I have slept with my daughter in my room since she was a baby. She is two years old now, and I want to switch her to her own room. How can I do this in a way where she will not freak out? I want her to be comfortable with the transition and am in no rush.
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Decorate their room with their favorite things!
If she still naps, put her down for naps in her own room.
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You sleep in her room with her
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Put her in her room simple
Have her help you make her bed and encourage her
Read to her in her bed until she falls asleep, worked for me.
We are currently going through the same thing. We got our son a big boy bed that he’s really excited about and wants to spend all his time on and we are starting with naps in there on his own and working our way to all night. Good luck mama!!!
Start slowly edging her towards the door and down the hall. Then let her decorate her own room.
Let her decorate her room! All kids and teenagers do it to make their room comfortable and a space to relax in. Wall decor, curtains, and down to the bedding.
I just recently did this with my two year old son. I started a sleep routine for naps first then started the started using the same routine at bedtime but added a few steps.
Lay down with her until she falls asleep. If she gets up and comes to your room go and lay with her again every time. It will take a couple of weeks and it will be exhausting and aggravating but soon she will be sleeping in her room on her own. Then you’ll wish she was still a baby wanting to cuddle with you in your bed.
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I started with my son raking naps in his room
Definitely napping in there and lay down with her in the room
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If you’re bedroom is big enough put her bed in your room next to yours
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I cosleep with mine. It isn’t easy but that’s okay. We started with naps here and there and randomly at night sometimes when it worked. When she started kindergarten we started putting her to sleep in her room and laying with her then leaving and did that for a year or two most nights until she was comfortable with it. Even now we usually let her fall asleep with us then move her or lay with her until she falls asleep in her room. She is more than able to do it and okay with it on her own but we use it as a special time to wind down and talk and snuggle every day. 
Just be patient and focus on their needs. They won’t be little forever!
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I would lay down in bed with mine for a few weeks. Started off until after they fell asleep, then gradually sooner. Eventually I could just tuck her in and read a book and lea e the room no problem. Just takes time and patience
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My son has co slept since birth and at 2 years 8 months we have finally got him in his own room and sleeping through most of the night (I never ever though this could happen) what I would say worked is waiting until he was older and can understand that he sleeps in his “big boy bed” now. We have a teepee floor bed which he loves and we started by laying with him every night till he fell asleep. If he woke in the night we would do the same thing. Now, 2 months on, we go up with him and read a book, leave the white noise on and say something along the lines of “im just going to go downstairs to do the pots/ empty the washing machine/ something, and I’ll be back in 10 mins to check if you” We go back in after 10 mins and most of the time he’s asleep. If he isn’t then I’ll say the same again and check on him in another 10/15 mins. It’s a slower method but it’s worked for us. No tears, he is finally aware of why he sleeps in there and everyone is happy.
Good luck!
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Take her to the store and let her pick out her own comforter set & stuffed animals. She’ll be so excited to sleep in her “big girl bed”! That should do the trick
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My daughter got scared in her room because her window faced the front of the house and the lights of cars bothered her.
When she was 4, we went to Target and got new Hello Kitty everything for her room. We got a spray bottle of “monster spray” (water with a drop of lavender oil). And I got her a puppy because monsters are afraid of puppies and dogs. 
Because she had her puppy for company, she stayed in her room. I did have to go rescue him later because ahe and her chiweenie were both heavy sleepers and they would be tangled together and she would have an arm over his neck or something.
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I made my girls room super special and hyped her up to sleep in there, I have to sit in her room until she falls asleep then I creep back to my room. Shes 4 and still wakes up throughout the night but I just repeat, put her back in bed and sit until she falls asleep. I hope I dont have to do this until she moves out as an adult 
also I have a big oval comfy chair that I sit in, she lays in her own bed so she is use to not having a body right next to her, just herself
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New bedding that she’s excited about, read ONE book and that’s it. Be prepared for crying, coming into your room. You need to be firm and take her right back to her bed and let her know this is where she needs to stay, she’s a big girl now and big girls sleep in their own bed, just like mom sleeps In her own bed. It might take a week or so but she will adjust. If she knows she can get her way, she will do it every single night. My daughter does it when daddy puts her to bed, multiple books, begging him to stay in her room. He stays so long that he falls asleep in there. She knows she gets one book and then I’m going to my bed when it’s mommy nights.
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I started with bed time readings and songs being in her bed, then when she’s asleep going to my bed. I put my bed in her room, the next week, closer to the door, the next in the hallway, then out of sight.
Also letting her choose her own bed (it was princess themed) helped her be motivated to be in it.
