Hello. I was wondering if you could share my topic for advice. I am not a mother, but I have found this page to be helpful at times. I am back into dating, but I have HSV 2. What advice do others have when it comes to this and also when to disclose this information.
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You need to talk to a dr about that.
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Disclose the information before things turned serious but until you know itās going to be serious I wouldnāt disclose the information or you know where itās going to lead and just be very very careful
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I think they have dating sites for STD positive people. Look into that! Good luck.
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Tell the person in person and early on, and be open to answer any questions they have honestly. Thereās no easy way to tell someone about it and you have to be open to the fact that they might not be okay with it. It does not make you gross if they turn you down. Good luck, I know itās hard.
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Thereās a few FB support groups for HSV, those would be good place for resources and to ask questions. Also groups on Reddit. Honestly itāll help weed out the losers that are only in it for sex 
Lots of people have it and donāt even realize it because theyāve never shown symptoms
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Something like 1 in 4 adults have HSV 2.
I would tell people once you form a connection but before you meetā¦you dont need to tell everyone as soon as they say HI
Hsv 2 is easily managed and having it doesnt automatically mean your partner will get it.
One of my ex partners had it and I didnt contract it.
Dont feel ashamedā¦more people have it than you realise
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I hate that this is such a stigma! I feel bad for those whom have this. Ugh. Personally if it was me I would start off being completely open and honest. The right person will be accepting. Also have you talked to your doctor about medications or anything??
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Im hsv 1 and 2 positive bc of an ex. My current husband didnt have it and i told him in the beginning. I let him make that choice for himself. We are now married and have a beautiful 2 month old boy . 
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Once you have established that the potential candidate is a love interest or you feel comfortable with them in expressing your personal business. As long as you take your medicine and arenāt having an outbreak youāll be fine. Iām sure your doctor can tell you all about it. Iām really sorry that it got to you but itāll wean out the ones not meant for you. Youāll find your one 
be patient.
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Hello, you donāt need to tell a person right away unless you get serious, if you have hsv 1 then it is a different story since it can be contracted just by kissing but hsv 2 is only if you have sexual intercourseā¦after you tell your significant other itās up to the person if they want to be with you after that but honestly hsv 1 and 2 are now very common, so donāt feel bad about it, also healthy meals will help you not get any genital warts in the future.
Good luck , and again donāt listen to the ignorant people who try to make you feel bad about it.
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If youāre really into the other person, first or second date at the latest. You donāt want to be hurt if itās a deal breaker for them, do sooner is better. Check out dating sites for it.
Be open but itās not something you must disclose first date. When and if you feel it becoming serious id have open conversation possibly have some info for them so they can truly understand what it is and not just what they heard.
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Do you have sex on the first date? If so, be open on that first date and make sure that all precautions/protections are taken. If not, then probably by the second date would be a good idea so that the partner is aware from almost the start.
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I have it and I told my partner before things got sexual weāve been together 7 years and have sex regularly and he has not gotten it Iāve had it for about 10 years and only had 3 breakouts and have had 4 children vaginally and none of them have it. You take medications for it everyday to prevent it or take it for 3 days to get rid of an outbreak. Not a big deal and not contagious unless you are having an active outbreak and have unprotected sex which would be stupid and painful I do not see many people doing that. Which Google says 491.5 million people live with this and if they donāt then they are type 1 where they get cold sores do not feel bad or ashamed about it. Just be honest with your partnerās and inform them of the facts of it and what they could possibly be risking but like I said itās hard to contract unless your having an outbreak and still have unprotected sex.
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Thereās medicine called valtrex you can take to prevent outbreaks. I would wait until you thought it will turn into being intimate. The amount of people infected with hsv 2 is astronomical. Itās nothing to be ashamed of. I would speak to a dr about prevention and how to protect future partners.
This isnt as uncommon as you think. Lots of people have it! After a couple of dates, if you think things are moving in a good direction is when I would mention it. Be ready to answer questions!
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Anyone with HSV-1 or HSV-2 should really disclose this to any love interest as soon as youāre comfortable with them & kissing/sex could be happening soon.
