I was wondering how you mama’s out there handle mommy burnouts? I think after three years almost four years of having one child, I think I have it. My husband works eight hour days through the week and weekends he’s off and doesn’t really help with the child or household chores that I do around the house. He comes home watches TV and then sets off for bed. We even sleep in separate rooms because I can’t get my child to sleep in her own bed. I do almost everything around the house the cooking, the cleaning, laundry, you name it I do it. And it doesn’t help that my child doesn’t listen to me or spend time with her daddy. Hell I don’t even know what time alone is. I’m tried, I’m cranky, and I need something. Please help.
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I look up vacations I’ll never go on and spend the rest of the resenting my husband
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Stop taking care of every thing every single day. It’s okay to have a little mess here and there. Take care of things on certain days. You’re welcome to leave the child with said father. And he can figure it out. For a day or two on his own. How else will he learn to be a day to day parent like you ?
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No advice. Have a 6 year old, 2 under 2 and one of the way.
Send help.
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Get a part time job in the evenings. That will force your husband to step up at home and your daughter to spend time with her dad. It will also give you some time out of the house.
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Tell your husband, that you want a husband not a roommate! Believe it or not I’ve told my husband that our relationship is more a roommate setting and if that’s the case we shouldn’t even be doing this. He straightened out with helping with the kids, now getting him to do house chores after he works all day is a different story. I try to have a clean house before he gets home so he can focus on relaxing and playing with kids.
I have 3 and let me tell you there is no alone time! 
Good luck momma
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Putting your daughter in daycare a few hours a day could be good. It would give you some you time. I have a bad habit of not taking care of myself and just pushing through to make sure the family is good. But im learning the more little things I do for myself the better it is for everyone. Take time for you even if its just 10 mins to stop and breathe. You cant keep everyone else happy and healthy if you dont fill your cup first.
You need to communicate to your husband what you need. A lot of men seem to think that bringing in the money is all they need to do. He needs to be helping with the kid out the house when he’s not working. You’re going to end up resenting him and the relationship.
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Get a PT job & discipline the child!
While a job doesn’t seem like a break I have 3 kids & it is nice to not have to deal w my house and kids sometimes where I can be my actual self & have a little money to blow too! Also helping w bills makes you feel like you’re contributing more other than being a maid 
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Husband needs to participate in the upkeep and chores of the home he lives in.
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I do the same. With 2 kids. And weld full time.
Do things together. It makes the time that you spend with her go smoother. Color…sidewalk chalk is fun. And just watch her mind work. The housework can wait during these moments.
I had to go back to work, I was mentally losing myself. It’s exhausting and nobody understands until you do it. Day in and day out you have the same routine staring at the walls, no adult conversations nothing.
Adding my husband also helped me around the house, so chore wise it wasn’t that bad he would still help with laundry/dishes and whatever else needed done even after working all day but it still took a toll on my mental health really bad.
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My ex was like this. I would literally have to put the baby in his lap and say “I’m going to shower, it’s your turn.” I would handle mommy burn out by locking myself in the bathroom, take a tubby, and just listen to some music. 1 hour a week. My kids are both grown now, but I still set aside an hour a week to just do me. A rested mom is a good mom! Take care of you. You didn’t make this baby yourself. Make him do stuff. If he loves you both he will change, but maybe he doesn’t know this bothers you, they can sometimes be a tad dopey.
Rent a hotel room with a nice jacuzzi tub. Leave daughter and hubby at home.
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Find a hobby or get a part-time job. You need an outlet from being at home all the time.
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I used to run away from home… I’d tell my husband I’m running away for the weekend and he would let me.
if your man don’t help with the house or kids HIRE HELP TO DO HIS SHARE & HE PAYS FOR IT
There are cleaning services & teenage babysitters that can come twice per week to fill in for his slack & if he don’t want to “do” he can “pay” 
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I think it’s some mommy burn out but due to your husbands lack of help. I’d give him a list of things to do and what you expect. Be honest and let him know. I do more than my husband because he works more but bet your bottom dollar he’s doing certain chores and helps with bath/bedtime.
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Talk to your husband first. You need breaks just like he does.
And he should help with parenting, he is a parent!
If he refuses to do either. Leave, take him to court and split custody.
