Im so sorry hun. U take a deep breath, go to that pickup/drop off with ur head held high. If u break down once u get home, that’s ok. Feel those feelings, but remember it. No partner should ever be the cause of that kinda hurt. I’m proud of u for not putting up with that mess & ur baby will grow up watching a strong mama. Those cruddy feelings WILL fade I promise. U can do this!
I had this happen, it’s very hard. But when you see the other parent/ person he left you for. Put it all aside and do your absolute best for the child, they pick up on your mood so much. It’s taken me a year to fully get over it. And you still have hiccups, my ex and his gf are taking our son away on his first ever holiday, that hurt because Im not going to enjoy it with him. You have to do it for your child. They are the most important person in the world to us, and they deserve a relationship with dad. You got this x
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Instead of letting it hurt you, try to get a little pissed. He didn’t have to cheat. He could have broken up with you before moving on. Instead, he kept you on a string and played around in case the new girl didn’t work out. Not very nice of him.
Time will heal your broken heart
Have a male friend acting as your new love go with you!
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Maybe try an alternative pickup system for the time being? Like a middle person until you feel stronger .
coparenting is hard but when you’re on a roll : you’ll feel content 
Stay strong 
I was taught this years ago in family court. “Love your kid more than you hate your ex” and live by it.
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this isn’t about you, it is about the child you both have together & being a parent to that child, So put the Big Girl panties on & be a great mom & deal with it for the sake of your child
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Because it’s what’s best for your child
Who he is to YOU doesn’t matter anymore. That person doesn’t exist. Who DOES exist is your child’s father/ mother. That’s the only role they need to play in your life. Process your pain. Heal and be happy.
At this point It’s now going to be all about the kid you made together, what’s best for him/her, and NOT your feelings
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Yes. It will hurt. But you are stronger than that!!! You will survive and move on. You will find the right one for you. This is a lesson. Learn from it.
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Try & shift the focus to your baby & the importance of the bond they should have…??
Just remember that he cheated and broke your heart so he’s not worthy of you! If he’s a good dad that’s great but you do not have to like him to co parent!
You have to try to put it aside for your child. After drop off, ugly cry if you need to. Get it out so you can heal. It will get better eventually. It took me a couple years with my ex-husband but now we are both remarried and co-parent great. 
I’m sorry he hurt you.
But it is for the child
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I have been through a similar situation, in time it will get easier, keep the communication to a minimum and only about the child, do not let your feelings towards him spill into your decision making, their relationship is a separate from the one you had with your ex. It is important that your child sees you as a United front when it comes to child raising, it may not seem it now, but it will all work out, and eventually the hurt will be just a bad memory
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You just do. It’s only going to hurt for a little while and then you’ll repair yourself and each step will get more confident and you’ll smile a little wider and soon you’ll grow from the hurt and you’ll know that you did right by your child for helping foster a relationship that will teach them that just because you didn’t work out as lovers doesn’t mean that you can’t work out as parents.
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You’ll be fine. The kid comes first!!’n
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3rd party for a bit so you can heal a little
It’s gotta suck for you but imagine how happy you’re making your child in the long run.
It will get better I promise. You just have to get through it until it doesn’t hurt anymore, and soon it won’t. I promise. 
don’t avoid the situation because it will delay the process.
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I thinkbyou might need to go to therapy and honestly, your child is more important.
Been there it’s for your child in time it does get easier… take the time to care for your self when your baby is with dad… don’t be so hard on yourself…I was I analyze everything I did wrong why did he cheat?? Don’t rush into a another relationship til you are fully healed… sending prayers
I’m afraid co-parenting is going to be most likely unsuccessful. Co-parenting is more than just dropping the kids off you’re going to have sporting events Christmas parties School functions etc that you’re going to have to actually attend with the ex. You’re going to have to figure out how to get over it because it’s about your child. Your child didn’t pick its parents. Your child doesn’t choose to come from a broken home your child didn’t choose to cheat and your child didn’t break your heart. Welcome to motherhood that child is your number one priority everything else including your feelings come second.
You just have to put your feelings aside for the sake of your child. You both do.
This is all about your child now. What happened between you and him is now over and it’s best to not drag those feelings in when it comes to co-parenting as it can make things even more difficult then they already will be.
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Don’t play out your relationship issues in parenting your child.
This is so toxic. You can never “punish” the other parent, it’s the kids who suffer.