You cant file for ABANDONMENT because he IS still having contact with him. You have to wait until he goes 6 months with no contact to file abandonment on him. All you can do is file a motion that its causing you sons mental health to become unstable and hope they grant it to you
Collect the child support - it can be garnished about of his check or income taxes.
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My daughters father is a crack head and stays in jail. He wouldnāt sign his rights over either. He was 50,000 behind in childsupport and would rather sit in jail then pay. So I took his rights away from him when she was in grade school. Yes I had to pay for it. And she is fixn to turn 18 soon and its still the same crap. In jail as Iām typing now. He gives her false hope. Hes supose to be out for her graduation so we will see.
Maybe try some counseling with him. My daughter was same way but waited til she was 14 when she acted out. Prayers for you and your family
I would ask a lawyer that or go to the courts. Every state and situation is different.
Do se googling and research custody laws, parental rights, and everything of that nature in your state. Also stop being so angry at the dad even tho I know how it feels to know your child is hurting get the baby in therapy for himself and stop trying to force dad to he available. Sounds bad but it may help you get the results you want in the end
Getting full custody isnāt going to help anything. Put your energy into your sonā¤ļø
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You and your son should both go to therapy to handle the hurt and negative feelings towards his dad. His (and your) mental health will not get better just by getting custody.
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Iām so sorry your son is going through this. It would break my heart if my dad did this to me. My priority would be to get your son some professional help over trying to severe legal ties. Make your son and his feelings the priority.
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As a mom of a 14 year old boy who has delt with a ādadā like this his whole life. Take him to therapy! No matter if his father has rights or not your son isnāt going to just forget about him and this will continue to hurt him. Get him the support he needs to deal with his feelings correctly.
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Most states the other parent has to be out of contact (phone calls, text, mail, etc) for a year voluntarily(without you ignoring calls and other communication. I feel you because I am going through something similiar with my daughters dad
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Iād maybe start with counciling for your son on emotional coping and start making phone calls if your really feel this needs to happen. But the real concern is your son right now trying to navigate and express how he feels about all this. Good luck mama, my daughter is 9 and we went through this! 
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How is having the court award you full custody gonna help you? You already have full custody. Heās only been distant for 2 monthsā¦.the kid has a lifetime of ups an downs, avoid the drama and call his dad and tell him what is happening, coparenting is much easier than power struggling with the other party.
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My ex husband did the same. He is in and out of my sonās life causing my son anger issues. I always had full sole custody since I divorced him when my son was 13 months but he did this with his court ordered visitation. He hardly showed up or called being court ordered and when I brought that up in court the judge turned it around on me that Iām being hostile. At least here in New York they told me visitation is at will and he basically could come and go as he pleases at the childās expense
Most attorneys will give you a free consultation. I went through something similar. I put my child in counseling and got a GAL attorney that only works on the childās behalf. He eventually just stopped all contact after I hired the GAL. Good luck, I know itās hard.
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Donāt terminate his rights. Get the child support going. Be there for your son. Therapy. And when the day comes your son wants to call,reach out or go see his dad let him and be supportive.
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Donāt waste your time, it hasnāt been long enough. Dad is a POS, just concentrate on your son right now and the 2 of you go to counseling/therapy. When your son gets older, let him decide if he wants to see his Dad or not. You donāt want him to ever think you kept him away. Just help him however you can - he will see it and understand when he is grown and let him decide. Being his Mom is the best thing you can do. Good luck.
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I highly suggest therapy for your son.
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File, emotional abuse
It shouldnāt cost you anything to report him for missing child support payments. Call the appropriate agency, give them his address. They will track him down. Get your son a counselor. The school should have one.
Your son isnāt going to forget his father exists and his problems wonāt just magically disappear if you get him to sign his rights away. Think about whatās best for him, what he needs, not what you think would be easier because youāre mad and disgusted with his father.
Fight for full custody, it shouldnāt be hard once you prove abandonment.
Get your son counseling and going forward youāll need to take each day and situation as it comes with your sons needs.
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After a certain amount of time with no contact what so ever , you can usually file abandonment against dad .
In Alabama itās like 3-6 months , idk what it would be where your at .
No way around it without a lawyer id start therapy regardless your son needs help handling his emotions and hurt.
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I think instead of wasting money on courts for rights, you should invest in therapy for your son. You should be fighting to fix him, not trying to get one over on your ex. Your ex is not worth your energy! Your son is everything x
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I would get child support going first.Some states,have laws regarding his rights.For NY,the father would have to have no contact for a full year for us to have him sign off on his rights.
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Start with putting the kid in therapy. Also be prepared that it doesnāt matter what the dad has done, the court will still recognize him as a parent. Unless he has a history of abuse or drug use, stuff like that, they donāt care.
