How do you get over the anxiety of sending your babies to school? This is her first year and my first year of being a mom to a child in school. I’m on the verge of tears lol
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Awe their smiles and hugs when you pick them up will help out you at ease. She is going to learn and meet friends. Time sure does fly!
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My baby is going to high school… I’ve had the worst anxiety thinking of it. I suggest getting to know the teachers and principals… it makes it easier.
It’s amazing! Hearing the fun stories. Watching them on the bus. Feeling accomplished.
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It will fade with time. I have one going into his 2nd year of preschool another going into kindergarten and another going into 1st grade. I am literally counting the days till school starts lol
I did. I sent mine to preschool last year. I was nervous and anxious but everything turned out good. I loved hearing about her days. And the teacher kept in contact with me if there were problems. It got better with over the months. Good luck.
The first year is always the hardest. It’s big change, and having anxiety is normal. It won’t take long to adjust tho. My oldest is about to start her junior year. They make so many friends in school, and have so many fun experiences. As a parent it’s fun for us to, watching them experience it all.
I felt that way too and now again with my little boy going. Your babies are going to school and it’s sad. They are growing up. BUT when I see my little one coming home and telling me about her day, what she learned, her friends and teachers. It’s wonderful to see her learning and thriving.
Imagine all of the things she will be experiencing and the friends she will be making, whenever you feel anxiety about how it’s going. Also, it took my youngest more than half way through kindergarten to stop demanding to be physically peeled off of me to go into school. As a mom, the complete dependence of babies transforming bit by bit into autonomous beings, can be a rough ride but there’s no getting around it. 
I’m an anxious person and my oldest is 17 ! I always get like that every year. I was told to drop off my grandbaby niece at the daycare and I didn’t feel like leaving her 
she’ll be ok ! She’ll love it there. You might be surprised.
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It goes away the first day they come home excited and happy, telling you all about their amazing day. When you see their excitement the anxiety becomes excitement for them.
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It’s going to be ok momma. It’s normal to feels this way. This is my second year it gets easier I promise.
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My kids are 16,14,11 i still get anxiety
you’d be surprised how quickly you get used to the new routine and how quickly it becomes the new normal. honestly you don’t have a choice, they have to go to school, so find something to keep yourself busy until pick up time.
It’s hard but it does get easier with time. Plus ur child will probably have a blast
I get so excited for school lol what do you mean
I felt like that with my oldest. But I pushed through and sent her. She experienced some terrible things such as physical and emotional bullying and teachers looking the other way. It made my child an absolute anxious mess. Then we tried again at another school and it was a disaster as well. So now I just homeschool. I’m a mom of 3 month old, 3 year old, 5 year old, and a 6 year old. My older two I’ve been homeschooling for over a year now. I’ll be starting my 3 year old in a couple weeks. This has really helped all the anxiety for everyone involved and I’m in control of what my kids are exposed to now. It works well for us.
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Oh just wait until they develop a little life and start making pictures and stuff for you at school and the teachers tell you how they’re thriving in some area. Your heart will soar!!!
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After trauma from my oldest kids birth, I struggle with PTSD and my anxiety can be in a whole other level.
For a lot of things the best thing is I can do is…
- Focus on smaller things I can control the best. School supplies. School clothes. Lunches. Making sure paperwork is all up to date and correct. Make sure you’ve got everything in place on your end. Focusing on these small things helps because they are well within your control.
- Focus on their excitement. It’s easy to let your own anxiety cloud everything but really that’s not fair to the kid. They get to make new friends. They get to play on recess equipment. They get to see and experience all kinds of new and different. It would be selfish to let my anxieties take away from that.
- Just do the thing. It’s like just jumping into cold water to get used to it all at once. During their first week make sure that you have something planned to keep yourself busy. Plan to go grocery shopping. Plan to take on a task or project that you’ve put off.
Then when they come home ask about all the good things. Don’t nitpick. Don’t start digging for terrible things. Just listen to what they say.