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In our days - 40 years ago - baby would be in their own room when they hit 4 months. They would occassionally get up when they could walk and switched from cot to bed, to get into our bed. But they had their room and parents had their room. Routine and feeding hours made our lives much better than the mothers nowadays doing feeding on demand and co- sleeps etc. Glad I had my children those days, feeling sorry to watch the younger mothers suffer with the new way of bringing up children.
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I did it 40 years ago. Slowly. I started with his bed right next to me and moved it every few days until I got him in his own room.
Both mine went in their own room early months…we moved house while daughter was about 6 1/2months old…no problem at all…straight to bed and fast on …i think the younger they are the better…they know no different…im not saying they didn’t sleep in my bed ,but it was only now and again but they never bothered when I said no not tonight
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They are more resilient and adaptable than any adult. You’re more scared than the kid is and they use that habitually due to only knowing dependence. You’re robbing them of the opportunities necessary to become independent adults. Or look at it this way, either teach em to sleep alone now and early or they will never want to sleep alone then you’ll get another shot when ur raising ur grandchildren made by You’re preteen kid. But by all means don’t do anything to foster independence, why would we want that? By the time they hit 12 months if they aren’t sleeping alone You’re a helicopter parent. By 3 I was on a 2 wheel bike and trying to makeshift ramps from doors and milk crates. Needed a nightlight till maybe 5. Shit at 5 my sister and I would campaign for top bunk nightly. Kindergarten they should be locked outside till streetlights wtf are yall doing to your kids. Embarrassing no wonder they think speach is violence
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Find a method that you can be consistent with. Kids adapt waaay better then we think. With a big change, at her age, talk about it, get ur kid excited. Read books. Buy sheets. Whatever makes sense to you. Set expectations, and consequences for their choice. (staying in their room all night is a reward, tantrumn is a consequence). Most important is be consistent and follow through.
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I never liked kids in bed with me – not only were they restless, but it ruined any “moments” with my husband. Kids can learn to sleep in their own beds. If you are so sure that won’t happen, put a sleeping bag next to your side of the bed and tell them if they wake up in the night, they can sleep there. It seems that you want your daughter in the bed with you and are not in a hurry to get her out.
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Night light, alexa set to soothing music. Nanny 911 says if they won’t stay, then sit at the bed side(do not interact) every day moving a lil further away from the bed.
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I don’t personally like the “cry it out” method. My whole body cringes if she’s crying. So for our family I’ve found my 22 month old would prefer a toddler bed because it’s similar to our bed. We do a night time routine where she has dinner a shower 
where this is her little playtime then pjs and we read a book together in her own bed. We cuddle Scooby Doo and have a bottle while mum/dad read to her. Then when she’s done we say “okay” it’s time for you’re sleep now. We lay next to her bed as I’m due with my second one 
in early august and rather her transition to her own room now before the number 2 comes so she won’t feel like the whole world is changing on her. She still wakes up a couple of times a night where we go and put her dummy back in but she often falls straight back asleep. The toddler bed we have is wooden and has sides to it so she can’t roll out 
sometimes even patting her bum while we lay helps too. Singing a few rhythms together like twinkle twinkle little star 
is her favourite 
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I co slept both my girls. So getting them in their room wasnt the easiest but let her pick out her own stuff for her room and let her help decorate it , be prepared for her to come out of her room lots lol naps first is a good way to start , my daughters have a peppa pig light that plays music and shows stars on the roof , they also have different colour glow in the dark stickers on their roof and their favorite teddy . I also read 2 books which helps them fall asleep .
Best of luck 
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I never let my bairns sleep in my bed where in their own rooms before they where two
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My daughter adjusted surprisingly well, I’ve coslept with her since about 6 months of age, now that we have made the move from WA, she got so excited to have all her stuff back out of boxes in her new room, a quick cuddle and kiss at bedtime, and shes out like a light! Honestly I was expecting it to be torture, but children surprise us everyday!
We started with naps in my daughter’s room in her bed to gradually she just liked the independence and now just sleeps in her own room. My son slept in our room till about 9 months but then moved into big sisters room so he still has someone in the room but he has always preferred his own bed. I also did to get her used to her own bed a bed on the floor in our room so she was still in there but not in bed which made it easier to transition to naps in her bed in her own room
Why did you sleep with her I your room in the first place???
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Just do it… maybe she won’t "freak out "
You wouldn’t have this problem if you had not made the mistake of having the child in your room.
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Start with having her do naps in there. Make a big deal about big girl bed and her own room. Let her pick out new sheets.
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Might try a playpen in your room. And gradually take it closer and closer to their room.
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My fiancé and I are still struggling to get my 2 year old to sleep in her own bed (in our room) 
it’s a process but don’t give up even when you feel like it.
