If my husband and I have a second, it won’t be until my first is at least 5 and we have a house. We have a small two bedroom apartment in a not so great area, I don’t have room to even store her old clothes let alone even think of having another baby!
Even my SIL and best friend texted me asking why so many people were putting pressure on us like that. This turned into a novel and I’m sorry but like WTF!?
I seriously cannot take it anymore. My daughter will be 8 months on the 27th. I made a status yesterday about having to go through her 0-3/3-6 month clothes to get rid of and I had FOUR different people tell me to keep them for the next one
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I think they’re just telling you that because they wish they had kept theirs. You know? I’m pregnant with my second & I regret getting rid of all those clothes and items now that I need them again. But that is a lot of people to ask you that especially when your baby is still so little. Just ignore it, or tell them off lol I would. I hate when people are like that like they have a say in your life
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. How the heck do you deal with pressure to have another baby!?!
Why are you letting random people who don’t participate in your household make your family planning decisions? It’s too easy to respond, “thanks for the input but it’ll be a long time until we’re ready for another baby.” Leave it at that and go on about your day.
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Probably because you’re young & these people know how hard & expensive it is to start over. That or they don’t want to be invited to a shower to help you restart 
ignore them. I got the same shit with my oldest. I had no intention on having another. When I did it was 11 years later. Get rid of what you don’t need. If you have another you’ll find a way.
My son is 7 weeks and my mum says the same. Keep them you never know.
If you’re planning to have more kids someday it makes sense to keep the clothes because those tiny clothes are expensive AF. Ultimately keeping the clothes or not or having more kids or not is your choice though. I can tell you from experience I got rid of all baby stuff after my second because I was done. 2 years later I was pregnant again and had to buy everything again.
I think it’s something that’s always said doesn’t mean they are pressuring u… I’ve 6 and still people will say …whens the next or oh u never know… my only hail Mary now is I’m separated so i say ya… if I am ill be the reborn virgin Mary
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Tell them back off and obviously your not ready to have another as first is 8 months old. I kept my favorite outfits from my 1st and all her big stuff (06/2009 and 05/2011) but we knew we wanted a 2nd close to our first. So I got rid of everything big besides the outfits I wanted to keep (in case I had more kids or decided to make a clothing pillow/blanket for them) well I had a baby in January 2019 (we lived in a one bed room then. Due to getting a divorce from my now ex husband the father of my oldest girls) I got rid of everything big besides outfits of course…and behold im having my 4th girl in January 2022… I wish I really would have kept more from my 3rd kid but i didn’t. Now I’m stuck here in pandemic times where the father doesn’t want used stuff because of covid… and I/we have to buy new all over again almost all the same from our 2019 girl. (Mostly new. Some I got from a friend who has 3 girls and we have been trading clothes for 12yrs lol) I’d definitely keep some/favorite outfits and all out grown diapers… luckily I had all girls. (I did have a lot gender neutral clothing that I saved that we got before we knew each child was) so I have outfits that are 12yrs old that my first wore that have been worn but soon to be all 4. (Then I promised them to her so she can sew with them.) I stored stuff at my moms. (I finally moved into a 4br house with garage so thats cool) but im 100% sure I’m done with babies. I’m already 33. Luckily my seasons match up with my 2019 and 2022 girls (both January kids)
That’s literally just something that’s always said… you sound like you’re just way too sensitive about the situation. What you said the people commented isn’t pressuring you to have another kid whatsoever. All you have to comment back is that you just don’t have the room to store it and you don’t plan on having another kid for x amount of time… You really sound like you’re making it a way bigger deal than it actually is.
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Just ignore and sell to who ever wants to buy then . Sometimes once you sell them all tho, pregnancy happens quickly heh
Totally feel this i almost died twice after having my daughter and i get asked at least once a week when we having another.
Just try and ignore them 
I hear it too. “When are you giving her a sibling” um when and if I damn well please lol
My sons ten months and I’m keeping a few of his things for the next one not all though.
They were probably just suggesting to keep it so u don’t have to go through the expense of buying all new stuff
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I heard this so much after my first. I got pregnant again when my son was a little over 2, and I still hear “you should have saved the baby clothes” or “why didn’t you save the toys/baby clothes?” First of all, it’s no ones business😂 They aren’t taking care or birthing the baby. 2nd, people say this not knowing what a mom has been through regarding miscarriages, hard pregnancy/labor/birth, and just overall postpartum health. It’s said so causally and it really shouldn’t. Some people might be genuine, but it’s not their life & they shouldn’t worry about it.