Give it time. I cried sending my kids. But by the time they are going into 7th and 8th, like mine, u can’t wait. It’s going to be quiet in my house again and I won’t be feeding them 8000 times a day
Oh it took me a few weeks to get used to it …you will get over it fast 
I had the worse fears and emotions ruining it for me too. Momma this is her time to learn and grow. Always leave her with love and encouragement and after school ask all the questions as to how the day went. Cry it out and that’s okay then realize this is also a turning point where you get some time to yourself too. Stay positive and never let your fears or frustration go into your child. Everything will be good. This was a hard transition for me as well. Your not alone in this. Just one more step we as parents have to go through while being excited and encouraging to our little ones. You’ve got this and so does your kiddo.
you get over quickly when you realize how much you need the mini break away from them lol. enjoy the quiet time. take a nap, go shopping, just sit in silence.
to you. Mom of multiple children and I cry every time school starts, thinking about all the things that may happen and I can’t be there to help them. What helps me is to get connected with each of their teachers, I’m always at the school; volunteering, having lunch etc.
T will be fine she will have fun , just take a breath
Give it time, after you see your child having fun and making new friends that anxiety tends to let up.
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My daughter starts middle school this year and I’ve cried EVERY year on her 1st day❤️
When my first started school I was a mess. I missed him and really didn’t know what to do with myself. Now when my kids go back to school I throw myself a party.
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It will be OK. When my daughter went to preschool, I cried. When my son went 2 years later, I cried. Now my daughter is 20. My son 17. You will make it. Cry if you need to
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There will be tears! It’s PERFECTLY normal and ok! Growing pains aren’t easy! Embrace the suck! HUGE hugs!
Are you anxious for you or for her? If for you, take up a new hobby, schedule a class in something right after the time you drop her off to keep yourself busy. It’s not healthy to have your whole life revolve around your child as it’s our job as moms to prepare them for launch into the world.
If it’s for her, see if you can tour the school and meet the teacher in advance. If not, at least drive around the school and check out the doors, playground, bus stop areas, etc. Even if there are tears when you say goodbye, rest assured she will have fun and be smiling very soon. Do try to hold it together until you’re out of sight, then feel free to cry—it’s OK! I remember sobbing when I had to leave my baby at daycare. It’s hard, mama, but it’ll get easier each day when you see how much she’s learning.
I was the same way when my child went to preschool. I asked so many questions. She’s also a runner. She went to 2 years of preschool at the same school and this year she’ll be in kindergarten at a different school. I will also ask alot of questions when they have open house. Don’t be afraid to ask any questions you have and it will be ok.
I stopped sending them and started homeschooling. Best decision we could’ve made … and that’s coming from someone who said they’d never homeschool!
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Don’t send them to school
I’m going to be the downer on this one. If your are in America, you shouldn’t ever get over that anxious feeling sending your children to school. Until we have better security, better laws, you should always be a bit anxious. To the parents who live in their little bubble of “it won’t ever happen here” please remember every parent thought the same thing at the tons of schools it did.Uvalde isn’t a big city, not much major crime either, children were killed.
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It will be hard at first but then you will see how much you and your baby both needed that time apart. It’s also their chance to grow socially which is so important
Oh there will be tears!! But that’s normal. U will adjust. Be a room mom or volunteer. Then u still get to be with your baby and you’ll fall in love with 15 more!!
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Just take it one day at a time.
Hell, even one hour at a time if you have to.
But distract yourself while they’re in school.
Go get coffee, go walk around a nature park or mall.
Keep yourself and your mind busy 
I completely get the anxiety.
Talk to their teachers.
And the school.
Explain your fears and see if they have precautions in place (which they should)
I’m still anxious everyday. Mine are going into 1st and 2nd… I hate not being able to check in on them. You’re not the only one momma!
I take the time to take a long hot bath- without interruptions. Love my kiddos, but the time apart is good for everyone.
Be strong for your kids. I experienced that last year but kids feed off of your energy. Do fun things to prepare. Our school had a couple fun nights at the school for kindergartners prior to then starting. Tell your child how excited you are for them and how proud you are of how big and smart they are getting.
But yes, I feel your pain, especially because of what our generation has had to endure with school scares.