It’s important to remember it was this union that created the son you love and lost. The greatest gift we can give out kids is a mother and father who love each other. He would want y’all to continue to grow and love each other and celebrate the union.
I can’t imagine loosing a child … but he is has no more pain, no more sorrow and would want you guys to remember him in a healthy and constructive way. God bless! I am so sorry for your loss!
So sorry for your loss. I would still celebrate you and your husband’s anniversary, that is still something to celebrate. Even though it now falls on probably the hardest day of your life, the love day will not be defined as oonly a day of tragic lose. Maybe you and your husband could do something in honor of your son on that day as well, visit where he is laid to rest, talk about him during dinner, light a candle, take a walk together. Something small but meaningful after you have celebrated the positive part of the day. 
I have no advice as I could never begin to imagine what you’ve been or are going through, just know I’ll be praying for peace for you. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Maybe do something together that the 3 of you enjoyed doing? So sorry for your loss…no parent should ever have to bury their child​:broken_heart:
Honestly I’d probably move my anniversary. I don’t see any way to make the 2 coincide comfortablely. I mean you really don’t want to be thinking of your children on your anniversary anyway, it’s for you. I’m not even sure how you could make it bearable while grieving.
I am so sorry. Do what you love, celebrate his life and share your love with the world. Our spirits are eternal. He is always there when you need him I could go on, listen to your intuition. Xo
The one year anniversary after we lost our son my husband (then boyfriend) tried to make it as special as possible. He proposed to me and my engagement ring had our son’s birthday gemstone in the center of it. Every year on that day we try to always do something to represent him but regardless I would still suggest getting some new flowers and visiting his grave.
After that, do something special for just you two. It could even possibly be something that your son has always wanted to do but didn’t get a chance to.
I’m sorry about your loss… a year seems forever without him but everything is still so fresh like it happened yesterday. 
Nice meal out with a drink in his memory & then maybe a balloon release afterwards with you & any of his siblings he may of had.
sorry for yr lose it’s hard really hard my dad passed aug 2021 and this is our first holiday without him!!! i hope one day it will get better but it’s sooo different and very emotional i try to remember the times we had him i put a small plate of food by his picture 
makes me feel like he is still here
Get out some photos and remember together all the beautiful times you were privileged to share. 
I’m so sorry. I would say to help keep his memory alive by doing the things he liked to do. It’s totally okay to feel so many emotions at once with so much going on. Sending hugs during the holidays
In memory of “son” and give away things people need in small ziplock bags, wipes, small soaps, tweezers, socks and gloves?? I would make a sticker label with made with love by “ sons parents, dob- dod”
Have you considered a vowel renual ceremony? I seen a previous comment suggest moving your anniversary celebration date and I think that’s a great idea. Having a vowel renual celebration would be an easy way to transition to a new date. Let this be be a day to remember and honor your son, and grieve when you need, and keep the joy of your anniversary by giving it a new date. I’m sorry for your loss and I hope you are able to find some comfort in his memories. 
Sending you all the good vibes today.
Celebrate his life, while you celebrate your time together. I could only imagine what you two are going through.
My condolences to you.
I am so sorry for your loss, maybe celebrate your son’s life by doing something he loved, go to his favorite places. I am not sure if that is the right answer or not, I couldn’t imagine. I hope you find a solution!
Dinner and a concert Bike home and say a prayer. Pay it forward something your son would have enjoyed to a needy youth
Celebrate his life on his birthday. Keep busy on your anniversary
So sorry for your loss maybe make is a celebration of life for your son and a celebration of your marriage at the same time
Celebrate in knowing your anniversary let to his arrival in the world & for having the time you were blessed with with him. Take a framed photo of him with you in your anniversary plans & celebrate his life as well.
My husband and I were married on the same day and same year as my mother’s passing, it’s hard and a bitter sweet day but I remember it’s a day of love as well
It’s completely normal to have conflicting emotions, it’s part of the healing process. Will you ever be done grieving, no. However with time you will learn how to enjoy life and smile again. The pain will always be there but with time the happy memories you shared will bring you the happiness and warmth you want and you’ll start to notice that when you think of your son you smile instead of feel sad and heartbroken.
As for your anniversary, it will always be different from now on but still remember you love each other as husband and wife. Be there for each other on this exceptionally emotional day. Check in with each other and don’t force yourself or each other to do anything if you simply can’t. Maybe a delivered dinner and movie with a cuddle on the couch is all you can muster and not only is that perfectly fine but also a perfect anniversary night. Cry if you need to, talk to each other if you want to, laugh authentically if you can and just be there in the moment.
I am so overwhelmingly sorry for your loss.
What was his favorite place/vacation spot? Go there and enjoy each other and the memories of your son.
My daughter was born 1 hour after my 6 week old nephew died. It’s a very hard emotional day.
My daughters 15 now and it’s still not any easier.
