Ok, mamas, I need help with a couple of things. First, how do you keep up on house work? Laundry is my biggest battle. And second, my three years is new to potty training and is doing great. He has no pee accidents but still has poop accidents. I don’t know if I would call them accidents because he knows when he is pooping. And he wakes up dry every morning. Just need a little advice because my older two never had poop accidents only pee accidents. So it’s a new game for me this time around.
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For laundry when i shower i like to just put clothes directly in the washer. I dont always do it lol. But it helps not have it everywhere like on floors etc.
The only way to keep up with laundry is to always be doing laundry. I’ve only managed it for 1 or 2 weeks consistently in my entire life. It’s exhausting.
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I have found that if you ONLY do one load of laundry a day. And unless I get one folded and put away I’ll do another load. But I have to limit myself. Or else it becomes too overwhelming. Good luck!
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I’ve been a mother for 19 years and if you can figure out how to keep the house up and keep the kids healthy and happy and spend time with them you’re going to be a very wealthy woman because I’ve never met anyone who can do it 100% of the time.
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Just do everything everyday. I make sure whatever dirty clothes get taken off go straight into the washing machine, dishes get done of a morning and night, I vaccum before I go to work and vaccum after myself and the kids come home of an afternoon, i mop the floors every 3 or 4 days depends on how dirty. I get massive anxiety when my house isn’t clean, it makes me feel sick. This Is how I do it hope this helps 
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Although I have washer and dryer at home once a week (mostly Sundays) I load all dirty clothes in my car and I go to the laundromat. In 3 hours I wash, dry and fold everything (family of 6). I would probably go mad trying to do laundry at home
Maby reward him when he poops I know it sounds funny but I’ve potty trained 5 kids and my youngest daughter was 15 months old fully trained. Find something he really likes, I used mini m&ms each time they went pee or poop, and that would make them want to try every hour:smile:
but you could use something healthier if you choose.
I, too, put clothes directly into the washer and usually run at least a load everyday. The only clothes I put aside are whites so that they don’t get stained. Same with Dishwasher. I usually empty it out in the mornings and load throughout the day. And if you don’t have one then I guess just have your sink full of soapy water.
My kids have a pretty early bedtime at 6 pm (which is not easy to keep up) and when I know they’re down for sure that’s when I fix the living room/ kitchen area.
For laundry I am up usually at 5.30 to 6am every morning. Load on and hung out or in dryer before anyone else in the house gets up. As soon as one loads dry the next is ready and waiting to go in. Once the baskets full i fold it all and put it all away this is with a newborn and a 4year old plus 2 teenagers aged 16 and 14. Once there at school and my newborn is down again I clean the house always starting with the kitchen first, bedrooms then the lounge everything is done by 11am if not earlier. When my daughter was toilet training every shitty or pissy undies would get thrown straight into a bucket to soak. Then I would throw them in with my loads to wash. Once the kids are home. They chill make mess game and what not. Dinner dishes are always done by the older two and they know this is a nightly routine. Don’t get me wrong I do have days where I do absolutely nothing and let the house go !! But after a day im usually running around cleaning and picking stuff up cos I cant stand mess lol
I have to wear a certain color scrubs and I only have two pair so I’m forced to wash them every couple of days, so I’ll wash all my other clothes with them (most just sweats and T-shirt’s 
) and then my fiancé’s clothes are filthy from work so his clothes all get washed together a few times a week… and then my kids have a million clothes so I’ll do theirs like once every week/2 weeks… towels only get done when needed…
I can wash and dry clothes all day long, but folding is a whole other job 
that gets done never.
On the pooping, try not to get upset with him. It is a boy thing both mine did it. One day it just clicks. I would say things like “oh man you missed the potty, let’s try to make it next time” it is hard and the laundry from that alone is horrible but he won’t do it forever!!
