I just found out I’m pregnant. My kids would be ten years apart. I foresee this being viewed as a major rift for my daughter instead of a blessing. Does anyone have advice? Anyone have kids ten years apart? How’s it going??
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My brother and I are 18 years apart. We’re super close still and it’s awesome
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I’m pregnant now & my eldest is almost 9. So kind of similar! He is soooo excited. He gets to play with the baby & he’s old enough to pick him up on his own etc. Talks about baby sitting & ordering pizzas for his brothers when daddy takes me on a date! If anything, your daughter will be old enough to help out with the fun bits, baby clothes, playing dress the baby, showing her off to her friends etc. Message me if you want to chat. Honestly I wouldn’t worry xx
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My girls are 9.5 years apart . Love their bond . Now 18 and 9. I would do it all over again
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Our girls were 7 when our baby was born they adore her their old enough to hold and feed her an enjoy nothing more then having a baby sister we expressed to them the whole pregnancy how important it is to be a big sister to teach an love the baby an they take the role very seriously They’re like little moms they love showing her off to their friends and family
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I had my first in 1989, my 2nd in 1997 my 3rd in 1999 and my last in 2001, its actually pretty awesome. My oldest has a better understanding of a baby’s needs, so is more loving and compassionate
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My kids are 16 years apart
Once they become adults it wont matter
I have a son who’s almost twelve and a daughter who’s 23 months. They’re best friends and can’t get enough of each other.
My sister and I are 10 years apart and I love her so much, I always have! I was a second mum to her growing up and now the gao has just gone and her and her husband and me and mine are ever so close xx
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Me and my boyfriend are having our first one together and his 3 others kids are 18,14,10
My 2 girls are 12 years apart she’s helped so much it’s a good age gap! 
Its going to be great!!! My newest addition is 13years younger then my last kido.
My kids are 8 years apart. Its not bad at all. (8 yrold and 3 months old)
I have a 25yr and 9and 8 yr old all good sofar all girls
My girls were 12 and 8 when my son was born and they adored him and still do
I have a 13-year-old girl and a nine-year-old girl who’s almost 10, Then I got married at 30 and now have a three-year-old little girl and a five-month-old little boy. Having two sets of kids a decade apart honestly is great as long as your older child is a helpful child and an understanding child
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I love the big age gap mine are 7 years apart so I think 10 would be great aslo
My oldest 13 my youngest 10 months. 7 year old as well. They for the most part all get along. It been difficult. All 3 are 6 1/2 years apart.
Me and my sister are 10 years apart. She was an only child til my parents met and i came along. I remember not being close when we were younger but now as adults we get along great for the most part
I was the older sister with 10 years between my brother and I. I was 15 he 5 and had to take him everywhere with me. Turned out to be my best friend😁
My boys are 11 and 13 years older than my daughter…and they are as close as ever!
My boys are 10 and just turned 1. When I was pregnant, big bro was very excited. Once baby got here, he was jealous sometimes but mostly helpful. Now that baby can get into his things, he’s very protective of his things and won’t let the baby in our basement or his bedroom. Im sure once the baby is older their bond will be better.
My girls have two big sisters and a brother that are 10 years older than them. They absolutely adore their bigger siblings. It’s all in how you treat them equally and love them as individuals.
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My sister and I are almost 10 years apart! I love it! I get to have her over on weekends and spoil her and all sorts! I love being this kind of big sister 
had 2 then 10 years later had 2 more they were really happy loved the baby i was in family where i was in 11th grade in school when my youngest brother was born it was awesome
bigger one can take care of little one for you-is a big help
My brother and I are 10 1/2 years apart and I’m the older one, I absolutely loved him and adored him since day one! We are still close still 27 years later almost!
My aunt have a daughter and a son that are roughly 10 years apart (and another daughter thats 17 years younger than her son) and he gets along with them very well hes a great big brother
My children are 27, 20, 17, 8, 6 and 4. The older three are girls and it is like my younger 3 have four mothers. We have loved every minute of it and the older girls have strong bonds with the younger kids and help us out a lot with them.
My sister and my baby sister were a 10 year gap and now my baby sister and daughter have a 10 year gap and I swear my older sister has the best relationship with my baby sister. And my baby sister has a amazing relationship with my daughter.
My oldest was born in 2001 & my youngest in 2012…he is the BEST big brother💙
I cant speak on what its like to parent with that big of an age gap but I do have a sister whos 10 years younger than me and its fantastic
I have a 4 kids, my oldest is almost 21 the youngest is 3, theres 13 1/2 years in between the 2 youngest. It’s great, the older kids have been alot of help & they all adore the little one.
Mine are 12 yrs apart. Thete not close. 2 different lives.