My sonās dad did something similar. Left the state for a year, came back and started another court process. They still gave him parenting time!
take your son to a child therapist, He needs to express his angry, disappointment & feeling sad to this person
My son is 11 and going thru something similar, he was there for years seeing him, spending time with him, calling and then all of the sudden about 4 years ago he decided to just stope for whatever reason (he was a recovering alcoholic and Iām pretty sure heās back to drinking), heās only 10 minutes from us but doesnāt put forth any effort and Iāve always kept the lines of communication open for them. Ive always said no matter how I feel towards the man itās a decision my son has to make whether he wants to see/talk to him (within reason, obviously if I felt it was a danger to my son Iād intervene) but I know if I make the decision for my son as he got older he may resent me. As heās gotten older heās started to see how his dad is and is making the decision for himself but he has taken a toll on my son mentally thatās why heās going into therapy to help him cope and learn to deal with what heās feeling (abandonment, unloved, unwanted). I donāt think gaining full custody is the answer to your problems because at 7 years old he is most likely not going to just forget his dad ever existed, he needs therapy to help him learn to cope and deal with everything heās feeling. Just he there for him and get him help, that needs to be the main focus because trust me it affects them more than we may even realize. At one point my son has talked about hurting himself because he felt no one loved him or cared because of his father (major reason for the therapy) best of luck to you and your son.
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He took off to a different state and went no contact, abandonment should be the easiest route for that
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Your first visit to talk to an attorney is free.I would seek advice first.
And he may not want to turn full custody over to you cause he will have to pay child support.
You canāt make your son forget. Nor can you take the pain away. You can take her m to therapy. You need not put him down. You just donāt know why and youāre sorry dad is making this choice. Next get him a male mentor, family, friend, big brother. Keep reassuring your son itās not healthy m. Lots of hugs. Keep him m busy
Really, if you have no visitation set by the courtsā¦ then I wouldnāt worry about full custody. If he doesnāt so much as even call your son you can almost bet heās not going to pay the 5k plus to get a lawyer to fight for visitation. Until he gets a lawyer he has no right to see his son. Like some of the other people have saidā¦ focus on your son. Donāt answer his random calls. Until they become consistent. And put your son into therapy. And if he does have ordered parenting time by the courts he doesnāt seem to be using itā¦ or planning to. And by the time he does your son will probably cry around about not wanting to see him because he isnāt comfortable with himā¦
I donāt see how waiting money on get full custody Is going to help the situation 
Just because you feel that way doesnāt mean your son feels that way. Iām sorry heās hurting the best thing you can do is be there for your son . If dad doesnāt want be there put all your energy into your kid involve him in sports , lots of kids clubs keep him busy. and act like dad doesnāt exist you said he hardly reaches out anyway good luck mom 
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My sons dad moved to cali last year hasnāt seen my son since donāt call donāt show up for visits they did send a card a a car that flips the card said to carter from carter so he found out he has a brother younger then him named after himā¦. Do what u feel is best for ur baby bc if u donāt look out for him no one else will I learned the hard way
It Will cost up front for you but a Lawyer is what you will need to get what you want!
A parent canāt just sign their rights away. There has to be clear proof that the child is in immediate danger and their health and safety is at risk. A judge wonāt let a parent sign the rights away because they donāt make any effort ti see the kids.
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How would getting full custody help your son? That doesnāt sound like the issue at all. Is there some kind of Big Brother organization that your little guy could connect with? In the meantime, get the child support back on board for you.
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Itās most likely a case of him not wanting to speak to you, because he obviously has to when heās trying to speak to his son. You can get full legal custody, that shouldnāt be a problem, just file a motion. But you arenāt going to get dad to lose his actual rights to the child. You wonāt need a lawyer you should be able to do everything pretty easy.
I believe you can file child abandonement if they donāt contact the child in 6 months or more. I read that once. Might be worth a shot. I know some say why does it matter, but it does. If you want to get your son a passport to travel, the father has to sign it. You donāt want legal ties when the other party is difficult.
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Unfortunately, he wonāt ever forget he exists.
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For full custody you need a lawyer. And 2,000 wonāt get you anywhere. It takes about 4 to 5 thousand dollars to get full custody. My grandson just went through this.
Your son needs therapy and not to be subject to another court circus. He may be using dad as an excuse for something else going on.
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You canāt force his father to sign over rights. You can go for full custody. I highly recommend getting a lawyer, mostly because of the complicated forms, filing fees, and court appearances. Maybe if you take the father to court for full custody, he will come around and start to have regular contact with your son again. I would get your son in counseling for his anger issues. The poor kid has to be hurting and could probably use some help.
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I donāt see where severing ties will help your son. Have him see a therapist. He needs extra emotional help.