Dishes get done every night before bed…house gets swept, mopped, and toys picked up once every two to three days…laundry is done once every three days…put up day after do it. On top of that I clean a catbox every other day ,have an old dog that needs a bath every three days due to a skin condition, and clean a bird cage once a week and a turtle tank once a month. Every now and then I just take a day to myself and do nothing. Throw a frozen meal in the oven for dinner and just take a me day. Does the house stay perfect? Nope. You will run yourself ragged if try to keep it perfect with kids…especially even having one toddler in the house. Do what you can and take a chill day when possible so don’t break your back and lose your mind. I have a clean house for maybe two days before it looks like a toy burglary happened and gets dumpy again. Oh well. Lol.
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Keep up? As in daily? Not going to happen lol as soon as i think all the laundry is done nope found more… I only find time for dishes as the kids nap and as for the rest it’s easier when kids go to bed i have a 2 year old that runs behind me dragging stuff out that i just put away so i gave up i have 4 kids total it’s not easy
Potty training wasn’t bad for my two oldest once they had a accident on thier self they didn’t like it so didn’t do it again also try character undies tell them not to pee or poop on elmo or whoever is on them worked for me anyways
As far as house being perfect forget it as long as you don’t have roaches or food all over the floor and walls ect I’d say your doing great you have kids people shouldn’t expect spotless all the time as long it’s it’s not nasty it’s fine
Cleaning wash in morning and night. Try too fold each day. Than try clean two room at a time. Like Tuesday and Thursday
I invested in a dryer. I put all my washing on at night and in dryer so dry for morning to be put away, I do sheets most days and towels every night and clothing for 2 adults and soon to be 3 young kids (3 under 4) I find that putting it on and as soon as it’s done to transfer to dryer and then fold and away the same day makes life easier. I am abit nuts though, my only advice is to get a dryer 
The only way to keep up with washing is to literally wash dry and fold every day. I’ve never been able to do this though
Every time the laundry is 1/2 full i put it in the wash and do it. It’s easy to keep up on as long as you dont let it stock up. As for house work I clean as I go. I dont let things pile up. When my children are independently playing I do a chore. I also have my 19 month old help he knows how to pick up his toys and books. When he needs to be changed I tell him to take his diaper off and throw it in the garbage. He does this I then tell him to get a new diaper and bring it to me. He loves helping. Your 3 yr old can do chores as well. You can look up age appropriate chores for a 3 yr old. Children love to help. When you wash dishes put a chair next to you and have him rinse the dishes. I’m sure he can do it and will love to help you.
Embrace the mess! Yes, clean, but you will never be on top of it with kids. When you finally are, they will be grown. So let the dishes sit until after the kids are in bed, and go play with toys and read them a story while they are little. It goes fast.
I don’t.
Mother hood + severe depression + fibromyalgia= my house is always clean-ISH, but never spotless. 
The oldest kid (9) helps every now and then, but otherwise, I do what I can when I can.
Everybody needs to help, not just you. When my kids were too little to help I’d put one load in in the am when I woke up, switch it before I went to work, switch again when I got home, run a load overnight. Delay start kept wet clothes from sitting too long.
Fold or hang nicer stuff that wrinkles when you take it out of the dryer, everything else you and your partner can fold while watching TV after the kids go to bed. I often fold stuff as I get it out of the dryer, putting it in piles as to where it goes. Then put the folded piles in a basket to be carried around and distributed (kitchen, linen closet, bedrooms). Who cares if the kids clothes are wrinkled since they’re just going to mess them up again almost immediately. And who cares if your casual clothes are wrinkly. You can hang them in the shower to get some wrinkles out.
Have easy put away systems. Open shelves, labeled big drawers, boxes or bins for socks, underwear, tops, bottoms. Put pictures on the front so as soon as your child is old enough he can plop the clean clothes in the right boxes himself. I have a supply of hangers and a rod in the laundry area where I can hang stuff right out of the dryer. You can even leave it there vs putting it away.
Put those basketball hoops that fit over laundry baskets if there’s trouble getting dirty clothes picked up.
Thankfully poop is biodegradable and comes out pretty well in the wash. Your child will figure potty training eventually. Boys sometimes have a tougher time but get there before they’re five. Don’t stress too much, just figure it won’t last more than two more years and focus on life after that. Put him on the pot every 2 hours or if/when he shows signs of having to poo when you’re at home, and delegate half those times to your man.
