How do you deal with lying? My husband & I almost separated last year because he wouldn’t stop. I recently found him in another one (he doesn’t know I know). I’m just torn & I thought he was doing better.
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First- you deserve better than that. You’re worth more than that.
Secondly, no matter how many times you talk to him about it, HE is the only one to change himself.
I’m sorry. Please take a step back, you deserve someone who is honest. hugs
Without complete and total honesty between both partners there is no relationship.
You have to leave 
They won’t stop
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I mean he shouldn’t lie to you at all. But I guess it just depends on what he’s lying about as to how you should handle it . If he’s lying about stuff that he knows will hurt you. You need to take a break and leave for a little while. If he sees that you’re serious he will start being honest if he doesn’t wanna lose you. He thinks he can continue being dishonest and nothing’s gonna happen. Put your foot down and let him know you mean business.
It depends on what he’s lying about and why. Do you freak out on him if he tells the truth? If he says he’s working late but went out for drinks with coworkers (not cheating- that is completely different).
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I can stand a person who lies. No reason to lie just tell the truth. I believe that people lie they learned to do this at a early age to stay out of trouble.
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Go with your gut instincts
You can’t force someone to be a genuine and honest person, you don’t deserve to be lied to
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Stay silent and leave. Simply put.
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Depends on what he’s lying about…
Depends on what their lying about I guess, but at the end of the day we all know lying ain’t cool and they gotta go!!
Nope. Get yourself together before you occupy my space. Doesn’t mean divorce necesssrily, but I don’t allow unhealthy disruptions in my home. Take that nonsense elsewhere. Grow up and get counseling if you can’t stop. If you choose not to, that’s on you. 
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Ohh man the best way to deal with this become CIA and catch him in as many lies as you can confront by asking him and feeding into his lie !! Then once you have done this for each one confront with truth don’t let him how you know ect just prove you are done if he continues at all !!DONE their is no trust their is no relationship
I hate lies, when my new husband and I met we had 
honesty and he couldn’t believe it. Now he lies to me about his alcoholism regularly. So much for honesty
Depends what he’s lying about. I get lying, but sometimes it’s not worth the BS.
You can’t fix a liar. You have to deal with it or move on.
Lie to her m about something
My jerk lies about different things every week of his life 
Not dealing with lying. Can’t stand a liar
Sit him down, explain to him that he’s not 5. Tell him you don’t want to be married to a 5 year old. Tell him you want to be married to a man. Its up to him to decide which he wants to be
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Sounds like a compulsive liar… they never stop. They dint know what the truth is…
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If he’s an inveterate and habitual liar who lies to lie than cut both of your losses. If’s he lying because he can’t be himself with you that’s a deeper question. You are part of the dynamic so you are part of the solution. If you want this of course but shaming dynamic number two won’t fix it. Only safety to be who he is will heal it. Again this does not apply to a habitual, lying, untrustworthy jackass.
I’d leave because I’m instantly turned off once I find someone has lied to me and wasn’t joking.
Once a liar always a liar
You’re not his momma. You can’t change him or teach him. He may need a psychiatrist. Whatever it is, he is who he is. If you can’t live this way, go.
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He’s doing better at lying…
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I hate lies too but what is he lying about because there are times that I lie to my husband and then after I lie I go ahead and run and do what I was supposed to do which is some thing he told me to do and I’m like OK I am doing endings like, did you do it? I’m like oh crap I forgot yes I did and then do it so that way I don’t look irresponsible, is it that kind of lie or is it a another woman lying or Internet lie it just it just depends
It depends on what he is lying to
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Zebras don’t change their stripes
My ex lied about everything. 90% off it was shit that didn’t even matter. Most things I’d be more pissed about the lying than whatever it was actually about.
I don’t … 3 things I won’t put up with: lying, stealing, cheating …
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Any lies including little white lies are damaging to a relationship as its breaks trust.
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Best thing I ever did was leave. Just putting that out there
Do it once, it will always be repeated.
The way I handled it in a marriage was with a divorce.
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If you don’t have trust, you don’t have a solid foundation. He won’t change, so you need to evaluate whether you’re willing to live never knowing what’s actually going on in your marriage.
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He isn’t 5 he knows he is lying, he just is in self preservation mode. Not a reason to keep him around….always going to be an issue and it doesn’t end well!
There’s no excuse for lies and I couldn’t live like that. A liar is the worst kind of person.
Say you won’t leave and lie about it 
It’s a “bye boy”
It will never stop and that’s a BOY
If he’s lying to you about “small stuff” regularly, you can’t trust him about anything. If anything it’s more likely he lies all the time to make you care less about it to get away w/ things that would normally be deal breakers. If he wears you down w/ it you’ll stop trying to find out how deep the lies go.
Honestly, it depends on the lie.
Liars are in the same category to me as cheaters. I won’t deal with them.
My deceased husband lied daily for 30 years. He quit trying to lie to me Because I would call him on it . When I would hear him lying to someone . I would yell at him quit your Dm lying . Embarrassing him .