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My advice is call legal aid and talk to a lawyer.
Getting full custody isnāt going to heal his little heart. He needs therapy at least if his dad doesnāt care enough about it is effecting his sonā¦just my thoughts tho
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Your son will never forget about his father.
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Counseling definitely. States May let them sign rights away but they will still be responsible for support unless you have someone your with willing to adopt. You can fill in court for full custody without a lawyer if heās willing to sign and agree but if he decides to fight itās going to get expensive. My sons dad hasnāt been in his life for almost 5 years. He doesnāt remember him but he hasnāt forgotten him. Thatās not something that will probably happen.
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They may give you full physical custody, but I highly doubt theyād have him sign his rights away. I would look into getting your kiddo into some type of therapy.
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You having full custody will not take your sonās pain and anger away. You need to get him into counseling/therapy in order for him to work through his emotions and the situation. Put the money you would spend on a lawyer towards helping your son get through this.
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Getting him involved in sports activities try to make time to meet intervention time between each other you donāt need a therapist. All those forms of act makes them confused. Get him involved I seen many single moms became better than when they do have a husband. I Can do it trust in that inner self person ā¦ā¦
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The fact your son is 7, he will never forget who his father is. Also if he is angry that his dad isnāt involved in his life and you try to make it so he can never be involved again will damage your relationship with your child since you would be keeping him from his father and he Clearly wants his dad. Not sure how you getting full custody will help your son. Therapy would help your son be able to cope with his feelings towards his father and could help with his acting out in school.
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Channel the anger like somebody said get into a sports or a hobby he likes or you know suggestion go do something with them every weekend if you can donāt have to be every weekend thereās a couple hours on a Saturday do what he wants find out what he wants to do and go do it just go take a hike in the woods go swimming fishing
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Some states you canāt just sign away parental rights unless someone else is willing to legally adopt the child. You have to prove other parent is unfit. Which means lots of court dates and $.
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You need to go to your local DHHS office and make him pay child support. Most states also make the parents of the child have visitation rights in place, before said party takes off and moves to another state. Your son is the most important thing over all others though. He needs therapy. It sounds like he is suffering from abandonment issues, and at his tender age, he has no ability to compartmentalize what he is feeling.
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Talk to attorney a good one and see abt your options
I know itās a long shot it might help but see if thereās a big brother program that will help with the guidance to be on a good road if the dad doesnāt want to sign over his rights and doesnāt ever want to give him a phone call and give him false Hope and stuff. Just kind of drop him off the face of the Earth give him somebody else to look forward to a call from
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Unfortunately to change a custody agreement you have to go to court. But you also have to realize that changing the custody agreement is not going to take away your childās pain. Spend more time with your child, if he needs it take him to see a therapist who can help him work out his feelings in a safe way. My daughter went through some huge battles with anger at her father when we got our divorce. She was able to talk to her therapist more than she would talk to me. Itās something to think aboutā¦
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You already have full custody if his father isnāt coming around. Dorget that and try to find some help for your son. Talk to your son and explain how sometimes people take love for granted because of a new toy or new interest. Kids understand more than we think they do. Tell the dad that if you donāt have time for him now, he wonāt have time for you when heās grown.
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Why do Women always want the rights signed off, soon as they move on!!! So sick and tired of it!! Deal with it! Get counseling! Thatās is his dad! Women need to stop this BS!
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Iād see if maybe a family attorney would will you a free consultation to get you in the right direction and I would ask his pediatrician for a therapy referral bc Iām sure your son is hurt from seeing his dad on a regular basic to not being to even reach him on the phone. Stay strong mama!
If you go to court for it it might turn out that you have to meet the father half way for visits ā¦ if your son is angry he doesnāt see his dad anymore and you terminate all contact ā¦.Your son could turn on you and resent you for it ā¦
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No matter absent the father is, the child will still struggle with that absence. They donāt just forget they were abandoned by a parent. Some may be able to handle it more gracefully, but they donāt forget. With that said, full custody shouldnāt be difficult to obtain considering circumstances. Document every single thing.
So you think that having full custody wi resolve the issueā¦ Just how exactly is your brain functioningā¦ Its OK son your dad as, legally disowned youā¦ Turn that frown upside downā¦ Obviously you are complete bonkersā¦ Sounds to me your trying to justify no contactā¦ You are not in control of your ex so stop playing the game and let them sort it outā¦
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Taking dadās rights away will NOT make your child forget his dad exists. Your son needs therapy to help him deal. At 7, he will NEVER forget dad exists.
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Iām in the same boat and we just roll with it. Takes more energy to be mad then it does to accept I feel like your hurt and valid reason for it but youāre going to make it worse for the kid if you keep this up.
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