My children are 14 yrs apart. They are inseparable!!! My daughter was a little blah while I was pregnant, but all changed as soon as I had him!!! 
I have a 10 year gap and it’s fine. The only thing that’s hard is trying to do days out and holidays as you have to try and accommodate both which is hard in certain places.
I can tell you my older brothers are 9 and 10 yrs older then me. I absolutely adore them. Our mom didnt make them raise me but they choose to be very much involved in watching over me and my twin. Theres nothing i wouldnt do for my brothers.
My oldest is going to be 8 and a half when this baby is born. I’m a little nervous too! I’m starting over completely. And my son has been an only child for so long. I’ve heard that if you get them involved in helping it creates a bond for the kids. But the eldest is not there to raise the baby! Still try to spend one-on-one time with your oldest. Make sure they aren’t put on the back burner. 
I have cousins who are 29, 22 and 12. No rift at all… the 22 year old was a huge help to my aunt and the 29 year old helped with school drop off and pick up when he was first off age for the 22 year old… if say you have extra help if anything.
My daughter was 9 when I started having kids again so the age difference is 9, 10, and 11 years. She ADORES them and she is their absolute favorite person ever. Sissy trumps everyone else lol
My oldest is 19 and youngest is 7. My oldest is so good with his little brother. They’re very close. Plus it’s nice to have a helper if I need it.
My boyfriend’s son is twelve years older then our son … it’s been interesting so far, consider I had him 2 months ago. But to put it in perspective when our son is starting school my boyfriend’s son will be graduating.
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I have 4 boys…32…30…20 and 10…the older boys now have families and houses of their own…the younger 2 get on well as long as 2 PS4’s are involved lol 
My kids are 22, 21, 5 and 18 months, and it’s weird lol My oldest two are only 11.5 months apart, they always had someone to play with, my youngest two are almost 5 years apart and that’s been a bit more difficult. My son waiting on his sister to get big enough to play with him has been a little frustrating, especially because his very big brothers have their own lives and families now. But, we’re still family and they all love each other regardless.
My daughter Wylder is 13 my son Flyn is 10 and iris is a 16 months. So unexpected!! The biggest blessing and Joy!! I wish I could share a picture. They are all so in LOVE. I worried too. It’s exhausting but worth it 
My bonus son is 10, my daughter is 5 and we are due October 30th with another girl. I love the age gaps honestly 
My 2 boys are are in their twenties and my 2 girls are just in their teens. My kids are really close. The boys helped me watched the girls and are very protective of them. Wouldn’t want it any other way.
I mean I’m 20 time thing years younger than my siblings… I have 3 older sisters and 1 older brother and a baby sister who is 3 years younger
I had my first two when I was young then I remarried and had two more 10 years later. It’s complicated at times but my kids are close and it was worth it.
I have friends that have siblings that are a lot younger and I think its fine as long as the older siblings isn’t a live in babysitter or end up being the parent.
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I don’t personally but my sister does. Her kids are 11, 9, 5 & 6 months and the 11 & 9 year olds are absolutely amazing with the baby!
My mom and aunt are 10 years apart. My mom hated having to babysit all the time and help out with her, but they were and still are very close.
I have a 10 year age gap between my girls and it’s honestly the best! My eldest cares, loves and looks after her little sister like she was her mum! Xx
I have 2 sisters who were 11 and 10 when I was born. They’re my best friends.
My son that is 10 years older is wonderful. I thought it was gonna be little hard. But no he pays more attention then his 13 year old sister
Mine are 18 and 9. They get along good. But every once in a while they have their days.Older one helps out alot…
Coming from a child with 2 siblings within 2½ years of me and 5 sibblings at 8, 11, 14, and 18 years after me im closer to the 3 girls that were born 8, 11, and 14 years after me than the ones closer to my age as a kid
I just had a baby and my daughter is 11yrs old, will be 12 in November and oldest is 19, the girls are so in love with each other. My 11yr old loves helping with the baby, she grew up so much since the baby came, but just don’t forget about the older child, make them feel as important as the baby, I would just spend a day out with my 11yr old and make the day all about her.
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My oldest was born in October 2008 my middle child was born in August of 2015 and my youngest was born March of 20 and even when they are born different times my kids get along very well some days more than other
Me and my sister are nine years apart and we are not really all that close. Growing up in different times of the era makes it a little different
My boys are 8.5 years apart. 12 and the other will be 5 in November. They each had there 1 on 1 time with me and the oldest is a great help. They may not be super close now but I have faith they will be. I’m closest with my own oldest sibling and we are 12 years apart with a sister in the middle
My sister and I are almost 10 years apart. There are times that it was hard because we couldnt relate to one another (her wanting to play dolls when I was thinking about prom etc) or (me having a baby when shes thinking about homecoming lol). Overall though we had an amazing relationship growing up.
