How do you get through the worst time of your life? Deaths, injuries, illness, losing meaningful things, financially, mentally, emotionally drained, etc. I’m really going through it and struggling right now. Everything slapped me in the face all at once and I’ve had 0 time to process life.
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Grief counseling, support group/s, therapy, talk to your doctor about meds temporarily, call the 988 mental health hotline.
Rely on your friends, family, coworkers to help pick up the slack/help you out so you can breathe and grieve and recover. Be specific with what you need: buying some groceries or making meals for you, doing specific tasks that are hard for you, gifting you with comfort—be it luxurious massages, tea and sympathy, setting up a playlist, doing rehab exercises with you. Or ask folks to take up a new practice or class with you (meditation, yoga, breathing exercises, a new language—You Tube is free, or taking you on an excursion near or far to get you out of your head and into a beautiful environment for a while.
Give yourself credit for getting through each 5 minutes. Listen to music that speaks to you. Trust that it gets lighter at the end of the tunnel. There will always be an ache but you will become happier and more functional as time goes on. If not, you need ongoing medical/psychological help and there’s no shame in that. Keep on this forum and know that every one of us is behind you as you recover and rooting for you to regain the joy in your life. Talk to a financial advisor at your bank to get your finances on track—this should be free if you have an account—and look at options.
If you have a faith tradition, use your beliefs and prayer to help. The 23rd psalm in the Bible has brought comfort to many, but each form of spirituality has rituals or verses around loss and adversity. You can freely borrow from other faith traditions if it helps you heal unless it involves sacrificing virgins or animals!
Channel your grief into a positive way to honor your late loved ones, whether it be a memorial bench in a garden, a remembrance plaque someplace important to them or to you, helping raise funds for causes important to them or you, or starting a foundation in their memory.
Mantras, positive messages posted around your home and work, workbooks for yourself to keep you focused on moving forward. There’s a book called “I’m Awesome! Here’s Why,” for example. Keep a gratitude journal to remind yourself of the positive in your life. For example, if you have just one pair of shoes you are richer than a substantial portion of the earth’s population.
Ask friends to sit with you and look at photos of happier times and share the positive memories and lessons with them and the younger generation. Hold onto the good times. A good Irish wake is generally full of funny stories and happy times that can elicit laughter as well as tears. Skip any excessive drinking though. 
Once you are out of survival mode, set up a plan for recovery. Ask others’ expertise in helping you regain financial, physical, emotional and spiritual stability. Beware of scams and cons though. Know that the refiner’s fire brings purity to gold, and living through and triumphing over adversity will make you stronger and more resilient. Growth is often painful but worthwhile.
Therapy with a licensed therapist! If that’s not feasible vent to a friend! You gotta stop internalizing stuff and let it out! Sometimes all you need is to be heard. And remember…one day at a time!
Didn’t really have a choice. I believe God helped me get through it all
Need a friend to listen, praying, unwind.
Take it one hour at a time, or if that’s too much one minute. Journal helps, prayer helps.
Your mental health is very important. You need to take the time to process. I always tell myself and family that during hard times you can only go so far down and then there’s nowhere else to go but up. This too shall pass. But that being said, don’t ever be afraid to reach out for professional help. You may need a low dose medication to help. Try to focus on all the positive things no matter how small.
Volunteer in a community garden. Digging in the dirt is great therapy. Good luck!
Remember to breathe. Use your pillow as a punching bag, scream into it if need be. Let the feelings out, don’t try to hold them in. Most of all Remember to breathe.