I helped out a woman who had a giant backlog of dirty clothes. Packed the car several times and ran simultaneous loads for hours at a laundromat over several days to get her caught up. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends and family, though I’d give them the money and detergent for the commercial washers and dryers.
Even now my kids are grown & flown, there’s still ALWAYS another load of laundry and another load of dishes. I’m just grateful there are machines that do it & we don’t have to cart our laundry to the river & beat it against the rocks.
Sending love and luck to you. The toddler years are exhausting.
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Every morning I wake up typically a half hour before her. Start breakfast. Get her. Diaper Change. Feed. While she’s eating I vacuum first floor. She seems to enjoy watching lol. After she runs to play room for independent play while I mop. Then we play together. Then go out to lunch daily for our alone time. Errands if we have some. Then come back. Change. Nap. While she naps I work or clean/wiping stuff all down. Get laundry going. She wakes up. Change. Rotate laundry. Vacuum upstairs while she gets screen time in our room in our bed so she’s close lol. Then we play together for a few hours till husband texts he’s on his way. She’s got a play kitchen in our kitchen so she plays with that while I cook. Eat. She plays with dad and I do some work or play with them till bedtime. We make a snack and all watch a movie. Go upstairs. Change. Bed. Clean back up.
It’s a busy day but after so long you do the “chores” quicker and less to clean because stuff stays done. And I just can’t have mess.
My laundry days are typically on Saturdays and if I have more than 4 loads a week usually Wednesday as well, wash, dry, fold put away. I do my deep cleaning on Saturdays as well and vacuum every morning dishes every evening, hand wash (no dishwasher) I have 3 kids 10, 8, and 2 I homeschool the 2 oldest and stay in a good routine to keep up with everything.
I have learned to just embrace the chaos of being a mother and just do what I can.
A clean house is a must for me. My routine is pretty easy and I don’t feel overwhelmed by keeping the house up if I stick to it!
Morning-
• load of laundry goes in
• clean toilet, bathroom counters, empty trash, sweep before my shower
• 10-12 one on one time with my toddler. Afterwards, I’ll vacuum super quickly and wipe down all the tables/shelves before I make lunch.
Afternoon-
• put laundry in the dryer, make lunch
• sweep and clean kitchen while lunch is cooking
• we eat, wash dishes after lunch (not dinner)
Nap time
- fold the laundry or just spend this time relaxing!
Evening- nothing left to do and I just relax🤷🏼♀️
Repeat daily hehe
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Also the 
issue is normal and I’d recommend putting them on the potty even in underwear when pooping to get comfortable!
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It takes some kids longer get pooped potty trained. I raise my granddaughter and it took her while get pooped potty trained. Just be patience remind him when he goes poop in potty he gets a treat. Take tablet in bathroom when he thinks got go poop set on counter let him watch his favorite thing while he tries to poop. If he does praze him and treat.
Laundry I try colors right in washer soon gets dirty so see its full I start it. Whites and towels I throw in basket wash them when I notice its lot. Sometimes I do laundry daily or every other day. Dishes I wash up constantly I don’t like to see alot dirty dishes in stink.wipe down everything in kitchen after every meal.
Literally just gone through this with my son. He would use the toilet to wee …but when he wanted to poop he would ask for a nappy on. Then one day he just did it!! When his sister would go for a poop we would cheer her!! And he would clap for her aswel…then one day he just did it!! And after that tried for one everytime hahaha …and washing clothes I never seem to get on top of it …I maybe on top of it for like 1 day 2 max lol x
I’m a mom of 6 and a family of 8 laundry 
is the worst in this house but don’t be hard on yourself set a schedule for your laundry like towels I was Tuesday night and again Friday or Saturday our kid’s are old enough to help tho oldest is 11 youngest is 6
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I’d say for cleaning a chart is helpful for the “deep clean” items (like dusting, cleaning bathtubs, mopping/vacuum whole house) in my opinion these things don’t need done every day. I do a load of laundry every day, even if it’s just a small load and that helps keep clothes from piling up. Dishes are easiest if you load dishwasher throughout the day. I try to get my kids to keep their own rooms picked up of dirty clothes and toys and every 6 months or so I go through their toys and rehome things we don’t use anymore. Same with clothes. The less stuff you have overall the easier it is to keep clean.