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Just get rid off the stuff. Clothes are cheap. 
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My girls are 5 years apart. I kept a lot of stuff just incase and im.glad I did. To this day my little who is almost 8 will.put something on and I’ll have flash backs of her big sissy wearing the same thing. It’s kind of cool. But if you don’t want to that is your choice. Don’t let those people stress you. Easier said than done sometimes but it’s your life.
Nobody’s business. Tell them it’s not their business. People need to learn their place sometimes girl.
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“The choice to have more children is between me and my husband, ONLY. Please respect that or understand why I deleted you.”
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It will never stop and it’s not really being pressured more so just people joking I guess but my husband an I have two boys we’ve been asked when we will have a girl not gunna happen cuz we r happy with the two we have and I’ve made it very clear but if it bothering you say it tell others to leave it alone
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I got rid of all baby stuff after each kid outgrew it I also have no room to store stuff I have 4 kids I just got second hand stuff for each child my kids are 19,14,12 and 3 I had three girls in a row then a boy plus its fun to shop for baby stuff and each kid can have their own style
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Do what feels right for you. I am sure there are some new mothers that could really use the clothes
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I didn’t know telling someone to keep baby clothes was pressuring them to have a new baby. I believe that’s just people being nice. But of you don’t want to keep them then don’t.
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I would always just say nope and move on lol
Just ignore them. Even if you were to have another baby, there’s no guarantee it will be a girl or be in the same season.
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Lol relax , they probably don’t mean anything by it and are just trying to help, your overthinking
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You don’t need to explain yourself, that’s nobody’s business except for you and your husband. People need to stop with this stuff, you never know what someone’s situation is and sometimes comments like that can be hurtful depending on someone’s situation
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Be very careful about getting pregnant again it doesn’t sound like your in any position to have another baby with everything you have going on. So many women allow themselves to have another baby thinking things will be better only to realize that things just get so much worse and they are in such a bind they can’t think straight, nevermind the financial burden. Just give the clothes away if you’re thinking it will be roughly another 5 years until you have another one, then you can save up money for the next child, or buy second hand clothes some of them are in awesome shape… Don’t let anyone put pressure on you to have another one it could be devastating for you and your husband. For heavens sake your child is only 8 months old. I had my first child and then almost 5 years later had my second child. I couldn’t have done it emotionally or financially any other way. Do what is best for YOU and ignore what anyone else thinks. This is your life and you have to decide what’s best for you.
Why do you care what others say.
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Ignore them or remove them from your friends list. It really is THAT simple.
Calm down. Just a suggestion lol
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At least keep some of the baby clothes from your child I did and now they’re on my granddaughter.
They’re probably just trying to be helpful bc baby clothes cost a lot of money and usually people don’t give you anything for any subsequent children unless it’s the opposite gender. Pressure is more like every time you go to a family function and everybody asks you every single time when the next one is coming.
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My husband and I have a 10 year old daughter and 2 year old son. We waited 8 years to have our second. Maybe look at people “pressuring you” to have another kid as a compliment. Maybe they think you and your significant other make good parents. Nothing to get triggered about. Ultimately everyone knows it is up to you and your spouse. We heard those comments for 8 years and I took it as compliments.
Try telling them: I’m here to offer my baby’s clothes to someone who needs, NOT to discuss my sex life.
I prefer to let someone have it that can use it now as opposed to collecting dust.
Tell them to mind their own business. People are so rude. If you do or do not have more children is no one’s business but your own
Some people think of getting rid of all the baby stuff as a kind of jynx. I’m not superstitious myself, but… Last year within weeks of getting rid of baby stuff we said we wouldn’t need again for several years… I found out I was pregnant with our tiniest human… 
lol she’s 4 months old now, and I have ZERO intentions of keeping things as she outgrows them. 
You can ignore them, laugh them off, or tell them to mind their damn business.
Tell anyone who is pressuring you to step back and step off. You want to enjoy her and when the time is right you and Hubby will decide when you will be ready if ever. Your on nobody time clock but yours, his and hers. But for now you want to enjoy her time as a baby. And you didn’t ask for their opinion. Leave it at that !!!