If your in no rush you have about 10 more years give or take
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I couldn’t imagine trying to do that when my kids were babies… from the first night they slept in their own rooms. I wish u luck
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My son is 9 and he still sneaks in my bed…
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Make it very appealing, and sleep in there with her for awhile. Slowly start getting up before her, until she isn’t worried that your not there.
After that, tuck her in and tell her you’ll be in in a bit… she will start falling asleep sooner as she gets more comfortable with you not there, in a room she loves.
At least, it worked for me😁
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Im just here for the popcorn. Truthfully, I didn’t even know this was a thing. Children are comfortable with What they Learn. If, from birth, they sleep with you/ or in your room…that is their safety net. If always in their own room, but learn that mom or dad come when they’re wanted or needed, no transition is needed, as they’re well within their comfort zone. Im much older than most of you, and most of what I learned as a young mom, I learned from my mom. As i said when I happened in on this conversation, I didn’t even know this “co-sleep” was a thing.
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What i did with my toddler is we moved her little toddler bed into our room and let her sleep in her bed in our room for a bit til she adjusted to the bed and then we moved the bed to her room and took turns sleeping in her room on the floor beside her bed and then eventually story time put her to sleep and she was sleeping on her own 
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Easy .but be prepared for lots of screaming and tears every night for about a week
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Don’t know my 8 year old son is still in bed with me
That’s where you messed up, putting her in your room. My mom told me never to do it and both my boys started sleeping through the night at 8 weeks old.
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I got my son super excited about his bed, he got to pick it out and we got matching bed sheets and we put it together together aka him throwing pillows etc lol once it was up and in his room he never wanted to sleep with us again. He still comes and asks for cuddles and well lay together often but whwn i say time for bed go to ur bed he will go without a fight. Sometimes hell ask to sleep with us but i tell him hes a big boy and has his own bed amd hell say ok
Persistence is key
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Sit in her room and read her stories until she falls asleep if she comes crying in the middle of the night take her back to her room and tuck her back in
She is 2, enjoy the cuddles, even in her room, the transition will come.
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I have slept with my baby in my room since she was born… and there is the problem 
Long process. Good luck.
Good luck mines 5 now:joy:
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Make her room so beautiful she’ll want to be in there, spend time with her in there, and don’t push it. If she goes down in her room and ends up in your bed, fine. If she goes down in your bed and you move her to her bed, that’s fine too. So long as she knows your bed is always open to her, she’ll be fine.
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Your first mistake was co-sleeping for the first two years. They are perfectly capable of sleeping in their crib and then their bed. You teach them good sleep habits. Sleeping with mom and dad means no one gets good sleep. Now you have a bigger issue.
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I did the same thing then decided mama needed her own space and so did baby. So one day i set a room and filled it with all her favorite stuff. Toys, blanket, whatever. Got her a bed and a comforter of her favorite movie, and when i picked her up from school showed her the surprise. She absolutely loved it. I did have to lay with her the first few nights and assure her she was fine in her big girl room. And she did end up in my room here n there. But shes 2 1/2 now and sleeps in her own room all night. Make it exciting. A milestone for them.
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Bring in a few of her stuffed animals. lay them on the pillow but make room for her. When it is time for bed. Bring her to her room, allowing her to get in the bed, with her toys, telling her there is No more room for me. Would you like to have the nightlight on? (What we did was our closet doors were sliding wood panels), you can turn on the closet light and pull the door is closed but the whole room was lit up. Turn on the closet light leave the closet door open. She should stay in her bed with her favorite animals, keeping her safe or talking to and sleeping. You can read them a book she stays in the bed you sit in a chair beside the bed. Reading her a book. you can look to see when she falls asleep. Just put a bookmarker on the page where you left off or fold the corner of the page. You know how she sounds when she is sleeping? Get up quietly, and go to bed leave your door open unless she comes in. But march her back to her bed. It’s like a game she will figure it out. You are giving her choices like a night light, versus having a closet light on but keep the doors open in case she needs you or a glass of water. She can read a book in her bed until she gets tired. I did this with my 3 nieces and 1 nephew at the age of 4 each child is different, but they pick up the hint quickly. But all doors were kept open My bedroom was upstairs I became a light sleeper, I can hear everything. And my mother would say it’s your turn to watch them.
