How do you manage your kids wanting to do activities that require you to be around other parents…when you yourself are a shy introvert who prefers being to themselveS?
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It’s HARD. I had to learn how to do it and I still suck at it. I find myself listening more than talking . And when I do talk it’s only about my kid… I’m literally in the same boat. And my daughter is super outgoing so I’m often in this boat… sinking…
You just do it. If your kids having fun you don’t need to socialize just sit back and watch
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Just go and be by yourself
Your there for your kids not others
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Show up and make weird animal noises so the other parents think you’re crazy and just stay away
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I think about like this, I’m not there for everyone else. I’m there for my baby. Our kids seeing us present is everything to them. I completely understand how you feel!
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I’m sort of an introvert as well, but realized once becoming a parent, I’d have to for force myself to just do it for my kids, because a life of being inside for a kid is no fun…
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You do it for your kids
I have severe anxiety and prefer being away from other people but if my son wants to do activities and there’s other parents around I’ll go to the activities cause my child is important. I actually take calming medicine before going tho like cbd gummies.
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Put your own feelings on the back burner and let your kids participate in activities. It doesn’t mean you have to be friends with others you can stay to yourself
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You sit in the discomfort and with through the anxiety so that your kids can enjoy outings and do the things they want to do.
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I feel this way but take my kid to alot of stuff for her school, birthday parties and other activities. I just be polite and keep to myself most of the time, or sometimes make small talk with other parents.
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So not only am I an introvert, but I have pretty severe anxiety and panic disorder. Especially around people (formally diagnosed with social avoidance personality disorder).
My road to somewhat recovery was long and uncomfortable… sometimes really painful emotionally and physically. I had to wake up every day and make the conscious decision to push myself even if it was just small steps.
My motivation was watching my son play and seeing him so happy made me want to keep going. He’s very social like his father and asks everyday to go to the story time at the library or see his friends. He lives for those moments. The local library story time is a great way to ease into things since it’s only about an hour. I met the best friend I’ve ever had since high-school there which before I never even though possible. I actually forgot what it was like to have real friends… and i didn’t even realize how important it was to have people like this until I gained it again…
Just push yourself… for your kids and yourself. Social interaction is actually a biological necessity for a healthy mind. I no longer have embarrassing panic attacks in public because overtime I retrained my brain to no longer perceive it as a threat. It’s still uncomfortable sometimes but by keeping myself healthy and consistently pushing myself it has gotten so much better.
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You suck it up and do it for your kids. Maybe it would be nice for you to get out and meet and socialize with someone. Let them be the first to start the conversation if that makes you feel better.
You just have to do it… others will get the hint and stay away once they realize you’re not so talkative. I just laugh at everything and keep my answers short lol
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You just…do it. Lol like there’s no tips or tricks, it sucks, but you do it for your kid. And like I’m not saying this rudely, I’m introverted as hell and HATE having to be the social mom but like I said, you just do it 
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Just be there for your kids. No one else matters. Besides…. You might connect with another parent in your same situation
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Small gatherings and I do my best to have them at my house so that I am in my comfort zone
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I don’t like socializing with people, but I take my kids to tons of stuff like cub scouts and free events around town. I just stick to myself and watch my kids have fun. If someone try’s to socialize with me I keep it brief and sometimes just walk away to another spot. You don’t have to socialize with the other adults it’s fine. I’ve noticed I’m not the only anti social adult when I’m out with my kids. So know we’re out there and enjoying our comfortable awkward silence while watching our kids have fun.
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Suck it up or the kids become the same introvert with anxiety….I know from experience
Deal with the panic attacks anxiety and discomfort. Your kid needs you to do this for them. So you do. Hello parenthood. Your feelings and pains don’t matter as long as that kid is happy and taken care of.
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I said no they have bugs. And that solved the problem lol
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You don’t have to talk to anyone if you don’t want to! Just let the babies play. I’m the same, if I don’t want to socialize I’m not going to
Wear headphones or bring a book. No one is going to go out of their way to make you social if you already look busy or uneasy.
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When it comes to your children, you should stop at nothing to make them happy.
I too am an introvert, but I’m telling you when you see that smile on your child’s face, it feels like nothing else matters.
I believe there are a lot of us in our kids circles that feel the same way we do, but I figured if I meet a new friend, then kudos to me and my kids too.
Have peace and go out and enjoy yourself. 
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You suck it up, that’s how. Though therapy can offer coping strategies
Wow , so sad for the children.
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You suck it up and take them tbh… it gets easier and you’ll adapt
You do it, because your child shouldn’t miss out on things because you have problems. You be there for your child, because that’s the best solution. And if it’s too severe where your child suffers, you seek therapy.
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It’s about the kids not you. If my kids wanted to do something I did everything I could to make it happen. Yes I went to parks and play areas sat by myself watched my kids play, made sure they were safe and had fun
Jut go and take a nap Or bath after
Honestly it’s hard for me. I just bring a book or stare at my phone because I hate talking other parents I don’t engage but I take my child activities all the time but I literally will read my Kindle because I just have such a hard time in public. I just remember that my kid needs socialization even though I don’t
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Take them, you don’t have to talk to them, wear headphones, bring busy work.
Just do it.
I hate leaving my house, at all anytime even when I have to. I still do it. I just do it. If I didn’t make my self I honestly just wouldn’t.
