I’m super stressed. I’m 23 weeks pregnant and I have a son who’s 11 months old. He will be 14 months old when the new baby arrives. And he still doesn’t sleep through the night. I’m worried about having a toddler and a infant at home alone all day while their dad is at work. I don’t have family that could comeand help me.
Please no bashing. Im just looking for words of encouragement.
Or any ideas how to manage a 14 month old and a newborn.
My boys are only 11 months apart. Don’t stress momma! It’s not as hard as you imagine. You’ll get them on a schedule and change diapers at the same time, take naps at the same time things like that! Being home isn’t the hard part…it’s going somewhere and having to carry a car seat and lead a toddler around by the hand 
So you’re having your baby at 31 weeks??? Girl it’s gone be hard… mother nature, love &* patience will get you through!!! I had 4 YONG kids when my youngest was born… 4 was in diapers. It’s a joke with the gods as to how much sleep you can function off of! No need to stress now… just going to make for a harder pregnancy.
My last 2 are 14 mos apart, my 3rd snuck up on us lol. I had a high risk pregnancy and had to rest a lot. It can be very hard and stressful but you can do it! I only have a couple family members who help me, they are both 75 so they are not always able. I have a 16 yr old but she can’t handle them for long by herself and she goes to school and has a job so I don’t even see her much these days. I’m home all day with both toddlers, they are 1 and 2 now. It’s just too hard some days to go places with both of them. After my last I was back in the hospital a week later with and infection. My husband had just started a new job so he couldn’t be there much. I was alone for several days and couldn’t even see my babies because they didn’t know what kind of infection I had. It was also the week of thanksgiving! But we got through it. My 2 yr old hates to sleep, always has. She is a live wire all day. So nap time is very difficult. My 1 yr old is the baby baby, big chunky pudding. They get so jealous of each other but they do play together a lot now. You will figure out what works for you and as they get older it’ll be a little easier, sometimes lol.
Sound machine
White noise will do the trick 
My 2 was 15 months apart but when she got her little brother she was the biggest helper they napped together she called herself playing with him like it was her babydoll but all in all I was n the same position it’s not as hard as u think it was fairly easy for me hope that helps u
You’ll figure out how to juggle your new life. It will be hard but over thinking all the what if’s will not change the bad days or make the days easier. The first year will be tough, hang in there! And let go of the expectations or the high standards you have for parenting. Television may be “bad” but a mom who is unhinged is way worse! You’ll find your balance!
I had 2 babies within a year and I feel ur pain. Stay strong momma. It will be tough in the beginning but I promise it will get easier. Since your Hormones got you very emotional right now it’s ok to cry it out. Try watching a comedy if you can and it can help
You got this momma! I am 22 a stay at home mom and I have a 3 year old a 17 month old and a 6 month old. I don’t ever receive help until my husband comes home around 6. It’s hectic trust me. But whenever you feel frustrated just go outside by yourself or in the bathroom and close the door. Take deep breaths count backwards from 10 and return to your little ones bc they are probably at the door screaming for you to open it. Also make sure you involve your 14 month old with the baby so he/she doesn’t feel replaced. Try to get your 14 month old to give the baby toys like stuffed animals. It’ll teach him to share.
There’s no concrete way to get through it. I’ve been in that situation. But trust that your motherly instincts will kick in and you will find all these amazing “mom powers” you never thought possible! It’s always scary to think about but you will find what works for you. Maybe if you tried all the advice on here given by these great women you will find a recipe of methods that will work for you and your family! I wish you the best of luck <3
I have 2 under 2 11 months apart. You’ll get used to a schedule and eventually they’ll get the same nap times. My oldest plays with the little one and she tries to help me out. Not easy but it is worth it.
Feeling the same way and going through the same thing. I have a 15 month old and due in just a few weeks.
Well my son now sleeps through the night we made a routine n we stuck to it try a routine n honestly when my son cries at night I let him crybunless it’s the MOOOM I NEED YOU cry n he sleeps through the night no bottles nothing did that at 11 months n he is almost 14 months old n has been sleeping through the night… One day at a time
I was in the same boat girl my S.O. works over nights. You will get in a groove. It might take a minute but you will. My little girl is 14 months old my baby boy is 8 weeks old. My girl didnt sleep through the night until after he was born and I had to really crack down on putting her on a schedule because I was running back and forth all night. I put her to bed between 7:30-8:30 depending on how sleepy she is. She does not get laid down with a bottle or cup. Although I do put baby einstein on for her with the lights off. (I will be weaning this out soon. And she whines and cries for about 5 min and passes out. I go in turn the TV off. She has not woken up during the night in about a week. But when she did I would go in there the first time check her butt give her a hug tell her I love her and to lay back down and close the door behind me. She would cry for a few but then pass back out. It is getting easier everyday… just keep consistent with whatever you do and follow through.
