How do you respond to your child when they are struggling in school?

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How do you respond to your child when they’re struggling with things in school and they get so frustrated before trying but when you say we have to work through it because you weren’t able to finish it at school and their respond is “I tried my best though”. Like I don’t want to discourage my son because I always want him to try his best but I can’t say, but your best isn’t good enough, we have to do better. I feel like one wrong word and he is gonna reflect on it forever

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Trying his best doesn’t mean he’s not going to need help. His best may not be an A. Esp if he isn’t grasping the work.
Talk to his teacher. As in, sit and meet with her. Find out if he may need a tutor or testing for a learning disability.
One step at a time. Ask him to explain the topic. Explain what he has to do. Explain each step as he does it. You’ll probably be able to figure out where the disconnect is. You can go from there.

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You are not wrong about not wanting to discourage him , you should start with asking for a meeting with his teacher and see what resources / accommodations they have to help him out . Accommodations could be more time to finish his work , to sit next to the teacher to avoid distractions or even tutoring.
You can always use prizes as a reward as well

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Have a talk with the teacher. Also teach your kid to not be embarrassed to ask questions, teachers have no problem repeating or answering questions to make your child understand. If he is too embarrassed to ask in front of everyone, have him ask the teacher to stay during recess to explain or after class to explain real quick, perhaps the teacher will offer tutoring after or there’s another teacher from another classroom that does it and you can ask if your child can attend. Further than that, you can always hire your own tutor.

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Get him tested for learning disabilities like dyslexia, even ADD. I struggled in school and hated myself because the harder I tried the more I struggled. Found out at 33 I have severe dyslexia and at 50 I have ADHD. The sooner anything is diagnosed the sooner he can get proper help. Start with talking to his teacher and doctor about getting the right testing.

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I’d prolly go through it with them and if that fails get a tutor

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Tell the teachers he needs more help. That’s their job to help him until he understand. They have all the resources he need to help him.

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Tell your child everyone is different and sometimes we just need more time to understand. Then sit down with him or her and try to help explain and finish through work if you can. Do have a conversation with the teacher but do it in a how can I or we help my child who is struggling. Many times having parents willing to take the time to help makes all the difference in the world.

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You absolutely can tell your kid their best isn’t good enough do better

Whoever told you otherwise lied to you for their own entertainment

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We need to keep trying our best till it’s all done.

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Ooof. :sweat_smile: you sound very gentle and low key scared to actually parenting fearing you might hurt their feelings. I said what I said.

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I live in present and don’t think about future. If you think everything you do reflects and make their future, but you have to weight what is better for him to get education or you being very nice to him. I always say “ you have to try harder”

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You say I know and understand you tried your best. I’m very proud of you! Maybe we need to learn how to best teach you and help you understand. I will have a meeting with your school to see how we can help you.

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Get them out and homeschool