There’s a YouTube channel called “The Minimalist Mom” and I really like what she’s done to de-clutter her home and keep up with housework for a family of 6 and I am going to start doing what she does but alter some things to match better with me needs, I’d highly recommend checking out some of her videos.
I incorporate 1-2 loads of laundry into my schedule each day. I get up at 5, I do chores, I run, I start a load with my running clothes, I shower, and by the time I’m dressed and ready, the laundry is ready for the dryer. Next time I’m near the dryer is nap time, so I take it out, fold and put away, then go downstairs for… breakfast… brunch?? Idk. I clean the kitchen every morning after my shower, and do dishes after I cook dinner. I used to clean the main floor regularly when we had people coming to the house for appointments every week, and would try to clean each if the other floors of the house on alternate weeks, but with work and then the baby I said screw it and hired someone to come in every other week. Now I just focus on the main floor. I dust mop/vacuum a couple times a week. I probably should invest in a robot vacuum, tbh. Then I’d just have to wipe down the kitchen/dining area, clean the coffee table, and wipe the powder room like 1-2 times a week to keep a presentable main floor. I pick up toys 2x a day (most days) before nap, and before bed (every day). I straighten up as I go. I hold everyone responsible for picking up after themselves – from age 2 to almost 40 (the 70 year old picks up after himself without being asked, lol). It’s just a matter of making sure you have the time to chase after the other people in he house, and keep the rest in your routine. Some people stay up until 11pm cleaning up and putting away. Some get up at 5am. Some set aside an hour after work. Some tag team with their partners and each take a week of handling all the cleaning. Some have a chore wheel, or a list of which days of the month they plan to clean which part of the house. You have to incorporate it into your daily schedule though, and always make sure you have a place for your stuff, and put that stuff into its place, or don’t put it down! Potty training…? Sounds like kid is on the right path, just ask often if he needs to poo… maybe make him help clean his undies off if he refuses to stop playing and go poo in the potty. He will get the hang of it soon.
Just clean and do laundry everyday that way it never gets really messy.
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I put a load in the washer every morning before I go downstairs. I switch it the next time I come upstairs. Putting the clean laundry away is a whole different story lol
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I have 5yo twin boys. Attack a corner at a time. Also embrace mop sweep mop.
I think you were just plain lucky with your first two!!
I’m a stay at home mom with 4 kids. Luckily 3 are in school, so I have some days when I’m only with the 2 year old. I get most of the house work done on those days. But don’t listen to me bc I had to take break from responding to this post to clean poop out of the bathtub 
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I am a mom to 5.
We do one load of washing per day… Clothes are put straight in there and turned on in a morning.
Dishwasher loaded and turned on each night. Empty in the morning.
Tidy up toys on a evening.
Clean Vacuum etc in a morning.
I work 40 plus a week if I don’t work over I clean house spotless two times a week and one day on weekend laundry I switch it everyday aleasg one load in washer one load in dryer and potty training either try a reward like candy or small toy or set them on toilet like every hour or ask them if they have to poop I have 4 kids
- Make it a family affair. For our home, if I cook, my husband does dishes & cleans the kitchen(sometimes we do it together if the kids allow it🥴). Hubby is a night owl so he does some cleaning when we are asleep.
- We have a robot vacuum that also mops so we let it run as needed.
- Hire someone to help out once a week if possible.
- My 2 toddlers love to pack their toys away. Only 1 toy per child is allowed in the living room. The rest stays in their playroom.
Laundry I do 1-3 times a week. I TRY to put them away before doing laundry again. My almost 4-year-old loves folding her clothes now so she helps if she wants to. My expectation of everything being done all the time is LOW. There are days I do nothing but keep the kids clean and fed, and I’m totally ok with that. No advice about it, my girl had one poop accident at 2+ and she was so disgusted by it she always ran to us before.