My partner and I just found out I’m pregnant. I’m going to be 20 with my first child. My mom is very strict and I really don’t think she will be happy. I have an apartment with my partner. I want to wait until I’m a little further along to tell her, but how should I go about telling her?
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I was 19 … I took her out to lunch on Mother’s Day and told her lol … we cried for awhile but she loves her more than anything
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Don’t be afraid to tell her. You’re an adult and have your own apartment. When you tell her be so happy and confident about it that nobody can bring you down! A baby is an extreme blessing😬 going about telling her is up to you… I found it easier to tell multiple people in one sitting than all individual.
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Ur a adult and living on your own there is no reason she shouldn’t be happy unless she feels u will be unfit. Are u looking for cute ideas or just a idea so she eont be mad
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I would try to make it a positive announcement. If she makes it negative than that’s on her
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Approach it as a thing of joy if you act nervous and timmid and like it’s bad news then that’s how it will be received. Get her a box with a onsie thst says something about grandma. Make it a happy surprise
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Just tell her your pregnant there isnt much she can really say your an adult an you have your own place it’s not like you are living in her house
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Make sure to say it with excitement… like “guess what… You’re gonna be a grandma… And my baby is gonna have the best grandma in the whole world”… it’ll make her feel good instead of “mom I’m sorry but I’m pregnant” where the negativity will open up a conversation for her to criticize you.
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Announce/present the fact she’s going to have a grandchild in a fun way to her. Act like she is supposed to be happy because she should be. 
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Just tell her. This is literally the easiest part of the rest of your life now
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You got your apartment you have your boyfriend I’m thinking you got it good right and I’m happy for you congrats ? But now at this point if your mom is strict that’s not something for you to worried about . She can only be upset for so long and get over it you a grown girl now and what else can you do but to tell her weather she gets mad or not .
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If you are excited then I would tell her with excitement.
- we always care about how our mothers will feel, at any age. We never want to feel like we disappointed our mommas. So even tho you are an adult and out on your own, I understand how you feel.
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When you’re ready, tell her. She will likely notice your bloomin’ belly so I wouldn’t wait until the delivery date…
Wear a skin tight shirt around her when you start showing …and she’ll ask “Are you pregnant?” Then you reply “Well since you asked …yeah”
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I would wait until you were 3 months along to make sure things were going well, to tell anyone. But your mom will be so happy. She may be upset as you aren’t married but so what
Just tell her when you plan to. You can’t control her reaction and you’re not responsible for how she reacts. But you’re also 20 so she can’t control your decisions.
Um your 20 and live with your partner… really ? Just be straight up and tell her you’re expecting . I’d wait until after 12 weeks .
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I told my mom with all my 4 kids lol…be upfornt with her after you will feel better instead bottle up in
I got pregnant with my first at 20 and announced to my mom on Mother’s Day saying she was going to be a grandma. I was also married and living on our own but she was very excited. I’m sure your mom will be too.
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Just rip the band-aid off and tell her. I was 21 when I got pregnant with my first child. She may be upset at first, most parents are, but she’ll get over it.
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I didn’t tell my mom 
I knew she wouldn’t be happy for us even tho we were with my 2nd one. We told his family because they’re supportive but we didn’t tell anyone in my family. She found out when I was 27 weeks pregnant from someone at work
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I was in the same boat when I told mine and it’s a rip the bandaid off sort of thing. I thought mine was gonna be furious but she was actually extremely understanding and in the long run ended up being really excited which is the complete opposite of how I thought she’d react. It probably won’t be as bad as you think and I also think the sooner the better. She might be mad you hid it from her.
You are an adult, living on you’re own…just tell her like an adult and don’t worry about what she thinks
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When Easter comes along, have your boyfriend rub your tummy and say, “Eat up, you’re eating for two now…”
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Don’t let her ruin your excitement. A baby is always a blessing.
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Go to her and say “mom I’m pregnant 
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A baby is good news!
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I found out I was pregnant at 18 and I’m currently 19 and 15 weeks + 4. I told everyone pretty much when I found out because I was excited. Granted some of my family members aren’t happy (mother included) I believe that it doesn’t matter what the opinions of others are. People are going to be mad and upset, but trust me once the baby is there everything will change. 
I gave my mom that worried face look… and said… “uhmm ma”… dramatic pause.
Then she guessed it 
was mad for like a couple hours… then was a happy excited Grandmother to be.
