I had my son do early intervention. They wouldn’t start until he was almost 4 though. It was really upsetting because I knew there was something wrong. Take him to be seen for speech therapy.
He could be autistic. My daughter is 20 and she is completely nonverbal.
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Mine didn’t talk either…until I started talking with them and reading to them. They learn to talk from you.
Get his hearing checked, tell his pediatrician you have some concerns. And try speech therapy
You should look into some sign language! If you would rather try that than going to a speech therapist. My son was very limited with his speech and they started him out with easy signs to learn and it helped him learn to talk!
My nephew didnt talk at 2. Hes 7 now and just fine. She’ll come around when shes ready 
You don’t have to wait until he can speak to potty train.
You can also teach him to sign.
My 7 year old didn’t speak much at 2 years old either…she didn’t start being more verbal until 3- 3 1/2. Her preschool teachers were the only ones who were concerned.
My son is 2, and is more verbal than either of my daughters were. But I practice with him when it comes to his speech, and being around his sisters and I helps too.
We never did speech therapy, but I know other people who have with their children.
With potty training, you wait until they’re ready. It sounds like he’s ready to start using the potty.
My son goes to the potty when he wants to. I don’t force him or anything. It’s easier potty training them when they become interested in using the potty.
I’m having trouble with why you can’t potty train if they aren’t talking. And with his speech, maybe try sign language?
My daughter is 2 years and 4 months and doesn’t talk, we recently got her tested for autism and they said we don’t think it’s that, but we enrolled her in speech therapy. It’s still really early on. She only says mama and dada. Same with the potty she runs away when I try to put her on the potty, you can definitely train them it’s just easier if they can say potty. If he’s taking off his diapers he’s ready.
Do you allow your child to watch coco Mellon. I’ve heard several people I know who have stopped letting their kids watch it and they are more verbal.
This exact thing happened to my son. He just wasn’t talking. He would say ma and da and that was pretty much it. He understood everything and would do multiple tasks you asked him. I thought I was failing him as a mom. Our pediatrician suggested speech therapy and we started going. It really helped him and me. I had someone that could see how hard we were trying and she worked with us. She diagnosed him with apraxia which is essentially stage fright for speech. That was a year ago and now he is speaking and trying new words where he wouldn’t even try before. It takes a lot of repetition and work to get him there but it was worth it. I would definitely discuss with your pediatrician and ask for a referral to a speech therapist. One of the things we learned was sign language. It gave him a way to communicate without the pressure of speaking and he picked it up so fast we couldn’t believe it. He still signs for things now but he speaks more than he signs.
Talk to his doctor about setting up an appointment to meet with a speech pathologist. While kids do things on their own time, generally they should be using at least 25 words regularly by 2. My daughter was only saying 5 words regularly at 2 and a half. I had her evaluated at 18 months. It just took a little for a spot to open. Her speech pathologist was amazing. By the time she turned 3, she was talking up a storm. She just needed a little professional help to get the ball rolling.
I’ve had two kids with speech delays.
My oldest has severe ADHD -not that we knew when he was two- and it definitely affected his speech. Once he was diagnosed and started medication at 5 he graduated out of speech in a few months.
He’s 8 and so far so good.
My youngest, is a bit of a longer story, the shortest version is that he had chronic ear infections that kept him from hearing properly and therefore not speaking. He’s 4 and is making a ton of progress.
You’re not “failing” unless you’re ignoring that this could be an issue.
Talk to your child’s doctor and ask for a referral to speech therapy.
I know a lot of people roll their eyes at this, but there’s two really important things…
First, STs are taught to look at not just speech delays in general but also why they’re there. There’s general things that can be done, but a plan tailored to your child and their speech delay specifically is important. With my oldest one thing we had to stop doing was letting him not try to speak. We’d answer to crying, whining, and pointing. Didn’t force the issue on him trying. My youngest it was a physical issue he couldn’t help. So we used sign language until his tubes were placed and he started trying to mimic what he was hearing.
Second, yes, kids can and do develop at Thier own pace. Some truly are just “late bloomers” with talking. The thing is that you don’t know whether your kid is a late bloomer or truly has a speech delay until they’re already hundreds of words behind their peers.
The therapy itself is very play based.
If you get 2, 6, 8 months whatever time in and your kiddo just starts talking then they can always discharge your kid from therapy.
My boy was that way didn’t really talk till he was 3 and a half.Now he is in kindergarten and the smartest one in his class.