If you want/need to stay. Id suggest part time daycare/babysitter for your mental health. Therapy for your relationship, even just putting some work in. Or take a part time job and push him in the right direction of helping
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Meet with a friend for coffee or lunch when your husband is off. If you have a support system see if they can watch your child for a couple hours or overnight so you can relax. Communicate your needs. If your husband is more of a roommate than a spouse maybe couples counseling can help. If he refuses to be a dad, give you breaks, and be a spouse without welcoming change and help then it may be time to look at your options.
You’re not superwoman so whatever doesn’t get taken care of can wait as long as the bare necessities are met.
Been there!! Still feel it, but not as often. Honestly what helped me was a realization of my role as a mother and a wife that I wanted, and a role of a husband and a father that I wanted from my SO.
My job that I chose was a stay at home mom. This meant the the order and the routine of the house and kids is mine to dictate during the week. My husband’s job was that which he chose that provides financial income that works for our needs.
So now, here is what is expected as mother and father. My husband comes home, spends some time with the kids but also gets time to himself to unwind. Then we switch. I get time everyday to unwind while he takes over.
Weekends we either do things together as a family or we work on housework.
Special time is date nights with friends or with each other. We try once a month.
People forget that when you start a family. Time for yourself is very limited. Good partnership and communication is a must.
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You need to communicate with your husband. An train your daughter to sleep in her own bed. If you dont stand up an get things the way you want them nothing will change.
Yeah a part job on the weekend or evenings would give u some time away from home and make u kind of miss it. I feel way better when I’m working it gives me purpose something of my own. Maybe if u could spend some alone time with ur husband tht would help too, have a date night, get a babysitter, or go visit a friend or spend the day with ur mom. I have worked full-time and I’ve been at home full time but I prefer working 
So much to say, so little time 
Please remember together, what you guys signed up for in life 
A partnership is honoring & serving each other …
Not watching one drown 
Claim back your weekends & know your WORTH 
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Was a single mama for 6 years. I have 3 babies. Girl, get you a sitter for a full day and night. Go and get a massage, nails done, hair done, have a drink, sleep. Do things that help you just relax. Have someone do the housework if able. Have someone cook for your family so you dont have to. Rest your mind.
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Sorry that you are going through that. If you are able to put your toddler in toddler gymnastics where you and her do it together, dance class, anything that she can look forward too. If you trust your husband with child, once he gets home let him know he has her and you leave to do something for yourself, you can do it weekly or every other week. For your husband and yourself, have someone watch the baby one afternoon and have a heart to heart about your needs and wants and find out what his is also. If he willing to change take turns planning weekly dates and if he is not willing maybe it’s time to go to counseling. One advice and something I do is a check with your partner monthly or every quarter. I ask are you happy, ask about goals, ways to improve the marriage, parenting, and make sure we are not just getting comfortable in the marriage. When it come to your child sleeping in her own bed, I have no advice, all mine slept on my bed till 4 and my new born baby is stuck with me or dad right now. Last suggestion if he don’t work the next day, let him sleep with baby girl.
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My ex wouldn’t participate in ANY family activities with us(except eating dinner), that’s why we divorced. Mommy burnout is definitely a thing and to get resentment toward your spouse. I’m not saying get a divorce, I’m sure there’s ways to work on it. I am saying for me it is a lot easier being single and taking care of the kids (and their dad will see them while in town, which he spends more time with them now then when we were together)
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I’d be talking to my spouse or making some spouse changes.
Up and leave your kid with her father one day go out do things he’s her dad now if you don’t trust him to actually watch her. Pay a family member or friend so you can have some time
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I think your husband needs to do some of his share around the house. It should not be completely on you.
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If your child is old enough to be in school and you need something to do during the day find a part-time job or a hobby.
As far as your husband you need to sit down and speak with him and let him know that you are feeling burned out. Tell him don’t ask him tell him that you are going to spend a day alone and he is going to be left there with your daughter. Take the day go get your nails done watch a movie get a meal do something for yourself that you normally would not do.
I was a stay-at-home mom from the time I first had my first born until my third child went to first grade. I get the burnout but you have to take time for yourself.
