How do you know when it’s your last baby? So I have 3 kids with one on the way. I just turned 35. Like I want to be done but also I don’t. No judgement plz just some advice. (Not to add I have c sections due to failure to progress, this will be my 4th but I also have zero complications during them).
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That’s a hard decision. In a way easy for me to do a tubal had a son, then a daughter but last pregnancy was so high risk I said ok have boy and girl I’m good. I’m not as much help mine was also based my body wouldn’t handle another pregnancy
I’ve also had four sections. I knew I was dome when I asked them to check my tubes and my window and was told everything inside is fine, but my uterine window was really thin and that if I chose to have another child, I would be considered extremely high risk. I would have to stay on strict bed rest and that I may not be able to carry to term without complications.
You just know in your mind and heart. I turned 35 too 10 days after I had my babygirl. I just had my 3rd. 2 boys and now have my babygirl. I feel complete. If I won the lotto, then I would have a 4th 
all of my babies c section too. The last one was fantastic highly recommend my OBGYN and hospital in Dallas tx.
When the thought of one more literally made me shudder…
My 3rd was alot more full on than the other 2 and I had had 3 in 3 years. I was physically and mentally exhausted.
I don’t really think you ever get the I’m done feeling,I’m 72 and I wish I had had more kids,I had 2,due to complications couldn’t have any more,.I had friends/family that had multiple kids,when that last baby turned 2or 3 the wanting started up.You have to decide that’s it and stick to it,its hard ,the idea will always be there
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I thought I was done after 5 kids but 8 yrs later here comes number 6 and she’s due in October and I’m 38 I know I’m done by the way body is during this pregnancy I know it’s time to be done I don’t think I could do it again in my 40’s
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I have four kids, and have had 3 miscarriages. I came to the conclusion that I was done having children after having my last one. My 3 oldest are very easy going teens now, and have been since birth with easy pregnancies for them. My last pregnancy was my absolute worst. Iwas sick for 7 and a 1/2 months And labor and delivery was an absolute pain. My son is now 5 and a 1/2 And we are now starting to deal with bad behaviors. I made the conscientious choice to not have any more children as I know, I have my hands full with my youngest and want to provide him with the best life possible.
I knew with my third baby that she would be my last. There were 8 yrs between the second one and the third one.
Had 1 then got pregnant 2 other times an couldn’t have them due to health problems an said nah I’m getting my tubes out
I had wanted more than one. But God only gave me one daughter. I never used birth control.
I’ve had one and I know for a fact I’m done . I had complications though but my mind and body basically told me no more lol . Just the thought of another one brings me too a complete panic attack.
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I stopped after my second son. My boys are 2 years apart and that was enough for me. Didn’t think I had the energy, patience or money for anymore than 2, so I got my tubes tied right after I gave birth to my second son. I now have 2 incredible grandsons 
Mother nature decided. My son (26 in 9 days), was a total unplanned shock. Loooooning story but such an incredible gift God gave me that I didn’t know I needed. Never again did I ever get pregnant even though at one point I was actively trying so that my son (with autism) would have a sibling. He definitely was meant to be mine and is the sweetest gentle giant in the world.
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Over the age of 35 your chance of having twins increases. Just a little information that was never shared with me…until I had twins at 39…
When they say “you’ll know when you’re done.” I think it’s true. I am pregnant with number four now due in October and I know I’m done. I honestly think this is the family/kids I was meant to have and I feel done. I don’t want any more I have two boys and two girls and I truly couldn’t imagine having more…
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This will be the last, it took almost 8 years to get pregnant again…my oldest are 15 and almost 14, "non bio kiddos 11 and almost 9.
When we conceived twins naturally! After that, we both got fixed! Not chancing that again! 3 is enough for us!
After I had twins I asked the dr to donate my uterus to somebody who couldn’t have kids because it worked great I was 25 she said your too young and beautiful. No issues until the end when I had pre-eclampsia oh throwing up until 6 months. But easy pregnancy. Well 6 years later after I got rid of everything baby related I got pregnant with my youngest I was 33 my body said no more migraines kidney stones severe pain I was like never again. He’s 8 now and still nobody will take my uterus out.
When you still think about it … You aren’t done. I just had baby number 3 6 months ago and the thought of him having a brother close in age makes me consider it despite the pain and recovery I have a wonderful partner that helps every step of the way . Although I can’t guarantee it… we still consider it .My husband and I spoke about surgery after this child and then we decided to wait it out since we are under 35. We didn’t want to regret it . We will see what our future holds and leave it in gods hands . Honestly , It’s a hard and personal choice because it will be permanent.
