How do you ladies make friends?

After having my daughter at a fairly young age and going to school (getting my degree/ teaching certification) I found myself having no social life. I lost all my friends as I had no time with work, being a mother, etc. Now that I have my career and my daughter is 7 years old I find myself with more time but with no friends. I feel so lonely and wish I had at least one friend that I can reach out or hang out
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. How do you ladies make friends?

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I would love to be your friend!!reach out to me

make a tinder haha
maybe youll find someone to ā€œbe more than friends tooā€

Local mom pages. Some do meet ups. Volunteering is a good way to meet pplā€¦and of course, this page. All us overly judgy crazy mommas got you. :blue_heart:

I know exactly how you feel!!! I have no social life either. Work, kids, boyfriend. Thatā€™s all. :pensive:

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I feel youšŸ„ŗ I have no friends either except my grown children

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I feel ya! Until recently i really didnā€™t have many friends. Im a single mom n work full time. Reach out to me if you like.

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Iā€™m always looking for people to chat with! You can reach out to me.

I feel you same here I literally have no friends :worried: No social life :confused:

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I know this feeling all to well

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I feel the same here. I have no friends.

Probably better off without any. People these days just donā€™t have good intentions. But maybe local mom groups, or childrenā€™s play places like get air, chucky cheese, etc.

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See if you have a ā€œMoms Clubā€ in your area itā€™s a nonprofit organization. The one where Iā€™m from is super fun

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Maybe set up some play dates with your daughter friendsā€¦you may click with some of the Mums?
If you like sports you could join a netball team?
Good on your for putting up this post.x

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I have good friends and then the users. Join something you enjoy doing. That is how I have made friends and I have moved several times.

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LISTEN UP ALL YOU LONELY PEOPLE! :smiley:

For meeting people who live near you;
Get to know your neighbors and join stuff you like.

Offer cookies with your name & contact info to neighbors to say hi. Tell them youā€™re finally out from under being swamped and want to be more sociable. Host neighborhood parties: invite a few people at a time to come over & get to know each other, or organize a block party or other neighborhood event & get to meet lots at once. Serve on the board of an HOA or ad hoc committee. Pursue the folks you like for friendship and avoid the ones you donā€™t. :wink: Crash other nearby block parties.:rofl:

Meet others at playgrounds or other kid-friendly places.
Attend services and/or do activities at a religious institution of your choice to find like-minded people. Volunteer for stuff at your kidsā€™ schools, join a book club, a momā€™s play group, whatever. Once you make friends ask them to introduce you to their friends to widen your circle.

Host an easy event and invite your few friends to bring several guests (RSVPing of course). Maybe a pot luck TV viewing party for a sporting event, a Game of Thrones or Downton Abbey type program. Could be a one-time event or serial get-togethers at your place or elsewhere. Get to know the people they bring.

Talk to other parents at your kidsā€™ sports practices and games. Get in contact with the parents of your kidsā€™ friends; send a note with your child to give to their friend to bring to their adults. Meet people at PTA meetings or other school volunteer eventsā€”work a concession stand, do sign-up desks, work a box office and get to know the other volunteers.

Be a volunteer for a local park, historic facility, animal shelter, library, community event, or work for a local cause or political campaign or political party organization to meet people of all ages and walks of life.

Not necessarily local: join an alumni club or group for schools you went to and reconnect with old friends and acquaintances. ā€œXYZ High School Class of (your year and adjacent years)ā€ are great. Or join sites for groups or places you live/lived., like ā€œI grew up in (place name)ā€. Once youā€™re part of groups online ask to private message folks who sound interesting or ask who lives near you. Or find the venues that host fans of your favorite college or professional sports team/s and meet people there during televised games. Look into carpooling sites for things youā€™re going to anyway and get to know your fellow travelers. Maybe suggest going out for coffee/drinks together sometime. Or be a volunteer to drive people who need rides through church, schools or community organizations and meet people that way.

Join online or in person affinity groups for bird watching, crafting, walking, running, word games, Star Trek fans, parenting (like this one), cooking or baking. See if anyone lives near you and wants to get together.

Some dating or other sites have areas for in search of friends. Join ā€œEvents and Adventuresā€ type activity groups and go on outings to things you enjoy (wine tastings, bike rides, visits to museums or historic sites, meet-ups at bars & restaurants, concerts, kayaking etc.). Itā€™s not just for meeting potential dates, but that can be a bonus. Dates where thereā€™s no spark can turn out to be friends who introduce you to other peopleā€¦

Join a bowling league, a softball team, a knitting group or gardening club, a bridge or chess playing group. Volunteer at senior centers & senior home/communities. So many older folks are equally lonely and looking to share love, wisdom, talents and company. Maybe your kids even get bonus grandparents out of the deal! Many retirees are pretty active, but even the bedridden can provide love and emotional support, and many have so many stories to tell about all theyā€™ve seen and doneā€”a living history lesson for you and your children.

Volunteer to teach something: sewing, French, dance, or a talk about whatever is your area of expertise at places where people gather. I volunteered to teach ESL at a friendā€™s church one day a week and had a blast. The other teachers and organizers were so nice and the students were so grateful.