I don’t have kids this far a part but my brother is 10 years younger then me, and I will say that we picked on him a lot as a kid… now that we are all older it’s a lot better but he had it rough not gonna lie haha
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My ten year old LOVES her 6 mo old sister. She’s so helpful and enjoys playing baby games with her. It ain’t no thing momma! Try not to stress! You got this and so does your daughter!
Fine are 12 and 2. It’s great. My sons are really close. The older one is always playing with my 2 year old
I’m 15 years older than my younger sibling and it was so much fun. They’ll be the biggest help for you
I had my first daughter when I was 15, I had my son when I was 25. So they were exactly ten years apart. My daughter was very excited and she was a huge helper when my son was a baby. I just had another baby girl so my first and third are almost 14 years apart. It might be an adjustment at first but I think it’s easier on them when they’re older than when they’re really little. She never really had any jealousy issues. Good luck and congratulations!!!
My 18 year old and 9 year old are as close as 2 sisters could ever be. Their relationship is adorable.
I am 14 yrs older than my brother who was born with special needs. I was almost a mother figure to him & worked with him medically from a young age. I love him to bits, but I would say to be careful about the amount of responsibility that is put on your daughter, that it isn’t over whelming. <3
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My first daughter is almost 12 and my second daughter is 6 months. At first my oldest was jealous but she’s a huge help now
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I have 9 1and 4mth old love it
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I have a 14 year old, 7 year old and a new born… lol. The big kids are so helpful and really like caring for the baby… they are both old enough to feel really apart of helping 
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My aunt had 18 and 21 year old when she got pregnant
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My oldest will be 12 when the new baby arrives. And well my 6 year old helps more than she does… also have a 3 yr old
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I know lots of people like you and they’re all happy endings they older kids always love and help care for their younger sibling
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My 2 middle girls are 9 yrs apart and they are BEST FRIENDS. Their birthdays are 2 days apart so they’ve always been birthday buddies too 
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I have two boys 13 & 10 and a Six month old daughter, they are GREAT With her and so helpful to me.
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All 3 of my kids are each 6.5 years apart so my oldest is 13 years older than my youngest and I absolutely LOVE it
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My brother and I are 8 years apart and he was always making time for little sister. I feel like we have a closer relationship than siblings that are 1/2 years apart
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I’m currently pregnant and my older kids are 14 and 11. They are so excited to welcome the new addition.
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Me and my sister are 10 years apart and she always viewed me as an annoyance and a job because she would have to babysit me often. We are honestly still distant and dont have the best relationship.
It’s fantastic 
you get lots of help 
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Make her a part of it without putting a burden on her.
Share the excitement. Let her help design the room. Tell her NOW what an amazing sister she will be. Etc.
They will be great. 
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Mine are 11 years apart
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My 13 and 3 yr old are 10 yrs apart, obviously lol 
. My 3 yr old loves and looks up to her big sister. My oldest can get annoyed with her little sister but she loves her and looks out for her. I also like that my 13 yr old gets to see the reality of caring for a baby and toddler and how much work it is.
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My daughter was 9 when my son was born and they have a great bond I am currently pregnant with #3 and she will be 12. She’s ecstatic.
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I have boys 10 years apart. It’s been great. They are now 8 and 18.
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When my second son is born, my oldest will be almost 9. He’s actually really excited
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My MIL has a 9yr gap between her oldest and her youngest. She always had a problem with the middle child (my husband) and the oldest but never the youngest and oldest. There’s a 6 year gap between youngest and middle. He was a SUPRISE baby lol
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My sister is 11 years older than I am and we are best friends.
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I was almost 11 years older than my brother. I enjoyed taking care of him & even took him with me when I got older to do things, like movies, bowling
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Mine are 28 25 16 and 11. Just roll with it. I got better momming with age.
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I have 22 year old twin boys, a 13 year old daughter and now have a 2 year old son. I’ve gone through this twice! I got pregnant at 20…29 and again at age 40. We have a close family and although my boys are out on their own they are still very much excited to spend time with their baby brother. And are also close with their teen sister. Every family dynamic is different. My kids enjoy each other and it works for us!
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My son was 9 and a half when his sister was born…he was such a big help and her protector from the beginning … he is now 22 and she is 13 … they push each other’s buttons but out of love … he would kill for her if he had to.
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My sons are 14 and 16 and I have a 4 yo daughter… they love their sister and they have always been a big help with her 
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My oldest is 30
Then 27
Then 11
My youngest is 9
They each other to pieces
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My daughter is 7 years older. It was great. She had one jealous moment and after that, it was awesome. She is 17 and he is 10 now and they get along like peas in a pod. Less fighting than kids who are close in age, I think.
My sister and I had zero “rifts” at 13 yrs apart. We just had nothing in common. She was in college while I was in kindergarten- have your baby, you’re the parent
My sister is 11 years younger than me. I helped raise her during that time. I know she will always be there for me. Tbh I was upset at first until my mom let me help set her room up and I was super excited then.