Ps you shouldn’t care what anyone says . If you have the money and time to raise multiple kids that’s between you and your partner not anyone else . If they aren’t taking care of your kids or feeding them who the hell cares.
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For me, it was the fact that people will babysit one but not two so I’ve not had any me time in 3 years and I think for some people for your own mental health you need a break, I also find it alot harder with two so now my youngest is starting nursery I am looking forward to 2 days a week for me.
You just know. I knew and don’t regret getting my tubes done at all. I love having older kids.
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Well I was told I could never have kids when I was 16 due to medical complications when I was younger. So I accepted I was never having kids. At 19 I married someone who didn’t want kids. At 20 I found out I was pregnant. I was a high risk pregnancy due to my existing medical complications. I had never felt better than when I was pregnant. Even considered having more kids…but when the 8th month came, something just clicked inside me that said I was content with having just the one. I had a C-section and asked the doctor to tie my tubes and I was told no because
- I didn’t have more then 3 kids
- I wasn’t at least 40 yrs old
- I hadn’t been married at least 10 yrs to the same person
- I didn’t have my husband’s written consent.
I’m 32 and I haven’t had any more kids. I still have the option, but I’m content with my son and how our life (just him and I) has worked out. I just felt at peace. I didn’t feel like something/someone was missing from my life.
I knew after my four DAUGHTER I was done but I now regret having my tubes done because I never got the chance to have a son but my oldest is sixteen my youngest is 3 years old all girls u just know when ur done
I have 3, my youngest is 10 months and I’m already so sad and feeling like I need just one more.
Hun if you want to stop having kids
Do it
It sounds like you already have your hands full
I have 4 and thought I was done. But it makes me cry to think my last is my last. I don’t feel complete or my family complete. We plan on having one more in a couple years. The number 5 sits right with me. My family is also blended. The first 2 are from exs, my other two from my husband, and he adopted my second child (my oldest Dad is active in her life). I’ve always wanted a big family and have an amazing husband who loves our children and is supportive of another.
I wanted a girl. Got my girl. Done
That’s an awful lot of scar tissue if you’ve had 4 sections. I’ve had 2 and have been told a 3rd section could cause my uterus to burst… that stopped me from more…
I never had this choice or option but I am so happy I was blessed with one. She is amazing and makes my heart full. If I could have had more when I was younger I would have had 2 kids
Your body and mind will tell you that you are done. I was done after 2 but then my boyfriend and I talked and we wanted 1 more so now I have 3 kids and after she was born I knew I was done. I couldn’t handle any more than 3 and my body also knew I couldn’t handle being pregnant again. If you believe you want more and believe you can do it, then go for it! If you know in your heart and your body that you are done, then be done. I got my tube’s removed so I know I can’t have anymore. 
My 3rd I was 30. Knew second I got pregnant that’s it. I don’t want to be responsible for another baby/toddler after my last and I knew it so I’m fixed
I just had my 3th in May my 1st C-section after 3 all natural unmedicated births, 1st girl after 2 boys. Ages 6 (7in Nov), 2(3 in Nov), 1 (2 in Feb) and 3 months. She came emergency C-section due to arriving at hospital fully dilated attempting not to push and she was breech coming out butt first toes to nose. I 100% don’t want any more babies. I’ve had some sort of complications each time…my oldest I hemorrhaged quite bad, my 2nd I had a miscarriage and ruptured ectopic that I lost my left tube with and nearly died from (Dr didn’t even know if he was going to be able to save me) within a 4 months period before finally conceiving him, they had to break my waters with him even though I was dilating along fine it was blocking him from coming out, my 3rd the waters were in front of him again needing broke, then the C-section this time. I don’t think my body could handle another pregnancy especially with last 3 only having 15 months between each birth.
You unequivocally just know and be certain.
There are many reasons you can choose to be done from space available in the home, finances, age, difficulty in pregnancy and delivery, medical advice but knowing is just knowing and I don’t think you can explain how you know.
Idk how to explain it, I just knew. I was 29 and stopped after baby 3.
After my last baby (I have 2 boys) I just sort of decided. I’m 34. I want to enjoy life with my husband when my boys are grown and on to do other things.
My last one was hard and my body barely made it. So there’s that.
But more importantly, I feel content with my two healthy happy boys.
I always wanted 3… 2 girls and a boy thats exactly what I wanted…I never liked being pregnant so when baby #3 came I never once hesitate to get my tubes tied…I am 43 now all kids are over 18 and you couldn’t pay me enough to start all-over again.
Felt the same. It’s you hormones. Once baby is here wait about 6 months and then ask yourself if you want another. Felt the same until my twins hit about 4 months and knew no more