Ok momma’s, I’m looking for y’all’s experience and advice on breaking your kids of their comfort item. Is cold turkey the best route? Has anyone had another method work? How long did everyone have to deal with their kid crying? Just looking for any advice, this momma is nervous but it’s gotta get done!
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My daughter is 13 and has a teddy bear that her Dad brought her back from a trip. She sleeps with it every night and I won’t take it from her.
Depends on the comfort item.
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Why do you need to break them of it? If it’s not a pacifier I think anyone should have their comfort items. I’m 35 and still have my blankets.
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I’m 41 and still have a security blanket… my husband buys me a new one every few years. So my advice, leave them be. They will grow out of carrying it around but they probably won’t sleep without it…
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My older 3 broke themselves when they were ready, my 7 year old still has her bear, she will have it until she breaks herself.
My daughter will be 14 in September. She still has a excellent blanket she’s had since 6 months old. I will not take it. Because it’s her comfort item. Kids need some things for comfort.
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No advice other than to not do it until you e figured out why and also why you feel you have to take away their comfort. They’ve developed a comfort for a reason and it’s probably best to figure out why before you cause more harm.
Depending on the specific situation your child is in will change my advice.
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It really depends on what you are trying to take away. I’m almost 50 and still twirl my hair at night to fall asleep.
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I have the same question. My daughter has a blanket that she sucks on. She has always done this. She never took the pacifier. For dental reasons Ive been trying to figure out how to “wein” / “break” her of this habit.
It all depends on the comfort item. If it’s a stuffed animal or a blankey, then let them be done with it when they are ready. I put my baby blanket away when I started moving g all over my province. My son is nearly 10 and still sleeps with his blanket. Took it everywhere with him until he got a little older. Now that he’s a bit older, he doesn’t feel he needs it at sleepovers, but will take it on long drives and leave it in the car. I won’t take it away from him, he will put it away when he’s ready. I will however get him to leave it at home most of the time so we don’t lose it. I will explain that to him too.
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Lol, my kids are 14 and 17 and they both still have their bears. Let them stay
My two grandsons 6 and 7 still carry there blankets every where , they will break their selves , they both had pacifier until they were 4 they carried with them , didn’t always use usually just nap time, and when feeling nervous , it was security thing. , They ditched those on their iwn
I wouldn’t, but I’m fine with my son having his comfort plushie for as long as he need/wants it.
How do you prefer your most valued comfort items taken away …
Why is it necessary? Don’t you have any comfort items? A favorite pair of shoes or fuzzy sweater? It’s the same thing
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I think it depends on the object. My 10 year old has a bear she sleeps with at night, my 3 year old has a blanket she drags around everywhere. I have no intention of ever taking either.
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Depends on the kid and what the item is for.
Change of direction is a good way to slowly end that sometimes
Why? My teens still have the bears they have had since they were babies… one even lives in my bed.
If it’s a blanket or stuffy, then no need to break them off it. Some adults still have them. If it’s a paci, then definitely need to break them off sooner than later for speech and dental reasons.
If it’s the latter, try getting your kiddo to “donate it to other kids in need”. With my son we had him put his out with the cookies and milk for santa and asked santa to find another kid that needed pacis since he was a big boy now.
When I was a kid, I stood out on the curb and gave mine to the garbage man🤣
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Why do you want to take away something that comfort your kid ?
I mean, if it something that can cause any health issues or development ability, sure the sooner the better , but is the case is not that , just leave your kid alone
My oldest son was a binkie n he had it until he was almost 2 n he tossed it into the trash one dY n we never got it out. My youngest son was a blankeie baby n he would go absolutely crazy with out that thing. He’s almost 17 n still has it 
it’s ripped n can be a cape literally but he doesn’t sleep w it anymore.
If blanket or stuffed animals let them keep believe me my oldest daughter and younger ones still have their items.
My kids comfort item is pull ups. She’s gonna be 4 in a couple months and starting preschool. Basically I just put her in undies and said no more pull ups. She gets them for bedtime and during speech therapy only. She asked for a diaper for like 2 weeks constantly and cried all the time. She’s doesn’t ask anymore cause she knows we’re gonna say no lol
Let them be kids and keep their item they’re only little for so long and they’ll eventually drop it themselves
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Why in the world would you want to be so cruel to take away their comfort item? Stop being a dictator & let your child find comfort.
My oldest was the only one of my kiddos who use a comfort item. We let him keep it as long as he needed. I’ve got a background in child development & that is what worked best for us.
If it’s an item let them keep it…I had a comfort stuffy til I was 30, I then gave it to my daughter because she was old enough to understand how important it was for me, she’ll even bring it to me if she knows I’m feeling sad❤
Comfort item? I still have my old blanky but I rarely sleep with it. I wouldn’t advise taking those things away. A pacifier is one thing but a comfort object like a blanket or stuffed toy is completely different. I let my kids keep theirs but just gradually cut back on where these items were allowed unless they were sleeping.
I waited until they were old enough to really talk to about letting it go, which was usually around 3. We would talk about how their big boy or girl
No! What’s wrong with you? Unless its a pacifier, then yes!
Mom couldn’t remove my thumb…I was done thumb sucking at age 7ish. Didn’t need any orthodontic work either.