Get her to help decorate and makeup Her room. If she’s apart of the process the it may be easier to help transfer her. Start off slowly maybe have her take her day naps in her room (if she still has them). Then work up to
One night and soon. It won’t happen overnight. Persistence and routine are key! Be strong!. As you know, kids are the masters of manipulating to get what they want lol! Best of luck
We never started co sleeping- thought quitting would be hard on both of us. Started with baby In bassinet next to our bed. When he kept hitting the sides, he was moved to his crib in his room. Bedroom doors open or baby monitor on. He was always use to sleeping alone and on his own room and bed. If they had a bad dream , one of us went to their bed and quieted them or lay down with them. They also had a nighttime routine with bath, bottle,rocking,singing,book, cuddles and bed. They could put themselves to sleep.
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I am sorry for all the judgmental comments here… you did not ask or deserve them. I see your love and care for your child. My advice is to get a few things to help her transition and if possible position your bed and hers so you can see each other. Is at a chair in the doorway and sat in it until my child slept… every couple of nights I moved the chair further out into hall, etc. until I was in my room then my own bed. That helped us transition. Don’t listen to these other negatives…there is evidence of more emotionally well adjusted kids who start off in their parents room for sleep.
Now days children run their parents life not parents run children’s life pretty bad sometimes
Get a sleeping bag and lay on the floor beside her. And tell her that you won’t be there in the morning. It’s her big girl room. Just insure her you’re always there for her. She’ll get used to it. And let her decorate her room. She’ll feel more comfortable in it. Good luck:heart:
I started with “mommy will be right back to check on you” and had her stay in the bed waiting. Then I’d stand in the hallway for 5-10 seconds, then come back in for a bit. Over the next couple weeks I would extend the time away so she wasn’t so distracted when trying to sleep, but knew I was nearby if she needed anything. After the couple weeks, I would got back about 15 minutes later and they would usually be sleeping. (My first was not a self-soother! But it kept her in her bed resting)
We took our daughter to pick put her own bed and Fiona cover. We made a huge deal her being a big girl now and how proud we were. When it arrived, we let her help put it together (Just turning screws etc). Once it was time to sleep, she just loved it. The next day we made a big deal about her sleeping in it. She was 3 though, so no need to rush things
Best thing to do is never start co.sleeping to begin with …My children started out in bassinet next to my bed and then a crib in my room and then a crib in another room…never had a problem with them sleeping alone. .as they got older… occasionely as a treat I would let them lay in my bed to watch TV or read books or talk till time to go to their own bed …held them and cuddled them in a chair before putting them down for the night when they were little…parents need to have their bed to themselves…
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I am very much a my bed is my bed mother. I had my bub in the room in a bassinet with me for first little while and then transitioned him into his own cot - pretty early on. We had a breathing sensor under his matress (which would go off every night when I took him out for that 2am feed and forget to turn it off) so I was comfortable knowing that it worked… when he has slept in my bed on a rare occassion none of us sleep well…he’s now 6 years old. I’ve got one on the way and I’ll do the same thing… granted all children are different and all parenting styles are to 
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Ours were maybe two months old when they started sleeping in their cribs. We never had toddlers still sleeping with us.
My two slept in their own room from day one, never a problem
Make it fun and exciting, make it the biggest deal possible. Let her pick a theme and a pillow and blanket set. Them make a new bedtime routine something similar to what you have now but alittle different
At this rate, maybe when they’re 21 they’ll be in their own comfy cozy beds and not needing a night light. Thanks for the entertainment on this thread. I haven’t laughed harder on Nameless Network.
First - don’t let your kid sleep in your room - ever! Second - put her in her room, tell her it’s just for her put a small dim night light on there. Read a book tuck her in and be done!. Kids adapt - if you are confident she will be confident. Don’t ask is she wants to sleep there, tell her this is her room and where she will sleep
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Separate rooms from the start lol buy her a snuggle toy that she can have if she sleeps in her room.
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Try staying in her room with her. Like a slumber party. Play with her in there. Let her know that’s her room. This mom room.
Start with naps and then do nights but when you do it commit all the way. Don’t give in at any point during the time she is sleeping.
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Should have done it along time ago makes it harder for you in the end
Sit with her, in her bed until she falls asleep. And let her know that it’s ok to get up whenever to come to you…
We did this with our youngest…
Is this the nameless network or Someone Fix My All My Problems. Wtf.
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Switch baby monitor around so she can hear you
Not time yet! There are too many other physical changes going on for a 2 year old’s body for the parents to then add to the crap-heap of changes they’re going through by suddenly making them sleep alone! 
Your first mistake was co-sleeping for the first two years
They make cribs for a reason
First off… If you’re sleeping with a child you need to seek professional mental health. It is a clear sign you are having mental illness issues. You are afraid of being alone, separation anxiety and self esteem issues. By allowing your child to sleep with you. You are putting these same disorders onto your child. Please seek out a mental health professional to correct your illness.
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Theresa some nice ideas:)