To the moms who share custody… how do you get over your kid leaving for a week… especially when they left kicking an screaming for you…
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Plan fun stuff you can do without kids, spend time with friends, rest up, and prep so you have an easier time when kid comes back. My kids were so wild I was happy for the break. 
Make the transition for them as easy as possible. Assure them they will be fine.
We ended up doing a split where he was with us week 1- Wednesday-Friday
Week 2 Wednesdays-Monday
It worked better this way than week on and week off. We never had to go too long without our son.
We have been doing it for 15 years.
We also found that he’d get upset leaving us and he’d get upset leaving them. But when we switched to this schedule it was much easier on him.
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Support it. Excite them for it. It’s the best thing to do. If they think you don’t want them to go they will not want to go! Also for your own good, Find hobbies for yourself.
As long as the other parent is a safe parent. You just get used to it. Make the time you have with your kiddo count. Make sure you make the transition to and from easy. Pump it up “hey you are gonna have a great time with your dad! I’m so excited for you!” And have dad do vice versa. Kids feed off the energy between the parents. If you hold a grudge they will too. Speaking from years of experience and once upon a time not so great co-parenting relationship. The attitude you have towards it makes a huge difference!
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I never did. I’ve always missed my kids. I learned to keep myself busy when they were away so that I was happier for them. After a while you learn how to deal with your emotions around it. I found exercise helpful and even a good dance party the night before they go is helpful.
We do every other day and every other weekend.
Time, loys of time, making it sounds fun for then to visit the other parent, extra support shown to kids to visit other parent,have something fun planned for when they return or before they leave. Find something to keep yourself busy with.
Remind yourself that time with dad is just as important for the child.
Maybe come up with an activity that they only get to do on the first day at dad’s house. Like a craft or a game. Get dad on board and it might make the kicking and screaming less.