All these “he’s probably autistic” posts make me cringe. Not everything is autism. Firstly look into early intervention. They can evaluate your son and let you know from a professional point of view if he needs services. I found more success using early intervention rather than just talking to our pediatrician. They do say it’s easier to potty train if they can communicate. But there’s SO many ways to communicate. You can use sign, the basics are very simple and easy for baby to catch on to. You could use basic pictures on a board and he can point to what he wants/needs. You can use a bell and see if he grasps ringing the bell means potty time. If you can get him potty trained now girl GO FOR IT! If you can’t thats fine too! The 1st step is not blaming yourself. The 2nd is reaching out for professional opinions. Once you do that you know your next step. I have a special needs daughter and helped numerous other parents by just recommending them to early intervention. A speech delay could mean anything and could mean nothing. Positive thoughts, you were made to be his momma, you got this!
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My son’s doctor told me to stop letting them point it out and get it… don’t give anything until they speak it . My case my son was 4 and not talking… he was diagnosed with right outside the box autism… the school put him with a IEP and he went to speech therapy, he just got out of it 2 yrs ago… my son today is 15 yrs old and talks just fine…
Neither of my boys would talk. My oldest until alllmost 4 and now my youngest at 3. Oldest had slight hearing issues and nothing with the youngest. Dr’s said there’s nothing wrong and they allow everyone to speak for them. My youngest says a lot of words, but you can’t understand it fully. He didn’t start saying much until he was almost 3. But he understood everything and is a total smart-ass. Who knew that at the age of 2, kids can be smartasses 
my oldest nvr stops talking and my little talks more and more each day. In my experience, they talk when they choose to. If yours had issues of not understanding anything, kid say intervention. But that doesn’t seem to be the case.
Early intervention services are free- please google your states Early Intervention Program and start the process ( this is offered until 3 years old) ! They will evaluate your son, and if delayed they will provide services for the areas of delay- my daughter started when she was 9 months- she gets PT, Speech, occupational, vision and Special instructions…. She is almost 3 and she will be phasing out of EI services and hopefully will get approved for services when she starts K3.
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My 4 year old son always strips naked at home. Doesn’t matter how warm or cold it is, he wants to be naked at home lol We have been making him keep his underwear on though and we explain to him that no one wants to sit where his naked butt has been 
For potty training, I dont see the issue because my 2 year old daughter is training and she sometimes wants to keep her pants off for quick runs to the potty. About the talking, does your son have ear infections often or a cold/runny nose? My 2 year old daughter just had her adenoids taken out and tubes put in her ears. There was tons of gunk in her ears apparently. The ENT asked if she was a quiet child and whether she talked much because the gunk had to have been blocking her hearing. Now that she had those procedures, she is talking a lot more and sometimes tells us things are too loud.
My middle son and daughter didn’t talk much until 3. Like completely 360’d from 2 to 3. But never feel like you can’t discuss concerns with your pediatrician.
Speech delayed maybe contact ur pediatrician ask for Early intervention information they go to ur house to evaluate him/her and decide if he needs Speech therapy ect i had the option im in NJ the only do it till 3yrs after that u gotta wait till they go to school
My son was delayed talking and I took him to ENT at Children’s, he needed tubes and his adenoids removed, after that he has been talking ever since that and speech therapy.
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If he can point at things he wants, he will let u know he needs to go to the bathroom. Kids talk when they are ready , then they never stop, lol. If he points to a ball n u say ball, he says ya , that’s all he feels he needs to say. The child is only 2 years old mom …
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If you live in California there should be free resources for speech therapy through your county
You definitely can potty train even if he doesn’t talk… my son is non-verbal and he can learn just as any other kiddos but at his own pace due to development delays
I’d request speech therapy
My first was like this. He was 3 and still not talking in sentences. He understood everything we said, and did as he was asked, he knew all of his colours and animals, body parts, he could pick words out of books - but just wouldn’t talk or use words.
I brought him to the doctor and he told me I had to stop doing everything for him - for example, giving him what he wanted when he would point/grunt (I knew exactly what he wanted when he wanted it). I stopped, and a week later he started talking in sentences - no issues since and he’s 13 now! Good luck xo
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Ask his pediatrician for an evaluation for speech therapy.
Kids don’t need to talk before they’re potty trained.
Talk to his Dr about setting up an appointment for speech therapy. My youngest was 2 when she started therapy and it’s helped alot. She’s almost 3 and is still going. She’s saying more words but she’s still not talking in full sentences
Teach him sign language!! My boy didn’t talk till he was 3!! He communicated only through sign language and when he first started using the potty he would tell us with the “potty” sign
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Give him time my son didn’t talk much until he was four
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Don’t push him. Just get him checked out to make sure he’s okay
We had a quiet one. We started using basic sign language, she picked up signing very quickly and enjoyed not being nagged to repeat things. Around 3 she started talking and hasnt shut up since
Both my grandsons (8 and 5 yrs old) refused to talk till they were around 3. We thought something was wrong also. Nope. They just didn’t want to talk. Now they will both talk your ears off.