Every mother … well real mother would be afraid for their lil girl to get pregnant at a young age. But you asked for it when you laid down and did the do. You’re living on your own which Is a good start… tell her and just prepare yourself for the most hardest job you’ll EVER HAVE. Although it’s the BEST thing is the world.
You are grown honey. Just tell her when you are ready. She doesn’t control you so it don’t matter how “strict” she is.
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If my daughter was 20 and telling me this id go crazy BUT you just said u have ur own apt with ur bf so this should be kinda expected? Mother authorities do change when u move out of their house
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I announced it on Facebook with a no negative comment allowed piece. This allowed my mom to process for a couple days before she responded. I was later told Facebook was not the best medium to tell her. So maybe a letter or note left for her. Let her have her time to process the news. So neither of you are hurt by what is said after the initial shock.
Be up front with her but take her words with a grain of salt. You have ypur own place and are making your own family. Either she can be happy and be included or pissed and out on her rear. Her choice.
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Umm you’re an adult who lives away from her. It’s not like you’re in her home
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Hey mom I’m pregnant… Your a grown women if she don’t like it oh well.
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Just tell her . She might not take it well but she will love the baby . My daughter got pregnant at 19 and it was a shock but my grand baby stole my heart as soon as I seen her
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Make it special.
Get creative…
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I told my mom and was pretty scared and didnt know how to tell her. So I cant help on that part but I was 19 when I was pregnant and just had my daughter in july. During the pregnancy my mom and I got so close, we knitted hats and booties and watched tv together all the time. She became my best friend and I am hoping the same for you!! I dont really have advice on how to tell her but i wish you luck and hope the same happens for you as it did for me(:
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You are an adult, living with your partner hun. What does she think is going to happen!! I’ll bet she will be super happy! Parents sometimes surprise us. I was 19 with my first and she is my parents world! Now we have 3 and she’s the best Nana ever.
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Just tell her. Honey you dont live with her. Buy a pair of neutral gender booties and give them to her. When she asks why…just tell her.
Just tell her, even if she doesn’t like the news, she will love the child. I was pregnant with my daughter when I was 20. Mom was mad, but got over it with time.
I was in the same boat. I did wait until I was in my second trimester. When I told my mom I was afraid of how she would be but I just told her she was going to be a grandma and she was excited. She told me the reason she was strict and didnt want me to have kids is because she wanted me to enjoy life for a little longer. Your mom will be happy and if she is upset it wont be for long. Especially once he or she is born she will be over joyed because she has a grandbaby
My mom was very strict as well I was 17 when I got pregnant. She could barely hold in her excitement
Your 20, step up and just tell her…
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I didn’t tell my mom when I was 24 years old until I was 27 weeks pregnant. She proceeded to tell me I need to get an abortion! (Even though that is how far along she was with my brother when she had him) If she can’t accept it cut her out of your life. My son is 12 now and my mother has been nothing but HELL to me ! Tried to cut her out of our lives and she came back a million times worse brainwashed him and more.
I was plenty old but not married I got a note from the doctor and put it in a frame. She laughed.
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I would buy a present for your Mom, like a photo frame that says " special something bout Grandma" & once baby comes she can put the baby’s pic in the frame.Take her to lunch & then give her the present . Or have her over for dinner & then give her the present 
good luck
uhhhhhh I’m pregnant
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Make a cute lil gift with best nana on it, with lil baby clothes and a pic of your scan, she will be shocked no doubt, but she will have to accept it eventually, also I’d go with your partner and show a United front and that you are both excited, also if you can make a financial plan and list of what you need, and how you will get them, this will show her you have thought about it seriously
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If you go to church you can always pass her a note card like I did while sitting next to her during the service lol 
. This was with my fifth child I she said no more so many times lol she hugged me and took us to lunch to celebrate. Also I had my first at 2 months from turning 20. And I’m proud of you for doing the right thing and owning up to this new bundle of joy you’ve created. As just a week or two ago a young gal like you had a go fund me for an abortion… Congratulations children are definitely a blessing
I was 20 when I told my parents and my dad went mental. I’d been living and working away from home for 3 years but that made no difference. I told my dad that I loved him and I wanted him in the babies life and that I don’t want to lose him at a time when I really needed his support. I think talking to him maturely and telling him I loved him really helped diffuse the situation good luck and congrats 
x
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Make it special so she doesn’t take it so hard but remember YOU ARE AN ADULT! If she’s mad so be it. At the end of it all she will love her grandbaby more than you know!!
