We pick one day for one side, one day for the other. Usually we’ll do hubby’s family around or on Christmas and mine comes to us the first week of the New Year
We do thanksgiving the weekend before with my family and thanksgiving day with my husbands. Christmas Eve we spend with my family, Christmas morning is just with our kids, and Christmas dinner is with my husbands family. My side is really big, but my husbands family is really small.
We always go to my in laws Christmas eve and Christmas day at my parents. We still do this, and our kids are grown. Try that one year and see how it goes.
My mother in law always celebrated Xmas on New Years. That way both family functions could be enjoyed, with a couple days of rest in between.
When my kids were young we did most holidays with my in-laws my mom lived ten hrs. drive away so we didn’t go but a few times. We made an effort to go there and family didn’t come here at all so we gave up. I say alternate, but it doesn’t have to be on the Holiday as long as you’re together.
We always have done Christmas Eve with my grandma. And I have expressed this to my husband. So we do this every year. And Christmas day we spend at home. Then usually over the weekend we gwt together with my in laws.
Do one the weekend before and do one on christmas eve…Alternate every year…Thansgiving we alternate as well if we are doing thansgiving at one than we do christmas eve with other…Stopped doing christmas day and did our own thing cause the kids would be upset they had to leave all there new stuff
We stayed home on Christmas Day when our kids were little. Celebrated one side on Christmas Eve and the other the weekend before or after Christmas.
I have grown children we do the holiday the weekend before so they can spend Christmas day home with there kids
My hubby and I set it up to where we end up having almost a week of thanksgiving and a week of Christmas where we go to one location each day. Typically we start making plans to coordinate it all at the beginning of the the month and write it all on the calender.
My grandmother started doing her family Christmas the Sunday before Christmas the year I was born (I happen to be the first grandchild). This allowed for us to travel or visit with the other side of the family. That has worked for 40 years now.
Our relatives are much closer, but we do one family on Christmas Eve and one on Christmas Day, i don’t see why something similar wouldn’t work for you.
Plan ahead of time with both sides. You’ll probably have to do a weekend before or after on one side. We always did Christmas Eve at one grandparents house, the weekend before or after Christmas for anothers.
Different days or alternate each year. Christmas day is at home with just us.
We celebrate with my family on xmas and my s/o family the week after it works for us but not everyone
We celebrate early or late so we can be home on holidays. Normally one side is a week before and one a week after
We have a long Holiday. Thanksgiving we gather in my house.We have it at noon. Then my son makes theirs for dinner
So we gather at his house.N my daughter collects left overs at both places,plus they have it on an earlier day with her inlaws.
For Christmas.
On the 24th, I celebrate my daddy.He always wanted Tamales.So my daughter n her Mexican husband celebrate all 24th with his family.So my grankids have 3 Christmases. With their other Gran parents, then the 25th with us.N since my son gets his kids from his ex
Wife.They celebrate on the 26th.But we are always happy n together.
We used to have Christmas on Christmas Eve. Then home with our family.
For thanksgiving we always stayed home.
It’s too exhausting to just deal with the day much less go traveling.
Work out to have different days, like a week before or after if every one wants to share.
Alternate years. Spend Thanksgiving this year with one and Christmas this year with the other. Switch next year.
I have a friend who alternates every year. So this year she’s with her side on Thanksgiving but his side for Christmas. Next year she’s with his side on Thanksgiving and her on Christmas.
Holidays is about the travel its not all the time hes in vehicle long I say either go to both or switch each year if you dont want to go to both.
Do both do holiday same day I know with growing up it was never always on the day it depended on who had kids when and work etc…
My mom lives 5 1/2 hours away. We rotate the holidays. Like this year we’re spending thanksgiving with his and Christmas with mine. So next year well spend thanksgiving with mine and Christmas with his. We also go in around income tax time.
When I was with my son’s dad, we would travel 6 hours to visit his family on holidays and spend a few days there. And then we would come back and celebrate whatever holiday with my family. Or we would celebrate with my family before going to his. My family literally consists of my mom and her brother so they really didn’t care when we celebrated just as long as we got together. They also lived about 30 minutes away and we saw them regularly. so it wasn’t such an issue. But we started driving the 6 hour trip to see his family when my son was only 2 weeks old 
he got used to it. and we would drive through the night so he just slept in the car.