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We were going through the same thing with our 3 year old… we did early intervention when he was 2 and had speech therapy until the age of 3 and now he’s in preschool. He loves going to school and he is doing such a great job! Since he started this fall we’ve seen a huge improvement he is now 3 and 1/2 and he is starting to say words and repeat everything we say to to him! Maybe ask his pediatrician about early intervention
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My son wasn’t talking at two also, we did speech therapy through the school district! Checked his hearing the whole works! Some kids talk when they want to! He is now 36 and talks non stop!!!
You can potty train without him talking
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My son was the exact same way to a T. I took him to his doctor and was tested for autism and he was not. By age 3 he was saying full sentences and potty trained. Just keep working with him.
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Have his hearing checked
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He may have speech issues. Get his hearing tested. If it’s ok look into speech therapy.
At 18 months our daughter was barely talking. Same as your son. We expressed our concerns to our pediatrician and they wrote us a referral for early intervention. It’s a free program through our state (MA), a speech therapist/early education specialist comes to our house once a week and she plays with our daughter and watches us play with her and gives us tips and tricks on how to work on her speech and other developmental milestones. They also have tons of free play groups and can even help with pre-k referrals and advice when the time comes. Our daughter is 2.5 now, she probably has over 100 words, talks allllll the time, speaks in small sentences, is learning count and working on the alphabet. You should see if your state has something similar, I know a lot do. It has helped us tremendously and given us tons of support
My son did not say one word til almost 3 then a few weeks before third birthday he just started saying sentences. No one was concerned at that point since he understood everything.he will be 4 in 3 days and has not been quiet since
Please get him speech therapy/early intervention, I voiced my concerns when my son was 2 and they brushed it off many times. Moved to another state and they immediately noticed his delays and my voice was heard! It’s much harder now that he is 7 but he is definitely progressing. The earlier, the better! Don’t brush it off and say it will happen with time, that happened to me and now my son has had to repeat kindergarten and has speech therapy twice a week (in school & outpatient) and have had 2 meetings with the child study team to put him in a more personal one-on-one setting, because pediatricians just brushed it off and said he will learn with time. Whether it is a delay or not, better to be safe than sorry and save the headache for the future. Good luck momma!
Ripping off the clothes and diaper is normal, my grandson is just about to turn 2 on the 13th and , he actually is just starting to say some things, mama (grandma) , ma mommy , book, car, truck, 2 , blue , duke , dog , juice aka anything drinkable but I mean he literally just started saying 95% of this the past two months. He was very stubborn with wanting to talk. We actually had him Evaluated for speech , waiting on an actual appointment back since then, also had his hearing checked which was prefect. I truly believe it is just him being stubborn. But he barely said any thing when he was an infant, which worried us and the reasoning of him seeing a speech specialist. I would have him checked with a speech therapist to see what if anything is wrong , he can just be stubborn also but the diaper thing is normal and if he understands what you say , you can work with him with the potty. That’s what I have been helping my daughter do for my grandson. I watch him 5 days a week plus they both live with us , so I usually have him most of the day & when he takes off his clothes and diaper I tell
Him do you have to go potty and tell him okay let’s sit and try to do pee pees I’m the potty and he will run over and sit for a minute or so but gets up and wants to just run around naked , he doesn’t like being clothed. 
anyways good luck with it all and hang in there, like I told my daughter, he is gonna wake up and will be talking nonstop and then it’s never gonna end .
Speech therapy. They start with an evaluation so you will find out if they think they can help him. Many insurance providers cover it and some states provide for free if he qualifies
My son didn’t really talk much at 2 either but now he is 2years and 8 months and he is talking like crazy. He still mumbles and does gibberish when he can’t find the right word. Mind you my son also kida skipped single words and went to sentences for some reason also… but Boys tend to talk later and it just is what it is. If you’re concerned call the pediatrician and they may recommend speech therapy
My little girl is 4 and was diagnosed with Autism. You should probably bring it up to his pediatrician. Maybe they can help you.
She doesn’t talk (non verbal) and it’s been a hard time potty trained her too.
Sounds normal…prompt him by saying when he wants something…’use your words’…one word at a time
Do you read books to him? I feel like books really helped us! And I agree with some other people you should be able to potty train
If he knows he doesn’t want to wear a diaper then it’s time!