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What you didn’t talk about was having communication with your husband. You need to start there. Set hard lines. And make them a reality. Say, I need a minute to myself, hand him the kid, and leave.
Free up time for yourself by not doing his laundry or dishes.
It’s a very first thing you need to do is openly communicate with your partner. Set boundaries. Explain yourself. And then move on from there.
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Better ppl realize before they have kids. Mom’s do 80% of the work on a daily basis. Men work for us to enjoy being home 
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Transition her to her room, start by laying beside her until she falls asleep while you read then just read her a story. Don’t try to do all the house work in one day, I followed a Mom blog for a long that gave me a list of quick things to do each day to just keep it manageable. My husband works two jobs so I can homeschool so he can’t help as much as he wants to but I’m his days off he helps me cook and clean the kids rooms. Let your husband know you’re drowning in tasks and need help. The emotional load of a sahm is crazy sometimes and there are no breaks or time off. Do she ever stay with family for the night so you can have some you time?
Do you work outside the home!? If not it’s your job to cook and clean and care for kids. That being said you give him no choice you get dressed and a say I’m leaving for a bit and go get your nails done or something
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I think you’ve got wife burnout tbh. Either force his ass to watch her while you have a day of whatever you want, or have someone else watch her. You need a break, and at this point it’s definitely for mental health reasons. Force your way into a break please you didn’t make this family by yourself so you shouldn’t be running it alone either.
I give my youngest kids (7&8) their tablets and send them to their room then grab a drink and maybe some chocolate and sit down to take a breather. I will usually also watch a little bit of my favorite show. That’s the best thing for you when you get worn out/stressed out do whatever you need to do so you can sit a relax for a min.
Sign your kid up for part time pre-k
My oldest goes for 4 hours a day, 3 days a week
Come 5pm walk out that door when he walks in…go do something for you
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Do even ask just do it
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This too shall pass… 3 yo is an awful age. Look as household duties as your job and the kids go through stages.
He should be helping you, giving you a break. You need to communicate with your partner so he knows you’re tired and need help/break too.
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Get a job, you’ll feel amazing. My daughter was feeling the same. 3 weeks after starting p/t work, she’s blossomed!
Excited to feel normal again, she said lol
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Just leave on his day off and leave her there with him. I have this same problem and now I go on his days off. I go get a mani or go to the becah and sit for a few hours just to clear my head ans get some me time.
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Wash everything you and the kid get dirty clothes and dishes leave his for himself, my husband and I both work full time and have 6 kids. I got tired of feeling like I have no help I started calling him a roomie after hinting I didn’t feel he helped much, so communication is key but when that doesn’t work boycott that sends a clear message. But burned out with only one kid lol I mean they are all different but I’m sorry maybe you need to start teaching your child to help and no they are not too young that kid can help gather dirty towels help get things out the dryer. You should also start a better bed time routine and leave the house for 2 hrs at most to let them bond that’s why she’s attached to you your all she’s around.
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Not sleeping in the same bed as your husband can cause a wall between the two of you. Get your child to sleep in her own room, then take a Saturday for yourself. You just have to do it….think of yourself for once. You cannot pour from an empty cup
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It may seem crazy…but I started getting up at 5 530 before anyone wakes and do yoga…read or anything.enjoy a quiet coffee. Trust me. You feel ready for the day and that way youve put yourself first…then everyone else. Maybe try a mon to fri to do lists so you can dedicate certain hrs to cleaning certain things n schedule time for yourself?
Maybe mention to your husband in a loving way how overwhelmed u are. Strong ppl gotta know when to ask for support. When we doeverythingmen assume were happy doing it. Theyre kinda clueless. Maybe ask him if hed feel comfortable having a chat in thevening about a few small things he could do to behelpful 
If you are a SAHM, upkeep of the house and cooking, laundry, ect is your job while your husband has a job elsewhere. Both have value and come with their own set of challenges. Nothing wrong with needing help with something or needing a break from time to time… He may feel the same. Be specific when you ask for help, as generalized statements won’t get you anywhere.
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All these people saying its your job to cook and clean cuz you’re home. HAHAHAHA she didn’t create that child on her own and that man knew what he was getting into. Raising a child is a team effort, he should be helping or I’d leave.