My brother was born when I was 12. He’s my best friend 
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My kids are 9 years apart. And i love it. They love each other (10.5 and 1.5 right now) you get the time with baby while older is at school, they are self sufficient and can help with baby, its great
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My oldest daughter is 21 and my youngest son is 10. She has been like a 2nd mother to him. They still have an awesome relationship to this day. She is very nurturing and protective of him.
My kids are 2o ys apart. They didnt grow up together there is som etimes a wall between them
I was pleasantly surprised, my oldest loves it. He loves to help with the baby. But we have a rule, he can decline poopy diapers, when not baby sitting, or babysitting. He gets compensation for baby sitting. He is not raising his brother, he is helping out his family. If he feels like it HAS to do something to talk to us, because we don’t want that.
He helps a ton and is happy to help. It’s been almost 4 years.
My eldest is 26 my youngest is 10 …16 year diff & its fine xx
I’ve got 3 kids- my oldest daughter is 22, my son is 14 and my youngest is 14 months. Yeah, it’s great.
We have a newborn, she’s 10 weeks, and a daughter who will be 12 in December. Honestly, it’s been amazing. With our oldest, she loves her little sister and wants to be more involved with playing and taking care of her. It’s also been helpful for me, because I can trust her to do things on her own (like getting ready, doing her chores, her homework) without having a close eye on her. I think you all will be just fine! And congrats!
I do my oldest is 41 my second child is 31 my tird child is 24 and my yougest is 17 and its going good my kids all get along really well
My middle and baby arw almost 8 years apart… And it’s been a blessing he is an amazing big brother and loves helping belive it or not…
I have 10 year old twins and just had another baby. They love their brother and are so helpful.
My son is 11 years and 3 months older than my daughter. He didnt take it so well in the beginning but now hes doing a lot better with everything
I have 3 children all 9 years apart! I have enjoyed being able to relive the different stages of their growing up through several decades! It makes you appreciate how fast time flies! When my youngest turned 9, my oldest had his first child so now I have my grand baby and another decade to enjoy!
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My mom had my baby brother when i was almost 12… Honestly people thought he was my son when i would take him with me if i went to the park or public pool or even the store when he was around 1 or 2. I enjoyed having a baby sibling in the house and i took my role very seriously. In total i have 3 younger brothers and a twin brother. My and my twin were born in december of 92 the next brother came october 96 then the other in june 98 and the baby september 2004.
Mine are 13 years apart
My brother is 10 years older then me and we had a great relationship growing up
My brother is ten years younger then me. I love him to pieces and honestly it was awesome watching him grow up.
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It’s great. My daughter is 12 and my son is 2. She helps out around the place and plays with him, shows him things. They get along well, and he also likes terrorizing her room too lol.
13 years part for my boys. 17 & 4. My oldest is an amazing help & always has been since the day his baby brother came home. He’s a blessing and his little brother looks up to him.
I am 6 years older than one sister, 8 years older than my brother, and 13 years older than my baby sister and we have the best bond anyone could ask for. I also have a 17 year old, a 3 year old, and a 1 year old. They also have an amazing bond.
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My girls are 10 years apart. 4 and 14. My teen has never wanted much to do with her sister and has completely changed and hardened over the years since having her. 10 year difference is rough. The babys dad was a complete joke and has drifted in and out of our lives a couple times which has caused animosity and hatred in my teen.
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Me and my sis are 10 years apart. Growing up. Typical sis rivalry, but I honestly look at her as my mom sometimes more than our mom.
She taught me how to cook my first meal, and is the only other person on this planet that gets and understands my pain from our mom. Weve grown into the sweetest sister bond and I’m so thankful for her wisdom and advice!
Dont fret mama! Even if its later, they’ll love eachother
I have a 16 yr old and a 9 wk old and hes like a little mother hen to my little girl, honestly its amazing to see them together and the bond there going to have growing up xx
Mine are about 9 years and it’s great.
I do. My son is 10 years older than his baby sister, he loves her immensely and he’s a great big brother, more like a father. However, the older she got, 8, their relationship changed because she became more “needy” of his attention and approval. He was leaving for college and that was an emotional nightmare for her.
My older daughter who is 12 years older has never had a close relationship with her baby sister, the younger one was seen a nuisance to her because she lost all the attention. Good luck and God bless.