Baby signs - great videos that will help him communicate until speech comes. They are on YouTube I think.
Get his hearing checked and get him to speech therapy.
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My son didn’t talk much till 2.5 and hasn’t stopped since. Lol. I was very worried too but my peds told me it was fine he would start talking and she was right. However, she did give me a speech referral if I wanted but the Covid hit, so we waited and it happened over night.
I had that problrm with .y son i got him flash cards made thangs out of cookie cutters made him cut them as he had to say it. I had to het him speech theripsat. Read to him get him highights books. Good luck
My son didn’t talk much at all until recently and he’s 2.5. if you’re that concerned, bring him to the Dr.
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My boy was 4 and we’re now in the process of an autism diagnosis. A lot of behaviors I overlooked point this direction.
You need to read a book to a child every day it will help
My daughter didn’t early talk at that age either. She began potty training before talking. She did see a speech therapist and now she talks ALL the time. Lol I don’t feel as though they need to talk in order to potty train. Get him one of those cute little urinals you hang on the wall? If he is taking is diaper off maybe that is his way of communicating he is ready to start. As for the speech maybe look into a speech therapist or early intervention programs in your area.
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My second was 2 not talking was slightly worried but big sister did all the talking for him—if worried definitely bring it up to his pediatrician they can help prompt you in the right direction or even a lot of places have a speech 0-3 program …definitely reading books asking him questions pointing out colors words is super helpful …by 2.5 his speech flourished and now he’s 7 we can’t get him to stop talking as for the potty training just him taking his diaper off he’s ready …my fastest easiest kid of our 4 to train was my son he was trained around time he turned 2!! Get him in a potty routine read a fun potty book, make it fun:heart:
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My oldest was like this and while i hated making him cry i started being very Stern about not giving in until he tried to pronounce what he was pointing at. There are early intervention programs that will work with you as well
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Sing to him… happy children’s songs …have him start setting on the potty chair…when he still is not talking at 4…that’s when you worry…
My nephew didn’t talk much at all, and when he did, it wouldn’t be understandable. The sound would come out like how a dead person speaks. We had his ears checked and he needed tubes in both ears. After that, his speech took off!!
My son didn’t really talk until he was 3. When he did start talking, it was in full sentences. He just didn’t care to talk. You can still potty train him. Let him run around naked in a long shit. You can tell when he has to pee. He sounds smart, so he’ll probably catch on pretty quick
My 1st child started speaking clearly at a year and a 1/2 but would trip over a hair on the floor my 2nd child could walk at 9 months and run and jump and do everything imcluding riding a razor scooter by 2 years old but barely spoke. His brain was too busy focusing on the activity centers, my third was somewhere in the middle they all mature with their own pace just read him books and don’t worry about it.
Give him time, it will come, he might be still young,
I was super worried about my son, he didn’t really talk until he was 3. Before that he had about 20 words he would use. His doctor wasnt worried because he would listen, he paid attention when being talked to, but just didnt talk much. He was being evaluated for speech and we were about to start classes then out of nowhere he started chatting away.
He potty trained himself though, he started pooping on the toilet at 2, he would point to his butt and walk to the bathroom at 2½ he started to pee. He was out of diapers a little after 2½. I think kids are ready when they’re ready, it doesnt matter if they talk much. If hes giving you clues, it wouldnt hurt to try. Just dont force it too much.
imo you can introduce potty at any age as long as it’s a positive.
I highly recommend taking him to have his ears checked!
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Don’t tell him the item, be patient and wait for him to tell you…
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My godson had the same problem and we took him to a speech teacher and they started ASL with him which he was learning quickly but then not long before he turned the three he started taking and he doesn’t stop he is about to be four and it amazes me how far he has come in such a short time… it is surprising the to things he knows bc that whole time he was just listening and soaking it all in. His pediatrician told us boys always start later than girls. Also as soon as he started talking he was potty trained not long there after wuth free accidents. He also hated diapers or clothes for that matter and always wanted to be naked. Now he stays dressed and chats up a storm. IT WILL HAPPEN MOMMA BE PATIENT
As a nurse I will tell you to have him evaluated. Is costs nothing and if he needs early intervention the earlier he gets it the better. Always air on the side of caution. Good luck
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My son is 3 1/2 and just now started actually putting words together. He did the same stuff, understood everything we said but just wouldnt talk. I wouldnt worry to much yet. Enjoy the quiet sorry! but now my son doesnt shut up!!