If youā€™re an introvert and have trouble putting yourself out there, gravitate towards extroverts, theyā€™ll usually sweep you up in get-togethers and introduce you to lots of other people.

Find people in this group who live near you. Iā€™ll be your friend in the Northern Virginia/D.C. area! :kissing_heart:

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I agree I have no friends either

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Take a cooking class or art class or some kind of class that youā€™re interested in, thatā€™s a good way to meet people with similar interests as you. Join a book club if your area offers one. See if your city has any fb groups you can join. Itā€™s hard making friends as an adult. It would be nice if theyā€™d make a tinder but for busy moms looking for great friends lol

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Could you not contact one of your old friends and start again with them

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Same here , youā€™re not alone :heart:

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Find a church to worship. Most churches have group that have fellowships several times a month. If you donā€™t know Jesus you can get both at the same time.

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I donā€™t have friends or family my mom still around but donā€™t get to see her much its a lonely life

Wow girl!! YOU did all that!! YOURSELF! Good for you. I hope 2 things for you: may you know that you and your daughter are all you really need, and may you find friendships that are WORTHY of your timešŸ¤—

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I am 89 years old and recently moved to an assisted living facility but my husband died 3 mos after we moved here so I just ask questions of other residents, their past, where they lived, their memories and families and am enjoying a whole, new circle of friends. It can be doneā€”just smile, say Hi. and enjoy others. Good Luck!!

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Itā€™s hard! Just hard to find friends as an adult!!! We are a military fan and move states every 2 yrs. Soā€¦ I have to find friends quick if Iā€™m going to have any!
I walk around the town and just say hi. Iā€™m not shy so talking to strangers is prolly my strength. Talk to ppl at the school. Volunteerā€¦ bc you have another job just offer 2 hrs a week someplace that fulfills you and makes you smile. I was a CASA for years ( more than 2 hrs a week imo). Volunteered at schools for years. They even put me on some important projects that have helped in other avenues. Now itā€™s the museum gift shop in my small town.
Sporting events, band, scouts, after school activities in general will help find folks with similar age children. Oh and festivals nearbyā€¦ the more you get involved in your community ( big or small) the easier it gets. Good luck! You can do it! Itā€™s just more work

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I made friends with some of the moms in my kids schoolā€¦ and now theyā€™re my best friends

I hardly have any friends you can add me lok

Itā€™s so hard to put ourselves out there, I know itā€™s easier said then done. Thereā€™s painting groups that meet. They all learn to paint the same picture and drink wine. Maybe thereā€™s a way to connect with the teachers? My daughter has a hard time making friends and recently lost her only friend because she moved. I told she needs to be that person that pushes to connect.

Awwww :heart: well Iā€™m hilarious and have a terribly morbid sense of humor if you (or anyone) needs someone in Nebraska :rofl::kiss:

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Weā€™ll all be your friends!! :heart:

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find an interest and a way to meet new people with that.
Iā€™ve made lots of new friends at plant swaps. it gives you a common ground to start getting to know each other

No one mentioned going to church. I moved from one state to the other and had no friends here in the new state. Finally, through work, I found some good friends then through work I found a fantastic church. I have so many friends at work and church. Try finding a church. It has been one of the best things I did for myself. There is lots of support for you in a church.

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Do some volunteer workā€¦Iā€™m fixing to be 54 and Iā€™m in same boat but I decide Iā€™m going back to work and volunteer just to meet people

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The dating app Bumble has a Friendā€™s only section. Iā€™ve met 3 of my now best friends on there

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Hey momma. I am down to making friends. I literally have no one. I am a stay at home mom to twin girls. Iā€™d love to have some new ones. Iā€™m here if someone wants to request me on here. :blush::blush:

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Iā€™m a teacher also. Message me or send a friend request! We can be phone friends! At least we could commiserate on the wilds of teaching :sweat_smile:

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If you find out the secret to making friends let me know! :sob: Loo

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Your real friends will never be lost

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Personally, I donā€™t. But I have 5 kids Iā€™m taking care of alone and want absolutely no one else in my life right now.

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I have the same problem, BUT I signed my kids up for karate and have met a few moms with kids similar age and we totally hit it off!

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I am an older mom with an 8 yr old and find it hard but I also wrk and commute a lot. I am friends with some of my daughters friends but most are flakey.

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Find a niche hobby. Especially one that may have conventions tied to it. For example Iā€™m in the cosplay community and the anime community. One of my friends going to knitting conventions. One of my auntā€™s goes to quilting conventions. They make friends from those cons too. Itā€™s nice.

Iā€™ve always been mostly an extrovert so I talk to everyone. I just start conversations wherever I am. And exchange phone numbers or social media info. The key is to not be a stage 5 klinger. You can send me a PM I will chat with you I have somehow over many years mastered this skill. It drives my husband insane sometimes because Iā€™m always making new friends.

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Most of my friends i met at jobs or they were neighbors. I bet if you reach out to some of your long lost friends, theyā€™d be happy to hear from you :slightly_smiling_face: