Well for starters be glad you’re not married. He’s not in this relationship for a spouse, he wants a mommy. Put your foot down. First off, you seem to know how to handle it all on your own. You’ve been the breadwinner, the mom & dad, the maid, the cook, the laundry tech, the grocery shopper, the problem solver and the ass wiper of grown man. So, what purpose, exactly, is he serving? He can’t handle working and being a responsible partner in a 50/50 relationship. So…? Sounds to me you would be so much more happy doing this by yourself. You are already if you really think about it. All you would be doing is getting rid of a huge stress factor. Test him. Make dinner…just for you and the kids. Clean up…just from you and the kids. Do laundry…just for you and the kids. You get the picture. He will either straighten up and fly right or he’ll throw a tantrum and leave. One thing’s for sure, he can’t take the kids! Good luck and I’m glad your on the mend from your surgery.
Girl you have 4 kids!!! He’s not a man!!
Hold up, when he was a stay at home dad did he do everything the way you do? If he doesn’t appreciate you now he never will
Why are you not MARRIED to this guy??? Get legally protected, then get a divorce: that way, you might have enough to take care of his 3 kids and yourself!! What are you doing having 3 kids and no marriage??
Sounds like you do alot of complaining to me
I take no joy in telling you this but this the norm for most women. Can you change it? I really don’t think so. There has to be something in it for him to get him to want to change. I just don’t know what that would be. If your doing it all because no one will help then why would he want to help? There simply is nothing he will get out of it. It does not better his life in any way.
Wow, do you have a full plate. You are both going to need to take a fresh look at the overall dynamics of the family, for it to work better. The fact that he works nights is great, for financial solvency: but now the help mate you were counting on is too exhausted to pitch in. Here’s my best advice: anger will not improve your situation. Listening to girlfriends or others at work will not be trustworthy advice. You may just be letting off steam, and they ll want you to junk the whole man. You need couples counseling. This may be salvageable, and could become really beautiful.
if you want it 2 work // need 2 work together… start sharing the chores, its hard with a family good luck honey
My husband was out the door at 5:30A and back home at 6P and still managed to help with the kids, clean, and play with the kids. So he’s choosing not to do anything. I’d express how I feel and if that didn’t work, I’d leave. 