We try to spend the day concentrating on my daughter, once she’s in bed or before she’s up is my time to think of my nephew.
I try hard not to think of him during the day but I always do.
Don’t feel guilty for being happy and smiling xxx
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So sorry for your loss. Can’t imagine losing a child. You will eventually be able to manage the pain but I don’t think it will ever fully go away you know. You will never forget about him I think once you have grieved, cried, and cried some more you will be able to celebrate both your anniversary and his passing to a better place. I honestly don’t think there is any magical answer I think it’s just a grieving process and time. No one can definitively tell you how much time you will need. Keep your head up and maybe think of some traditions you could do in remembrance of your son.
That’s tough 
I’m sorry to hear about that, maybe going out and doing something your son would have wanted to do would help include his memory and make things easier?
Celebrate both he would want you to
I lost my grandpa In 2011 I don’t like Christmas much
But my son helps me through it I usually stop by his fave lake
. Amd have a drink with him or pray maybe try going to his fave place
My husband and I got married on my mom’s birthday, she passed away at 48. It’s a way to celebrate her life instead of focusing on her death. If you can, do something in his memory that day before you celebrate his life and your marriage 
Celebrate your anniversary and do something to honour your son’s memory. Like dinner at a restaurant he liked
I’m so sorry for your loss. Maybe do something you know is special for you two, then something special for him. Such as q favorite dinner, movie, restaurant, or maybe even a dream destination he wanted to travel and vacation in? You two could go to that destination, have a vacation If your work/life and finances allow it, and just honor him that way. You can incorporate his favorite actives, foods or things he wanted to try as well. I hope you two can find some way to make it special all around even if it is simply staying in the house together to grieve. Praying for comfort for you both. 
1st I give you my sincerest condolences , I lost a son as well, and honestly we all grieve in different ways, for me I just keep thinking about all the special moments I had with him, I kept a shirt next to me in my bed, I could still smell him, I wish you great strength to get thru this , it is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to endure in my life 
Travel. Have fun. Go do all the things he never got to do. Honor your son by living your life to the fullest. He will be with you wherever you go.
Maybe you could plant a tree together in remembrance of your son or release a small boat into a body of water with a candle for him…might be something nice to do before dinner at a place where your son liked to go? Or you could release some balloons. These can be very therapeutic to do when someone passes but together as a symbol of love also.
'I think you speak with wisdom. And, you earned that.
Just do what feels best to you both. Hugs.
Celebrate your anniversary at the time celebrate his life and memory. If you didn’t marry he would never have been. So celebrate the 18 years you had with him.
Maybe celebrate your sons life and use that day to grieve. Then do something different and adventurous either before or after your actual anniversary date that will take your focus and attention elsewhere—travel someplace new and as far away as you can afford, or go skydiving, snow or water skiing, hot air ballooning, trampoline park, zip lining, spelunking, escape room, take a class or workshop to learn something new—anything that will totally distract you. Then when you go for a romantic dinner you will have your adventure to keep you busy talking.
I’m so sorry for your devastating loss. Sending comfort and hugs your way:
I’m so sorry for your loss
Grief is a very personal thing and its still so fresh for you both.
Youre all bikers …so ride.
Go somewhere you enjoyed together as a family or a road trip he wanted but didn’t manage to do.
Celebrate his life and your anniversary doing something you all love 
I can’t give advice on how to celebrate, but I want to say I’m so incredibly sorry and praying for you.
Postpone the celebration and just spend the day in bed together crying as much as you need then napping on and off. As long as you’re together that’s what matters. Order food in if you have to or ask a family member to bring something. Do the bare minimum other than being together.
Do something your son loved. Love one another smile lots I’m certain your son would want his parents to be happy.
I can’t imagine but you have my prayers
My prayers go out to your family! Amen
Maybe some things you know he did in life you would want to do yourself if you haven’t already. End the night with a good memory you both have of him and enjoy each other xo
Change your day of celebration to the day you met instead of the day you got married and you can still grieve.
My grandmother passed away on my daughter’s 14th birthday and then my own Mom passed away on my daughter’s 25th birthday. I still celebrate my daughter’s birthday as she will always be special and I try to embrace the memories of the life that I had with my Mom and my grandmother so that I am not focused on the losses that we experienced on my daughter’s birthday.
So sorry this happened to you💔 I honestly wouldn’t know what to do myself… maybe celebrate his life doing something in the morning, and yourselves at night? Or doing something that your son would have loved to do?.. wishing you guys healing and much love❤️
Maybe you guys can cook his favorite food for dinner every year
So sorry for your loss my condolences
Donate to a charity in your son’s memory and have a moment to remember him and honor his memory then celebrate your anniversary.
My condolences to you and your family.
Maybe renew your vows on a different day and celebrate your anniversary doing something in memory of your son and on the day you renew your vows you and your husband can celebrate the 2 of you.