And when I go out I don’t talk to random parents unless they come to me haha
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You do it for your child. You don’t want them growing up and struggling to be able to socialize with others
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Introversion is not a “problem” you have to “get over”, it’s a matter of where you draw your energy from. When it comes to ensuring your kids get to participate in activities, an introverted parent schedules some time to quietly recharge before the event, and possibly after as well. When that’s not possible, you bring a book, or headphones, or a computer to make it look like you’re busy when you have to step away from the crowd for your own sanity. There’s no rule that you have to become BFFs with other parents just because you’re attending your kid’s practice or event or party.
If you are having anxiety about being in social situations to the point that you avoid them, that is different and you should speak with your doctor.
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I go, I can sit in a Girl Scout parent meeting or dance class and not talk to hardly anyone but I am there for my daughter. Alot of people think I’m stuck up or a b**ch but the truth is, I am quiet when I don’t know people or am in an uncomfortable situation. And then once you do know me, I am too dang blunt for most people, I don’t filter what I think so I tend to keep to myself.
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You do it for your kids. It’s not about you
I stay to myself and just read or distract myself. It helps that my old friends from school are parents too and they are friends with my kids so if I talk to someone it’s them. They also know how I am which helps
I have horrible anxiety… so I get it… sometimes you just have to do it… I will distance myself from other people… like at the park for example if parents are on one side I will go to the other side…make memories with your babies….
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I get anxiety attacks before leaving the house due to ptsd. But kids don’t understand ptsd or anxiety… all they will know is that mom was never there. So I prepare myself for the uncomfortable event a couple hours before… maybe respectfully medicate myself before hand. What helps me get through it is to think of all the times I wished my parents would have been there… or how happy it made me when they actually did show up
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This is a great question. I will have to read through it later as I’m the parent that follows their kids around at their classmates birthday party 
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If you don’t want to talk to anyone bring a book, wear headphones or even bring a different friend to talk to. You could also just give pleasantries and small talk since you won’t be there long.
Give yourself space and teach them how to give you space and how to take it for themselves.
My daughter is 3.5 and sundries I just want to be alone or I get sensory overload. So I tell her what I do, where I’ll go, and for how long. My daughter likes to play by herself as well so half the time she doesn’t care - or she’ll be the one to go past in the garage to get away from me lol
The trick is to get a little peace before, after, or both. I love seeing my son at fairs and doing stuff but I have to mentally prepare myself and then decompress when I get home. Sometimes just sitting on my porch for 5 minutes does the trick. It depends on the day, what’s going on, where we’re going, who is or isn’t coming, all that. But I suffer from bad anxiety so I need every detail planned out if possible.
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I just sucked it up and went. Take some head phones listen to music it calms me down and I’m an introvert
I force myself to get out…. I usually have a panic attack first but I do it because I want my kids to have a better childhood than I did
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Let your kids do it. Locking them down cause you’re shy isn’t right. My husband and I will keep to ourselves all the time and if we have to go to event we just sit down together and keep each other company because keeping our child happier is more important.
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Put your sunglasses on, grab your coffee and just go
You can be friendly and still keep a distance ( if the situation allows ) , setting up your seat or place a slight distance isn’t rude but also gives you space. You can say hellos or waves or even the nod if they pass by your space. If parents are gathering around to hear someone speaking , you can insert yourself kinda middle back.
If it’s a situation where it requires direct engaging, just offer smiles and hellos and situate yourself somewhere in the group where your off to the side or front ends or back.
I think there is a manageable line of being friendly but also not having to completely make yourself miserable.
I am an introvert but I Sub teach. It really helped me to come out of my shell. So hang out with the kids, they might like extra attention and will be good energy if you feel awkward with the adults! I still struggle in social situations but found that the forced public persona I developed to Sub teach can be helpful in making it seem like I am not ill at ease in big groups of people. I also look for a person who is also a bit of an introvert and hang with them a lot for the duration of the event. They understand and don’t need a lot of conversation and sometimes you just have to fake it til you make it lol not to be insensitive but if you want to be there for your kid, just showing up is important. Let’s be real, depending on the kid’s age too, they will likely be embarrassed they have parents who gasp! Love them, anyways, so don’t be hard on yourself, what tween or teen won’t be mortified no matter what you do haha. Just show up and be there, even if ur kid is a lil embarrassed or you are feeling awkward, secretly your teen would feel bummed you aren’t there. Don’t worry about what other parents think, hang with the kids and love on them!
Grow up for the sake of your kids. It’s not about you and your being selfish.
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My biggest things are birthday parties ugh they are the worst.
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I have always been this way but it has gotten better since kids. I will say going out for my children made me meet my best friend and a woman who has since become an aging aunt to my kiddos 
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You just do it for the kids. No need to talk to other parents or people. I keep to myself.
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You just do it because it’s for your child.
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I don’t go chatting it up. Will normally sit away from everyone. I will volunteer when needed to assist on the field or in dugout if it’s baseball season keeps me from having to deal with parents
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My middle is an extrovert. I do the minimum amount of communication with other parents/people to get the maximum amount of connection for my child. Win-win. She gets to socialize, I get to keep on hating other humans 
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Same here hun, it is hard for me
I just force myself to go and watch them have a good time. You don’t HAVE to talk to the other people 
. Just a general polite hello and eventually a goodbye. Good to go. The events are about the kids.
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Try for a little vut then go to where your comfortable. Eg another can of the field