It needs to be disclosed for HSV-1 because if you have a sore, no matter how small, it can be transmitted to someoneās genitals.
HSV is so common today. A lot of people have it and donāt even know it because they are just carriers & never had an outbreak!
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what is it? ive heard of hpv is that similar?
Whats hsv i heard of hpv
I know this can be tough as people can be judgemental, but know that honesty also is a trait that is very attractive to a partner, and the right partner will see you being honest as a virtue, regardless what the issue is. And the right partner who handles it well is also showing their character. So release the shame and you can start easing into saying it with a best friend or someone before a potential lover. Iām sure you will find that the people who support you love you for you.
Donāt wait to disclose and this is coming from someone who was diagnosed during my tinder time. I tried waiting until before sexual activity or kissing and one guy I thought would literally kill me because he was horny and didnāt want to fuck someone whoās ādiseasedā.I just get it out of the way and if they donāt wanna continue the relationship then thatās fine with me.
I just say like btw I have this and hereās some facts about it, I take my meds and Iām careful. Most wanna know how you get it and I say I could have been born with it and honestly most guys were receptive of it and respectful.
I have many questions now
So hpv is warts and hsv is herpes ???
Why is there a 1 and 2
If a cold sore is hsv 1 why do they call it a cold sore why not just say everyone has herpes
Hpv is warts really ???
Why cant i understand how hpv is spread i know with sex but wouldnt u see that person warts because warts have to been removed right they dont just go away on their own right
Oh god the questions
I need a sex class again cuz we did not learn this when i was comin up
Just tell em. I have a friend with HSV and yeah, shes just honest. Hasnt been an issue yet
You should be upfront and honest about it from day one. It is the moral thing to do.
I also have HSV-2 and I would rather someone walk away before getting attached, then waiting to see if thing get sexual and then have to tell them and risk getting hurt thenā¦
Itās not always a deal breaker, but it is always better to be upfront about it from the start
Sorry i thought you were talking about a commodore pmsl
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Upwards of 13% of the population has it and will never have an outbreak honestly just be honest with sexual partners its so common
Some places you can be charged with a misdemeanor for not telling a partner before you have sexā¦ if they truly like you, they wonāt leave because of it.
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There is so much information out there. Please do your research, doctors dont know a lot about HSV. Also, join a facebook group or two or three! I also suggest looking up askingforafriend.us there are lots of wonderful information on that website. More people have it than you think, when you disclose, you might just get a āme tooā!
As soon as a date mentions getting intimate, I disclose the information. They either donāt call for another date, or they do and they bring condoms. Itās been years since my diagnosis and Iāve still never had an outbreak, but it can be transmitted even if you arenāt having one.
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B open an use protection babe it is what it is after that. Prayers
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What is this you have ? Regardless be comfortable inside yourself. It is what it is but it doesnāt define you
Do you take a daily prophylactic, such as acyclovir? If not, you should definitely be on one. Use condoms & avoid ALL sexual activity if you are having an outbreak. Keep in mind HSV outbreaks mostly occur with stress & hormonal changes (pregnancy, periods, ect).
If things get serious &/or you decide to no longer use condoms, tell your partner.
FYI- Everyone caries HSV. If youāve had the chicken pox or the chicken pox vaccine, you got it. Itās usually a stressful event that can trigger an outbreak. HSV 1&2 can be āfoundā in the opposite area (hsv2 around mouth, think oral sex) and someone with a cold sore can give you hsv1 in the genital region. Most person donāt even know they carry it.
And cold sores can pop up anywhere on the body, like the chin, nose & forehead.
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Oh so herpes. Heās tell partner. Also because if you sharing towels or bedding etc. Easily transmitted
I would be upfront and honest on the first date. I would also be armed with education about it in case there are questions
Disclose early, use protection, donāt be intimate during outbreaks, and your partner can be tested routinely for antibodies.
HSV 1 and HSV 2 are strains of the herpes simplex virus. You do not grow genital warts from this virus. However, HPV, the Human papilloma virus, can cause the growth of genital warts, but itās can also cause cancer. Thereās enough misinformation out there, but people need to be well informed. I never knew either until I became a nurse.