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People handle this? I thought we all just ended up going crazy and living with it
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if a man thinks that he doesn’t need to help with his children and his home just because he works, then i would leave and do it all on my own. you’re doing it alone anyway. might as well be happy while you do it alone and not being disappointed and let down.
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Take a scheduled appointment every week.
Even if it’s going to the ice cream store and sitting in the parking lot eating it.
And don’t return early……don’t leave late.
Hell, just sign up for a class and never go. Just go do stuff!
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Find time. Find money. Hire a local trusted/experienced teen/college student to help for an hour or two. A week. Hire a sleep trainer/look up how to sleep train your child. I know people who have looked up this on YouTube or Bought online programs, or hired someone to help their child sleep alone and through the night. It will be worth your sanity and help with intimacy with your spouse. Also when women think their is glory in the endless giving, when actually you’re just tired and depleted it serves no one. Start following a new truth. You are worthy of your independence, help with house chores and raising your child together. If you’re husband works a lot (sounds average but maybe it’s labor intensive) then ask for a cleaner once a month and review your budget for more help. Communication is going to be something you will need in any relationship. Healthy boundaries and expectations is important.
your husband needs to help you, it is actually harder to be a stay at home mom, I was for a while then I started going to work.
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Maybe try sending the laundry out once in awhile and have someone clean and order out. This gives you some time. Find a babysitter for the day and go sit by a beach, lake or under a tree and take in the fresh air ! Treat yourself to a mani pedi or massage so you can relax. If you don’t have the means to do that see if a friend or family member can take the child for the day and have a glass of wine and take a nice long nap.
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You need to tell your husband you’re struggling. Then your focus needs to be on getting your kid to sleep in her own bed. Your marriage needs to be a priority. Your husband likely doesn’t feel like part of a team anymore. Just like you.
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When I had our 4 children my husband worked for farmers, hard labor and all hours so I never expected him to help around the house or do much with kids—although I did try to get him to our kids sports and school events by planning ahead/ letting him know etc—I didn’t work outside of our home till our youngest was about 4 or 5 years old–=-then worked a night shift at a rest home, then a hospita etc. My husband would help out the kids with their dinner while I tried to sleep!
It was tough BUT made some wonderful memories----my husband trying to help the girls to make gravy etc.l It was tough and I used to get so tired but knew that both of us were doing our best and life isn’t always fair or perfect! After 70 years of marriage I look back and have no regrets as I LEARNED and GREW through all of our challenges.
Now I am almost 90 years old , lost my dear husband almost a year ago and am now facing a new challenge of fighting COPD and renal cancer on my pancreas! BUT I am not afraid as I still have my loving GOD and 4 awesome children!
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Have you sat him down and tell him he needs to start helping you? And spending time with his child? If he started spending time with the child then they would want to be around daddy… and as far as the child sleeping alone, I have no advice… my son is 4 and he decided randomly one day last June he wasn’t sleeping in his room and I’m tired of it lol (he has autism and we had made a big move so in hotels he slept with me and decided that’s what was most comfortable for him)
This why I work full time Monday through Friday and have my child in daycare and my oldest in school and an after school program - because they can their friends and play time and I can work to support us and have my weekends with them but I know families all don’t got it like that I’m sorry your man is lazy and doesn’t support you!!! And your kiddo needs to have hobbies do you have family who can take the kiddo out at times so you can have at least a few hours to your self
You need a break. And your husband needs to help. I totally get where you’re coming from. Goodluck to you♥️
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One child that you cannot control? Sounds to me that you are giving in to the demands of that one child. Separate rooms will only drive you both further apart. You need to start being very firm with the child. I know I sound very unsympathetic, but I just cannot see how ONE child can have you do stress out for an entire day(s) . Why don’t the child want to stay with her dad? It’s because he don’t stand for nonsense , maybe, and what she can’t get away with, with you, she can’t with him. You need to organize yourself better throughout the day and start to be stern with that child. Also, ever do often, get some alone time. Sounds as though the child controls your life
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Time to go on strike lol I’m not sure you have seen that movie but it’s a goodie lol schedule some time to yourself even in your just locking yourself in the bathroom or somewhere else to rest and read a book or whatever helps you relax.
