How did you guys get over the “roommates” phase? Also he cheated…is there any way someone got through it and got out stronger?
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The trust is already broken, good luck fixing it. I could never
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Do you know why he Cheated ? Was it a spare of the moment opportunity thing ? Was he talking to her for a while befor hand ? Was it a work friend ? There are lots of things to consider here men can see sex as purely a release and can have no emotional attachment to the person. If you fall into the same habits as when it happened then it might happen again.
I’ve known couples get over cheating, but it took counseling and effort by both parties. Is he interested in regaining the spark or is he checked out for good? It takes two to tango, and if he’s not remorseful or unwilling to make the effort it’s futile.
IF (and it sounds like a big if) he’s willing to work with you and hasn’t moved on to the other person, here are some ideas. Get the spark back by doing something new together. Travel someplace new and different, whether another country or a neighboring town. Go to a performance you wouldn’t normally see—a dance concert, a different genre of music, an opera (on screen if it’s too pricey), a play at a theater or a high school for example. Go to religious services at different religious institutions, then talk about it. Read the same book & discuss it when you’re done with each chapter or the whole book. Bonus points if it’s about relationships vs. fiction, though any genre or length is fine. Return to places you went in happier times for the nostalgia. Take up a new active hobby together. Ballroom dance lessons almost saved my marriage, but we had to quit because of work commitments.
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You aren’t in a Roomate phase. You are in the I don’t have the balls to leave yet, phase.
Most people can’t get over cheating. You will always wonder what he’s up to and who he is with when he leaves the house. It will eat at you until you finally loose love and don’t want to be with him anymore. It’s up to you what you want to do. But I don’t think a relationship will last because you lost trust and trust is the foundation of a relationship. That relationship will crush in time
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Uh no. Cheating isn’t just about the act, but the broken trust. Trust is hard to get back because you will always second guess him.
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Am I the only one that is confused? 
is he your roommate or your man?
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You can’t be serious 
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Cheating is a deal breaker for me. You cheat I’m done.
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This won’t go down well, but I cheated on my husband years ago online (not physically, not that that makes it okay) after we had a horrific rough patch and our relationship fell apart.
We worked through it by me being totally honest with him, he decided to forgive me, and we worked through it with lots of communication.
People are quick to say they’ll do it again, but I can confidently say I never will and I’ll live with the guilt of what I did for the rest of my life.
Statistically many women that follow this page will have cheated. The figures are high. People just don’t like to admit it.
If you’re both willing to put the work in, it doesn’t have to be the end. Good luck
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If he cheats once, he will cheat again. Find another roommate and another boyfriend
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I would have to be gone. Sound like everything is broken from intimacy to trust.
I’m gonna go ahead and comment because of all the women in here making it seem like this is unfixable. My boyfriend cheated on me back in December and we went through a roommate phase after that, because even though I stayed, I was still distant . Communication is EVERYTHING. Find things to do as a couple. Get out of the house. Be intimate (not talking about sex). Something so small can feel so assuring. If you both want it to work, it’ll work. 
good luck to you!
Ruined ur own relationship using roommate status
Honestly for me Cheating is something I wouldn’t be able to get over. I’d constantly be comparing myself to that other person and the trust would be completely gone. Everyone’s relationship is different but for me that would be a deal breaker.
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You’ll most likely need to see a therapist to sort through the Cheating part. For me that would be an automatic deal breaker, but I know some people stick it out.