My husband (29) and I (23) have been together for 3 years, married for a year in June. He has two other kids that live with us. We recently had a baby in November. We have only had sex a few times since our sons birth. He and I have always been having issues as far as sex drive goes as I am okay with once a week and he wants more than that. He wants to me to inciate sex more and always has. I am okay with doing that once a week when I am in the mood but if I have sex more I dont seem to enjoy sex as much especially if I inciat it. I tried explaining to my husband if he wanted sex more to tell me and we can have it. However he wants me to enjoy it. Im exhausted right now and want my marriage to work but I just want him to understand he and I have different sex drives.
Have you talked to your doctor? Sometimes your hormone levels might be off.
You guys need to find a way to meet halfway with it. Is something more going on? Stress? Work? Etc.
Sex or lack of ruins so many marriages-relationships.
I know from experience two different sex drives doesn’t work at all.
i dont have this issue personally but it sounds like a loose loose situation. can you not compromise and say 3 times a week. if he isn’t willing to compromise idk if this relationship will work
Tell him to fix dinner, put it away, clean the kitchen, give the baby the bath… maybe then, you’ll be in the mood… you’re exhausted mama 
Have an honest talk about your transition into mother hood and its effect on your body. He needs to be patient and should also know since he has 3 kids at this point.
Well he can’t have it both ways. If he wants it more and you are willing then he can’t whine that you don’t enjoy it. I mean that’s like me telling you I want you to eat more veggies AND ENJOY IT. You can eat more but I can’t make you enjoy it lol.
If you are willing, make it twice a week or 3 times every 2 weeks. It’s not really something you can sit down and negotiate though or you and him will take the romance out of it. Maybe just up it here and there and see the results. Maybe you won’t be bothered by it. Maybe it will improve your relationship and make him happier. Or Maybe you will see no benefit. But you don’t know if you don’t try.
Tell him to do the house work and help with kid’s marriage should not be based on sex
Same problem. My sex drive was never that strong but having 2 babies in 11mo has really affected my body image. My husband hopes for once a week, sometimes it’s every other week (since we only see each other on weekends), but he knows I am trying. I went back to the gym to help my mental/physical health and need to get my hormones checked.
I really dont blame you. You had a baby less then 3 mths ago. Your tired, hormones are outta wack, you dont feel like yourself. Totally understandable. I’d tell my husband that you’ll speak to your doctor and maybe get on some type of birth control, to help your hormones out. Postpartum depression is no joke either. Depression can mess with you big time, especially your sex drive. Best of luck.
Inciate??? 
That will cause your divorce
If you dont want to have sex, you shouldn’t do it to please him. He should respect your feelings too. For crying out loud you just had a baby and mom life is hard! He wants it more but only if you initiate? Sounds like an ass to me.
I havent had a high sex drive after my first. The only reason I had my second was because when I drink that’s when I want it… and it hadn’t gone back. And I’m okay with that.
I don’t exactly initiate anything. Maybe couple times a year I actually do. I’m 29 he’s 24. Naturally his sex drive is more than mine n even if I don’t initiate, I don’t deny him anything. I tell him to just rip my pants off whenever he wants to lmao trust me, lack of sex will only makes things worse. You can tell him til you’re blue in the face that your sex drives are different, but it’s not gonna change his in anyway. All it’s going to do is push him away n then he’s not even going to want you anymore. Tough situation. Good luck
I have 5 kids and I’ve been there. My husband’s sex drive continued as mine diminished and it took a couple years after my last child for me to actually want to have sex more than 2-4 times a month and even now I only want it maybe 2-3 times a week. It was a hard process, but unfortunately our bodies go through so many changes when bearing children. He needs to understand and let you lead or else it’s going to cause a lot of tension because it puts added pressure on you and your body. He was really hard on me after the first because he was used to it multiple times a day, in the end I realized what kind of human being he was and am now getting divorced. With every kid the harder he was on me and many other issues came into the relationship due to my lack of sex drive which drove me away from him completely. I’m not saying you will experience this, but he really does need to be very reasonable and willing to work with you through this process.
Y’all need to sit down and find something that works for the BOTH of you not just him.
First of all, it takes 1yr. To heal all the way after having a baby. In a + marriage sex is only 10-20 percent of a relationship
In a bad sex marriage it is more like 70-80 of the relationship. So ya it stinks.
You need to sit and have a talk with him about not having the high sex drive right now. Me and my husband only have sex once every week or two on some occasions to every day on others. We are on the same page though of sometimes we are just to tired and sometimes we aren’t. The issue is you have to find what sort of matching point. I get not having the time or energy (7 months pregnant, 2yr old and 5yr old) but at the same time you have to make the same time for him as you do you children or it won’t work out as he is just as important in the family.
I’m satisfy, twice every two weeks, every day, I’m not in the mood for everyday sex,there’s no enjoyment there
Some medications (anxiety meds for example) and medical conditions (depression for example) can cause this. I would have a talk with your Dr, to make sure everything is ok.
You just had a baby. You probably aren’t back to your normal self yet. Tell him to back off.
I agree with the talk to your doc comment. There are medications out there that may help with your sex drive i
What I am getting from this. Your husband wants to feel wanted & needed sexually. It never hurts to make the person you promised to be with feel special. I bet its not about the actual sex, just having an intimate moment with you would be what he wants. Good luck & hope you two can resolve this.
It’s time to speak to dr. Or therapist.
Communication! Not confrontations! I know it’s hard and God knows we’ve been through it. 25 years…1 divorce…2 marriages…3 kids and all the other things that life throws at you. Communication is key.
You just had a baby not that long ago, it can take up to a year to get your sex drive back, explain to him, there are lot of hormones that go unbalanced during and after having a baby, you have every right to not have sex everyday