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I just said hey mum guess what im pregnant. She just shrugged and said cool
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Just tell her. Don’t expect her to accept it. Be happy with your baby. If she’s not then let her go.
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I felt like you did but with my dad, figured he would be disappointed in me, so I get it. But you are a grown woman with your own place. It’s time to start focusing on the family you are about to create
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I got pregnant at 19 and the only reason my mom found out was because when we were at a family party I declined a Jell-O shot and she pressed me about why until I told her. When I told her she was pissed and asked me what I was going to do. I’m now 35 weeks and 20 and honestly my mom is pretty excited but likes to make a lot of it about her. Just tell her and give her time if she’s upset
Don’t even tell her. Blow her off til the kid is born then just like show up one day with a kid. That’s how my brother’s gf did it every single time they procreated.
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Its mothers day soon make it a really special moment x
I think you shouldnt be afraid to tell her. Do as someone else mentioned and buy a rattle, or bib or booties and put in small bag with tissue paper and enclose a note that says… Congratulations your grandbaby should arrive in
… whatever month.
Give to her and be there with your bf as she opens it.
You are an adult…you love on your own…just tell her
When I got pregnant at 20 I told my mom in a text w a picture of my ultrasound
She told me I better fix it
And I told her too bad it’s not an etch and sketch.
I now have 5 children and I’m 29 and my mom loves being a nana
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Is your mom very religious? Like will it be the fact that you are not married that bothers her?
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I was 17 and again at 18 when I got pregnant. I wasnt living with her. You never know how she will react. In the end a baby is a true blessing, I personally feel like it’s better to tell her sooner then later. But it’s your decision 
Congratulations 
Well if you are already living with him what difference does it make lol. She’s obviously not that strict or you just don’t care anyway
I was 16 with my first! My mom wasnt as mad as i though she would be
It never occurred to me that parents get to have opinions on how their adult children live their lives unless specifically asked. She can either support you or shun you. If she chooses the later than it ia at her own loss and expense of a relationship with both her daughter and future grandchildren. Don’t put up with negativity.
My suggestion just tell her she maybe excited
Trust me tell her she’ll get angry for a bit and then she’ll get over it and she’ll love that grandchild of hers 
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Give her something on Mother’s day if you can keep it a secret that long. Lol
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I was 18 and pregnant, soooo scared to tell my mom about it, I was terrified of how she’d react. I just had to grow a pair and tell her, she’d have to find out eventually. Now, my daughter and her grandma are best friends.
She probably already knows. Tell her soon.
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I was 15 with my first And hid it from her but when she found out she was very sad that I didn’t tell her earlier she was disappointed at first but when he was born she loved being his nana and now we are all a happy family !
If your already living with him she isnt stupid that your not having sex … just tell her
Stand your own be a grown woman you are a mom now even if the baby isn’t here yet!
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Just tell her. It is what it is, especially if you provide for yourself.,
You may think she is strict but she could just be protective and doesn’t want you to make the wrong choices. You are 20 not a kid. Even if my kids told me (a Christian mother) that they are expected (at a young unmarried age) I’d be upset but understanding. As a mother of younger children and adult children we always will be their mother. We always want them to make the right choices. But also mine know I’ll have their backs regardless and will be there for them. Just tell her. That way you’re not stressing. Better sooner than later. She may be upset that you didn’t tell her sooner.
A baby is a blessing! Yes you’re young but hey no going back now! Once that baby is born just do your best and show her you have what it takes to always choose what’s best for baby. Good luck hun but u know having kids is an incredible journey. They are so precious.
I was 17 when I got pregnant and I was scared as heck to tell my mom. I told her through a text that I hadn’t gotten my period and thought I was pregnant…even though I had already taken 4 test and all were positive! She ended up not being mad. Now I’m 23 and pregnant with my third!
I would just tell her. Maybe find something cute to give her that said something about being a Grandma and wrap that up for her. Buy a card. And give that to her. She is going to react however she reacts. And taking longer to tell her may make it worse.
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Other than my partner, my mom was the first person that I ever told. I don’t know how close you are to your folks but I tell my mom everything. Baby is a blessing.
