How do you handle your bad moods when you are trying to raise kids but cannot handle your emotions?
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Learn and practise emotional regulation.
Its not y0ur kids fault and if a grown adult cant modify and regulate themselves how the hell do you expect to ever teach or model to your kids how to?
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Google emotional regulation techniques for adults. Its a lot of learning and growing as a person and stems from your own childhood development. Great thing is though, that as adults with a bit of insight and being able to recognising your own emotions and thoughts you can disrupt unhealthy habits and coping mechanisms and learn new ones 
I have a theory that when it comes to emotions…the more you try to ignore them, shove them down, and don’t acknowledge them the more likely they are to come out in unhealthy ways.
So…I’m honest with my kids in age appropriate ways rather than hiding it from them. It helps me a lot. I’m a lot less angry/agitated and don’t take my bad moods out on them.
It also gives me a chance to show them some ways to help get out of bad moods: sometimes we snuggle and watch TV together. Sometimes I’ll sit and crochet or read. Sometimes I’ll blast some music and clean/organize or pull out the treadmill and go for a walk (do something physical)
I feel like it actually helps them with their emotions.
Sometimes I still get a bit snappy…
But I’m able to go back, explain where my mind/emotions were, apologize and let them know that wasn’t ok. it’s a work in progress but that’s ok.