Mine are 10 years apart… sometimes the bigger one gets annoyed but at the end of the day, she gets kisses and hugs that no one else gets. I get shots like these more often than I ever though possible, and it’s so wonderful. Plus, she’s old enough to help out and not resent it.
I was 11 when my brother was born I absolutely loved it still very close to him now it made me realise I wanted to work with kids and have my own someday , I’ve worked with kids since am 18 , am 29 now and pregnant with my second , be lost without my brothers
My sister and I was 7 years apart and she was my best friend.
My brother is 10 years older than me. He was amazing. He did everything with me and thought of me as his own little person. We are now 28 and 38 and still close. We would do anything for each other. The age gap didnt bother us
My oldest and youngest are 22 years apart. They get along well and love each other.
I have a 14 year age gap between my 1st and 2nd and my daughter was heartbroken at first, but I went on to have 2 others and she absolutely loves her siblings
I was 14, going on 15 when my little brother ( mom and ex step dad) and my little sister ( dad and step mom) were born. It didnt cause a rift at all for me. I love those kids.
It’s awesome! Congrats!
My sister and I are 10 years apart. I loved every moment of having a baby in the house, as I was the only child for so long. It was a fun time until my mom used me as a live in baby sitter 
My daughter is 9, son 6 and new baby 2 months. All Is great! She actually loves him. Son is good to just doesn’t really care either way.
Also a step daughter who is 42 with a granddaughter( my granddaughter by her) that is 15.
There’s 10 year between my oldest boy and my youngest set of twins. Their bond is amazing
My boys are 14 years apart (2 and 16). They absolutely adore each other. My eldest is such an awesome big brother and does so much to help me with him.
My kids (step) were 11 and 10 when my daughter was born. They love her. She’ll be 2 in December and they all 3 play together watch movies to me it was blessing
My sister and I are 9yrs 11m apart and we are the closest of all our siblings.
Well I was the surprise last baby 10 yrs apart from the younger sibling going up to 21 yrs apart from the oldest…everybody enjoyed taking care fo the new baby…
Mine are 12 years apart and it’s actually amazing. My daughter who is 12 and a half loves to help with her baby brother (6 weeks old), whether it’s making a bottle he’s fussy, learning to change diapers, picking him up when he cries, walks him around the house, and keeping him occupied while I cook dinner or clean. I think they will have an amazing bond forever
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I have a 12, 11 and 1 year old. They absolutely love having a younger sibling they help where they can.
12 years apart and they are best friends
My sisters are 14 years younger than me. I felt like they were a blessing. It helped my parents and I become closer. But I will always have a special relationship with my sisters because of the age gap. We also never had to compete for attention because I was so far in development it didn’t matter, I gave my sisters all my attention also.
I have an 18 year old 10 year old and 4 week old he was a definite surprise my 10 year old had some concerns adjusting and being the “middle” child she was more disappointed that she was getting another brother then a sister but since hes been home all she wants to do is help and loving all the snuggles she gets
Me and my brother are 9 almost 10 years apart and me and my youngest sister are 19 years apart.
I was a big help to my mom when she had my brother and my sister.
I actually felt more like I was my brother and sister mom with as much as I took care of my brother and sister.
My mom just passed away on July 26th, 2020 and my brother now calls me his sister/adopted mom and my sister don’t talk to me at all but it don’t bother me that she don’t talk to me at all because she never appreciated anything anyone did for her and she treated our mom like a piece of shit when our mom was living.
I feel blessed that my brother looks up to me as a mom and it makes me feel like I have a child of my own.
I was 10 when my brother was born. I helped look after him. I’m now 25 and he is 15. I’m now the cool older sister that takes him out to do things or help him bake. But we dont have that much in common
I have 28, 22, 18 and 2 lol. It’s scary at first but it all works out. I never saw this coming, but my 28yo and 2yo are incredibly close. It’s one of the coolest things
That is a Blessing! Some people can’t have children.
I think it’s easier for you if your oldest is helpful and loving…but can be sad if the oldest feels left out. I had a good experience but now feel bad for my 13 year old as all his siblings are adults, 18, 23 & oldest about to be 25. Having said that they try to take him out and play video games with him. And myself have a brother 8 years younger that I used to babysit growing up and now we hang out doing outdoor stuff and it’s awesome. So true as adults it won’t matter.
I was 10 years older than my brother and I’m closer to him than I am my siblings that are closer to me in age
My kids are 21 years apart!
14 year gap, and I am so close to my little sister , our mother passed away 3 years ago and I am now that mother figure for her, she made me want children , and i now have 2 girls of my own who are very close with her , when they are together i feel complete, they are all my girls xxx