It’s okay, don’t make a big deal about it. Just tell them you don’t want another anytime soon and let it go. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Give away the clothes and go on. I had so many ask and I said I was done and there’s absolutely nothing anyone could do or say to change my mind so they can save that speech for the next person.
Just ignore them. Maybe they were just trying to be helpful thinking if you were having more you might want to keep it instead of buying new clothes. I would suggest that also if someone was talking about it. I’m not saying I want someone to have more kids just something to consider. Otherwise just say we don’t have the space and I’m not planning on having another anytime soon. Simple
Doesn’t sound like they are pressuring u… More like giving money saving advice! Being helpful… They didnt tell u to go have another baby. Lol
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People suggesting to hold on to things is not pressuring you to have another baby. Storing baby things for if you have another baby is actually useful advice. You don’t have the room to store it away and that’s fine too. But I think you are reading too much into what people are saying.
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You need to learn to ignore pressure only has power when it’s given power
I didn’t plan on having another kid for 5+ years after my first. But I still kept all her clothes. Now she’s turning 6 and I have 2 year old boy and a one month old girl. I did get rid of some after I had my son cause he couldn’t use it tho. I didn’t think I would have another so soon. Still have all my sons clothes too.
Unless someone literally told you to have another or start working on having another, no body is pressuring you into anything. They are just saying you could keep the clothes incase you have another so your not buying it all over again.
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Kids clothes are as easy to come by as leaves in the fall, and so by the way are other people unwanted opinions on your lifeplan, so find the ignore button and move on
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Ha. The opposite happens if you have more than 3. Lol
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Just tell them you are a little disturbed that they are so concerned with your sex life!! And to 
and to mind their own business 
Ive been told many times “you cant have just 1!” Oh yeah? Watch me!
At the end of the day its your choice. Just tell them, if theyre not taking part in the making and raising of the babies, theyre not entitled to take part in your choice of family size either.
Ignore them people need to mind their own business. Stop pressuring for more or even ANY it’s a private choice also don’t know the struggle to even have one.
We just need to keep pushing to mind your own business… eventually it will click
Tell them you won’t have another baby. My husband and I started as one and done for this exact reason. It’s no one else’s business when you’re going to have another child or if.
Now we are expecting baby number 2 and we waited until our first was almost 4 and have no regrets. Plus announcing was a complete surprise.
Its your choice I kept my oldest sons clothes, good that I did cause my second son came not long after 
but it’s totally up to you. Having babies close together is rough, amazing, but rough. Do what you wanna do, sell them, donate them, keep them, I’d keep the first outfit FOR SURE. But everything else is up to you.
People suck. Honestly just tell them you dont intend to have a second anytime soon and shut it down. I hated when people did that to me.
What if the next baby is a boy - ask them if you should dress him in girl’s clothes?
So this was literally me. I have everything from newborn to 4t for my son and I’m expecting my second and last child in about six weeks. She’s a girl. The only good thing that came out of saving all his clothes was we made friends with a couple expecting their first child a week before us and they’re having a boy. Trust me, hold onto any special outfits you wanna keep and let the rest go. I HATE moving and storing totes of clothes, and no one telling you to keep it all is going to help you move it 
You ask all them folks if they plan on providing financially for them. If not, they need to stay in their lane.
I didn’t plan on having them back to back either now I have two that are 16 months apart. I however did keep just about all of their clothes and now I’m using it with my third boy. Hopefully that doesn’t happen with you. Just ignore them. But it’s not a bad idea to keep some of it.
I started telling them “do you have another kid money? If you do I will gladly have another one”. My husband works 12 hour nights and I work a regular 8-5. Daycare isn’t cheap. Yes we chose to have her but we are choosing to choose her and make sure that we are financially okay and dedicate what time we have to her and make the effort to do things as a family when we are all together. I hate when they say “you’ll figure it out we did” well I remember my mom not eating often times so we could and how much stress they were under and the deep depression that turned them into zombies so no thanks. I choose to be the best mom I can be to her without the added stress or expense of a second child. Besides , another life isn’t ours to gift our children in my opinion.
Just ignore it. Don’t sweat the small stuff & do whatever you want with your lives.
You have this much time on your hands to be complaining about something so stupid?
That doesn’t sound like pressure…just advice to save money
Pressure would be people asking when you’re going to have another or why you aren’t trying yet