets taxes for his kid, its his kids money… ? don’t make sense to use a kids tax to pay for another kid…
Not having a job doesn’t diminish their responsibility to pay the support. It will just add up until they either start paying or end up in jail for non payment. Where I live they don’t give a time limit to find a job but they do make you submit proof that they’re looking, much like unemployment does. Also, as far as using it as income to get a place, I wouldn’t recommend that since it isn’t guaranteed to be paid each month.
They could be like 30, 000 behind before they arrest them it sucks
You really shouldn’t rely on child support to make ends meet. I mean, if the dad was given 50/50 custody you wouldn’t be getting anything in support. Child support is to pay for the time the dad doesn’t have the did up to that 50/50 mark. You’d still have to pay your own rent and bills without child support. Now that he doesn’t have a job he can go in and petition to get it lowered too. If he does that, you definitely won’t be getting 300.
To the woman who just wanted some advice and got hateful and ignorant comments telling you that you shouldn’t rely on child support payments trying to make you out to be the bad guy. I SEE YOU. Do not listen to their mean opinions. After this shit i wont be asking mamas uncut for help. This should be a place for MOMS to support other MOMS. NOT TELL THEM THEY ARE STUPID OR MAKING MISTAKES. fuck all of you who are missing the point of this page and this post. Idk who you are but I will always have your back.
Two parents made that child and two parents should be supporting it. Period.
Its has been 14 yrs for one kid and 12 for another that I have been waiting for back child support. Good luck
I haven’t gotten a dime (Florida does absolutely nothing for us needing help) he’s $32,997.60 in the hole and they haven’t arrested him nor does he have a warrant and he doesn’t file taxes either. We’ve only been to court once and they did nothing. Unfortunately you just need to work harder cuz these guys are a piece of shit and will find a way to get around the system.
If he does not file they can not take support for him. And the court could make him work for the money or stay in jail.
In our state if he owes back child support it will be taken from any tax return he might have coming.
If he doesnt want to be in the childs life…i wpuld just forget about him. Move on. We had to move to a new place that was more affordable. No waiting on somwthing that will probably never happen. Im sorry this happened, but some guys just dont give a crap. My advise is to move into a cheeper home, forget about the sperm donor and raise ur babies . what matters is that the child is taken care of, and he has you for that. Court wont do anything…you know he wont do anything. So i would personally forget him, cut him out and mkve on like the mam soilder i am. Period. You got this. Im Sure you can find cheeper housing, and possibly apply for subsity for daycare if u need it as well.
If he files taxes your case worker can talk to judge or take him to court and you get it. It’s really according to what county the two of you live in as to how far they will go to get your child support. You can hire a lawyer that will help you and sue the father for the lawyers fees. Good luck. I’ve been in both places. An ex that wouldn’t pay and a husband that we both made sure his child support was paid every week
You can take him to court and file as much as you want but he doesn’t have to pay. Take him to family court with a lawyer and make him pay.