Me and my older sisters are 8 n 9 years apart and we are fine. Sometimes they looked at me like annoying younger sister they had to babysit or whatever but all kids go through annoyance with siblings. We are all adults and get along fine and pretty much always have been
I have a half brother 20 years older than me. We weren’t close when I was growing up but we’re reasonably close now. His eldest daughter is 12 years younger than me and now my sons godmother
My oldest is 9 years old than my youngest (both boys) They are 14 and 5. They get along fine for the most part. The oldest gets annoyed by him sometimes, but thats to be expected with their ages. I’m 8 years older than my brother and while we didn’t always get along when we were younger, we are best of friends now
I have 3, all nine year gaps. The younger 2 (girls) fight like cat and dog but my son, the eldest is brilliant with them both and they all have an amazing unbreakable bond he was 18 when I had my youngest (now 5) and they are best friends
We have a 9 year old & 1 1/2 year old, it’s been super nice to have an older child who loves to help! She’s an amazing big sister, all children are different though. Keep talking to the kids & let them know they are all loved equally. The older child may feel like their feeling replaced, remember to make time for them & continue to reassure them that they are loved, cared for & will be treated the same. If the older child is acting distant, they may feel sad or having negative feelings… try to reassure them often how special and loved they are, both or all of them! I am an oldest child of 5, I know how it feels to feel left out or feel like you’re being replaced or you don’t really matter sometimes. Just make sure communication is there, you openly talk to them about these things & you want nothing but the best for all the children Good luck! Sometimes it will be hard but it won’t always be!
My daughter is 14 and son is 3. She’s done great with him & loves him so much. When he first came home she was very helpful.
Over the last year I’d say she fights with him more - instigates or gets him going. He bugs her or wants to do what she’s doing- (I find myself saying sometimes “I thought I’d avoid sibling fights with them being 10 years apart lol”) I think it’s just a teenage way of being & she likes to do her own thing at this age. But it’s been awesome to be able to watch her grow & enjoy her being little time. Then having him to be able to focus on a little more than I would if they were closer. I feel like I have a lot more patience as well - must be me getting older 
I have 2 girls, exactly 10 years apart and they adore each other. It’s been amazing.
I am 14 years from my 3rd sibling and we get along great… then I am 20+ years from my youngest 3 siblings but they are across the states so I don’t see them often
I have an age gap of 10 and 13 years between my sisters and we got along fine! I’d say the bigger the gap the better!
Mine are pretty much 9 years apart and it’s lovely. My oldest is a very proud big brother and loves to help look after his little bro xx
14 yrs apart with my 2 and ill tell you he protects her so much and have such a special bond 
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I’m 8 yrs older than my brother, 11 yrs than my sister and 14 yrs older than my last sister. The only advice I can give is remember not to use the oldest as a built in babysitter too often. I think it will teach responsibility to have them babysit now and again but not every-day all the time. My mom would leave them with me all the time. It was frustrating.
My 2 boys are 10 years apart. They are awesome together.
Me and my youngest sister are 11 years apart. I had some animosity towards a new baby but only because I was the “babysitter” and my mom used to work 2 & sometimes 3 jobs and my stepfather was a leech. It got better after a while then our brother and sister (use 3 older ones were all within a 4 year span) all moved out and youngest acted and was treated as an only child. Made that animosity and uneasiness come back.
Most of the out come will be how you deal with everything that comes up without the oldest feeling like she has to be a little grown up
Im 11 and 13 years older than my sisters. I was very excited as I was the only child prior. Growing up was fun. Although my sisters are closer to each other than me now. That look at me like a maternal figure. The only thing I didn’t like was being forced to babysit when I was a teen.
10 years isn’t too long, but then again there aren’t any other siblings in between. I don’t see why your daughter will not like the idea of a baby brother or sister. If you’re worried about her being an only child for 10 years and be kind of spoiled then it’s up to you to sit down with her and have a talk. There are kids who would give anything for another sibling and want to adore that baby with everything they have. In my opinion the age gap isn’t much relevant, rather than the character/personality of each child. Kids tend to fight no matter the age, or not fight. 
No 10 years is good, built in baby helper 
Mine are 15, almost 16 years apart and my son is absolutely wonderful with my littlest son
My boys are 10yrs apart my son begged to have a sibling. some times I wish they were closer but most days I love it. My sister has daughters that r 11yrs apart. They have a bound like no other. And I have a baby sister that is almost 18 yrs younger than me I love her to death. Wouldn’t change any for anything.
My sisters and I are 10 years apart, 11, and 13 years apart. We’re fine.
I’m 15 years apart from my youngest brother and I’m the only girl and the youngest and it sucked I never had any siblings or having them talk to me/me talking to them but when we do talk it’s just fine.
My kids love their sister! My son is 17 and my other daughter 11. They like to help
Mine are 6 years, and while my daughter has had attitude about the “baby” getting what he wants more than her lol, she understands why and helps me out most of the time. They’re 13 and 7 this year, and I couldn’t be happier with my loves. 2 babies in diapers at the same time, like my sis in law, scares me lol #ItsAllAboutHappyMomAndHappyBaby
Lady’s it’s like having an extra set of very capable hands. My oldest is 14 and youngest is 1. She helps me so much and loves the baby completely!
