It very common issue. Make sure drink grape juice keeps it broke down. Common issue around that age.
Put cheerios or kix in the toilet tell him to shoot them.
Something traumatic may have happened.
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Watch him. Notice his habit of pooping time the longer you watch the easier to catch him
This happened to my grandson and he is 9 now. My daughter consulted with her doc. The doc said it is common especially with boys. So the first process was reminding him every two hours and actually having in sit on the potty. Now he wears a watch that beeps to remind him to take bathroom breaks.
My sister son did this. One day he saw her crying. He asked why. And she said because you don’t use the potty like you should. He never had a problem after that.
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There’s a medical problem called encopreces
Kids become constipated and then they leak and soil themselves around the impaction what you do is increase his fiber a lot by giving them blueberries fruit whole grains. And even some MiraLAX at bedtime. Set up regular bathroom time right after breakfast in the morning that’s when the urge to defecate is the strongest. And give them a reward system. It’s actually very very common in pediatrics. Kids are too busy don’t want to stop what they’re doing to go in and use the bathroom. I understand how troubling this is at all cause a lot of problems if he still doing thisWhen he reaches kindergarten
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Kids really can only control a few things in their lives among them is input and output. When they are feeling like they have no control they will revert to these things. Often happens when something new has taken place. A new baby, a new school, a new house, a new parent or step parent, the death of someone close. Take a look at why they might be doing this.
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I had a hard time potty training my oldest took her doctor and she had a bladder infection cleared up then she was fine
My mom put the water hose down my brothers undies and that was the last time he pooped in them…
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My 6 year old son has been struggling with this for a long time. His pediatrician had him see a GI specialist a couple weeks ago. The specialist wanted us to clean him out, but wanted an X-ray of before and after. The clean out consisted of 6 capfuls of mirilax and an exlax in the am and pm for day 1. Day 2 was 3 capfuls of miralax and an exlax in the am. Then for 4 weeks continue with a capful of miralax daily as well as an exlax every other day. I took him for his X-ray this past Monday when I thought he was cleaned out. While the X-ray showed some improvement the doctor was still concerned with the possibility of impaction. So, on Thursday I had to start another clean out. This time was pretty much the same but rather than 1 exlax, he had to take 2 that morning and two in the evening. Then 2 more in the am yesterday. I think he is almost cleaned out. I’m supposed to take him today or tomorrow for another X-ray.
Through all of this, my son has started expressing that he needs to go and will get on the potty himself. He gets upset if he has an accident now. - ask your pediatrician if you can get your son in to see a specialist and maybe they can help to point you in the right direction to getting this taken care of. I know it’s such a stressful situation but just know there is an end in sight. Don’t be hard on yourself! It’s going to be ok, just make sure the pediatrician gets you in to see a GI specialist. I wish you and your little guy the best of luck.
Oh, also, a little trick the GI told us about was to have him try to blow up a balloon while sitting on the potty. It’s really helpful, as it helps him to push.
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I agree. Have your son clean out his own underwear. What is key is DO NOT make it like a punishment. It’s a natural consequence to HIS action. Very calmly say to him, “(name), mommy & daddy use the toilet to poos, but if you’re poop in your pants then you’re will have to take them off and clean them in the sink yourself, etc”.
I raised my children on natural consequences “choose the behavior, choose the consequence”.
Best wishes.
My youngest son did this & we tried bribing with m& ms etc but then he got constipated & I had to use suppository on him 2 times he quit after that, decided going to potty was better than the suppository
Put him back In diapers. Don’t makea big deal of it and tell him that is how it is going to be until he starts using the potty again…even to school. Of course, make sure nothing is physically wrong first.
Given the fact that he was potty trained now all the sudden he’s having issues… I’m going to go with either something happened or there’s a medical issue. Both my girls have pooping problems. It could be a motility disorder; especially if he’s been having feeding issues as well.
My youngest daughter did this. I was so frustrated about her. Unfortunately I had to wait till she grew out of it. No amount of shame will stop this. Sorry you have to go through this…
My youngest was in Jr. kk and Never had an accident. As soon as she got home she started messing her pants. I got a pile of pants, told her she could go to potty or clean herself up, but I would not. Took about 2 days and she was totally trained.
If you want him to stop, the next time he poops in his pants, make him clean it up himself. Make him take off his own clothes, rinse them out and put them in the washing machine. It will stop within a couple days because he will NOT want to clean it himself.
My niece started this. She would poop her panties then come asked to be changed. My sister was fed up one day and made her stand at the coffee table in her dirty panties maybe 15 minutes. She hated it cried, begged to be changed and anything she could think of. My sister changed her then explained she needed to use the toilet for that. She never did it again. Kids need a consequence especially when old enough to remember. My nephew lowered his head and saw a turd coming out thought it was gross and decided he wasn’t going to poop anymore, he was about your son’s age. He would hold it until he was sick. For about 2 weeks we had to help my sister give him glycerin suppositories to make him poop. He cried and screamed. Then got tired of it and started pooping on his own. Boys are kinda weird about toileting.