My mom did it with my brothers who are 15 months apart in age… it’s hard but it can be done.
I have 3 two of which are only 11 months apart my oldest is a VERY VERY hyper 5 year old none of my kids like to sleep. Once ur left alone you will fall into place. It may take a few days but you will figure it out my only advice is get ur kiddos on a schduele. Eat breakfast same time wake up same time eat lunch same time. Once ur kids are use to a routine it becomes expected n co.fortable and its so much easier when they know what to expect.
You can do it mama! I have 4 little ones ages 7,2,1 and 4 months that I take care of all day alone while my man works and I was so overwhelmed at first! But I promise you will settle into your routine and it will all be just fine. Newborns sleep a lot 
it will be alright you got this 
My first two were only 11 months apart and honestly it was not that difficult. Of course we had our days but once you get into a good routine that works for you and your family you will be good. My husband is a farmer so he works very long hours so I was alone most of the time too. Try not to stress and worry about it, it all works out in the end.
You’ll be fine. Once the baby is there you will find a routine that works for you
You probably need to sleep train your 14 month old before the new baby comes. Google and Pinterest sleep training. U have enough time before baby is due to have him fully sleep trained
The baby will most likely sleep a lot so you’ll gradually adjust to it all. If your 14 mo old naps you rest at that time too. There’s nothing wrong with that.
I had a new born and a 14 month old that never slept at night . It was a struggle for the first few nights / days but I got them on a sleep schedule through the day and caught up on rest while they did . It isn’t as hard as you think it’s gonna be … trust me I was so worried up until the day I had the baby and everything was so much better and easier than I thought.
It’s hard, it really is. My first was two when our second was born. Now I’m expecting another one. My oldest will be almost 4 and my second a year and a half. It will take time to get them on a schedule. Just take it one day at a time and remember, it’s okay to walk away for a few minutes when you feel you’ve had enough, as long as the kids are safe (baby in crib). Talk about how you feel to your s/o too. Don’t keep it bottled up. I’m right there with you not having family nearby to help. It’ll be okay, just an adjustment. 
Juwt breathe and go with the days girl.
In July I will have a 6 year old, new 4 four year old, a 13 mo old and a newborn… I am also nervous and wondering how I will manage 4 kids alone while my husband is gone working for us. I haven’t ever done closer than a 3 year gap until these last 2 so it will be interesting for sure… my now 3.5 year old runs me ragged so I am very nervous about how I will juggle it all.
Its amazing!! They will be so close to each other, I’ve done it twice with a small gap… take every day, as one day at a time, and when that doesn’t work take one hour at a time! 
But please don’t think this is a negative thing, you will get through it…
I did (and am) my babies are 11,10, 8,6, 2,1 xx
Listen, Im an only child. Mother died when I was 10. My father 
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Baby daddy ?
So, I cried a lot.
I had to stay home and miss a whole lot.
I could see it then bit the best thing wascfor me to sit down and love qnd nurture my babies.
I got my Bible and when I felt bad, aline , depressed I would read , gospwl music, prayer, real prayer.
Talking things over with the Lord. Sometimes in tears othwr time in grateful joy.
I started to collect things to do.
Books, music, crochet, coloring.
I bought myself some plants.
Herbal teas, more fruits and vegetables. In house exercising.
Most of all. I created a scheduled day for me and my babies.
Early bedtimes , early rise times.
A whole lot of cuddling.
I had 3 babies in 4 years.
Now, is the time for you to do your best to pay attention and learn to be a Mom.
Dont worry ; one day you will look back and say.
Oh yes, I did all of that because …
I am a QUEEN MOTHER.
Just a day at a time.
Take it day by day that’s what I do and I’m a single mom of 3 soon to be 4 little guys. Its rough but keep you head high you will make it through.
Same thing just happened to my wife and i. New baby with a 14 month old that didnt sleep through the night. Just be aware that the 14 month old could be jealous of the new baby dont worry it will pass in a week or 2. Also get the 14 month old on a sleep schedule in bed by 7pm always every night. Good luck.
My kiddos are 14 months apart. It was a lot of trial and error, adapting day to day. Try to keep a bedtime routine as well.
It’s going to be alot easier than you think. They kind of keep each other busy. Let you toddler help. He will love it. I always referred to the baby as our baby. I don’t know why, but I think it made them love the baby more. Good luck sweetie. You’ve got this
Mine are 22 months apart. Starting now write out a schedule that is doable for you. Include eating times, playtime, naps, bath, and bedtime. Try your best to stick to it. Try to run all the energy out of your toddler and make sure they eat a healthy meal at dinner. If you have to cut down the nap time it may help. Be very strict about this schedule that was when you have your newborn, at least she will be consistent
You can do this… enjoy ya new bub. Oh and a portable play pen is a safe way bub can be in rocker or anything like … I wish you well …