Ben their it gets better honestly one they are about 4/5 they start to be really independent for play time ect but they also get braver I miss this age mine are 5/6/9 now 
I miss when they were little I know exactly how you feel but it’s going to fly by once it’s gone it’s gone 
best advice don’t stress about the simple things your house can look lived in for a few years 
enjoy play time with your little let them get dirty out side let them pull their bed apart ti make forts and not stress over blankets everywhere but that being said Walmart sells a sensory buck 20$ and it’s amazing my kids love it and get stuck playing with the stuff that and the Connectix sand kits 
super easy to clean on hard surfaces not carpet though 
… bug kits from dollar store I got the traffic cones and a tricycle for the kids to make obstacle courses 
it’s definitelya big hit ball pit 
lots of busy stuff one of my sons are super easy a bucket of water and race cars lol busy for hours 
not gonna lie for showers for myself I would put baby in pack and play in the bathroom with kids tablet you gotta get that shower for your mental health seriously!!! Next year you can think about early head start that will give you three hours of free time to clean catch up on a nap when you haven’t gotten any sleep go grocery shopping ect ect ect it will get better I promise
It took me a long time to get thru this myself. I wound up getting up earlier than everyone everyday so I could have time to myself. I took that necessary time to do whatever I wanted…even if it was just coffee in peace. I also go on strike when I feel unappreciated…I take care of me and my kid but refuse to do anything for him. He gets the hint when he has no underwear. Sucks sometimes, but all in all, he works 60-70 hr wks and I’m a SAHM…so I suck it up and do what needs to be done. I started working 2 separate jobs p/t too and that helps with some socializing on my part. Most of it is that we don’t realize how isolating it is to be a SAHM until we’re in the midst of it. Make time for yourself no matter what
Bring a stay at home mom is tough. Being a full time entertainment for your child is even tougher. It’s time to look around for a high school girl that lives nearby that you can get to know and sign up for a class. Have the high school girl come in and babysit the child for awhile. She can concentrate on entertaining your little girl and if your class runs late enough, even make a stab at getting her into her own bed till you get home. Maybe even for the night. And if your daughter can do it once, you can offer a reward of some kind for each night she sleeps in her own room. Not a toy or present, but maybe a special breakfast, or play a game with her that you don’t normally play very often. Or read her a story. That might help. I can’t pretend to know how to light a fire under your husband to get help with the housework. Likely that will be your baby. Try to get your daughter involved. She can pick her toys up and help collect laundry to do and help unload the dryer if it isn’t too hot. While you vacuum, she can do a lousy job of dusting. But it’s done and she helped! She can learn to pull the covers up and make her bed. Get your husband to invest in a dishwasher if he hasn’t already. And draft him into taking the trash out. Tell him you’re tired and this full-time cook and bottle-washer thing is getting overwhelming. If you’re going to keep it up, you need a little help.
I would tell my child she has to sleep in her own bed. They have these things like it plays music and cast stars on the wall and helps them fall asleep you and your husband could use a night out alone like once a month get a baby sitter I have 5 childern and we don’t go out every month put there are time we plan a weekend get away as a restart to our hectic life and I’m a stay at home mom so I know the struggle is real I have 2 childern in school one 4 year old one almost 2 and one due in July. So I know the struggle but you have to set boundaries and talk with your husband and plan a family day as well day in park or going to see a kid friendly movie a child needs both parents as long as the other is good to the child but it takes two to make one should take two to raise one best of luck
Please consider my advice. Get a sitter. Sleep, treat yourself out for a meal and do it again. The struggle of real. My husband was in the military so I was alone with the kids for the first 15 years. It’s hard and I feel for you Mama. Just remember, you will miss these days. If you need to reach out I’m always here.
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That’s life. Unhappy with him Leave!!! Loved being a mother never got burned out.
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Time has really changed, When I was a sahm and my husband worked all day I never expected him to come and work. The house was cleaned, dinner was ready and kids were bathed and in bed by 8. My job was running the house his job was making the money.
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You need a new plan hire someone to help you out a friend would be nice to do girls weekend should help you feel better about yourself and allow some one to take the children for a weekend and have a romantic flair with your husband.