Find another pediatrician. You should be able to get next day appointment for this kind of issue. Please do not scold ir sgame your child. Teaching him to clean himself and his clothes in a kind way is good parenting. Example Oops I see you gave had an accident. That is ok we all poop our pants sometimes. Let me show you how to get your self cleaned up.
Well I would have him help with every step of the cleanup when he does. Not in a mean way, but in a step by step teaching way. Make every step long & tedious. Explain that if he does this it will be his responsibility to do the cleanup and that this is the reason he may not be allowed to do things he wants to do. Things like going to the park, over to a friend’s house to play, sports events, etc
Spank his bottom when he poops his pant, just a couple of firm swats on the side of his thigh , then take him and put him on the potty till he quits crying telling him no no we don’t poop our pants. I know alot of people are against spanking but spare the rid and spoil the child. There is a big difference between a beating and a firm hand spanking.
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Put him in pull ups, & let him sit in it for awhile. Let him be uncomfortable. If he’s messy he sits on the floor on a plastic shower curtain. Make him clean up the mess. Let him suffer for chosing not to use the toilet.
Please don’t punish your kids something is wrong. Its not there fault see a doctor. They will trust you that you took them and that you love them
Try making him clean out his pants when he does it. Usually doesn’t take more than 2 times before it stops
Wait till you see your doctor. Make sure there is no physical reason why he cannot control his BM‘s. Then, start with some mild punishments for the actions.
What about trying to “go back “to pull on Diapers, for a while.
How would a “big boy” Feel about wearing those?
Maybe he would decide to wear “ regular big boy underwear” himself.
Have there been any changes at home, your work schedule,new sibling,anything at all that has changed ,no matter how small you think it is can be a big deal to him… just think about it ,may not be anything other than a little more one on one time if possible. For some reason he could think his world has changed.
Changes on bowel or bladder habits can be a sign of abuse. Talk to your son about why he does this since he Wes trained successfully before. It may be a medical problem the doctor can help with. It may be a power struggle. The reason will dictate the action needed. Good luck. I had a student about 20 years ago who had the problem because of extreme constipation. He had to be hospitalized to clear the blockages several times. Your doctor will be able to help you but don’t give up if he can’t. Cleaning out his own underpants may work but diapers temporarily may be a solution.
My son has problems with this he gets impacted with stool a lot. He is on mirlax for it, and it helps him he has ibs-c. And there is nothing that can be done about it. I suggested linzess the one off of t.v., but he is to young for the medication. He has belly pain alot, and he takes bentyl but i watch giving him that. Because bentyl causes constipation which he has that problem already. I feel your struggle, but he could be constipated. Because my son still has accidents if his rectum is full it will leak out, and the only solution is get him cleaned out. If constipation is the issue you can get the mirlax powder over the counter. You can put it in anything clear, and i put my son’s in white grape juice. You are in my prayers try to hang in there.
My son was the same so I told him he had to wash himself up
I switched to cloth diapers and my son hated the feel and it worked
For some reason this happens in boys than girls, it is a medical thing.
Get him checked out first , then go from there !
Try putting him on the toilet backwards facing the toilet tank and put some toy cars and trucks on top of the tank to play with while he sits there for awhile.
I have to think he’s liking the extra attention?
Is anyone mistreating him?
Have him clean his own pants out…this worked for one of my boys.
Let him sit in it for a day. He’ll get the message!
Have him wash his own nasty underwear in the tub. He will start using the toilet like.
OH ¡Wow! work to potty trained too time.
Check on a condition called encompresis. Or something like that.
My son was born with bowel issues. He had his first enema at about 10 days old. But, he was dry at night at 18 months and fully potty trained closer to 3. But, he did start soiling himself around 8. Always around dinner time. He was out playing with his friends and didn’t want to stop to come home after waiting all day to see them. It stopped on its own after awhile. Im sure his friends had something to do with that. For the record he wouldn’t come home to eat either. Same reason. He ate b4 he went to bed after a nice long tub!!
Maybe you should tell his doctor! It may not be intentional.
Did you try tanning his ass
bet your 16 year old appreciates that
Some of you are nasty mean parents. I feel badly for your kids 
no matter if it works or not it can leave a horrible long lasting trauma. 
At that age I’d spank his behind put him in the shower and let him clean it. After four girls and two boys sometimes you just gotta do it
Whip his little butt good just once and he will go to the bathroom.
Let him stay in for awhile
Alicia Lynn Barchenger
Get a medical checkup first. Be sure there is no medical reason. Try talking to be sure there are no issues. Sometimes there are emotional issues. Be patient. Spend time with him.