I wish my husband and I were able to spend more time alone together. But between our two children (a 2 month old and 5 year old) and working, it’s nearly impossible! How do you make time with your spouse? my oldest goes to my moms some weekends and we were getting time together then but now we have a baby and I’m not ready for him to stay the night away and won’t for a while.
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You don’t have to leave them over night to go have some fun! Have her watch them at your house and offer for them to spend the night.
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We have 4. Date night will be your best bet. If your looking for some “fun times” get a hotel, even if you dont stay the night. At least youll have some alone time with eachother.
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My husband & I on weekends put the kids to bed & we stay up together & spend time together. We also go out & leave our kids with a grandparent & have date night. If it possible for your mom to take your infant too for maybe a few hours? Doesn’t have to be overnight.
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We’d collapse on Friday nights, but after the kids were tucked in, Mondays were our fave TV shows we’d watch together, Wednesday nights was sexy time, and the rest of the week was for everything else.
Date night with a sitter at your house.
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So many think we are boring always with our kids home most times outing kids are included 99% of the time. I work from home we do office lunche dates he tries to take a day off from time to time we stay up late to spend time together we happy and we made the choice to do things as a family because our children dnt sleep out and they happiest at home. My daughter is very attracted and believe she will out grow this and then we will go out more till then we make the most of our lives
That’s really the only way, but also when the toddler is gone, it’s still almost like you have the house to yourself when they’re only a few months old. Just cuddle and chill together. I get it though, being exhausted sucks, when all you wanna do is be in bed.
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Schedule cuddle time after they go to bed . Have the baby just go to your mom’s for a few hours. Then at least you’ll have time for dinner out or a movie or such
Order in and have a nice dinner at home while the baby sleeps. You need to takecare of yourselves in order to be the best parents to them. My husband and I have 4 children, they are between 14 and 22 now but the struggle of raising them during the hectic years created a very strong bond between us and now we have much more alone time and we truly appreciate eachother. You will miss the chaos though.
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We have 4 kiddos, and own a business so he’s always working. We make date nights at home. Send the older one away, and for now, baby can be there (they do go to sleep!). We do fun things or stay home. Cooking together then watching a movie we both want to see, go out to eat, there’s plenty of ways, even with kids involved.
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At home date night. Take turns alternating and planning something you guys can do together at home. Once the kids are in bed do that activity together. Give one another that undivided attention.
Ex: movie night. One person puts kids to bed other person sets up snacks, drinks and movie.
Game night…self care night…alternate giving each other massages.
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Do little things for them. I make my boyfriends coffee and quick breakfast. Evenings you can include him as much as you can. Spend time watching a show or have sexy time.
Whole dates don’t need to happen all the time. Fit in what you can when ya can 
Mom of four. 19,10,6, and 4
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Cook dinner together: Do the babies bath/bed routine together. Sit down at the table to eat dinner no electronics. After the kids are in bed take 30min to an hour of just mom+dad time watch a movie eat snack. Those little moments with fill the big void more than you realize
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Let him spend the day away. Take snatches of time if you can’t have the whole night. Do fun things like bowling, the beach, the movies. Make each other the priority and NO talking about the kids, job, the house, or bills.
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We do “date night in” we get the kids settled and have dinner watch a show or movie together. It’s the only way we get time by ourselves for the most part. But you feel the difference. Maybe you can have the baby stay just the day away? So you can relax some too
We have a almost 1 year old and a 4year old. It’s so hard to get alone time. The best thing to do to make it happen is enlist the help of your village. I’m not ready for baby to go for a whole night yet but having my mum or mil babysit for a couple hrs so we can go to dinner or do an activity once a month is really needed for not only our sanity but our marriage too 
This too will pass. Babies are lots of work and completely exhausting at times. Do dinners…plug in the baby monitor and sit outback with a glass of wine. And communicate, let each other know you’re still in love and you’re still there for each other. You’ll make it momma.
I wasn’t ready either. And then I let my MIL take him over night at 2 months and it’s been a weekly NECESSARY thing for our household lol
You should make time cause when he’s not around anymore you wish you would of spent time with him.
Well, I hate to put it like this but as you said, “but now we have a baby” so you knew this was coming when you had another baby… give it a couple more years maybe your mother will take the baby too and then you can have a weekend. Your time with your husband is when your kids go to sleep or when you set your alarms early in the morning to drink coffee together before work. Most importantly, your time with your husband is the time you spend with your family, making family memories. Before you know what your kids will be older and not even wanna hang out with you you’ll have all the time you want with your husband. 
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Once children come, it’s more family time.
It’s easy. If you want to you will.
Cook together.
After the kids go to bed.
Get a babysitter.
You should have known this would happen when kids happen.
So many opportunities if you actually wanted to.
Hire a babysitter who Can your baby for a couple hours one day a week
With two kids it looks like you found a way to make them in your no time alone