Girl you’re grown and live on your own. I was so scared to tell my mom (I was 22) but then I was like wtffff like I love my mom to death but she doesn’t support me so it’s not like I HAVE to deal with any negativity about it so I told her. She was disappointed but she’s his biggest fan now. I wish I would’ve surprised her though like with a onesie and grandma coffee mug or something. Try to make it happy and if she’s rude about it just leave. Don’t let anyone stress you out or make you unhappy especially while you’re carrying a child 
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I sent out Valentine cards fom the baby.
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If you live in your own place, with your own stuff, that YOU pay for, and you don’t rely on her financially, and you have a job that you know won’t fire you because of pregnancy, and you have a safe and stable relationship then she ain’t got nothing to say. I was in the military when I got pregnant at 20. I lived on my own, paid my own bills, had my own paycheck, I didn’t owe my folks any money, I had better insurance than my parents did, and yet they were mad when I got pregnant. I told my mom I was an adult and I didn’t give a damn what she had to say about it. My daughter is six now and my mom adores her. She wasn’t happy when I got pregnant with my second child. I was living with my now husband and she again, tried to tell me what to do with my life. From a place of experience just tell her you’re pregnant and when she starts her tantrum tell her that you’re an adult supporting yourself and she can either be a part of the baby’s life or sta,y out of it but her opinions aren’t valued or tolerated. You aren’t some pregnant teenager, you’re young but you’re an adult.
I had my baby at 21 my parents were disappointed at first that I wasnt more along in life. Now there inseparable from my son and say it’s the best thing to ever happened
You should make a really cute thing out of it. Let her know you are both excited (you and SO) and her excitement is wanted and important to you.
A mothers approval is so important in any person’s life, I hope she sees you in a glowing, loving, beautiful manner as you welcome your first into this world
You’re 20. Youre a grown ass woman on your own. I’d say she would be happy. Maybe shocked at first but in time excited.
Don’t be ashamed of the beautiful life you’ve created. Stick to your guns. If she disagrees then that’s her problem. At that point, she needs to decide if she’s in or out so you can go about your way!
Don’t worry about telling her right away. Let it just be you and your SO for awhile so you guys can adjust and accept it in your own time. Let it just be y’alls happy moment for a bit. Sometimes your parents reactions will surprise you but even if she doesn’t like it don’t stress yourself over it. Sometimes all it takes is seeing that ultrasound or hearing that heart beat and they’ll get excited too. What’s done is done and all she can do is eventually accept it. Nobody is ever prepared for their first child, I don’t care how much money you make or how old or young you are, it’s all a new learning process. I know it’s scary telling your parents that first time but you need to just take care of you and that baby so others opinions really won’t matter in the long run. Congratulations momma! Try to find ways to just be excited for yourself
Hun i was 18 wen i fell pregnant with my son my mum was not happy about it but she got ova it
Get a CD of ultrasound and play it for her.
You’re an adult girl! While she will always be your mama, you can not let her rule your life and dictate your decisions based on what she wants, you gotta be you’re own person girlie and if you’re excited about the baby then tell her 
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Do it in a fun way. She might be upset in the beginning but she will be excited to meet her first grandbaby. She’ll get over it.
Just tell her. Shes your mom. She will get over it and you’ll need her
I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant and my parents were disappointed at first, but by the time we found out the sex of my baby, they were excited. She’ll get over it. It’s your life, your baby, not here.
If she’s on Facebook she may already know 
I dont think it matters how you tell her. I dont think her reaction isn’t going to be that much different if she’s strict. I think no matter how you tell her that she going to react the way she will react. Dont let her initial reaction be a example of how she will be a grandma. If she loves you that much she will fall in love with the baby too right away. It may take her acceptance by the time the baby is born. My mom cried the first time she held my first son and I was young. She sees the type of mother I am and respected every decision I made afterwards. Just go with your gut. It doesn’t have to be a magical moment but a moment with your mom.
I was 19 when I got pregnant with my first baby and I told my mom as soon as I found out. She’s a strict woman too but she was sooooo happy to be a grandma. I was with my boyfriend maybe 5 months when I got pregnant so I was afraid she’d be mad at me for not being on birth control and trying a little harder to prevent it from happening. Anywayssss back to the question lol I’d make it a cute surprise way of telling her
Cheesy but here are some ways of telling that are on the more cutesy side lol
I was kind of in the same boat. When I told my parents, my dad was ecstatic but my mom was disappointed. It’s fine, if they don’t support you, you don’t need their help!
she can’t be strict if you don’t live with her lol
She probably expects it if you’re already living with him.