How do you deal with the crushing realization that you won’t have anymore babies? I just had my second, and last, four months ago. Between my fiancé and I we now have 4 children, and we both agreed that this will be our last. I also have had 2 miscarriages. I’m struggling with PPD, as well as a lot of health issues and I just CRY when I think about not having anymore. My pregnancies were all so awful, but yet I want to go through it again? I hold my baby boy and long for time to slow down. I’ll never have a newborn again
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Concentrate on your children. Think of their mental health, not yours.
I was one of a big family and I hated it
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Yea it’s tough I tied my tubes and I shouldn’t have but im ok with it now the way the world is I wouldn’t want to bring a child the state we are in… its life and my lil baby is 10 going on 11. 
I have had to bring my focus on the stages my kids go through. I have 4 kids wide range of ages 20,11,7, and 5.
I love the baby stages. But my kids also need me. So it’s just adjustment period.
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Young one, they will grow up - BUT they will bring home their babies. Don’t dwell on what YOU have lost - dwell on the fact your babies now are seeing things, doing things, feeling things they never knew about. If you’re not here now - you’ll miss it. Be strong - some women would give anything to have one - or even be in your shoes. Be thankful, trust n believe everything is by design. In fact, there are many babies out there who need a Momma - foster care - adoption- heck you could even start a new career as a preschool teacher. Put your feels to use
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I actually felt relieved, 2 kids feels like more than enough to me. No more babies just making sweet memories now
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My kids are 24, 22, 19, 15, and 7. Just when I was missing the baby phase, the Lord blessed me with the most perfect grandbaby who is now 4 months old 
Enjoy every stage of life 
I hope you have a husband who loves and supports you. That has helped me so much. Imagine the times coming when you and your husband will be able to take trips by yourself and have your own hotel room that you don’t have to share with the kids. You can buy yourselves toys instead of the kids. You can walk around naked if you want. You can make a sex room out of the kids old room if you want. If you have your tubes tied you can have all the sex you want without worrying about getting pregnant. Plus there will probably be grandkids. You could babysit. And if that doesn’t help, get a dog or cat.
We all feel like that at times
We wish time would slow down
And they become babies again
Make a list of pros and cons
Of having another baby
Especially as you said
You had your last pregnancies
We’re so awful
And you’ve had previous miscarriages
Get therapy ASAP! Call 988, the mental health hotline. You shouldn’t deal with PPD alone. Plus get long term health help and join support groups for whatever ails you so you can cope. What void does having babies fill in your life? Does having babies allow you to avoid something else you find scary or distasteful? Find other ways to fill that. And think, every baby will one day be a teenager you will have to parent!
Four kids are a lot! I’d think you would be too busy to worry about having more!
Get your “baby fix” by volunteering or getting paid to babysit, or help out at a day care, work the nursery at church, help babies born addicted at the hospital, help single moms—great need to take care of sick babies so parents don’t have to take off work, volunteer to help wherever you can interact with babies.
But take care of your feelings and emotions first with a qualified therapist. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Good luck!
I just think back to how hard the last 15 years of raising kids has been and enjoy the relief of knowing I won’t have to do a night feed ever again.
I wanted four was blessed with two. I’m 41 and still want more. Adoption has always been on my heart.
I had an incredible impossible surprise at 43 years old my last daughter and she just blessed me with my 7th grandchild.There will be more babies but from experience as we age it’s nice to love and cuddle and spoil them and then give them back…
It’s the hormones talking. Just relax and enjoy what you have.