Does anyone have a husband who works out of town or is gone most of the week for work? How exactly does that work for y’all? My boyfriend and I have discussed marriage but we both are concerned about the distance (he lives 2.5 hours away, and can’t move here due to his job and he has 2 kids there. I cannot move there because I have a kid here). We have discussed him just being home on the weekends so this would be similar to a husband who works on the railroad, oilfields, trucking etc. but i am curious how it works for you and your family. Opinions please
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Probably a little different but hubby worked away about 2.5hrs away. For almost a year…
Worked on weekdays. We FaceTimed every night. Sometimes even watched the same movie together by FaceTime. He would ring at smoko or lunch. And then drive home on the weekends.
Night times during the week were lonely - sleeping by ourselves was a bit different. It was just the night times keeping that bond especially seems during the day are work hours so wouldn’t see each other weekdays during the day if when we lived together.
At the time I was living with his mum. Our stuff was in storage. We were just waiting to save so I could move to the town he worked.
I think I just told myself families have partners that work on an off everywhere.
- u never know when the kids get older u could work out something better.
The majority of the time my husband is home 2 weekends out of the month. During hurricane season he’s typically home less than that. It’s been like this since the beginning so we are use to it. It works for us.
It did not work for my husband and I. Being apart just wasn’t for us.
Maybe there is a middle area that would work. But one key difference with this distance discussion, while from one side its the same as someone who is gone all week working, but really he wont be off on the road somewhere, he’ll be at his home in a daily routine. That could get tough on everyone, in addition to funding 2 separate but complete homes. I hope you find something that works.
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It’s only 2.5 hrs - maybe both move halfway
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I’d find a middle area to move to.
Combine families in one household.
It sucks not having my husband home.
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My husband lives with me but during the week it is just me and my kids and then he comes home for the weekend. It is hard but we keep in constant contact while he is gone, we sometimes FaceTime and do things together.
Ive been with my fiance for 9 years and he has always worked out of town from monday to thursday sometimes friday. We have 2 kids together (4yold&7months) and he is home friday saturday and sunday (leaves late sunday night after kids are in bed) we video call every night to talk to the kids and discuss little things during the week. During the week im on mommy mode and non stop when he is home week days its nice to have the help but i find myself so use to doing myself i just do it without thinking of him there to help. Weekends are family time and we do all our outings, errands, visitings during that time so its pretty go go go but we enjoy our time more because it is so limited