We used to do a holiday party at our house every year…to much stress to travel with little ones and it is all about them:heart:
I just celebrated Christmas with everyone on different days and alternated whose relatives we went to on Thanksgiving.
We had issues like this too. It’s so hard to juggle and you end up feeling stressed instead of happy to be around family! On thanksgiving we eat with two families but they are only 15-20 mins apart. We do lunch at one and dinner at one. For Christmas, we usually see one family the weekend before, another at some other point before, and one late Christmas night. We used to try to do 4 family Christmas gatherings in 24 hours. It was TOO much!! I’m so glad we changed it. It’s so not worth the stress. You need to be able to enjoy YOUR little family during the holidays.
My son and I go to hos grandma (dads moms) on Christmas eve and he spends the night then she has breakfast with us and we do Christmas gifts in the morning
Immediate family Christmas at home on Christmas. Everything else happens a little before or a little after.
Christmas Eve with one parent and family and Christmas with other parent and family
We do every other year with each set same thing one one direction one the other but only about a half hour or I host and everyone comes to my house!!!
Pick different weekends.
Limit gifts…Potlucks, less cooking.
I had always tried to combine the biggest parts of families… even if that meant inviting ex in-laws to join current in-laws. The biggest part of getting families together is to ensure our children see all family as often as possible. So where it is possible… combine events into one… biggest rules… no politics, no religion, no current events that can be deemed arguable… when I mean ex’s… my mothers first husband and his wife (this is my brothers father) and his other children and so on, my brothers ex wives along with his current, because they are the mothers of his children, their exs and currents because they also need both parents… friends and family that have no where else to go or are unable to travel to get there… my children’s fathers and their family… you can invite anyone… as long as rules are followed, and if they don’t come… we’ll it’s their loss in spending time with family and learning to get along.
One Thanksgiving and one day after. One Christmas Eve and one Christmas day. We see every one every year because you don’t know when someone will pass away and you will miss that last chance to see them. So we make sure…even sharing custody now…that our sons sees everyone each year.
We pick a day and THAT DAY is Thanksgiving or Christmas.
My husbands father and his wife do a dinner the weekend before Christmas. My mom is usually Christmas eve (she lives 4 doors down). My mother in law is late morning Christmas morning. Then my aunt, brother and so on either that evening or the following weekend. U make it work!
Both of our parents are separated and remarried. Christmas eve with my mom at our house, Christmas day with his mom and parents family, his dad lives with us… thanksgiving we have Thanksgiving eve at our house and thanksgiving! 
it’s a lot.
Alternating is the only way to go. We did this for all holidays
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We were the ones living out of town. Alternate, my parents were divorced, we ran ourselves ragged trying to see both of them on holidays.
Every other holiday if that’s what you want and then the next year switch holidays…
One on Christmas eve, one on Christmas day and Thanksgiving at home.
Christmas is at your house one of them gets Christmas Eve and the other gets the Day After Christmas but christmas is for children
Grandkids usually 30 people and 5 dogs. Fun day
I am skipping all celebrations due to covid…I will video chat. That virus is deadly.
Always alternated after we had kids
Alternating or you host and make them go to you
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For us we spend Christmas Eve with my family and Christmas Day with my husband’s family.
We usually do Thanksgiving with one family and Christmas with the other.
I have a Family Christmas for my 4 Sisters and there kids. My 3 kids and there kids. Lots of Gran
eves with one family and day with the other. the following year, switch.
We do ours early for one bunch and later for the others
We always visit husband’s family the day before and my family the day of and then swap for the next holiday and the next year. So if we do Christmas the day of with my family then next year we do Christmas the day of with my husband’s family. And I always remind them ahead of time so they can tell the rest of the family the plans. Unless of course it just works out better the other way for that specific year.
Have it at your house and have both sides come:woman_shrugging:t2:
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Invite both sides to you. Works well for us
We do different sides on different days!
Tell them to come to you!
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u split the holidays up
I started doing the holidays at my house . my family lives 20 - 30 minutes one way and his family the same the other direction . since we live in tje middle it just seemes easier for everyone.
We go 1 side Christmas Eve and other side Christmas Day. We do thanksgiving with one and Easter with the other. We divide all other holidays evenly
Christmas day we do with my dads family. Christmas eve we do with my moms family. The weekend before we do with my husband’s family…works for us