I’m feeling this right now. I have two kids and work and just feel soooo burnt out. I never feel good, I’m tired all the time no matter what. I’m also getting more upset lately about personal relationships which isn’t really how I’ve been and I think it’s all because I’m burnt out. And then I feel guilty for not doing more.
Really feel so sorry for you. Imagine having more than one child, working eight hours a day during the week and having the weekend to do all the chores including laundry, grocery shopping, cleaning the house and making meals all week long. Many women do it and don’t complain.
Tell him you need help. Your breaking down mentally and need some sleep and to get out of the house for a couple hours alone even if it’s to do food shopping. Ask him to put her to bed for you. That’s what I do when I’m about to lose it. He works hard but knows I work just as hard w the babies. It wears on your mental I get it lol
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I’m a single mom. No friends no family … let me know what you find out
You need to gain authority of you kid.
You need to have a talk, most of us do, with our husbands about sharing the work load.
Yes, you’re a stay at home mom, but he has two jobs. He has his career and when he comes home his a husband and a dad.
Men forget that just because this is our job, we need the time off.
You can choose days "Weds and thurs: dad days. He gets home and you get to do your own thing. In or out of the house.
Mondays and Tuesdays: your days
Friday-sunday family days.
Believe it or not, our men want to please us. Theyre just a little 
to the take
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Omg only 1 child and a husband to help pay the bills sounds like a laid back life. If you’re unhappy with him, it certainly isn’t any easier being a single mother. You have to quickly learn how to prioritize some Alone time. Child asleep then relax in a bath. Child playing independently or on screen time, read a book or do yoga. Scrolling on your phone and replying to comments is chosen time to yourself. Relax when you can and/or plan an evening class or weeknight grocery trip to have him take care of the child on his own.
Burn out with 1 child?? Lololol!!! Sincerely, Mom of 5
No, seriously. Put that kid in their own bed. Period. Might take a few weeks to do. Have a date night with hubby atleast a couple times a month. Get a sitter for yourself too a few times a month.
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Well, you better get use to it because you have a long road ahead. You’re obviously a stay at home mom and don’t contribute financially so the work you do at home seems fair since he works full time. The fact that your child doesn’t listen to you is a lack in your parenting skills since you’re the one with her most of the time. Maybe she needs daycare or preK a few hours a day so you can be away from her for awhile each day and it may help her with her behavior issues as well being around other kids and rules. Maybe you need to get a job to help out financially then agree with your husband to split the childcare and chores 50/50. 
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Oh gosh I have 3 kids 2 of em are toddlers I can’t keep up anymore 
having to do 6 peoples dirty laundry, cook clean the house ,iron the washing my husband works hard everyday even weekends we barely spend time together, I never look good I’m always a mess, my teenager helps now and again but I feel bad coz his still also my kid I should care for him , my todds are so busy and demanding its just hectic to clean up after them I’m soooo burnt-out on a daily basis I suffer from migraines too I’m tense and stressed all the time, so I know what this feels like
Put your child in daycare couple days a week
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5 teenagers or 5 toddlers il have the 5 toddlers thankyou Lmao
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My husband goes to work and busts his ass 10+ hours a day while I have the privilege of staying home. Am I expected to go to work with him and hold his hand and help him get his work done? No. So why would I expect him to do that for me when my job (SAHM) is at least 5 times less stressful and strenuous? 
You have 14 more years to go.
That’s not a mommy burnout. That’s a lazy ass husband burnout. Tell him to shape up or gtfo.
Ask someone you can trust 
for a break
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I’m surprised you held out as long as you did.
For one dad needs to start being a parent , at least a few times a week taking her to the park when he gets home or doing any sort of activity that doesn’t involve technology.
That will help getting some time to yourself .
Another thing that would help is just getting away to spend time alone, and doing something you enjoy doing alone or with friends.
Find a trusted sitter to watch the kids once a week and go on a date with hubby .
And when the kid goes to bed , do something you enjoy and de-stress, bubble bath , binge watching a show , crotcheting , video games.
You are your own person, stay at home mom or not , you deserve time to yourself .
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Go do something for yourself let him watch the kids for a few hours. He is their other parent.
