How does anyone handle lying with their kids? My son is 9 and he seriously lies about everything… The DUMBEST things I try and be so open and have conversations. Have everything be open to where he doesn’t feel like he’s in trouble… But at this point I’m at a loss. I’m now taking away electronics and I don’t even think that will do anything.
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We have a camera in our living room. It cuts back on some lying since we can just go back and review the footage. If anyone has any other ideas I’m all for it.
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My parents would make me stick out my tongue they said it would turn black if I lied I tottaly believed them. So evey time I wasn’t lying I did and when I was I would get all defensive and say no hahaha.
Why is he lying? To get out of trouble? Imagination? To pretend he can relate to people better?
If it’s not to avoid trouble, indulge the lying. Ask him more questions about the lie, as if you believe him. A friend gave me this tip with my nephew and it worked like a charm.
My parents with anything doesn’t matter what it was, lying, swearing etc. they used soap or hot sauce.
I discipline for lying separately than whatever they’re lying about. Rn it’s losing the computer for 1 full day. Like my son is 8, cut a couple pieces off his hair and lied. Idk why. I asked and told him you’re not in trouble but if you really didn’t do it I’ll have to talk to your teacher so she can figure out this playing with scissors. Ended up finding the hair under his dresser that he cut lol. I told him he was not in trouble for cutting his hair but he was in trouble for lying and he lost his computer for a day. Same thing with my 14 yr old.
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Growing up I lied a lot for no reason. It was like my imagination got the best of me and I would say everything I thought and would be too embarrassed to take something back even though I knew it was a lie. Which is really ironic because not that I’m a lot older lol I can’t even tell little lies. But anyways maybe his thoughts are just getting the best of him and he’s saying everything he thinks even though it’s not true and just doesn’t want to go back on it because he’s embarrassed
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Prayers for your family AMENE
I like to make the punishment fit the “crime” - so it does depend on what the lying is in regards to. But I have put a bar of soap in my daughter’s mouth for lying. She rarely lies and when she does, it’s over silly things she wouldn’t have even gotten in trouble for. We’ve had many talks and I always praise her when she’s honest and let her know bc of her honesty, she won’t be punished. But when caught in a lie, we still discuss it and go over what would have happened had she told the truth and now what the punishment is for lying. I think Soap in the mouth for 60 seconds vs a day of no screen time has been more effective than just taking away privileges. Every kid responds differently tho.