Go with your gut feeling not what other people say but my advise when he points say you can’t understand what he wants You say several things that are in the direction and make him pick one by Talking to you instead of pointing . Then you are teaching him to verbally respond instead of pointing
If he can say No and Yeah he can talk just chooses not to you give in Don’t he will talk when ready but have his ears checked
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Please stop going by “every kid develops different” . That does more harm then good There are milestones for a reason. If your kid isn’t reaching them, within two months find out why. Try speech therapy. Or have his hearing checked, he can’t say words if he can’t hear them. Teach him sign language so he can communicate.
My six year old was like this and we put him in speech therapy it’s been a year and now he can’t stop talking 
talk to pediatrician
Sounds like he doesn’t have to do doesnt
Create him books every night .and he might not be ready to potty train .give it time .once he starts talking he won’t stop! 
Melissa Alexander could this be lead?
For real, don’t give him what he wants until he says it. We had to do this with my sister. She didn’t want to talk because she’d get what she wanted by grunting. If that doesn’t work, have his ears checked. My nephew couldn’t hear so he didn’t talk. They put tubes in his ears and he started talking because he could finally hear.
All states provide it for free if the child qualifies. That is federal law (PL94-142)
Potty Training- most recent studies indicate most child are not potty trained until after the age of three.
Your child does not have to speak to be potty trained.
My son’s didn’t really start talking until he was about three. Hasn’t shut up since😆
My daughter was the same way. She is currently in speech therapy but we learned that it’s not that she doesn’t know the words. She just isn’t confident in how to say them or use them. She is saying a lot now
Let him toilet train some kids just don’t talk much and that’s okay. If his understanding what needs to be done and how to follow directions he will be fine.
I think my children were mad at me, when they were born they didn’t talk to me for over a year.
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My 2 year old turned 2 in late August and is just now saying actual words. She isn’t talking as much as my 4 year old was at that time, but she is mixing coherent words in with babble.
Have him tested for autism. My son had a lot of the classic symptoms but the talking is what got my doctor to have him tested and everything fell into place after that.
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I had my kiddo in speech by 3 for the same issue. He wouldn’t talk but would understand everything. Tennessee early intervention stepped in with home visits and helped me potty train, along with work on goals outside of a school setting. He also started early pre-k which helped him immensely by putting him around other kids his age. Reach out to your pediatrician or family doctor about your concerns and see what resources are available in your area💕 my son is 7 now and thriving in school.
My kiddo is 3.5 and says probably a hand full of words. In the past month he’s been putting two words together! A HUGE milestone!! I have been bugging his Dr since 1 something wasn’t right. He’s smart as can be but just has a speech delay. I worked with birth to 3, we taught him how to sign, and is now in 3k 2 days a week for his speech. Yes he will be evaluated for autism, and will get his hearing checked… But just because he doesn’t speak doesn’t mean he’s autistic. My son is no where on the spectrum.
He still has his days of throwing temper tantrums… my God the screaming fits… but getting less.
He refuses to go to the bathroom and be potty trained. All my boys didn’t want to touch the potty till 3.5 so I just keep talking about it. Your son doesn’t need to talk to become potty trained. You can teach him to do signs to tell you when he has to go potty. Even if they aren’t by book perfect, you two can understand what they mean.
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Have his ears checked. My grandson needed tubes in his ears to drain properly, in order to hear properly.
Because everything sounded like it was underwater, his speech is somewhat delayed now but he is talking so much more now.
I’ve never heard of delaying potty training because of a speech delay. Sounds like he’s ready to give it a shot.
Use sign language. There is a book called Baby Wise which helps kids who are pre-verbal but have understanding.
Early Intervention Will Help and I would still teach him how to use the bathroom. My daughter didn’t start talking til she was about 4 almost 5 but she learned to used the bathroom first.
It also doesn’t hurt to have his ears checked out just in case. My daughter had a hearing test just to make sure it was nothing more than what the situation was. Good luck with everything. I remember that story perfectly with my family
He’s ready to be potty trained. The words will come !!!
i have a 3 year old great grandbabbie she to will not talk she is very smart learns real fast understands all you tell her she will just not talk plus she is not potty trained if you ask her if she is wet she will shake head yes i am at a loss as whats going on
my 2 year turnened 2 in august 2021 and is still mostly baby talks. she says some words. she can tell you what she wants for a snack by doing gestures and she knows how to follow directions also.
my 3 almost 4 years old didn’t start talking until a few months after turning 3 in April of 2021.
I recommend getting an evaluation through your local health department (or where it may be in your state) for speech. He may just need some help. My twins were the same way and they didn’t potty train until after 3. It was rough, but it all worked out in the end.