How old was your baby when you first let them stay the night with grandparents? (This is for those who allow sleepover with grandparents as we do). My mother in law watches my baby while I’m at work and she will be 45 mins away on a vacation with my 2 step kids (my baby’s brothers) and she wants to keep the baby at least one night. The baby is 5 months old. Idk if I’m just anxious but idk if I want to let him stay the night away from me yet. It would be less stress on my husband who would have to leave early in the morning to drop the baby off to her and then pick him up on the way home as he works in the same city she will be vacationing in.
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Mine were all 10 months before they had their first sleep over, only because we had no reason for them to stay anywhere really! But it was always with my parents, my kids don’t stay anywhere other than with grandparents
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If she can watch the baby during the day no reason not to trust her to have the baby overnight…
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My kids had sleep overs with family members at like 2 months old. If you trust the person i dont see the issue, if i dont trust my own parents or in laws or family then they wouldnt ever go
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The first time my oldest daughter stayed with my mom (her grandma) she was three months old. It really just depends on what you are comfortable with.
My son at 2.5 only because I was delivering his baby sister.
I’m a teacher with Christmas and summers off, so my kids got to spend the night with the grandparents (who live 700 miles away) with me there too. They were 9 and 11 before we actually left them overnight without us.
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Mine was 3 months old and stayed with grandma (my mom) for 2 weeks while I traveled to another state to unpack and get our house move in ready
We waited until my daughter was ready. She had a lot of separation anxiety and to this day (12 years old) still does. She has had times even now where she will not go certain places unless she is 100% comfortable with them (even if I am). She was almost 3 when she decided to stay with a grandma. There are very few places she will stay. My boys are completely different. They would stay wherever as long as mom is comfortable 
they have been staying with their grandma since they were almost 2 
Certainly I understand parents who work nights or travel for work and must leave their children, but I think a good rule of thumb is that kids should not spend the night away from their parents until they are old enough to have a conversation with you afterwards about what occurred there.
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I have had my granddaughter since she was 10 weeks old and we still try and have her at least 1 a week and she is now 4yrs. We love the relationship we have with her now. 
My mother used too every now and then when he was a baby just so I get a decent nights sleep. Like someone else said I had a high risk pregnancy with a csection and was doing it on my own.
My niece has spent the night at my mom‘s house when they were very tiny little kids. I didn’t have the pleasure of that because my mom passed away when my kids were very young and she was very sick but I would’ve let my mom take my kids at any age. I had no reason to worry when she was very healthy. I think it’s weird. You let her take care of them while you’re at work but not when you’re on vacation.
Overnight- 2 months old. I was so thankful to get some sleep!
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My parents took my twins home for the night the day that I came home from the hospital - I had a complicated, high risk pregnancy and a complicated delivery. They wanted to let me rest.
From that point, they kept the twins one overnight, every other weekend, sometimes more.
Mine were over 1 year before spending the night anywhere
My oldest was 2&1/2 (when his brother was born), and my youngest was 5 months. That was because my oldest & I both came down with the flu… and it was his 1st Christmas!
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My mum had my oldest when she was 5 years old, she took my 4 year old just before she turned 5 years old on holidays, my youngest was 2 years old as I moved closer to my mum. Great grandparents have 2 of them school holidays when we go down and can do nights out and she puts them to bed
When they could sleep threw the night 100% what ever age that was ( it was different for both my kids )
If you’re not ready just tell them that.
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I forgot how old, but it was the first time she offered. He was a few months old.