Have an 11month old…a 9yr old and 12yr old triplet girls. This last baby is by far the easiest…yes im probably a bit more tired as im older but definitely the best… his sisters can help out now…hold him…feed him etc which is a great help to me and they adore him xx
Oh girl same and he’s 7 years old ! It’s like your mother instincts never go away and plus you have more knowledge now then you did before ! Good luck it’s not all that bad 
My oldest and youngest are 17.5 yrs apart. It may be a different kind of relationship than those closer together, even than those 10 yrs apart, but the gap doesn’t make it any less of a bond, it’s still very special in so many ways. And it’s amazing how much extra help older siblings can & are willing to provide.
I have 19 years apart it will get better In the beginning my oldest was jealous now she loves her sister to death she is 28 and the youngest is 9.
I have a 16, 9 and 4 year old … it isn’t all that difficult
I didn’t get a chance to read all these comments so sorry if it’s already been said.
I have children 9 years apart. I wish I had trusted my daughter to hold him more. I hovered and helicopter parented. And it took from their bonding. Let her dress him, snuggle him, without too much interference if she is responsible enough. Cheers. 
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I have a 35 year old a 33 year old and a 9 year old sadly there no to close 
I’m 11 years younger than my oldest sister, idk how she felt about it when we were younger (there were 2 before me w/ a 4 and 7 yr diff) but now in our older years we’re not super close but close enough and actually have quite a bit in common
My oldest is 8 my middle child is 2 and Im pregnant its difficult to be honest they fight over attention my oldest acts out a lot my 2 year old is in terrible twos and I have pregnancy hormones gone crazy, I love my babies but I do wish I had them closer together. In my opinion and every child is different you never know they maybe best friends.
My youngest stepson is 12 and my son is 3 and my daughter is 2. He loves playing with them
I was an only child for 12 years then my mum had my younger sister I helped raise her I always wanted a sibling and loved every second of her. remember all of her milestones and were great friends I just having the privilege of memories. As your daughter is so much older I think an extra protection of love may come over her and she will be melted and tormented by her new sibling but their siblings nothing will come between them:heart:
My youngest at the time was 12 and very used to being the baby. When her little sister came along she was fantastic. She loves helping and ‘babysitting’ (I’m home but doing housework etc). She loves being included in caring for the baby so I think as long as your daughter doesn’t feel excluded she’ll be fine.
I have a a daughter who’s 11 and my son is 19 months. It really depends on the day! My son is absolutely obsessed with his sister shes his whole world. When it comes to my daughter though it depends on what kind of mood shes in that day. She went from being an only child to having a baby brother and she isn’t always a fan. She seems to get jealous a lot no matter what we do. So all I have to say is good luck I really hope it works out well for you! Congratulations on the new baby
Amazing!!! My kiddos are 11 years apart and they are so close! My heart just melts with how much my older wants to take care of his baby sister. I really see no downside to it at all!!! Other than i am also older and starting over lol.
My kids are 10 years apart. 13 and 3. I honestly love the fact they are because my oldest is very helpful with my youngest. They have different interests so that kinda makes it tough but they love each other to death!
My oldest boy will be 14 my daughter 10 and my baby is still in the NICU at 5 weeks. But they are super excited and cant wait for her to come home. They do great with my sister in laws baby and hes 4 months
I had a 20, 19, 12 year old twins , and a 10 year old when I had my last child. He is now 12 himself. Lol
My brother is 9 years younger than me, and my sister is 18 years younger than me… Wouldn’t have it any other way
My kids are 8 years apart, and they love it! Each one received so much one on one time, from us when they needed it most. The spacing worked for us because their activities in school never clash, my older two who are 16 and 8, help so much with their 7 month old sister, and they love it. It’s been a great balance having them spaced how they are, and they have such a close bond despite the age difference.
My kids are 26, 21, 13, 10 & 7…the older ones are amazing with their younger siblings!
I think there’s a great benefit to it; the older kids can help out. A few of my friends are in this situation and their older kids are tremendous helpers or have learned to be. I have a newborn and toddler and let me just say, the toddler is zero help whatsoever 
blessing in disguise!
My sister and I are 10 years apart. I know when I was first born she wasn’t to happy but then seemed to be okay with it. I was a pest when she was in high school since I always wanted to be with her and her friends but now we are extremely close and she was one of my closest people while I was in high school.
My brother is 10 years younger and I loved having a baby around. I have 3 older kids with a 10 year age gap are they help me alot with their little brothers. Best of luck to you.
My sister and I were 8 years apart and we had a great relationship until she hit puberty and now we just bicker like normal siblings.