So me and my husband have a 1 year old and I’m 8 months pregnant. We’re having intimacy problems and it’s causing us both to argue more and putting a strain on our marriage. Everytime he tries to touch me I’m just not in the mood and don’t feel like. I feel bad every time and I know he just doesn’t understand. He doesn’t say anything about it but I know it’s bothering him. How can I make things better?
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Fuck your husband? When my man fall asleep and don’t fuck me I get mad and stressed as fuck.
Try pleasing him like oral or hand jobs you dont have to have sex just take care of him see if that helps
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Tell him to gtf over it! Hand him a cell phone n a bottle of lotion. Once u got two of them little psychos running around asking questions u gonna be too tired n too busy to smash anyways! Good luck! And welcome to the era of self love n long showers!!
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Currently have a one year old and an 6 months pregnant. Going through a similar situation. The most you can do is try to explain to him your hormones are different at the moment. I didn’t have this issue with my first but this time it seems to be lurking. You can’t force yourself to enjoy it anymore than he can force himself to not. Hormones are a big factor here and hopefully he will come to understand.
You need to explain to him that its painful and that he needs to wait till your in the mood. Everything is different down there swelling is going on and so forth so things feel different and possibly can hurt
Tell him to put himself in your shoes, think how knackered you are looking after his child and carrying his other
He should be offering to look after you and easing your load instead of expecting you to tend to his load… don’t feel bad and don’t worry too much about how he’s feeling
Make the most of quiet time you do have with snuggles and just enjoying each other’s company
Once bab a number two comes quiet time for you both will be a rarity xx
I mean obviously you weren’t having intimacy probs if you have a one year old AND your 8 months pregs lmao. He can’t cut you a little slack while you are pregnant?? Jeez. I swear men just have no idea lmao. He needs to chill and understand how you feel and that you are literally growing your second human life in the span of like 2/3 years. Maybe some YouTube videos about what’s actually happening to your body lmao. I dunno he needs to be more empathetic to your feelings for sure. Not everything is about men and their dicks! 
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Mm… you could always try and have him warm you up to it. Start with a massage and some oral?
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Okay so what I have found is that when I have no time to myself whatsoever I don’t want to be touched and I found that most women especially women of toddlers feel this way to I no longer have a toddler but here lately at work I feel like everybody is all over me just like a toddler would be and back when my children were toddlers I felt very similar so anyway what I’m getting at is if you could have a couple of hours away a week and to yourself you might feel more up to having intimate contact it’s something to think about because I finally had to do this because it was causing problems in my marriage very recently so I totally understand some of it’s just feeling like everybody is all over us all day and then not wanting anybody to touch us later
Try to make the effort. He does feel like you don’t love him. Pregnancy does strange things and that is something you have to speak to him about.
Sex shouldn’t ruin a relationship. It’s JUST sex. It’s not as important as breathing. Your relationship should be based off more than that.
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Tell him to grow tf up and get acting like a baby when you already have 2.
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BJ or handjob will work. 
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Get over it and put out anyways that’s what did even if I wasn’t in the mood. He would understand if I didnt want it he didn’t force me I just made sure he was happy anyways
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Just do it. The very act will have a positive affect.
Either explain it or give him some. 
Let him lick the cupcake
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Have you thought about giving him pleasure without intercourse … It will help alleviate some of his distress
Maybe he needs to chill out and you need to be on birth control once the baby is out so you guys can enjoy your babies and perhaps get some sleep so you actually want sex
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How can you get turned on? Can you think of anything that helps you feel that way? Intimacy and closeness don’t have to mean sex, and neither does sensual pleasure—so think about a delicious bath, a warm oil massage, plush new blankets wrapped around you and maybe starting from a place like that will get you closer to where you want to be.
And, both of you would feel a lot less tension if you could communicate! Say something, anything, and don’t just let it sit there unresolved! That doesn’t feel good and when you don’t feel good, you definitely won’t feel turned on
Anna Keen not really it keeps him happy we have been together 10 years and are still like newlyweds most of the time. It doesn’t cause more problems of you don’t let it. Don’t get me wrong there are times that I tell him no I don’t want it last night for example and we didn’t have sex. But I am also not going to let him go unsatisfied for months at a time if I’m not in the mood.
Jennifer Marie Menard I also give it up when I’m not in the mood bc a lot of times I’m to tired with working and having 4 kids. So I’m glad to know not all women think they can deny husband sex just bc they aren’t in the mood. A man’s needs are important to. It doesn’t cause issues in my marriage we have been together for 14 yrs now. He doesn’t force me and I don’t always say yes but 99 percent of time I do.
Anna Keen when I was pregnant with my daughter and for at least 2 years after I never wanted sex. At first I was telling him no every time after 2 months of not having sex with my husband I realized it was causing issues in my marriage so I started putting out even if I wasnt in the mood my marriage was better for it. And afterwards I started enjoying sex again. Don’t get me wrong my husband didn’t just take his pleasure even if I want in the mood he made sure I was pleased. Even though I wasn’t in the mood he made sure we both enjoyed it. Sometimes people just need to suck it up. My opinion it may not be popular and I don’t care if people agree. But I have a happy healthy strong marriage because of it.
Jennifer Ernie Ernspiker that is me too I dont always say yes but 99% of the time I do. And because I do for one thing I don’t have to worry about him looking for it elsewhere and another I know he isn’t bored.
Well personally I think he needs to grow up and realize you are 8 mths pregnant with a 1 yr old, just being 8 mths prgegnant is enough to not feel like having sex at his demand, but then throw in a 1 yr old. He should be catering to you and making sure you are comfortable rather than worrying about his own sexual desires.
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Just lay there and let him do all the work its that simple
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Nothing. He can wait until you are ready. I will never understand how a woman feels guilty for not wanting sex while creating a human. So what if he pouts, he’ll get over it.