You should, Know ,When You feel ok with it,if your not,your not,they should understand…
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My daughter was almost 5 before she stayed the night with her grandparents.
like 3 months old 
went to a wedding
Pretty sure our oldest was less than 2 months old. And stayed with an anti when she was 3 months. As long as they’re comfortable with it I was comfortable with it. Our youngest has cystic fibrosis so she was older, like 6/8 months probably
As long as my parents and inlaws were comfortable having baby I let them go. I knew they’d be overly loved and catered to
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I took my grandson at 4wks
I started staying the night with my grandparents at 1 week and went almost every weekend till I was 12 or 13. And during the summer I went to my other grandparents for the whole summer 770 miles from my parents best days ever!!! And I had awesome parents
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My son was a little over 2 months old. My daughter was closer to a year old. Just depends on who you’re leaving your baby with and the comfortability. My daughter hated being away from me.
I’d say, it would depend on the relationship you have with your mum. I had a loving relationship with my mum n mum in-law, so I let them have my babies as they were on bottle’s. Trust is the issue.
My oldest stayed with fiances mom every Friday and saturday night starting at 2 months until 10 months when some feuds came about. My 2nd has only stayed away once or twice and is 2. My third has never stayed away yet and is 1. I wish all my kids had the opportunity my oldest did, as he is 6 and has no issues staying places now where the few times my 2 year old has stayed somewhere he’s had a rough time.
Mine was 2 and it was because I was in the hospital. My second still hasn’t stayed and he’s 3. I would like to wait until he says he’s ready
My oldest started spending nights with my in laws at their lake house 2 hours away at around 1.5 years old. My youngest just spent the first night away from me at 6 year old with my parents who we live with lol
Just depends on your child.
Fun story- newborn baby was allowed to spend the night, once she hit about 7/8 months old, she’s not allowed to sleep anywhere lol
Both my kids were less than 6 months old staying with family/close friends.
My son didn’t do any sleepovers until he was 5 that included family members
If you’re breastfeeding it could be difficult but my parents have helped me since birth.
If you feel anxious about it then I wouldn’t do it personally as you will just worry all night
I had comple trust in my mom, so a month old we started with sleeping over. That’s the only place I’ll allow tho, and they’re 8 and 10 now.
3 of 7 grands spent the night at a week old
I would only be scared of sleeping through the night, SIDS scared me so bad I’d never let them before 1 years old unless it was an emergency or something, it’s just scary to trust someone and how attentive they’d be with little sleep watching and feeding in the wee hours of the morning.
If she can look after your child while you are working then she can have the baby overnight,
You absolutely could as long as you trust them.
But also, you’re allowed to not feel ready yet. Being away from baby overnight is not easy for everyone. Do what you feel comfortable with.
My 9 and 5 yr old have never stayed the night anywhere
My parents refuse
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Won’t ever work. Popeye throws punches like a man. Will Smith slaps like a little bitch. 
I think 
your baby will be just fine. Its good for them to have that experience even young in case there is ever an emergency and they have to stay away from you. Then they have done it before and wont be so stressed.
If she can handle it let her
The people (our parents) that raised me and my husband were qualified and willing to keep my girls from day one. They were there to watch them while we worked and WILLING to keep them, so we could travel by motorcycle and have time to be a couple. For those of you saying that they can’t stay overnight until they are old enough to discuss what transpired during that stay; how silly are you??? You are happy to accept free daycare for your infant/toddler, but think that something can happen at night that can’t happen during the day? Trusting family to care for your child shouldn’t be a 9-5 job as long as they have an appropriate and safe space for the baby.
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My husband took me 2 hours away when my oldest was 4 months old my mom had our baby however we lived with my parents at the time and it was only one night she was drinking mostly formula at the time and I pumped for missed feeds as o was still breastfeeding I missed her a lot and was super attached to my phone the whole time but that’s when my husband proposed. It was very relaxing for us but we went to an adults only spa so that helped. Haha. My youngest didn’t have sleep overs until she was over a year old I think she was 15 months old when she stayed with my mom for 2 days while I was 4.5 hours away. 45 minutes Isn’t horribly far if something were to happen and baby needed to come home 
if you trust her as a safe adult and are comfortable with it I’d probably allow it.
My grands started spending the night at 2 years. They had to be potty trained first. But I babysat.them too.