How to help a child through loss?

My mom passed away recently and I think my one yr old son is still looking for her and has trouble sleeping since she went to the hospital a week prior to passing away I can’t think of how to help him sleep better any suggestions?

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Any saved voice mails? Maybe you could put them all together and make a loop?
I know when my fiancee died, I listened to his messaged for a couple years. His voice brought me comfrot…idk if that would be more confusing for a baby though…really sorry about your mom.:heart::heart::heart::heart:

Give him something special like a blanket or a photo of her thats his

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Do you have something of hers he can sleep with? Like a tshirt? The smell may help calm him.

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Any videos or pictures? When my aunts passed I told my little one “ She went to heaven but you can talk to her picture every day and she will hear you. She loves you and misses you”. Don’t let her forget her, it makes it worse. Ask her does she think about her and you guys can pretend to write a letter ( you just scribble on paper of course) to her and send it.

You could upcycle one of her shirts or blankets into a stuffed animal for him to sleep with. I made these ones from tee shirts

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Be honest with what happened to his grandma and please take note that young children are very sensitive to spirit. Tell him that grandma was called home to heaven and she will always love him and even visit. Never allow those precious stories of her pass like she did and do your best to keep her memories alive. I lost my mom just before my son turned a year old and I was just a hot mess but like my mom passing so young, so did her mom. I have the ability to sense my loved ones and I even scared my some of my own family half to death when I would giggle and play with her. Much love and prayers for you all.

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Have someone make a bear or bunny using one of her shirts.

Cuddle up next to him

I agree that he NEEDS something to cuddle with that was hers

my kids slept with things that were hers… my moms been gone almost 3 years and my younger ones still think shes in the hospital i mean we told them the truth but i still get asked if we can pick her up…

Give him something of hers to sleep with… a shirt or stuffed animal.

My granddaughter is 4 when my mom passed when she was 2. I catch her talking I asked who u talking to she tell me grandma. When we moved from my mom house after she passed. My granddaughter say grandma move with us. I tell her yes. That day in car she held my mom picture. We just recently lost my mom n law. She misses her she always asking we go see grandma she better at home. I know it’s hard. I’ve always heard that kids see and talk with their dead love ones

I don’t have any advice but I’m sorry for your loss, prayers for your family

You just have to keep telling them their with the Angel’s. Had this problem with my granddaughter she kept wanting to go to funeral home and get her mom didnt help we had to go by there every time we left the house it’s been a year and half now we go by and she tells me mommas with the Angel’s its harder sure

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My grandma passed when my brother was 2, he was extremely close with her just like I was, it was hard for me to even sleep and for my brother it was a nightmare, my grandpa gave him the pillow she always slept with and also gave him a teddy bear she had that smelled like her, within a week of having those he was sleeping normal again. But we also had to help him get through crying every night for a couple weeks saying he missed nana and so we would tell him that nana would visit him if he was sleeping.

Its alllways hard because little different lift him :point_up: l ol linda

I’m so sorry, this is about the saddest thing I’ve read. Maybe speak with his pediatrician to get ideas on how to help him.

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