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Yup. Ive been doing that plus my usual 8 hour to 12 hour shift of work from home. You need to find help from someone. It drove me insane, literally to the point I became depress, high anxiety, hair falling out, bad health. Worse part, even when I was sick with a heat stroke, not one person, husband or child, check to see if I was even alive. Im telling you, dont get to that point. Get a nanny if you can afford it. If not, start speaking to him about leaving him if he can’t help out. You need to realize sooner or later you dont have to do this. This is torture. Let him know you’ll leave, then send him the child support bill. Help out or get out. Your service is not free of charge. Your worth so much more than you give yourself credit for.
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Get a babysitter and start going out. Since your good for nothing spouse is useless.
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It takes 2 to tango.
He needs to step up and be a father not just a provider. 8 hours a day whooppy Doo what about the other 16 hours of the day…
He will soon learn his kid wants nothing to do with him because by the sounds of it he doesn’t have a relationship with her.
You birthed 1 child why are you raising two.
Also remind him you can go get a job and he can stay home and raise the child if he doesn’t like that idea then why is solely up to you.
It’s not the 1920’s anymore men can help in the house too you have a full-time job with your child when do you get to clock off.
My husband works 12- 16 hour days (farmer) and still has time for his 5 kids still takes them to sports on the weekend and training… still makes time for them on his days off even if it’s a board game or movies at home. Don’t settle for a man child’s excuses tell him to make an effort for his kid.
You need you time Mumma you need to before you crack or end up with depression or worse.
Your child acts out on you not because the child is bad or intentionally trying to drive you mad the child only has you for everything and is comfortable enough letting said big emotions out. Hold your child tighter tonight many parents wish they could hold their child just 1 more time.
You’ll end up resenting him if you don’t speak up now, you should be able to have an honest open discussion about how you feel. You deserve to be heard. You’re worth more than what you are getting.
Good luck I hope you know you are loved and wanted. Your child will be forever greatful.
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Changing his ways depends on how old he is. School’s are a mum’s best friend and preschool at 4+ I think gives u several hours free in the meantime.
Just leave the child with him one night or day and head out and have some time alone. U are entitled to it
Why doesn’t ur child listen,if u say something to her or him make sure u follow through,even if the kid cry’s ,Your the parent,U teach them what they need to know,
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He doesn’t spend any time with his child? that’s really not good for his child. He should be spending time with them on his days off. Anything he would like to do, zoo, park, roller skating, anything. Put the child in daycare a few days or mornings per week and make yourself a schedule so that you can get things done and not be overwhelmed. Gotta get them to sleep in their own bed, otherwise you’ll never feel rested. Good luck Momma!
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Tell him you are going to start working an opposite shift of his and he is going to have to watch her while you work so he needs to get into practice now so he can learn her route. While he is learning the routine, take your break then once you find a job maybe work a couple weeks and then get a sitter.
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Suck it up Buttercup. Leave child with Dad for few hours on weekend. Or evening time during week. He will be fine
Your husband needs to help out more.
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This is so rude! My husband an I have a blended family of 5 kids. he has never come home and not helped me out with them even when we had 4 under 5. Your husband sounds like a selfish p***k. You and baby are probably better off without!
from what i was reading - how old is your daughter ? if around a year old - what i ha done was with my 3- kids was - okay when they where younger i did spoil them ,but once they got to the age of 6 months old i stopped spoiling them and if they cried so be it - why cause half of the time they want just to have attention -if she doesn’t stop crying after 10 minutes - that’s when i would check on her , also what u could do is make sure that before all this is done make sure she has been fed / diaper changed / no wet clothing on her / and than just leave her in her playpen where she can see u , she will get used to this over time and hopefully won’t cry as much- another thing is have a serious talk with your husband that he helps u out on the weekends with the house work ! and if that doesn’t work just say to him honey we both wanted this baby - so u also have to do your part in taking care of our daughter , i can’t do this all by myself - i do need breaks too -plus not only that honey i am not your slave ,but i will take care of our daughter no matter what !honey remember this before the baby was born u where my pride and joy u came first - now that we both have a baby -our daughter comes first even before myself ! so please -please help me ot here i do need breaks too! now if he comes ot and says well whom brings home the money for food on or table and food for the baby -i do- u say yes i know this but i do need a break sometime too!